Hey, anyone in the SF area want a referral link to a new site (Project Fixup) where they just make matches for you, no profile browsing required from your end? It costs $20 a meetup, first one's free and/or you get a free one by signing up via the referral, and so would I. If so, PM me.
Anyone else decide they're just going to take a break? In the past few months, I've gone out with 10-15 girls of all types. Some I really liked, some I didn't really feel a connection. Didn't get past a 3rd date with any of them. I feel so exhausted and defeated. I think I just need to take a break, focus on work, hang out with friends, and hitting the gym
Yeah same. Feel like I need to take a break to recharge/not let it get stale. Another second date tomorrow and after that gonna take time off if it doesn't work out.
Alright guys, I've finally decided to try and get back out there after many years so I made an OKCupid account. Any critiques? Btw, that's the only picture I have =/
Alright guys, I've finally decided to try and get back out there after many years so I made an OKCupid account. Any critiques? Btw, that's the only picture I have =/
Something I wanted to chime in on. I read somewhere that if a girl visits your profile (on her own accord) and doesn't message you, if you message back saying "Way to check out my profile and not say hi!" or something like that, then you'll usually get a higher response rate.
Something I wanted to chime in on. I read somewhere that if a girl visits your profile (on her own accord) and doesn't message you, if you message back saying "Way to check out my profile and not say hi!" or something like that, then you'll usually get a higher response rate.
Something I wanted to chime in on. I read somewhere that if a girl visits your profile (on her own accord) and doesn't message you, if you message back saying "Way to check out my profile and not say hi!" or something like that, then you'll usually get a higher response rate.
It works. In fact, I'm going out in a date with someone this Sunday because of this exact occurrence. I think I visited first and forgot about it. She visits and no message and I send a message of "Visits and doesn't say 'hi'. How rude!" And it just went from there.
Looking through it, you should be more careful with your punctuation. I worked in a law office before, and some of those typos are seriously unforgivable.
Besides for food and hockey, what other things are you passionate about?
Looking through it, you should be more careful with your punctuation. I worked in a law office before, and some of those typos are seriously unforgivable.
Besides for food and hockey, what other things are you passionate about?
Little update on my new lady friend (this was the girl I messaged two weeks back with like a 95% match rate) .. Things are going well! As of last night we became "exclusive" and I feel like there could really be something here.
She's beautiful, funny, works in the gaming industry, loves food/games/comics/anime/cosplay... not sure how I lucked out so nicely.
This was also the first (and only) girl I ever messaged on okcupid. Yeah... really lucked out.
Looking through it, you should be more careful with your punctuation. I worked in a law office before, and some of those typos are seriously unforgivable.
Besides for food and hockey, what other things are you passionate about?
Haha yeah I did type up my profile rather quickly because I wanted to get on searching. But yeah I'll probably start fixing everything up when I get home from work.
Should I just throw in a list of things I like or should I explain things that I like the most?
I thoroughly looked through her profile for something that I was genuinely interested in. It happened to be the soundtrack to one of her favorite listed movies; turns out (even though she didn't list it) it was also one of her favorite soundtracks.
After the first hurdle of getting her to actually reply it was smooth sailing. We already had tons in common.
The exact message for those curious:
"Wasn't the (movie title) soundtrack amazing?"
Keep it simple. Keep it clean. Keep it personal. That was her advice when we talked about it later.
I thoroughly looked through her profile for something that I was genuinely interested in. It happened to be the soundtrack to one of her favorite listed movies; turns out (even though she didn't list it) it was also one of her favorite soundtracks.
After the first hurdle of getting her to actually reply it was smooth sailing. We already had tons in common.
The exact message for those curious:
"Wasn't the (movie title) soundtrack amazing?"
Keep it simple. Keep it clean. Keep it personal. That was her advice when we talked about it later.
That's a decent first message. Not great, but decent. You lucked out for sure, congratz! Nobody here should think that 1/1 is the norm, not for a message back, nor a date, and for sure not for a relationship. But woo for you!
Poor guy. It's a hard knock life being on Tinder sometimes. I lol'ed as soon as I saw his picture; he isn't a much of a stud. The article got it on the nose about pics being everything. Maybe he isn't photogenic or his pics probably suck. I can easily take a bunch of pics of myself using my camera's self timer and I come out looking photogenic in every one of them. Regardless, he's gonna be making the big bucks in the end of the day.
well, my result from "I noticed you visited my profile and didn't say hi" is 1 no response, and the other was angry and said "I sure didn't."
i did message that person back and forth a couple times, but seems like they lost interest. they mentioned ICP on their profile, though, so i probably dodged a bullet anyway.
I have a question for everyone in here hoping to have some insight on the question I am asking. I know I have probably asked this before..and I know all of you are experiencing this as well.
So my question is:
Have you been speaking to a boy/girl and they share your interests, seem pretty interested in you, and even go as far as to request a date and going into detail about the date they set up..then the day comes up and you ask where to meet up and at what time and they just never respond....what the fuck is up with this shit?
It never used to happen to me before when I was doing the whole internet dating thing four or so years ago, but it is so frequent now and I find it really weird. I can understand that maybe someone better looking came along, or maybe the just kind of lost interest...but how about you don't set up a date or add me on fb or give me your number..I would appreciate a lie even, saying you can't go out anymore because of reasons. I hate getting ready and waiting on someone to respond.
I have a question for everyone in here hoping to have some insight on the question I am asking. I know I have probably asked this before..and I know all of you are experiencing this as well.
So my question is:
Have you been speaking to a boy/girl and they share your interests, seem pretty interested in you, and even go as far as to request a date and going into detail about the date they set up..then the day comes up and you ask where to meet up and at what time and they just never respond....what the fuck is up with this shit?
It never used to happen to me before when I was doing the whole internet dating thing four or so years ago, but it is so frequent now and I find it really weird. I can understand that maybe someone better looking came along, or maybe the just kind of lost interest...but how about you don't set up a date or add me on fb or give me your number..I would appreciate a lie even, saying you can't go out anymore because of reasons. I hate getting ready and waiting on someone to respond.
I've had that happen to me too. Waited at the train for about half an hour then bailed.
People flake. Just happens. If they don't want to give a reason that's their choice but setting it all up and not even leaving a message is douchebag territory.
I've had that happen to me too. Waited at the train for about half an hour then bailed.
People flake. Just happens. If they don't want to give a reason that's their choice but setting it all up and not even leaving a message is douchebag territory.
It happens a lot, I am fine when people are just messaging me then suddenly stop because then I just move on and see the next person, but where I have problems with this flake shit is when they make me waste time getting ready and then just...disappear, and even worse is when they go poof and then come back a week later with a "hey whats up?". FACK OFF.
To me, it seems like this has been getting worse...a trend in the online dating scene or something.
It happens a lot, I am fine when people are just messaging me then suddenly stop because then I just move on and see the next person, but where I have problems with this flake shit is when they make me waste time getting ready and then just...disappear, and even worse is when they go poof and then come back a week later with a "hey whats up?". FACK OFF.
To me, it seems like this has been getting worse...a trend in the online dating scene or something.
There probably isn't a definitive reason why people do that, but still a bad thing to do. It is much worse for woman as they do on average take longer to get ready.
There probably isn't a definitive reason why people do that, but still a bad thing to do. It is much worse for woman as they do on average take longer to get ready.
I have a question for everyone in here hoping to have some insight on the question I am asking. I know I have probably asked this before..and I know all of you are experiencing this as well.
So my question is:
Have you been speaking to a boy/girl and they share your interests, seem pretty interested in you, and even go as far as to request a date and going into detail about the date they set up..then the day comes up and you ask where to meet up and at what time and they just never respond....what the fuck is up with this shit?
It never used to happen to me before when I was doing the whole internet dating thing four or so years ago, but it is so frequent now and I find it really weird. I can understand that maybe someone better looking came along, or maybe the just kind of lost interest...but how about you don't set up a date or add me on fb or give me your number..I would appreciate a lie even, saying you can't go out anymore because of reasons. I hate getting ready and waiting on someone to respond.
Don't feel too bad. That's happened to me a couple of times as well. One chick was really weird in that she disappeared on the day we were supposed to meet, contacted me again like 2 weeks later, apologized and wanted to meet up again, only to once again, disappear.
Don't feel too bad. That's happened to me a couple of times as well. One chick was really weird in that she disappeared on the day we were supposed to meet, contacted me again like 2 weeks later, apologized and wanted to meet up again, only to once again, disappear.
God it makes no sense, I understand flaking for girls (to a certain extent) because letting a guy down is the scariest thing ever. I have been harassed to all hell because I very nicely told a guy I didn't want to start a relationship yet (In reality he was just repulsive in his actions and mentality). It honestly surprises me when a guy is nice about it.
God it makes no sense, I understand flaking for girls (to a certain extent) because letting a guy down is the scariest thing ever. I have been harassed to all hell because I very nicely told a guy I didn't want to start a relationship yet (In reality he was just repulsive in his actions and mentality). It honestly surprises me when a guy is nice about it.
