You dont even need to win them all, you just need to win 1 (for most people).
I'll agree. The first date is make it or break it for many people. Make a good impression and you might possibly get a second date out of it; make a bad impression or think it's going well but the girl might not be feeling it and the second date is pretty much gone.
In my case, I haven't gotten a second date in a while. I went out with the cook girl on Saturday night to have drinks at a bar and I got bored of her rambling on in the middle of a conversation about cooking and venting about how she's had to juggle 8 jobs. She sounded much different from her texts in person and looked a bit different than her pictures; she'd gained some weight and hair color was different.
However, for some odd reason it got into my head that it was going well possibly from the two Whiskey Sours I had. So it was no surprise that when I tried to make out with her in the end, I was denied. Shot her a text later that night asking if she got home all right, and she said she did but was going to bed. That was the last time I heard from her so after speaking to a friend about it, came to my senses, and moved on since she didn't reply to my text the next day.
So quick update: I have a date with the girl who lives two states over on Sunday evening. I told her to come down to the convention center to meet me. On this date, I'm just gonna focus on having a good time. No trying to make out, no showing off anything unless the girl asks; only keeping it light and flirtatious. If I play my cards right and hit it off, the hypothetical second date will probably end up back in my place to look the paintings in my room. The texts have gotten steamy and teeming with sexual innuendos left and right so this date looks very good so far. Fingers crossed that it goes well for a change.
And I also just got a girl who just new to the city that's originally from Georgia but went to school in D.C. Unfortunately, I told her that we won't be able to hang out this weekend due working at NY Comic Con and the aforementioned date that I'm squeezing in on Sunday evening but she's cool with it. She's a bit on the thicker side (not morbidly obese with two chins thankfully)but overall looks easy on the eyes. She's been complimenting me left and right and is fascinated by me being an artist that she said she has romantic views of them. Overall she seems pretty nice so I told her that even if there's no chemistry after meeting her in person that it doesn't lead to a romantic relationship, I would like to stay platonic friends with her since I can always use more female friends.
Tinder sensei indeed guys. When one dating door closes, open several more in their place to bounce back so keep at it guys. Tinder is more of a supplement for me at this point but a good one at that since it's still getting me dates on top of talking a few girls I'm interested in school and possibly getting lucky at NY Comic Con as well ; I'm gonna sign up for one of the free Speed Dating sessions there.
EDIT:
My third date is going to be at my house for beer and horror movies. Initially, the third date was a Coney Island date (still happening), but one thing lead to another and now it looks like fun time.
She's really down to earth and not complicated, which I'm digging a lot.
