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[SRG01]

Don't worry man, kissing is fine as long as you don't slobber or omnomnom her face.

A girl actually did that to me :/

 

[Psychoward]

Don't worry man, kissing is fine as long as you don't slobber or omnomnom her face.

A girl actually did that to me :/

hot

 

[Sami+]

Don't worry man, kissing is fine as long as you don't slobber or omnomnom her face.

A girl actually did that to me :/

lol. I'll keep that in mind.

 

[davepoobond]

well i texted that girl the day after just to say whats up, but she seemed a little short/unenthusiastic with me, so i might not even bother asking her if she wants to meet up for a second date. i guess i could, but she hasn't texted me at all since thursday at this point.


and strangely enough 2 random chicks messaged me first today. i guess we'll see if i dont screw these up now lul

 

[NoctisVsStar]

Awe! I hope I get a kiss, even if its in a parking lot *blushu* and then we can lean against my truck and squish our bodies close and I will hold his neck and look in his eyes with a reserved lust and.... Sorry. Got a little fanfic there.

Sounds like fun to bad you don't live in NY ;P

 

[NipplesAndToes23]

LOL. I created a second account and made all my details basically the same as mine, but I used pics of a dude who has that stereotypical male beauty and suddenly I got four messages in one day compared to the one I've gotten over the past year and a half and I continued to get more replies throughout the week.

I think that puts some credence in that my genetics are a primary factor for why women don't want to fuck with me online or in real life.

 

[davepoobond]

LOL. I created a second account and made all my details basically the same as mine, but I used pics of a dude who has that stereotypical male beauty and suddenly I got four messages in one day compared to the one I've gotten over the past year and a half and I continued to get more replies throughout the week.

I think that puts some credence in that my genetics are a primary factor for why women don't want to fuck with me online or in real life.

well, yeah, most people don't really read profiles before sending a message

 

[Admiral Woofington]

Let me first of all apologize if it's a frequently asked/dumb question but I'll be new to the whole online dating service probably within a few months when I give it a try and I didn't see it in the OP. After dating some women I've noticed that the biggest issue for me to make it go serious, and the reason things tend to go bad, is that we have little in common in hobbies. Not because we can't make conversation but for other reasons.

Now I'm not saying she needs to be a gamer, but is there a dating site among the popular ones that GAF agrees upon where there is a decent amount of nerdy/geeky women? I remember giving a look to a website specifically for geek dating a couple of years ago but there was like nobody there within the town. My friend suggested OkCupid as that's where he met his fiancee, and I see it's popular in GAF, so is that a good option?

 

[davepoobond]

Let me first of all apologize if it's a frequently asked/dumb question but I'll be new to the whole online dating service probably within a few months when I give it a try and I didn't see it in the OP. After dating some women I've noticed that the biggest issue for me to make it go serious, and the reason things tend to go bad, is that we have little in common in hobbies. Not because we can't make conversation but for other reasons.

Now I'm not saying she needs to be a gamer, but is there a dating site among the popular ones that GAF agrees upon where there is a decent amount of nerdy/geeky women? I remember giving a look to a website specifically for geek dating a couple of years ago but there was like nobody there within the town. My friend suggested OkCupid as that's where he met his fiancee, and I see it's popular in GAF, so is that a good option?

i havent heard of any.... i guess i might be interested as well if anyone knew of one.

POF allows you to search for interests if you click on words in profiles. i'm sure okcupid has the same sort of capability.

 

[stn]

LOL. I created a second account and made all my details basically the same as mine, but I used pics of a dude who has that stereotypical male beauty and suddenly I got four messages in one day compared to the one I've gotten over the past year and a half and I continued to get more replies throughout the week.

I think that puts some credence in that my genetics are a primary factor for why women don't want to fuck with me online or in real life.

Online dating is THE most superficial dating environment out there. I'm comfortable saying 99.999% of the people there will only reply to pics they are interested in. With that said, if you think you're lacking in the looks department then stay off online! Go improve yourself as much as you can and approach women in real-life. They'll be able to see your personality and coolness, two things that are not apparent online.

Just don't be one of those guys who uses online dating as a basis for thinking he has no chance with women, and then subsequently gives up because of it.

 

[Halcyon]

I broke up with the girl i was seeing for the past few months, and decided to get back on the dating apps.


I've been getting some weird messages this time around. I get alot of messages from women and they either just say "hey" or something like this:

I used to rarely get messages, so I don't know what is different this time around.

 

[y2dvd]

Excellent, so going in for a hug, hopefully it sets a relaxed tone for the date, im going to have him teach me how MTG works since I never played before.

Pretty ballsy to start a date teaching MtG lol. I've been seeing a girl for 2 months now and I still haven't brought up the fact that I play MtG casually. She gonna learn doe!

Well I guess I can say a relationship finally came outta this online thing. Things are still going well with home girl and she finally had time to stay over for the night.

 

[freshair]

LOL. I created a second account and made all my details basically the same as mine, but I used pics of a dude who has that stereotypical male beauty and suddenly I got four messages in one day compared to the one I've gotten over the past year and a half and I continued to get more replies throughout the week.

I think that puts some credence in that my genetics are a primary factor for why women don't want to fuck with me online or in real life.

I don't think that's anything unusual. Online dating is the most superficial thing there is. Rule 1 / Rule 2 always applies.

If you're not comfortable in your own, I think that comes across in your pictures / profile and whatnot. You should work on changing that. You'd be surprised how much feeling good and looking good does for your persona, confidence, and self-esteem.

And that will translate to much more than responses in the online dating scene.

 

[FelixOrion]

I broke up with the girl i was seeing for the past few months, and decided to get back on the dating apps.


I've been getting some weird messages this time around. I get alot of messages from women and they either just say "hey" or something like this:

I used to rarely get messages, so I don't know what is different this time around.

seems fishy to my senses, idk.

 

[Halcyon]

seems fishy to my senses, idk.

oh definitely. That lady is crazy. It's just I think I have a better set of pictures up or something because I've been getting alot more attention and women messaging me first lately.

 

[freshair]

oh definitely. That lady is crazy. It's just I think I have a better set of pictures up or something because I've been getting alot more attention and women messaging me first lately.

And that is usually all it takes!

It's unfortunate, but unless you're a chiseled dude, us ~average~ guys have to leverage everything we have in order to get responses and present us in a best light that'll allow us to at least get looked it.

Speaking of which, I messaged a girl on Tinder and told her I was going to lick nutella off her and we exchanged numbers and have plans to meet up tomorrow.

 

[NoctisVsStar]

And that is usually all it takes!

It's unfortunate, but unless you're a chiseled dude, us ~average~ guys have to leverage everything we have in order to get responses and present us in a best light that'll allow us to at least get looked it.

Speaking of which, I messaged a girl on Tinder and told her I was going to lick nutella off her and we exchanged numbers and have plans to meet up tomorrow.

 

[Halcyon]

And that is usually all it takes!

It's unfortunate, but unless you're a chiseled dude, us ~average~ guys have to leverage everything we have in order to get responses and present us in a best light that'll allow us to at least get looked it.

Speaking of which, I messaged a girl on Tinder and told her I was going to lick nutella off her and we exchanged numbers and have plans to meet up tomorrow.

Who you calling average


Also as much as the idea of licking nutella off a girls ass seems like it might be a good idea, the fact that is a brown doo-doo like material might damper the mood.

 

[Maintenance]

Just tried Tinder (never had it working before), I'm having a blast reading some of the descriptions. Totally worth the download just for that.

 

[stn]

I took a week break from OKC. Came back today, immediately the same usual profiles resume creeping. Fucks sake, lol.

 

[Jhoan]

Let me first of all apologize if it's a frequently asked/dumb question but I'll be new to the whole online dating service probably within a few months when I give it a try and I didn't see it in the OP. After dating some women I've noticed that the biggest issue for me to make it go serious, and the reason things tend to go bad, is that we have little in common in hobbies. Not because we can't make conversation but for other reasons.

Now I'm not saying she needs to be a gamer, but is there a dating site among the popular ones that GAF agrees upon where there is a decent amount of nerdy/geeky women? I remember giving a look to a website specifically for geek dating a couple of years ago but there was like nobody there within the town. My friend suggested OkCupid as that's where he met his fiancee, and I see it's popular in GAF, so is that a good option?

The website you're talking about is called gk2gk.com which I mentioned in the OP as being the website where Ashodin infamously met his girlfriend on in an attempt to tag fish. I think you'll have a decent shot on OKC as well as POF and even Tinder but pictures are everything; if you want to attract nerdy girls only, then let your pictures reflect that but not super overt nerdy pictures as well mention a few nerdy references. I think that it's best to be subtle about it as opposed to overt about it since as stn has mentioned in the past there's still this stigma about nerds that people have especially if you go out with girls who are more girly and will look down upon t.

Personally I think that if you want to meet geeky/nerdy girls, then you have a better chance meeting girls with those interests by going to conventions/gaming events (PAX East, New York Comic Con, etc.), joining a club where girls share those interests (assuming you're still in college), and whatnot. For example, here in NYC there's a website called nerdyorkcity.com that lists all kinds of events happening around the city.

Online dating is THE most superficial dating environment out there. I'm comfortable saying 99.999% of the people there will only reply to pics they are interested in. With that said, if you think you're lacking in the looks department then stay off online! Go improve yourself as much as you can and approach women in real-life. They'll be able to see your personality and coolness, two things that are not apparent online.

Just don't be one of those guys who uses online dating as a basis for thinking he has no chance with women, and then subsequently gives up because of it.

Definitely agree with all of this. Pictures are everything in the online dating scene no matter how compelling and well written the profile is sadly hence why people can and are more selective online.

Half of the time I talk to a girl on Tinder and talk about my studies, they ask me what I'm studying major when I mention it in my bio. They're more fascinated by the fact that A. I'm a creative/artistic type and B. that I'm good looking/have the chiseled features that freshair described. Unfortunately, this doesn't matter in the long run since it's subject to the woman's interest level. That being said, best thing to do do not give up indeed and keep going.

 

[FelixOrion]

disabled okc account after not using it in months. will probably pick it back up in a while with a complete goddamn overhall, see if that does anything

Spoiler

it won't

Spoiler

i wish dating sites had spoiler tags

 

[freshair]

Who you calling average


Also as much as the idea of licking nutella off a girls ass seems like it might be a good idea, the fact that is a brown doo-doo like material might damper the mood.

Haha my bad. Two separate thoughts!

I'm not actually sure if she expects nutella as it was just a line to get into her pants...

 

[Halcyon]

Haha my bad. Two separate thoughts!

I'm not actually sure if she expects nutella as it was just a line to get into her pants...

No you can't back out now. Nutella all in that vag. Unsanitary yeast infections ahoy!

 

[freshair]

No you can't back out now. Nutella all in that vag. Unsanitary yeast infections ahoy!

I'll report back in 48 hours gentlemen.

 

[davepoobond]

Talked to a girl on the phone yesterday, seemed like we both had commonalities that could make something work. We have a date tentatively scheduled for Saturday, at an unknown location I will have to decide. Coffee or drinks since it'll be around 2 pm. She was saying I'm basically the first person she is talking to for online dating.

I guess the only thing I can see being a problem is that she has a set in stone and very planned out plan for herself and has set a goal whereas I am just sort of seeing where things go in my life and right now I'm "okay" with the way things are going so I haven't really needed or wanted to change what's going on at the moment. She was actually giving me some career advice since she knows people who do video editing so that might go both ways, depending on how driven she may want someone to be.

 

[Admiral Woofington]

The website you're talking about is called gk2gk.com which I mentioned in the OP as being the website where Ashodin infamously met his girlfriend on in an attempt to tag fish. I think you'll have a decent shot on OKC as well as POF and even Tinder but pictures are everything; if you want to attract nerdy girls only, then let your pictures reflect that but not super overt nerdy pictures as well mention a few nerdy references. I think that it's best to be subtle about it as opposed to overt about it since as stn has mentioned in the past there's still this stigma about nerds that people have especially if you go out with girls who are more girly and will look down upon t.

Personally I think that if you want to meet geeky/nerdy girls, then you have a better chance meeting girls with those interests by going to conventions/gaming events (PAX East, New York Comic Con, etc.), joining a club where girls share those interests (assuming you're still in college), and whatnot. For example, here in NYC there's a website called nerdyorkcity.com that lists all kinds of events happening around the city.

Appreciated. I guess my issue is that I want to meet someone who is outgoing, geeky but not so obsessed with their fandom that I need to be able to quote material to be interesting haha. Guess a good shot might be OkCupid and just hope that there's a "search by category". Well whenever I do it.

 

[freshair]

Appreciated. I guess my issue is that I want to meet someone who is outgoing, geeky but not so obsessed with their fandom that I need to be able to quote material to be interesting haha. Guess a good shot might be OkCupid and just hope that there's a "search by category". Well whenever I do it.

You can search by keywords too. Nerdy/gamer seems to turn up a few decent results. And then you can sort through there whether they're just casual and name dropping or something more that you're looking for.

 

[Salamando]

Pretty sure one girl I'm texting just copies/pastes messages to me every morning or whenever she gets done with work. They're always long and incredibly non-specific. Today she apologized for not being able to talk most of the day, when we've never talked during the day.

Should I read anything into this? We haven't met yet, so I cannot fault her for talking to multiple guys - hell, I'm talking to multiple girls. But to be treated like just one of many...i dunno, can't say I like it. I mean, how many others are there, if she just copies/paste stuff?

 

[davepoobond]

Pretty sure one girl I'm texting just copies/pastes messages to me every morning or whenever she gets done with work. They're always long and incredibly non-specific. Today she apologized for not being able to talk most of the day, when we've never talked during the day.

Should I read anything into this? We haven't met yet, so I cannot fault her for talking to multiple guys - hell, I'm talking to multiple girls. But to be treated like just one of many...i dunno, can't say I like it. I mean, how many others are there, if she just copies/paste stuff?

seems kind of weird, but unless you can know for sure just give her the benefit of the doubt.

if you don't like the content of what she's saying just stop replying if you dont think its going to work.

 

[NipplesAndToes23]

Online dating is THE most superficial dating environment out there. I'm comfortable saying 99.999% of the people there will only reply to pics they are interested in. With that said, if you think you're lacking in the looks department then stay off online! Go improve yourself as much as you can and approach women in real-life. They'll be able to see your personality and coolness, two things that are not apparent online.

Just don't be one of those guys who uses online dating as a basis for thinking he has no chance with women, and then subsequently gives up because of it.

I don't see why I should change myself for a stranger when I'm not expecting them to do that for me.

I don't think that's anything unusual. Online dating is the most superficial thing there is. Rule 1 / Rule 2 always applies.

If you're not comfortable in your own, I think that comes across in your pictures / profile and whatnot. You should work on changing that. You'd be surprised how much feeling good and looking good does for your persona, confidence, and self-esteem.

And that will translate to much more than responses in the online dating scene.

I am most definitely comfortable, but that doesn't mean shit. From the time when I didn't try at all and didn't give a fuck about my appearance to actually giving a fuck now and being happier in general, shit hasn't really change, in actuality it has brought more negative emotions before and I almost got my ass beat a few times.

 

[Salamando]

seems kind of weird, but unless you can know for sure just give her the benefit of the doubt.

if you don't like the content of what she's saying just stop replying if you dont think its going to work.

I'm more sure of it than not. Like once I realized it, almost all of her morning/after work messages fit the mold. If the conversation was dropped on another topic, I'd get generic message and answer message in rapid succession. And it's not that I don't like the content, I don't like feeling like I'm one guy on an assembly line.

 

[stn]

I don't see why I should change myself for a stranger when I'm not expecting them to do that for me.

You're not, you're changing yourself for you. Increased attention from women is just one of the benefits of that. Everyone wants someone committed to personal growth.

 

[davepoobond]

I'm more sure of it than not. Like once I realized it, almost all of her morning/after work messages fit the mold. If the conversation was dropped on another topic, I'd get generic message and answer message in rapid succession. And it's not that I don't like the content, I don't like feeling like I'm one guy on an assembly line.

honestly it might be some sort of bot or social experiment

who knows, really. just ask her to meet asap and see what the response is.

or you can fuck around and message them stuff like "Nice screen name lol, what is it in reference to" and see what happens.

 

[SRG01]

Man, one day I'll find out the reason why so many naturalized Asian women don't like to date Asian guys. :/

 

[Salamando]

honestly it might be some sort of bot or social experiment

who knows, really. just ask her to meet asap and see what the response is.

or you can fuck around and message them stuff like "Nice screen name lol, what is it in reference to" and see what happens.

She's real - just actually got off the phone with her. But that phonecall did a lot more harm than good. The conversation sucked; she was talking like she had to be there, not that she wanted to be. And what she did talk about wasn't that great to hear. Short version - I think she thinks that I'm kind of a douche, and she's in a lot of debt. Thankfully I only gave her my google voice number so I can block her SMS messages easily.

Instead I'll focus on this other girl I've actually met and converse well with.

 

[davepoobond]

She's real - just actually got off the phone with her. But that phonecall did a lot more harm than good. The conversation sucked; she was talking like she had to be there, not that she wanted to be. And what she did talk about wasn't that great to hear. Short version - I think she thinks that I'm kind of a douche, and she's in a lot of debt. Thankfully I only gave her my google voice number so I can block her SMS messages easily.

Instead I'll focus on this other girl I've actually met and converse well with.

Sounds like a psycho then, what with the copying and pasting messages.

 

[Lone_Prodigy]

Man, one day I'll find out the reason why so many naturalized Asian women don't like to date Asian guys. :/

Short answer: Unflattering portrayal in the media (applies to all minorities, really), cultural differences, and the whole "exotic" business with regards to minority women.

Don't give up though. There are Asian women and even some white women that prefer Asian men.

 

[Salamando]

Sounds like a psycho then, what with the copying and pasting messages.

I was thinking gold digger. Stringing along multiple men to mooch whatever she could from them. Could go on about various warning signs, but there's no need to.

 

[Mr Solo Dolo]

I've been on a roll recently with my new Tinder account.

I've got one girl coming over tonight who's made it clear she just wants sex, I'm going for drinks with a different girl tomorrow night, I'm going out with another girl on Saturday, another one some time next week and one more next Saturday.

I know it gets said a lot in this thread but it's definitely better to go straight in for the number and arrange a date. Two of the girls above I've already been matched with and spoke to before on Tinder but never got far, this time after being matched again I messaged them with "Seeing as we keep getting matched, let's cut the small talk and just go for a drink this time" both pretty much replied with "Haha sounds good" followed with their number.

 

[SRG01]

Short answer: Unflattering portrayal in the media (applies to all minorities, really), cultural differences, and the whole "exotic" business with regards to minority women.

Don't give up though. There are Asian women and even some white women that prefer Asian men.

Yeah, I kind of want to believe that hypothesis but seeing as how all my Asian guy friends have Asian or White gfs/wives...

Actually, I don't know a single Asian guy that's single.

So maybe it's just me???

 

[NoctisVsStar]

Yeah, I kind of want to believe that hypothesis but seeing as how all my Asian guy friends have Asian or White gfs/wives...

Actually, I don't know a single Asian guy that's single.

So maybe it's just me???

Keep your head up

Eventually everyone finds that special girl/guy

 

[stn]

Two of the girls above I've already been matched with and spoke to before on Tinder but never got far, this time after being matched again

You can match with someone again? I always assumed they'd disappear for good if they swipe left or swipe right and unmatch you.

 

[Mr Solo Dolo]

You can match with someone again? I always assumed they'd disappear for good if they swipe left or swipe right and unmatch you.

I meant I got matched with them when using my old account.

 

[freshair]

I am most definitely comfortable, but that doesn't mean shit. From the time when I didn't try at all and didn't give a fuck about my appearance to actually giving a fuck now and being happier in general, shit hasn't really change, in actuality it has brought more negative emotions before and I almost got my ass beat a few times.

I don't know. Obviously there's no one size fits all solution to everyone's problems. These are just general tips that usually work because they tend to get results. Maybe online dating isn't for you then :\

I've been on a roll recently with my new Tinder account.

I know it gets said a lot in this thread but it's definitely better to go straight in for the number and arrange a date.

Agreed. I only really fuck around for a few messages. Gauge their responses to my shitty opener and go from there. It's always better to move conversations off from Tinder as soon as possible while you have their interest because every day they get bombarded with more and more messages. So you stand out from the pack when you have their number and have a more direct line to her.

 

[ReturnOfTheRAT]

Oh boy, I've got a thirsty woman on OKC that want's to meet up.

I've only been chatting with her because she liked me, after I liked her awhile back.

I've got to figure out a way of letting her down easily. I don't mind a friend to chat with, but don't need to see anyone else for dating purposes at this point in time.

 

[ReturnOfTheRAT]

Honesty is the best policy

I'll see how she takes my response...

 

[SRG01]

Keep your head up

Eventually everyone finds that special girl/guy

Hahaha thanks.

 

[Jhoan]

Agreed. I only really fuck around for a few messages. Gauge their responses to my shitty opener and go from there. It's always better to move conversations off from Tinder as soon as possible while you have their interest because every day they get bombarded with more and more messages. So you stand out from the pack when you have their number and have a more direct line to her.

Unfortunately I've been plagued with moving too slow lately. It's been a case where I drag the conversation on too long before they stop replying and get bombarded by other messages when I send them a message a few days later making the number next to impossible to ask for it then. The peak of the conversation is usually gauged by the length of the replies.

It's been a bummer/chore having to chase after girls to see if the interest is still there. Hell, the girls who's numbers I have gotten haven't lead to meeting up in a while. I dunno what's wrong with me lately. It feels like I've lost my touch or maybe need to change up some pics. At least in school, it's been easier to strike up conversations even though I've done my share of overthinking talking to girls. I guess I'm ranting/venting at this point.

 

[GK86]

My go to line: "Hey, tinder sucks my battery, here is my number, message me."

I usually do this within 15 back and forth messages.