Why point out the fact that you're bi-racial?
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Why point out the fact that you're bi-racial?
some girls are into the whole mixed origin thing
Looks good to me. You look good lol.
I don't know, it's one of the unique things about me so I felt like it was worth mentioning; especially since there aren't many mixed gay guys on tinder
Girls?
Thanks!
sorry, guys too I'm assuming. People.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
its just me.... but having a huge cell phone in the middle of the picture is kind of annoying. i'd say only stick with 1 that you like and the rest avoid the cell phone.
Geez I haven't had any matches on Tinder nor OKC in awhile lol. Feels bad man. For some reason though, some of my past dates have hit me up wanting to go out again. I don't really have any interest in that.
I'm still dating this one girl. I can't say it's been smooth sailings as far as our scheduling goes, but we've always had a good time going out or talking over the phone. I'm not sure what we are yet but she's starting to call me "baby" and "honey", so I want to say we're starting to get past the dating phase and into a relationship, which would be nice. Before her, I've dated quite a bit but have not been into an actual relationship in awhile so this is nice.
I'm still dating this one girl. I can't say it's been smooth sailings as far as our scheduling goes, but we've always had a good time going out or talking over the phone. I'm not sure what we are yet but she's starting to call me "baby" and "honey", so I want to say we're starting to get past the dating phase and into a relationship, which would be nice. Before her, I've dated quite a bit but have not been into an actual relationship in awhile so this is nice.
I know that feel lol. I've been so bored lately without much to really go for. I approached this one girl who's straight up gorgeous after class once and we walked and talked, but her body language doesn't seem to indicate any interest. Tinder's been a bit dry lately as well.
Psychoward
Banned
So for Tindering, how long do you guys usually talk before making a move? It's different because the attraction is already there, but it's also only online so I don't want to come off as a creep. On the other hand, it's also online so it's much more casual.
about 5-10 messages.
Psychoward
Banned
So here's the catch, I'm a high school senior in suburbia and I only downloaded it as a casual hookup thing. I'm not looking to have a committed relationship with someone who lives 20 miles away - if that changes things.
Edit: So as an example, just matched with a girl this morning. Started talking a few hours ago, about 10 messages between the both of us. She lives 22 miles away. Should I just ask her if she wants to see a movie or what.
Tinder IS only for casual hookups for the most part. That's why I said 10 messages. You're not trying to learn her life story first, that's what meeting up in person is for. If she's not interested in meeting up in person then there's no point anyway.
Lol, I have been on a hot streak lately. And it has been with women that I have met. I haven't fired up Tinder in a long time. Gonna ride this hot hand out.
Trying to get a whole body picture is tricky. I usually try and get it via instagram. Or sending text pictures if I have their number.
I feel like the way this is going for me, is something like the number of prospects are like a handful of candles and every time I send a message to one and get nothing back there is a bit less light in the room.
It is interesting to do a match search for someone located anywhere and you put restrictions: answered 1k questions, is agnostic/atheist, and you get a bunch of 99% matches. If only I lived closer I could send a message and still not get a response.
It is interesting to do a match search for someone located anywhere and you put restrictions: answered 1k questions, is agnostic/atheist, and you get a bunch of 99% matches. If only I lived closer I could send a message and still not get a response.
Psychoward
Banned
3 miles away
BACK TO ONE WORD CONVOS WE GO
Edit: Also quoting does absolutely nothing for phone screens, is there a way to make them display smaller on here?
NoctisVsStar
Member
Psychoward
Banned
I'm hoping that was in response to her response and not me. We actually did have a long conversation that wasn't posted. But yeah. Tinder is neat.
just message her again in 3 weeks and don't take it personally. Either she's making it up or being honest, no harm done!
Okay, so third (fourth?) time's the charm? Got the coffee date set up for this weekend with the girl. Hopefully it doesn't fall through again.
TBH, I'm sure she's seeing other people or has a better prospect already, so I'm not getting my hopes up.
Then again, the last time I was really pessimistic about things, I wound up with a 1.5 year relationship o_o
TBH, I'm sure she's seeing other people or has a better prospect already, so I'm not getting my hopes up.
Then again, the last time I was really pessimistic about things, I wound up with a 1.5 year relationship o_o
electricshake
Member
Had my first of 4 dates with different guys last night. Was good and I'm not against meeting him again but one of my dates is with my ex so if that works out (which I really hope it does!) then everyone else will get canned.
Never been on such a hot streak before!
Never been on such a hot streak before!
Normally I'd never pry but since this is the Internet I'll bite; why is he your ex?
electricshake
Member
Haha it's cool. Timing was all wrong basically, he was too busy to commit and had too much other stuff going on at home etc. I'm not sure how much things have changed but I'm going to be straight with him tomorrow and tell him what I want. If he can't give me that then I know we have to move on.
Good luck.
I just invited a girl out for lunch and possibly watching Interstellar. She's super cute and seems nice, so fingers crossed. Waiting on a response.
It still seems possible to save it, but do you really want to? It seems like he's giving clear signals that he's not looking at you in that way.
What I don't like is that he didn't apologize to you at least for coming all that way. Guy seriously doesn't even seem like he appreciates that you did that which in some ways says a lot.
The hug might just be because it's the first meeting, but usually most people are ok with hugs though even when first seeing each other.
stn
Member
I put in a bold a few mistakes I think you made. One, stop going in with the mindset that he's out of your league. That level of lack of confidence can be shown without you realizing it. Next, you apologized to him for his mistake. To me this shows some kind of nervousness on your part which, again, flows from lack of confidence. Don't be apologetic for something unless its your wrong. Lastly, this is just my opinion but I don't like the idea of texting at odd hours. For one, you never know if a notification might wake the recipient up. Also, I like any person to think I have a normal routine (which I do). This is just a nitpick and only my own personal preference.
And yes, you're probably "fucked". What can you do to save it? Nothing. You can't save a first date, there's nothing to save. The moment you have a "I need to save this" mentality you've already lost. Why save it? Go out and meet someone else.
I agree with stn, it doesn't sound like this is really gonna be worth it.
I'd wait for him to come to you, and keep doing other things till that happens.
Mr Solo Dolo
Member
Urrgghh I've just got the dreaded 'Sorry I'm seeing somebody else' text.
Id be lying if I said I wasn't expecting it, we've not seen each other the past two weeks and last week the conversation just stopped. I tried to start it again and it went nowhere.
The annoying thing is I told her on Sunday I felt like I wasn't taking the hint and she text back telling me I was just being stupid and asked if I wanted to come over to hers this week. Three days later she tells me she's didn't mean for it to happen but she's seeing an old friend, feels pretty shitty man.
On a positive note I've managed to get a few numbers of Tinder the past couple of days and a couple of dates lined up.
Id be lying if I said I wasn't expecting it, we've not seen each other the past two weeks and last week the conversation just stopped. I tried to start it again and it went nowhere.
The annoying thing is I told her on Sunday I felt like I wasn't taking the hint and she text back telling me I was just being stupid and asked if I wanted to come over to hers this week. Three days later she tells me she's didn't mean for it to happen but she's seeing an old friend, feels pretty shitty man.
On a positive note I've managed to get a few numbers of Tinder the past couple of days and a couple of dates lined up.
Ha, you're right. Good thing I don't have a choice but to listen to you as I just checked tinder and noticed that he un-matched me
My self-esteem takes a nose dive once again
Keep your chin up!
NoctisVsStar
Member
Her response you're cool bro =]
Psychoward
Banned
Really? I just figured I would drop it entirely and move on.
There's no harm and checking in with her in 3 weeks. Just send her a quick message and see, if she doesn't respond leave it be, if she responds all the better. 10 seconds of effort!
ReturnOfTheRAT
Member
From the site? did you do a search on the #?
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
She was scoping your area code and did a google search and found something she didn't like.
Or she was a scammer trying to get numbers.
Have a date later tonight... So I guess we will see how that goes. I feel like I'm doing a bad job texting her, but I don't have much to say before meeting her.
Not sure what you're asking here. Since she never texted me I don't have her number. But yeah, this was a girl from OKC. Been talking for about two days.
That'd be a really weird way to scope someone out since your area code goes with you even if you move. And that's how it is in my case...I'm in a totally different place area code wise. Hopefully it wasn't a scammer =\ I haven't received any bs calls yet though.
Good luck with your date buddy.
So I met up with one girl today. Went eh. I think the feeling was mutual, lol. We talked for about an hour about TV and hobbies and whatnot. Didn't feel a connection - I ended up doing most of the talking and I got the feeling she thought I was a bit odd, lmao. She said she had to go and I went on my way as well. Haven't texted her since and she hasn't either, so yeah, I think that's done. lol.
Meanwhile I'm talking to two other girls. Got both of their numbers and snapchats. Both of them older than me - one by about a year, the other by five. The year really doesn't mean anything to me, the five might. She asked if it bothered me and I said I didn't care since she wasn't a graduate. They both seem really nice. I was snapchatting with one and she told me to turn a light on because she couldn't see my "handsome face", the other said she was swooning at my deep blue eyes. bruh.
Good day, lol.
Meanwhile I'm talking to two other girls. Got both of their numbers and snapchats. Both of them older than me - one by about a year, the other by five. The year really doesn't mean anything to me, the five might. She asked if it bothered me and I said I didn't care since she wasn't a graduate. They both seem really nice. I was snapchatting with one and she told me to turn a light on because she couldn't see my "handsome face", the other said she was swooning at my deep blue eyes. bruh.
Good day, lol.
ReturnOfTheRAT
Member
My mistake. I read your post incorrectly earlier.
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
well, had the date. i felt like it was going better during the date despite the few awkward silences in the conversation than i feel about it now.
afterwards on the drive home i felt like I would be graded as an F. I like her, but I don't think she was feeling me. I was talking about stuff I really shouldn't have been talking about, and I think that's what is going to be what kills any further chances. she was asking some questions back during the conversation, but during the silences i would have to be the one to think up the next thing to talk about.
I asked her if she might want to meet up again, and she said yes, but unless she really hated me i don't think she would say "no" on the spot.
i'll text her tomorrow or something and see if she responds/is still interested. i think i mostly need to get used to the very basic part of dating -- that someone might actually be interested in me, so its kind of hard dealing with that because i don't really know how i respond or how to respond to that particular fact, really.
i would be surprised at this point if she wants a second date. getting another person interested enough to go on a first date before the year end is probably not going to happen either
afterwards on the drive home i felt like I would be graded as an F. I like her, but I don't think she was feeling me. I was talking about stuff I really shouldn't have been talking about, and I think that's what is going to be what kills any further chances. she was asking some questions back during the conversation, but during the silences i would have to be the one to think up the next thing to talk about.
I asked her if she might want to meet up again, and she said yes, but unless she really hated me i don't think she would say "no" on the spot.
i'll text her tomorrow or something and see if she responds/is still interested. i think i mostly need to get used to the very basic part of dating -- that someone might actually be interested in me, so its kind of hard dealing with that because i don't really know how i respond or how to respond to that particular fact, really.
i would be surprised at this point if she wants a second date. getting another person interested enough to go on a first date before the year end is probably not going to happen either
What were you talking about that you think ruined your chances?
davepoobond
you can't put a price on sparks
Roommate situation, said that they make a lot of noise sometimes and then she implied i was talking about them having sex, so then I said "now that you mention it..." And elaborated there.
We had ordered some nachos to share, but she didnt touch the guacamole so I asked if she liked it, she said yes but asked if I "wanted her to eat it" so I just said, no she doesn't have to.
This one could go either way: A couple of the jokes I used, she used it back at me and said the way she used it was better. So maybe she was mocking me, I'm not sure.
Talked about what I was doing this weekend a little bit (blizzcon) since I was mentioning about how my work schedule was different this week (which led from the initial planning conversation we were having by text.). That didnt seem to go over very well. She mostly didnt know what it was, but she thinks its basically just comic con.
She yawned a couple times, and there were times when we both were silent. Among some other things, I guess. I don't think my attempt at a hug helped me at the end, either.
Sounds like a tough break. Good luck on the second date proposal, man.