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Write this off as just another example of disparity between the sexes. The typical male orgasm lasts anywhere from 3 to 8 seconds, though its possible through deep breathing and regular exercising to extend it to maybe 10 seconds or so. Ask Sting for precise numbers.

As you probably are aware, women are capable of multiple orgasms without having to rest in between. (I love my life.) Just ask the all-knowing Cecil Adams, author of More of the Straight Dope; according to him, women are capable of sustained orgasm, called status orgasmus. These wonderful events start with a 2-4 second "spastic contraction" and last twenty to sixty seconds. In 1966, Masters & Johnson published the chart of one woman who experienced a marvelous 43-second orgasm, made up of at least 25 successive contractions.

The Fastest Orgasm

Certain rare men, 1 in every 1,250 men to be precise, are able to ejaculate by mere deliberate concentration on sexual fantasies without any genital manipulation whatsoever (read: wanking, jerking off, etc.). Total time to orgasm - er, around zero seconds. As infamous sex educator Kinsey tells us: "In such a case the psychic stimulation is entirely responsible for the result."

Pfft. As if any woman will tell you coming that fast is a good thing. But on the other end of the spectrum, Wardell B. Pomeroy, author of Dr. Kinsey & The Institute for Sex Research, tells the tale of one lucky lady who had an incredible sexual response. His words: "I remember one woman who was capable of fifteen to twenty orgasms in twenty minutes. Even the most casual contact could arouse a sexual response in her. Observing her both in masturbation and in sexual intercourse, we found that in intercourse her first orgasm occurred within two to five seconds after entry."[/QUOTE]

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Naked Snake said:
Quoted from a certain website:

Write this off as just another example of disparity between the sexes. The typical male orgasm lasts anywhere from 3 to 8 seconds, though its possible through deep breathing and regular exercising to extend it to maybe 10 seconds or so. Ask Sting for precise numbers.

As you probably are aware, women are capable of multiple orgasms without having to rest in between. (I love my life.) Just ask the all-knowing Cecil Adams, author of More of the Straight Dope; according to him, women are capable of sustained orgasm, called status orgasmus. These wonderful events start with a 2-4 second "spastic contraction" and last twenty to sixty seconds. In 1966, Masters & Johnson published the chart of one woman who experienced a marvelous 43-second orgasm, made up of at least 25 successive contractions.

The Fastest Orgasm

Certain rare men, 1 in every 1,250 men to be precise, are able to ejaculate by mere deliberate concentration on sexual fantasies without any genital manipulation whatsoever (read: wanking, jerking off, etc.). Total time to orgasm - er, around zero seconds. As infamous sex educator Kinsey tells us: "In such a case the psychic stimulation is entirely responsible for the result."

Pfft. As if any woman will tell you coming that fast is a good thing. But on the other end of the spectrum, Wardell B. Pomeroy, author of Dr. Kinsey & The Institute for Sex Research, tells the tale of one lucky lady who had an incredible sexual response. His words: "I remember one woman who was capable of fifteen to twenty orgasms in twenty minutes. Even the most casual contact could arouse a sexual response in her. Observing her both in masturbation and in sexual intercourse, we found that in intercourse her first orgasm occurred within two to five seconds after entry."

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DCX
 
Yep, I know fpr a fact woman have longer orgasms if you know what I'm saying. That's why I had to seperate myself from her. The pleasure just wasn't equal. the least she could do was orgasm as soon as I penetrate which is possible, save me a bit of work. But no, I gotta be Mr. 60 seconds with no benefits.
 
Do a Google search for "Orgasm Demo" and then click on the first website you see. You'll then see the difference between male and female orgasm (the site is basically a place to learn how to have good sex, so it's not work safe).
 
CVXFREAK said:
Do a Google search for "Orgasm Demo" and then click on the first website you see. You'll then see the difference between male and female orgasm (the site is basically a place to learn how to have good sex, so it's not work safe).

:lol :lol :lol So unfair.
 
Naked Snake said:
His words: "I remember one woman who was capable of fifteen to twenty orgasms in twenty minutes. Even the most casual contact could arouse a sexual response in her. Observing her both in masturbation and in sexual intercourse, we found that in intercourse her first orgasm occurred within two to five seconds after entry.".
I want his job.
 
CVXFREAK said:
Do a Google search for "Orgasm Demo" and then click on the first website you see. You'll then see the difference between male and female orgasm (the site is basically a place to learn how to have good sex, so it's not work safe).
:lol :lol :lol That's about right :P

DCX
 
I want that psychic masturbation thing...i mean think how much time you'd save over the course of your life!



Do a Google search for "Orgasm Demo" and then click on the first website you see. You'll then see the difference between male and female orgasm (the site is basically a place to learn how to have good sex, so it's not work safe).


:lol , look ladies, this is why we get paid more to do the same job, its compensation.
 
Seriously, a guy's is like "Ooooh.. wtf was that??" and the chick's is like "OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHIMGONNADIEOOOOOOOOOHNOPESEIZUREOOOHOOOOOOOOH!" and so on.
 
"Ooooh.. wtf was that??" :lol Can't say I thought that even the first time, but ok!

There's a key differece between men and women in sex...ok there's lots of differences, but this one stands out to me: men have to try and not enjoy it too much, whereas women are free to enjoy it as much as they can, as soon as possible. No woman I've pointed this out to (admittedly only a few) seem to have realised this before.

Not that it's not good for guys too, but I'd sure as hell prefer the woman's way if I got the choice. Still, no point complaining, can't change it. Plus, you know...we can run faster!

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Yes!
 
Mama Smurf said:
"Ooooh.. wtf was that??" :lol Can't say I thought that even the first time, but ok!

There's a key differece between men and women in sex...ok there's lots of differences, but this one stands out to me: men have to try and not enjoy it too much, whereas women are free to enjoy it as much as they can, as soon as possible. No woman I've pointed this out to (admittedly only a few) seem to have realised this before.

Not that it's not good for guys too, but I'd sure as hell prefer the woman's way if I got the choice. Still, no point complaining, can't change it. Plus, you know...we can run faster!

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Yes!
I guess it's kind of worth it considering, ya know, our penises don't bleed once a month.
 
There's a key differece between men and women in sex...ok there's lots of differences, but this one stands out to me: men have to try and not enjoy it too much, whereas women are free to enjoy it as much as they can, as soon as possible. No woman I've pointed this out to (admittedly only a few) seem to have realised this before.

That is so true! We are basically a tool, and it's our job to get them off. But don't let that stop you from having fun! Just do your job right and they WILL come before you do.

Just remember-
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"It's all in the hips. That's right."

Also, why do guys get all hung up over busting your nut before she does? If it happens, just strap on another rubber and go to town...unless you have trouble keeping it up, in that case I can't help yas. :lol :lol :lol

FYI, not every girl requires or is even capable of having tons of orgasms. I actually prefer it if a girl isn't so rediculously needy.
 
If it happens, just strap on another rubber and go to town

Another rubber? If I was wearing a rubber the first time, I sure as hell wouldn't be cumming before the gal, unless she wasn't going to at all anyway. Stupid safe pieces of crap.

I actually prefer it if a girl isn't so rediculously needy.

:lol I'll be using that one in the future, cheers mate.
 
Certain rare men, 1 in every 1,250 men to be precise, are able to ejaculate by mere deliberate concentration on sexual fantasies without any genital manipulation whatsoever (read: wanking, jerking off, etc.). Total time to orgasm - er, around zero seconds.

Of the countless things I want to do with my mind! Wanking is not one of them. :P
 
The secret to a happy marriage, brought to you by the late great Sam Kinison: "Make her come twice before she even sees your dick."
 
I'm obsessed with making girls cum..I'm glad they have more potential pleasure from sex.

As far as I can tell most of you guys don't know WTF you are doing.. more for me then..
 
Hmm..you're a dick!

Don't give yourself too much credit, it's not like its hard to be good in bed. With experience, anyone can be good at screwing.
 
nVidiot_Whore said:
As far as I can tell most of you guys don't know WTF you are doing.. more for me then..

:lol

Oh you've got to love the internet, it gives you such a laugh. No one would say that in real life (unless there's some sort of "looking like a tool" fetish I'm not in on), you'd get laughed at or people would roll their eyes at each other or assume you have some inadequacy issues you feel the need to make clear you don't have or whatever, I can't imagine it would ever get a positive response anyway, and we were missing out.

Not anymore!
 
nVidiot_Whore said:
I'm obsessed with making girls cum..I'm glad they have more potential pleasure from sex.

As far as I can tell most of you guys don't know WTF you are doing.. more for me then..
i thought i was the only one. i've got the same odd obession.

Spoilered for possible TMI but you'll highlight it anyways:

Friday night, i made her cum three times through fingering. She came two or three more times through intercourse. Her orgasms lasted phenomenally longer than mine, though this time mine completely snuck up on me (she was practicing her Kegels during). She called me up the next day, gushing, saying how she was still swimming in the afterglow. How much of that was mental and how much of it she was actually feeling i don't know, but damn if women aren't lucky when it comes to how long they can float on that pleasure. On the other hand, i guess it must suck to have this amazing intimate connection to someone then have them up and leave when they're satisfied.

But yeah, a lot of guys are in it for themselves, which is pretty sad. There's few feelings as devilishly fucking awesome as knowing you make can make a woman melt.
 
Hey I have a "friend" who has a problem with premature ejaculation. A real bad one like 5 minutes or less and he's done. Uhhh.. is there any advice I could give him to help him solve his problem. Again this is for my "friend" not me, I can go all night.
 
Silent Death said:
Hey I have a "friend" who has a problem with premature ejaculation. A real bad one like 5 minutes or less and he's done. Uhhh.. is there any advice I could give him to help him solve his problem. Again this is for my "friend" not me, I can go all night.
You fool no one.
 
Silent Death said:
Hey I have a "friend" who has a problem with premature ejaculation. A real bad one like 5 minutes or less and he's done. Uhhh.. is there any advice I could give him to help him solve his problem. Again this is for my "friend" not me, I can go all night.
What is it that causes the premature ejaculation?
 
I think average guy only lasts like 5-7minutes anyway, unfortunately for women (if the man's only into the whole intercourse thang). Well, I said average guy.. some are a little luckier.
 
pestul said:
I think average guy only lasts like 5-7minutes anyway, unfortunately for women (if the man's only into the whole intercourse thang). Well, I said average guy.. some are a little luckier.
you're joking, right?
 
Mama Smurf said:
There's a key differece between men and women in sex...ok there's lots of differences, but this one stands out to me: men have to try and not enjoy it too much, whereas women are free to enjoy it as much as they can, as soon as possible. No woman I've pointed this out to (admittedly only a few) seem to have realised this before.

Mate, if that's what sex is like for you then you need to look at different girls. A *good* woman will have her fun but certainly not deny you yours. It's all about giving a little, getting a little.
 
whytemyke said:
you're joking, right?


We can only hope.

5 to 7 minutes in no where near the average. If that is the case though, I'm a God among men. My record is a 8 hour marathon session while my parents were out of town. My woman had a hard time walking the next day, but it was SOOOO worth it.
 
But yeah, a lot of guys are in it for themselves, which is pretty sad. There's few feelings as devilishly fucking awesome as knowing you make can make a woman melt.

Yes, guys who are in it for themselves are complete pricks...and there is a good portion of guys (possibly the majority) who are like that. But I think it's just as wrong to be in it completely for the woman. Sure, I like to go all out and quite simply, be the man. But if she's not going to hold up her end then it takes away from the entire sexual experience. And face it, there are lots of completely selfish bitches when it comes to sex.

I think average guy only lasts like 5-7minutes anyway

Um...maybe I've been missing something, but I think coming within 5-7 minutes is perfectly acceptable...that's more than enough time for both of you to get off. Not saying it should be like that every every single time, but it's acceptable for both partners to climax within that time period. I don't know, I never keep time anyway...that's kind of wierd.

Outcast2004 said:
5 to 7 minutes in no where near the average. If that is the case though, I'm a God among men. My record is a 8 hour marathon session...

So you went 8 hours without coming? :-p

I think he's talking about how long a guy should last as in, how long it takes to bust a nizzut...not how long he can have sex for. BTW my personal record is 4 hours, but I really prefer not to have sex for hours and hours. If a chick can't accept that, then exit stage left biotch.
 
TranceVibrator said:
Mate, if that's what sex is like for you then you need to look at different girls. A *good* woman will have her fun but certainly not deny you yours. It's all about giving a little, getting a little.

I don't think you're getting what I'm saying. It's not a case of she gets hers while I don't get mine. We both get ours (hopefully).

Now there are some guys out there who won't cum for ages even if they want to do it quickly, they're trying to and it's the sexiest situation they've been in for a long time, but it's going to take time no matter what. For most guys though (at least around my age), that's not the case. We can't just let ourselves enjoy it as much as possible, because if we do it'll be over in no time. Instead, we have to learn self control, obviously, I'm sure most of us have been through this. We're not denying ourselves total pleasure as such, but putting it off and putting it off.

A woman on the other hand can go into a sexual situation looking to orgasm as quickly as possible without any worries (barring those EXTREME sensitivity cases). She doesn't have to put off her pleasure, there's worries of not satisfying her guy if she does, it's a good thing for both of them if she cums quickly! And that's the difference. She can let herself go and just enjoy it, guys have to hold off enjoying it (enjoying it fully, I'm not saying sex isn't fun except for the orgasm).

Of course, there's a much higher chance of the man definitely getting something of it than the woman anyway, I'm just talking about a situation where the sex is actually good.

whytemyke said:
you're joking, right?

Scarily, there are stats out there that are considerably lower than that. A quick google search will throw up:

Kinsey found that 75% of all males reach orgasm within 2 minutes of penetration, and felt that it was normal, though he does note that it "may be most unsatisfactory to a wife who is inhibited or natively low in response."

Of that time thrusting intercourse lasts between 6 to 10 minutes.

etc.

I don't know how these stats were taken, seems like a difficult one to get accurate to me, but I don't believe it. Hell, I don't believe half the sexual "facts" out there, I swear to god most of them are invented to stop people feeling insecure.

I have a friend who has slept with a lot of guys. She's absolutely stunning and very open about that sort of thing, so it's no real surprise, and (as I don't know a prostitute) she's the closest thing I have to wide ranging, in-person knowledge. I showed her some of these alleged facts about guys, and while I realise she's almost always sleeping with good looking guys, so their genetics maybe have something to do with things (I really don't know), most of them she thought were crap or even laughed at. I can go through a list of things...the average size seemed too small (she didn't measure every guy of course), she'd hardly ever seen a curved, bent or leaning one way or the other penis (these "facts" said it was more common than not), the amount an average guy is supposed to ejaculate was one she laughed at (supposedly it's a teaspoon) and the time they last was another.

Now I know I'm using one girl's anecdotal evidence against what I would hope is scientific study, but this is a situation where I'm more inclined to believe it. Not only because some of them seem ridiculous and I trust her to be honest and judge things well, but because I know how some of these studies are done.

You know how Durex did a size study to get a better size of condom? They did it over the internet. You filled in a form, didn't have to give an identity, didn't have to get measured. Does that seem a good idea to you? How many giggling 13 year old girls put 9 inches? How many guys who can't face the truth added half an inch? How many people tried to be honest but measured wrong?

Anyway, this post is rambling on a bit, so I'll stop.
 
You know how Durex did a size study to get a better size of condom? They did it over the internet. You filled in a form, didn't have to give an identity, didn't have to get measured. Does that seem a good idea to you? How many giggling 13 year old girls put 9 inches? How many guys who can't face the truth added half an inch? How many people tried to be honest but measured wrong?
I've read that surveys asking men of thier penis size always result in higher numbers than studies where doctors actually measure penii themselves. In those studies, I think the average is somewhere between 5 and 5 and a half inches.

I have a friend who has slept with a lot of guys. She's absolutely stunning and very open about that sort of thing, so it's no real surprise, and (as I don't know a prostitute) she's the closest thing I have to wide ranging, in-person knowledge. I showed her some of these alleged facts about guys, and while I realise she's almost always sleeping with good looking guys, so their genetics maybe have something to do with things (I really don't know), most of them she thought were crap or even laughed at. I can go through a list of things...the average size seemed too small (she didn't measure every guy of course), she'd hardly ever seen a curved, bent or leaning one way or the other penis (these "facts" said it was more common than not), the amount an average guy is supposed to ejaculate was one she laughed at (supposedly it's a teaspoon) and the time they last was another.
I'd trust statistics over one woman's anecdotal experience. I'm sure there are plenty of guys out there who she may have slept with if it weren't for their embarassment over their tiny penises and whatnot.
 
Aye, 'tis true. I kind of alluded to that, but not very well. But then I always think, surely guys who willingly volunteer for surveys on such a generally touchy subject are more likely to be ones who (think they) have something to be proud or at least not ashamed of too.

I don't know what to think really. I hope they're telling the truth, because when I was growing up I was really nervous and worried about this sort of thing and went looking for what I hoped would be reassurances all the time (by which I mean facts in books or on the net), but all I really wanted was the truth, even if it was bad.
 
Outcast2004 said:
We can only hope.

5 to 7 minutes in no where near the average. If that is the case though, I'm a God among men. My record is a 8 hour marathon session while my parents were out of town. My woman had a hard time walking the next day, but it was SOOOO worth it.
i've done somewhere between four and five hours with about three being my average, but eight hours is just too long for me, unless we were practicing tantric sex or something. i'm sure you weren't fucking for that long, because god knows your bits need to rest. :lol

But if 5-7 minutes is the average, i weep for society. Maybe that's enough for both parties to get off (strong maybe for many women), but in that short amount of time it's literally nothing more than just a mechanical act. It's not enough time to appreciate one another beyond being an autonomous object in a sex act. Why even get sweaty and smell of sex afterwards? i can do it myself quicker, cleaner, and better.
 
Mama Smurf said:
I don't think you're getting what I'm saying. It's not a case of she gets hers while I don't get mine. We both get ours (hopefully).

Now there are some guys out there who won't cum for ages even if they want to do it quickly, they're trying to and it's the sexiest situation they've been in for a long time, but it's going to take time no matter what. For most guys though (at least around my age), that's not the case. We can't just let ourselves enjoy it as much as possible, because if we do it'll be over in no time. Instead, we have to learn self control, obviously, I'm sure most of us have been through this. We're not denying ourselves total pleasure as such, but putting it off and putting it off.

A woman on the other hand can go into a sexual situation looking to orgasm as quickly as possible without any worries (barring those EXTREME sensitivity cases). She doesn't have to put off her pleasure, there's worries of not satisfying her guy if she does, it's a good thing for both of them if she cums quickly! And that's the difference. She can let herself go and just enjoy it, guys have to hold off enjoying it (enjoying it fully, I'm not saying sex isn't fun except for the orgasm).

Of course, there's a much higher chance of the man definitely getting something of it than the woman anyway, I'm just talking about a situation where the sex is actually good.

How old are you man? I'm only asking because by what you've been saying, it seems like you're at the start of your sexual endeavors. It seems like you're worrying way too much man, or the women you've been having sex with have been putting way too much pressure on you. The reason why I say you should be looking at other women is because you really *shouldn't* feel these immense pressures to perform. Good love making is relaxed, fun, and pleasurable. If you're constantly worrying about finishing before your woman has you're probably more likely to do it. If you go in there scared, you'll lose control more easily. Remember, sex isn't just about you doing it to her, she has to do it to you too. Let her experiment with you to see what gets her off the best, and she'll be the one trying to hold off to let you get your enjoyment :D

btw, it's never a good thing for both of you if she comes quickly. Where's your enjoyment?! I know this is gonna sound cheezy, but sex really is better when you're doing it with someone you know and trust. There's no embarrassment if you come too quickly. There's no pressure if you don't perform to your best that time. You really can just lay back (or sit up or whatever you want :D) and enjoy it! That's without a doubt the best way to learn how to do it properly, no pressure, just pure fun. Soon you won't be worrying about lasting at all, because you'll know what gets the both of you going. Experiment and enjoy.
 
The male orgasm as it is commonly experienced is just a means to eject semen from the penis; once it's been deployed, there is no need for the experience to continue. Females don't have this bottleneck, so they tend to have longer orgasms.

That's why old dirty Chinese men created tantric sex. It's a way for guys to experience minute-plus orgasms without ejaculating, so they can continue sex even after orgasm. Problem is, it takes months and months of hard study to learn, and even years for those who aren't truly dedicated.
 
Mama Smurf said:
Now there are some guys out there who won't cum for ages even if they want to do it quickly, they're trying to and it's the sexiest situation they've been in for a long time, but it's going to take time no matter what. For most guys though (at least around my age), that's not the case. We can't just let ourselves enjoy it as much as possible, because if we do it'll be over in no time. Instead, we have to learn self control, obviously, I'm sure most of us have been through this. We're not denying ourselves total pleasure as such, but putting it off and putting it off.
I happen to be one of those guys that will seemingly last forever if I want to, sometimes when I don't, but I always get maximum enjoyment evertime.

But if you feel you blowing your load way too soon and not able to get maximum enjoyment out of it, maybe you should do a few exercises throughout the day, such as flexing your PC muscle. Thats that muscle you flex when your trying to hold your piss. Try flexing it off and on(holding for about a second at a time) about 100-500 times daily.

Soon your muscle will be strong enough that you will be able to fend off that finishing feeling for as long as you deem neccessary ;)
 
TranceVibrator said:
How old are you man? I'm only asking because by what you've been saying, it seems like you're at the start of your sexual endeavors. It seems like you're worrying way too much man, or the women you've been having sex with have been putting way too much pressure on you. The reason why I say you should be looking at other women is because you really *shouldn't* feel these immense pressures to perform. Good love making is relaxed, fun, and pleasurable. If you're constantly worrying about finishing before your woman has you're probably more likely to do it. If you go in there scared, you'll lose control more easily. Remember, sex isn't just about you doing it to her, she has to do it to you too. Let her experiment with you to see what gets her off the best, and she'll be the one trying to hold off to let you get your enjoyment :D

btw, it's never a good thing for both of you if she comes quickly. Where's your enjoyment?! I know this is gonna sound cheezy, but sex really is better when you're doing it with someone you know and trust. There's no embarrassment if you come too quickly. There's no pressure if you don't perform to your best that time. You really can just lay back (or sit up or whatever you want :D) and enjoy it! That's without a doubt the best way to learn how to do it properly, no pressure, just pure fun. Soon you won't be worrying about lasting at all, because you'll know what gets the both of you going. Experiment and enjoy.
I think you're missing his point.
 
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