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Straight women have fewest orgasms, according to new study
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Fudgepuppy
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I definitely believe there's less stigma about personal sexual exploration among lesbian women, than straight women.
The patriarchy has made the hetero normative people thinking that sex is about a man fucking and a women being fucked.
Haha read the rest of the thread this was covered at length lol
uncredited male
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Straight men blowing the curve.
Oh man, so she's either at 66% or 86%! We need answers Blizzard
Well yeah, that's what I'm saying, posters were saying going down isn't their favorite thing for reasons, my point is, so what?
Regarding neck/jawlock, get her on her back with her butt on the edge of the bed and kneel on the floor. Access all areas and a comfortable position.
As someone who's first marriage broke down in large part down to sex, for fuck sake, don't hope it'll get better. Be proactive in trying to make it so. Relaxation and being comfortable are good places to start.
With a little one on the way you're likely to have even less time for each other.
As someone who's first marriage broke down in large part down to sex, for fuck sake, don't hope it'll get better. Be proactive in trying to make it so. Relaxation and being comfortable are good places to start.
With a little one on the way you're likely to have even less time for each other.
Gongratz for the upcoming baby! That being said, with my current wisdom I would never hold off sex till marriage etc. Sexual chemistry is very important and one of the first things that should be explored in a relationship IMO.
Never had oral sex that was worth anything. :/ Only have had my husband try though, so maybe he sucks at it/I have too many hangups to enjoy it.
I'd say I get off about 75% of the time when we have sex. That 25% is mostly me just saying fuck it and getting him off because I'm too tired to work for my own.
I'd say I get off about 75% of the time when we have sex. That 25% is mostly me just saying fuck it and getting him off because I'm too tired to work for my own.
FunkyMunkey
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"straight women that haven't had sex with me"
fixed 😎 right fam
fixed 😎 right fam
It might be a mental hangup. In the Christian circles I've run in, it's not that uncommon for a woman to have mental blocks around sex which keep her from enjoying it. I'd recommend some kind of sex therapy or some books about how to enjoy sex. Good luck.
Steeped in a Sea of Games
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Had this same problem with my wife (religious upbringing strikes again) and I encouraged her to start looking into masterbation more. She thought the idea was gross and embarrassing, but I was really supportive and didn't push her too hard. Got a few books about women discovering it for themselves to help with the stigma, tried a few toys (she only cares for vibrators, especially the Hitachi wand), and over a long time it started to work. Before, no matter what I did, nothing worked and I have made others orgasm in the past without too much difficulty, so I knew it wasn't just me. At first only vibrators worked, but now I can pretty easily do the job with fingers and oral. Sometimes it happens so fast it's crazy to think that we used to struggle so much.
Orgasms don't usually just happen without some form of encouragement. People really do need to learn which muscles to strain or relax and positions that work and that's pretty tricky to have someone else find for you. A lot of people discover it naturally growing up, but some parents just shut that exploration down. It's tricky to move beyond that kind of programming, but if your wife has an open mind, you can usually work past it.
Best thing you can do is to be patient. Work stress is likely the culprit, as you mentioned. If she senses that you're frustrated, it's likely to make her MORE stressed and more unlikely to orgasm.
100%. In my old age of 37, I have started to lock up easier. The edge of the bed trick makes everything easier.
Shpeshal Nick
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How About No
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As a socially awkward straight male virgin what can I do to help the cause? My fellow men are an embarrassment, I feel like I need to do something now
sorry come again?
sorry come again?
lol
To be fair, alot of straight women don't talk about what pleases them with their mates. I mean you look at guys ITT, they can't help but do it and we're not even fucking each other. You dont really see this from straight girls in my experience. We know why, society makes it shameful to openly talk about female pleasure, but still. I'd say communication is key all around.
Nostremitus
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Edit: disregard.
It's only straight and bi women who are so close percentage-wise.
It's only straight and bi women who are so close percentage-wise.
Mobile Suit Gooch
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Uhhhh...Okay.
LookAtMeGo
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Thread title should say Straight men worst at sex.
Fudgepuppy
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How many times have you heard people reiterating the whole key-vs-keyhole analogy?
Seems ludicrous, but there's definitely more of a stigma with heterosexual women experimenting on their own, compared to men.
Nah My girlfriend isnt with it either. Really just think its a clean issue with her mentally. She doesnt want me kissing her with the same mouth I have down there. She doesnt go for that.
I mean, he's not wrong.
I'm not even religious and I didn't even masturbate until recently. I never could get myself off. It's amazing I have orgasms as all considering the shame I felt for having sex in the first place.
I'm the same way. 'My pussy is gross, so you going down on me is gross, why would you do that aghhhhhhh'
I know it's just how I was raised, it's not actually gross, but I still can't shake it.
My girl doesn't get much from oral or rubbing her clit, she says it tickles. She does better with a vibrator but it eventually tickles and she stops before she gets an orgasm, although she says she's satisfied.
I just do a lot of touching, caressing and kissing and she gets really wet from that, then she can lose her mind from penetration.
I actually suggest to her to use condoms sometimes so I can last longer. Then I take it off at some point unless I come with a condom (she's on birth control btw).
n00bsauce87
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Dont be afraid of the cunnilligus.
Give your tongue a proper exercise
Give your tongue a proper exercise
Spat out my drink reading this. Oh my god. :lol
Escape Goat
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Straightest don't know how to please their wimminz
Stormhammer
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tell your husband to read this thread for expert tips
In my experience there's definitely two forms of Os, what I call the "warm fuzzy" ones and the "mechanical" ones, the one you get when your body basically forces you to have one.. When partners give oral it activates the lock out for me, but if they keep at it then they'll trigger a mechanical one.
adamsappel
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Partners of the same sex, even without saying so, probably understand techniques that wouldn't be pleasurable, just from understanding their own anatomy. There've been a few times where I wanted to say, "Why would you think biting it would feel good?" or "Are you trying to tear it off?"
righthandmouse
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I am sorry. I am a part of that.
Killing_Joke
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Not fair to really blame it on the men. I've had some girls who just take forever or just don't at all no matter how good the game is. Never mind, men are lazy bastards.
It's not my fault they can't tell how good this is.
Rest
All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
Please familiarize your self with the Count's complete dominance of first post puns and jokes for the last decade.
Rest
All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
I've heard more stories from gay men of a partner doing something to them that their partner thought was fun, and being oblivious to the fact that it bored/turned off/hurt the other than I've ever heard similar stories from straight men about women.I know lots too!
But we're gay so...
I'm a little curious about that homosexual men statistic. I mean, sure sometimes you won't but in my experience usually we both do. Not really surprised to see oral being more necessary though. Sometimes you're just not... going in balls deep so to speak.
I think this article, if it's true, just goes to show that men aren't very good at taking cues from their partner and making sure everybody is having a good time.
Leyasu
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Thought that as soon as I read the title.
Imperial Bishop
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To all the fellas who can't please their women:
InfiniteBento
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Its not always the dudes fault, guys
Some women dead fish or are distracted and can't get into things or when giving to their partner they just half ass all efforts.
Shit happens both ways.
Its usually just a lot more common for women to complain of men's inability to provide an orgasm due to the complexity of giving women an orgasm. Men's orgasms are pretty straight forward (most anyway) so you don't hear as many stories but those stories do still exist despite not often hearing them.
Some women dead fish or are distracted and can't get into things or when giving to their partner they just half ass all efforts.
Shit happens both ways.
Its usually just a lot more common for women to complain of men's inability to provide an orgasm due to the complexity of giving women an orgasm. Men's orgasms are pretty straight forward (most anyway) so you don't hear as many stories but those stories do still exist despite not often hearing them.
Zeyphersan
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excelsiorlef
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Well yeah each individual instance varries but there's a 21% drop between gay women and straight women... so I think it's fair to say men play a significant role here.
MWS Natural
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Study needs a BBC filter.
M0nochromatic
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This Thread said:
Now we're talkin
Subpar Spatula
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I don't last long so she has about 2 minutes to orgasm or it's curtains for the next few hours.
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