How's going from 1 to 2 compare? 1 was honestly pretty easy, but I don't think I'm getting off that easy this time.
Anyone has an idea how to get him into breastfeeding again? Similar experiences?
Fun teachable moment with my 12 year old last night: explaining that maybe it's not school appropriate to incorporate things like a drawing of a marijuana leaf, or references to death into a given project.
Haha
The post before last is exactly what I came in here to comment on. I have one child that will turn 3 in March and he's turned into a handful over the last few months. He wants to do EVERYTHING himself and will throw a fit if we do something for him. The problem is that he takes forever to do things. It makes getting him ready for school in the morning a real struggle.
So fellow parents I need your help if possible. Pete is turning 1 next month! But, we live in a small apartment and none of our relatives live close by so we are trying to figure out an affordable option for somewhere to throw a birthday party. Anyone have any suggestions/go through a similar thing?
Try a local community centre? Some may even offer birthday packages including games for young kids when you rent rooms with them. My sister did that for my niece's birthday. Also local parks are great too.
Thanks for the suggestions and tips on home cook meals. I do have a slow cooker but few recipes have caught on with my husband. I probably will try to dig through the gaf thread to see what I find.
No kidding, although it depends on what you mean by death, I suppose. I remember my eldest when she was nine had to write and present a poem tied to a photograph as part of a class project with all the parents in attendance. She was the only one who explored darker themes, and hilariously so given her age, it was about the city being overcast and grey, like her heart, etc., vs the bright sparkly material the rest of the kids had. Was fine.
My youngest also ended up having a conversation in class about our dog dying and it turned out really great, all the kids shared their experiences of having pets and relatives die and talked about it, and she ended up feeling a lot better about the whole thing.
But yeah, hoping she doesn't get creative about school shooting essays or anything else, not really a conversation I feel like having.
Keep offering foods he refuses with food he likes. He'll get back on track. Don't worry too much about crafting the perfect diet. Just make sure he's getting as much nutrition as possible and keep offering food even if he refuses. Eventually he'll give it a try.
The post before last is exactly what I came in here to comment on. I have one child that will turn 3 in March and he's turned into a handful over the last few months. He wants to do EVERYTHING himself and will throw a fit if we do something for him. The problem is that he takes forever to do things. It makes getting him ready for school in the morning a real struggle.
And we're about to welcome a baby girl into the world the same month he turns 3. I'm stressing a lot about how I'm going to handle two kids by myself every morning. My wife starts work at 5am, so it's all on me to get them dressed and ready.
You could try the advice in books like this. But ultimately you'll find it all amounts to much the same thing: keep exposing your child to new food, even if he refuses; don't pressure him to eat; never use food as a motivation or reward.
It sounds like you're already being creative with the foods he likes. Whole grain mac and cheese with veggie powder mixed in sounds like a perfectly fine, healthy meal. Add chicken or cut up veggies for even more nutrition. Would he eat that?
4th percentile is still normal range. Have you talked to your pediatrician? You might ask for a referral to a child nutrition specialist. If his vitals are good, and he is otherwise healthy, he is likely fine. How long has this been going on? Even months-long picky eating is normal. Is he still gaining weight?
Yeah, we're in contact with her. She's the one who came up with the plan of giving him some of his food and then he has to try other stuff before getting more of the food he wants as well as some other tips. We've been in contact frequently. This has been going on for probably at least a year. He was never really a good eater, but it's been getting much much worse over the last year. I missed the last check up, so I'm not quite sure what his weight gain has been, but he's still very energetic, and while short, he doesn't look paper thin. The pediatrician thinks he's just holding out for what he wants and he's somehow able to do it from afternoon snack at school until the next day if dinner doesn't look appealing.
If it makes you feel any better, my sister's boy was pretty similar. The guy literally looked like a walking skeleton and they had to rely on things like pediasure shakes to get him to put on a tiny bit of weight. He hit 4 and now he's starting to eat quite a bit more, be less picky, and has put on some weight. He's still super scrawny (the kid has a crazy metabolism), but he's doing ok. It could just take time.
As for the 1 kid versus 2 thing, I agree with two being a lot more work. I pretty much gave up on any hobbies or much anything extra-curricular until the kids start going to school. I'm lucky if I have the time or energy to play a video game once a week (for like 3 hours) these days. If I don't keep the kids constantly engaged they either go nuts or someone's crying about something. With one, my life really hadn't changed nearly as much. That said, I love having two kids. It's great to see them interact and play with each other and to see their differences and similarities.
We always planned on two kids, but Logan is so demanding I don't think it's going to happen. I don't know how we could physically handle another child. Got a lot of respect for the folks who pull it off.
We always planned on two kids, but Logan is so demanding I don't think it's going to happen. I don't know how we could physically handle another child. Got a lot of respect for the folks who pull it off.
I try to get him to assert his own independence, he throws things away or acts as if he is helpless. Like if he's playing with a puzzle, and he has trouble getting a piece lined up just right, he will yell for me and gesture toward the board, and insert pieces at the wrong spots to show that he doesn't know what he's doing.
Once I start helping him he doesn't want to do anything more himself. In his high chair he'll sit with his arms at his side and wait till I place food into his mouth. With puzzles he'll do nothing more than hand me pieces. If I don't accept them, he lays them at my feet. It could be that he thinks this is play, but I have a feeling it is simply easier for him, and he wants to take the path of least resistance.
I don't reward his success. I give him a high five but that's about it. Mostly I encourage him to do better. I don't want to get him in the habit of performing actions for a reward. It seems like he's got that sort of personality, where he'll exploit his abilities for praise or prize. I want to encourage him to do things for the challenge of it, and the enjoyment of the act. I also tell him that failure is okay. I think that's an important lesson to learn. That's why I don't want to do things for him. It's better for him to try and fail than not to try.
Yeah, have heard it said that one child feels like one child. Two feels like three, and three feels like five.
We're locked in to one. Partially because we started late, partly financial, and partly because we just don't want to be chewed up and spat out!
I get a little sad at the thought of not giving Charlie a sibling, but it's partially mitigated by the fact that he has a close cousin his age and he goes to playgroup three times a week.
Hello everyone, I'm in a tricky situation right now. My son (7 months) won't accept breastfeeding during the day easily.
We started giving him "Milchbrei", I think this translates to milk cereal or something similar. It's this powder with milk and stuff in it, you pour hot water over it and feed it.
We gave it to him because I'm a stay at home Dad right now and my SO finishing university.
After 1 1/2 month we have more time to breatfeed regularly again but he starts crying and screaming when breastfeeding during day. Night and morning is no problem though. Eventually it will work but not after a lot of hassle and sometimes he will just get so angry his head nearly explodes.
We stopped giving him the milk cereal, only real food. Vegetables, a bit of bread and fruits. We also stopped giving him natural flavored tea and switched it for boring preboiled water.
Anyone has an idea how to get him into breastfeeding again? Similar experiences?
Thanks everyone
Once I start helping him he doesn't want to do anything more himself. In his high chair he'll sit with his arms at his side and wait till I place food into his mouth. With puzzles he'll do nothing more than hand me pieces. If I don't accept them, he lays them at my feet. It could be that he thinks this is play, but I have a feeling it is simply easier for him, and he wants to take the path of least resistance.
That's a common refrain in parenting advice. "Go with your instincts." I don't mean to be dismissive of your input, as I think you've been very helpful toward me and many others in this thread. But "go with your instincts" is often bad advice. Many people, maybe most people, have poor instincts. "Go with your instincts" empowers people who make poor decisions. Parents who choose not to vaccinate because of autism fears are following their instincts. It's important to let your intuitions guide you, but it's equally if not more important to keep informed and consider the advice of experts, along with the results of long term observational studies.
"Go with your instincts" assumes some level of competency that I think is often too generous. It's not necessarily bad advice, but every time I see it in a parenting manual, I cringe a little bit. It's harmfully reassuring. When provided as a guideline for minding praise, it seems especially disingenuous.
I can't argue with that.
Definitely a hard question to answer.
I tend to avoid "every child is different" in my little bubble. It sometimes feels like a way out of adhering to good, effective methods. But I only disagree to an extent. I think it's important to calibrate the speed and direction of whatever process you follow for the personality and capability of each child. But I am pretty confident that most children can have good long-term results with the same parenting model.
a week tomorrow to due date....oh shit it's for real isnt it!!
Exciting!
My due date is Friday, so far I've had one contraction but that's it. The goal is not to go into labor during the Switch announcement. My husband says he loves me and would hate to miss the birth of our son lol I've got my kindle fire and charger packed in case we're at the hospital (I think they have WiFi) I think it would be kind of funny to be trying to watch it there with a newborn. We'll see. I'm leaning toward the whole thing being a conspiracy and there isn't a baby in there at all.
a week tomorrow to due date....oh shit it's for real isnt it!!
Exciting!
My due date is Friday, so far I've had one contraction but that's it. The goal is not to go into labor during the Switch announcement. My husband says he loves me and would hate to miss the birth of our son lol I've got my kindle fire and charger packed in case we're at the hospital (I think they have WiFi) I think it would be kind of funny to be trying to watch it there with a newborn. We'll see. I'm leaning toward the whole thing being a conspiracy and there isn't a baby in there at all.
We've been having issues with our daughters attachment to my wife when they are together. I think this is a pretty common thing. When mom is around she acts more demanding, more clingy, less independent. When mom is not around, she is much more independent, more complacent.
The thing is, that I don't want to pull her away from mom from time to time, but find myself doing that at random intervals.
Anyone else dealing with this? One child much more attached to one parent.
PS: Mom works part time so is obviously home much more.
My two week old is driving me nuts. We get three hours, three and a half tops, between him getting fussy for food or diaper changes.
During the day he's pretty good at eat. Diaper change. Sleep. With a few periods of him being awake and alert.
At night though? It takes nearly two hours to feed. Change and get him to sleep. Then an hour later he is up and we do it all again. He's barely awake but loses his shit when you try to put him down. And I just can't walk around with him all night as I'm exhausted and my wife is exhausted.
Maybe I'll bring the cot to work and sleep there in the morning!
Exciting!
My due date is Friday, so far I've had one contraction but that's it. The goal is not to go into labor during the Switch announcement. My husband says he loves me and would hate to miss the birth of our son lol I've got my kindle fire and charger packed in case we're at the hospital (I think they have WiFi) I think it would be kind of funny to be trying to watch it there with a newborn. We'll see. I'm leaning toward the whole thing being a conspiracy and there isn't a baby in there at all.
Yes mate! Mrs theaface was having regular contractions (frequent but short) yesterday and we really thought it was happening there and then. We called the ward and they said it sounded like early labour and to just relax and see how it goes. It passed eventually so nothing yet, but it feels VERY real now. 2 of our NCT group (7 of us in total) have had theirs already!
Congratulations! Nice to have another gaffer with the same due week as me and Joe! I doubt your husband has much to worry about - as much as movies love to show us a mad dash speeding through the streets to make it to the hospital in time, the vast majority of births take a while and give people plenty of time to get where they need to be. Good luck!
My two week old is driving me nuts. We get three hours, three and a half tops, between him getting fussy for food or diaper changes.
During the day he's pretty good at eat. Diaper change. Sleep. With a few periods of him being awake and alert.
At night though? It takes nearly two hours to feed. Change and get him to sleep. Then an hour later he is up and we do it all again. He's barely awake but loses his shit when you try to put him down. And I just can't walk around with him all night as I'm exhausted and my wife is exhausted.
Maybe I'll bring the cot to work and sleep there in the morning!
My two week old is driving me nuts. We get three hours, three and a half tops, between him getting fussy for food or diaper changes.
During the day he's pretty good at eat. Diaper change. Sleep. With a few periods of him being awake and alert.
At night though? It takes nearly two hours to feed. Change and get him to sleep. Then an hour later he is up and we do it all again. He's barely awake but loses his shit when you try to put him down. And I just can't walk around with him all night as I'm exhausted and my wife is exhausted.
Maybe I'll bring the cot to work and sleep there in the morning!
Can be a phase. Who is the primary caregiver, and how old they are? When my daughter started going to daycare, I noticed at times she would become clingy, but it was mostly that she was mimicking behaviour from other kids. Like it was more an act than actual clinginess.
My two week old is driving me nuts. We get three hours, three and a half tops, between him getting fussy for food or diaper changes.
During the day he's pretty good at eat. Diaper change. Sleep. With a few periods of him being awake and alert.
At night though? It takes nearly two hours to feed. Change and get him to sleep. Then an hour later he is up and we do it all again. He's barely awake but loses his shit when you try to put him down. And I just can't walk around with him all night as I'm exhausted and my wife is exhausted.
Maybe I'll bring the cot to work and sleep there in the morning!