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Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction
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SolKane said:
I met her at a concert. It was one of this weird occasions in which I was feeling quite confident (a bit drunk too) so I just went to her and we started talking. From there it was all quite easy and fast because she was too looking for somebody after many disasterous relationships.
I used cialis two or three times in the beginning of our relationship so I would at least have no problems performing, like it had happened before. After a that then I had no problems with erections but I could not come, I could be going for hours. Then, after many attempts, once i was really confortable with her, Sex started to feel better and at some point I was able to come. Since then, I have been able to do it almost every time, although only in certain positions. Good thing is I now have very good control on it too so my girlfriend is quite happy with it too because she can come as many times as she wants. So, from my experience, I think the most important is to overcome your fears of embarrasment and just get yourself a girlffiend that understands you and keep trying until you let yourself go.
deejay8595
my posts are "MEH"
No. I tested this.I go to sleep around 11:00 and wake up at 7:00. I wake up with more energy when I don't blast before bed.ArjanN said:
forknknife
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SolKane said:
In my case it wasn't so much provoked by the girls i dated but by my own expectatives of what sex was and how i was supposed to perform. These were all unrealistically based on all the porn i watched since i was about 14 until my first sexual experience, when i was almost 17, which was a complete disaster and created this trauma that made me think that I was useless in bed. This set me on a train of thought that basically made it impossible for me to have a normal relationship because I would never fully commit to them since I didn't think any girl would ever want tobe with somebody like me.
I think I'm almost over this whole ordeal but not quite yet, and I'm already 31. So, yeah, I hope my story can help others not to make the same mistakes I made and get their shit straight before wasting their best years with crap like this.
In your case I would encourage you to find another girl as soon as possible that helps you through it and fucks you like hell until you are able to overCOME
this, which I already tell you you will be able to do. Also, forget that bitch, most girls wouldn't have that kind of reaction, I am sure.
The Incarnation
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computers putin' said:
Why do you think anal sex is so popular nowadays>
If the girl is worth your time, she will be eager to understand and help you through any malfunctions. Don't let it wreck your confidence. 'sides, the learning how each other ticks and 'training' is always a fun part of the relationship. Find yourself someone worth the time and enjoy yourself, pressure free.SolKane said:
Because it's no longer taboo.The Incarnation said:
Tightness has nothing to do with it because if relaxed, an anus can stretch quite comfortably as wide as a vagina.
seattle6418
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The English Conquistador said:
That´s not the point. People on GAF are quick to jump on threads and say "i don´t agree, thus this is BS".
The point of the study is to show that some people might be less sensitive after years and years of porn.
That´s it, there´s no need for people in this thread to disregard everything that has been discussed just because it doesn´t apply to them.
Revolutionary
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I used to suffer from this but an ex-girlfriend helped me through it. Basically, it's all about what's on your mind during sex.. I would sometimes picture imagery from porn in my head to stimulate (despite what's going on in person), as well as worry about whether I'm pleasing her or not, etc. and that's what would fuck me up. My mind wasn't clear.
Anyway, after a month or so of having sex on a frequent basis it finally happened on it's own and ever since then I've been good. I've got the right state of mind during the act, and I can still fap to porn regularly as well.
So yeah, I guess going cold turkey could help but having sex regularly with a steady partner can as well.
Anyway, after a month or so of having sex on a frequent basis it finally happened on it's own and ever since then I've been good. I've got the right state of mind during the act, and I can still fap to porn regularly as well.
So yeah, I guess going cold turkey could help but having sex regularly with a steady partner can as well.
Shortt Sirket
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This has been an interesting thread, to say the least. I really want more research on the subject because it does sound very questionable. Are there people who might be desensitized from porn? Of course, but that has to be the minority. There is a HUGE difference between watching porn and masturbating and actually having sex with a real person. I would guess it is more of a mental block then desensitization, maybe some sort of "thinking too hard" or something.
I dunno, it just seems really suspect to me.
I dunno, it just seems really suspect to me.
Kinyou said:
haha perfect response.
Bay Maximus
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HiResDes said:
deejay8595
my posts are "MEH"
YES YES YES!!!! LOLOL! Eventually I will cave in and do it then say after wards "Alright tomorrow I will start my streak without it"... I have no problems racking girls or performing in bed when the time comes but it is such a great feeling ...May16 said:
Harry Dresden
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So we have the over porn camp and the no fap for 90days camp.
What ever happened to the theory of moderation.
If you want to watch some porn do your business, but if you're breaking out in a cold sweat on your last hour at work and go 80 down mainstreet to get home and bust one out on your keyboard you have problems.
What ever happened to the theory of moderation.
If you want to watch some porn do your business, but if you're breaking out in a cold sweat on your last hour at work and go 80 down mainstreet to get home and bust one out on your keyboard you have problems.
The English Conquistador
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seattle6418 said:
If porn affects someone that much, then don't watch it, simple. Porn isn't made to made you think deeply or question your "sensitivity", it's just sex, nothing more.
If you *need* a wank, or feel fucked up without one, go doctors.
computers putin'
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HiResDes said:
A terabyte of porn!?!?!?!?!?? I don't think I could ever come close to amassing such a collection. Props man, I just hope you don't regret this the next time you need to fap.
Whatever happened to the theory of reading the OP? Also, really not sure where you got "if you're breaking out in a cold sweat on your last hour at work and go 80 down mainstreet to get home and bust one out on your keyboard" from.Harry Dresden said:
The article states a 90 day 'reset' is usually required. It isn't the porn itself - it's stopping your brain being used to dopamine hits on tap. Moderation would come after the 90 days.
So, no porn or masturbation for 60 to 90 days.
And you, too. They aren't claiming visual stimulation is a problem.Pimpbaa said:
plagiarize
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this is, it should be restated, only advice that people who find it difficult to maintain an erection during sex should follow.Suairyu said:
if someone doesn't have a dysfunction they needn't do anything, even if they watch porn for hours a day. of course, since porn is socially frowned upon, anything like this will be turned into a 'porn is dangerous' kind of story, which is a shame.
Oh man, I really need to try this. I've had a lot of those symptoms before and I'm problematic with porn and have cut it out for periods before in hopes it would go away but 90 days... That's quite a while, but I'm pretty happy it's a target to aim for. Porn is definitely bad for me, my last girlfriend I was absolutely infatuated with. She did modelling before quitting/scaling it back to focus on her honours at Uni, she worked for an environmental section of the government so she was well paid and we shared an enjoyment of outdoor activities (hiking/kayaking/etc. I grew up in a rural area before moving to a city so it was exciting to have someone share this) and I had known her and had a crush on her for ages before dating so when we first hooked up it was awesome for me, I pretty much thought she was perfect.
Despite all this I still habitually masturbated throughout our relationship and a lot of those symptoms ring a bell, I mean at first lasting ages in bed was awesome. I was happy because she was coming multiple times and we had plenty of time to fool around and try stuff, but after like a month of that... there were occasions when we could have snuck a quickie in and we both kinda just stopped and kinda let it pass when we thought about how long it'd take either to get an erection or for me to come, she became self conscious about whether or not I was even attracted to her as our bed adventures became pretty one sided and obviously having very long hours of sex several days in a row while studying and balancing her jobs just doesn't really work.
After a while it kinda normalized quite a bit, but the relationship didn't last and it's been about a year since then and a lot of confidence has been lost. There have been plenty of occasions where I could've picked up but I decided not to because I was worried about performance issues and whatnot, that's why I'm kinda excited at the idea of this 'reset' after a long period without porn.
Well actually I'm gonna have to reread the article because while typing this and reminiscing I have forgotten whether it was 90 days with no porn or 90 days with no masturbation. I could last without the porn, it'd be annoying breaking the habit but I just really wanna shake this... 90 days without masturbation, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't last haha maybe 30 days, possibly 60 if it gets easier once I get used to it but 1/4 of a year @_@
Anyway long, rambling story but I felt like sharing because it's not something I really think about, just something I do but when I do stop to think about it, it's really disappointing so sharing this article is really appreciated GAF
Despite all this I still habitually masturbated throughout our relationship and a lot of those symptoms ring a bell, I mean at first lasting ages in bed was awesome. I was happy because she was coming multiple times and we had plenty of time to fool around and try stuff, but after like a month of that... there were occasions when we could have snuck a quickie in and we both kinda just stopped and kinda let it pass when we thought about how long it'd take either to get an erection or for me to come, she became self conscious about whether or not I was even attracted to her as our bed adventures became pretty one sided and obviously having very long hours of sex several days in a row while studying and balancing her jobs just doesn't really work.
After a while it kinda normalized quite a bit, but the relationship didn't last and it's been about a year since then and a lot of confidence has been lost. There have been plenty of occasions where I could've picked up but I decided not to because I was worried about performance issues and whatnot, that's why I'm kinda excited at the idea of this 'reset' after a long period without porn.
Well actually I'm gonna have to reread the article because while typing this and reminiscing I have forgotten whether it was 90 days with no porn or 90 days with no masturbation. I could last without the porn, it'd be annoying breaking the habit but I just really wanna shake this... 90 days without masturbation, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't last haha maybe 30 days, possibly 60 if it gets easier once I get used to it but 1/4 of a year @_@
Anyway long, rambling story but I felt like sharing because it's not something I really think about, just something I do but when I do stop to think about it, it's really disappointing so sharing this article is really appreciated GAF
That can be achieved by normal, non-porn, "vice-grip" masturbation. Just masturbate normally up until just before the point of no return (get as close as you can) and stop until safe to resume, then do. Repeat a few times, then come. A couple of weeks of that and your last-ability will be much increased, with or without thinking about mathematical problems during.Staccat0 said:
Karak
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I don't even want to look at how much I have, then again I feel that way about games, and movies, and music too. Far more than a terabyte, but usually there is 1-2 scenes in a movie file I like so much of that is wasted. Recently began either dumping some or cutting videos out. But they are usually one particular actress and a body of work, or amateur stuff. Strangely it does nothing to my sex drive with my wife.
I watch it, we have sex.
I don't we have sex.
Time to explosion doesn't change much.
Sometimes I see something I want to try and ask, she is very open to 99.0% of things so that works. And other times I try new stuff with her to see if she likes to change it up a a bit. Other times its straight up normal sex and that's awesome too.
As for if porn could lead to disjunction. Of course. But many things can. For some reason we always want to find 1 cause for everything. There are thousands of things that happen in our lives from day to day that compound. Porn might be 1 of 10 things to either turn you on that day, or make it hard that day. It could also be unrelated.
More fapping and study is probably needed
I watch it, we have sex.
I don't we have sex.
Time to explosion doesn't change much.
Sometimes I see something I want to try and ask, she is very open to 99.0% of things so that works. And other times I try new stuff with her to see if she likes to change it up a a bit. Other times its straight up normal sex and that's awesome too.
As for if porn could lead to disjunction. Of course. But many things can. For some reason we always want to find 1 cause for everything. There are thousands of things that happen in our lives from day to day that compound. Porn might be 1 of 10 things to either turn you on that day, or make it hard that day. It could also be unrelated.
More fapping and study is probably needed
you guys might enjoy www.reddit.com/r/nofap
This pretty much feels like it's exactly describing me, so I'm gonna try this for sure. I've gone a few weeks without masturbating before, but I watched porn during the meantime because, hey, that's fun. But now I'm definitely doing the no whacking off, no porn method for the foreseeable future.
zmoney said:
I knew a girl in college who was a nice, quiet girl who smiled and was friendly and amiable.
She flat out told me she likes rough, violent sex. Like, hair pulling and being hit and stuff I can't say due to google rules.
I was actually a little scared. It was COMPLETELY unexpected a revelation.
Point is, you seriously cannot know what some women will like in the bedroom.
Karak
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Correct.jaxword said:
Even the large group of friends I have that are women, once we talk over time and maybe they start telling me a bit more. I am shocked at what a great deal like and sometimes what they would APPEAR to like on the outside. Its not always shy likes rough, and such. But still some amazing discoveries.
Far far less daddy issues than the world would have you believe but a shit load of roughhouses out there
Psychotext
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Oddly enough, my missus will often masturbate when she can't sleep. I've never felt the need. If I'm struggling to sleep I'll read for half an hour to calm my brain down a bit and then I'll usually have no problems.May16 said:
Marleyman said:
Well, eh, I'd have to say there's very little porn that turns me on.
Most of it is just nasty, raunchy, hardcore, primal stuff that doesn't interest me.
Having an emotional connection with someone I know and making love turns me on, not seeing how many guys can unload on a girl's face.
I stumbled upon porn like 4 months ago by accident. Still didn't interest me and I started doing something else lol. It's been years since I've actively watched porn. I liked some of it (it was very softcore stuff) when I was a horny teenager but now as someone in my 20s, 99% of what people consider porn just annoys me.
Soule said:Oh man, I really need to try this. I've had a lot of those symptoms before and I'm problematic with porn and have cut it out for periods before in hopes it would go away but 90 days... That's quite a while, but I'm pretty happy it's a target to aim for. Porn is definitely bad for me, my last girlfriend I was absolutely infatuated with. She did modelling before quitting/scaling it back to focus on her honours at Uni, she worked for an environmental section of the government so she was well paid and we shared an enjoyment of outdoor activities (hiking/kayaking/etc. I grew up in a rural area before moving to a city so it was exciting to have someone share this) and I had known her and had a crush on her for ages before dating so when we first hooked up it was awesome for me, I pretty much thought she was perfect.
Despite all this I still habitually masturbated throughout our relationship and a lot of those symptoms ring a bell, I mean at first lasting ages in bed was awesome. I was happy because she was coming multiple times and we had plenty of time to fool around and try stuff, but after like a month of that... there were occasions when we could have snuck a quickie in and we both kinda just stopped and kinda let it pass when we thought about how long it'd take either to get an erection or for me to come, she became self conscious about whether or not I was even attracted to her as our bed adventures became pretty one sided and obviously having very long hours of sex several days in a row while studying and balancing her jobs just doesn't really work.
After a while it kinda normalized quite a bit, but the relationship didn't last and it's been about a year since then and a lot of confidence has been lost. There have been plenty of occasions where I could've picked up but I decided not to because I was worried about performance issues and whatnot, that's why I'm kinda excited at the idea of this 'reset' after a long period without porn.
Well actually I'm gonna have to reread the article because while typing this and reminiscing I have forgotten whether it was 90 days with no porn or 90 days with no masturbation. I could last without the porn, it'd be annoying breaking the habit but I just really wanna shake this... 90 days without masturbation, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't last haha maybe 30 days, possibly 60 if it gets easier once I get used to it but 1/4 of a year @_@
Anyway long, rambling story but I felt like sharing because it's not something I really think about, just something I do but when I do stop to think about it, it's really disappointing so sharing this article is really appreciated GAF
I have the issue of delayed ejaculation, too. I think my problem is mostly me not being in relationships at all growing up (I was very much a shut-in for a long period), so I stuck to just masturbation and too much porn and daydreaming. I have a crazy sexual drive. My first sexual relationship with a girl kind of made me very self conscious over it due to her bitchy attitude/low self-esteem and then her realizing it takes me quite a while made her think I hate her, although when I focused myself to just be in the moment and not worry about it, I could get over it quite quickly. However, I've started seeing someone recently a couple hours from me and it kind of hit me again, although she is quite cool about it. I don't want it to be like that forever so I did stop watching porn and I am fine without self-pleasing myself for long periods of time, if it helps the situation. I also am starting meditation since that helps with just being in the moment in situations like that. I think, for me, a lot of it is anxiety and thinking too much about hoping to release. Also, not being able to see her every day kind of gives me more anxiety, too.
Anyhow, good luck in your situation! It actually feels better to know others experience such problems.
ItAintEasyBeinCheesy
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May16 said:No joke, this is in my home town:
Best thing ever was when the KFC had "Breast Meal: $4.99" on their sign. I made it a point to return with a camera and took a picture (I don't have the picture. It's in storage somewhere -- it was a "real" photo before digital cameras ;_
KFC and porn mmmmmmmmmmm lubricate while you eat then jack your shit Original Recipe style.
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