I watched a Laci Green video that said just that. Guys should constantly ask for consent during sex.
https://youtu.be/TD2EooMhqRI?t=1m20s
That's a blatant misrepresentation of this video.
She gives examples of ways to check consent, ranging from simple "Do you like that?" or "You look uncomfortable, are you okay?" etc. Paying attention to the body language of your partner and making sure everyone feels comfortable.
And then matching responses that indicate consent or limits: "Keep going" "that feels so good" "I'm comfortable with this but not that"
She also gives examples of manipulative ways to coerce consent out of a partner, in contrast.
She directly addresses the situation of where a partner may not feel comfortable withdrawing consent and gives a few different ways to address that or ask that.
You're not always literally sitting down across from each other and asking if they would like to have or continue having intercourse. "Consent is sexy" isn't just a positive play on a phrase. A partner telling you, enthusiastically, that you want to fuck, that you like what they're doing, that you want to do more, etc.
I've never had a partner say "you're talking to me too much, I am no longer in the mood to fuck".
If in doubt, ask. It's not difficult.
Because they didn't watch the video that was linked, they just assumed she said or implied something that wasn't there.
There is zero way you can take it that way if you watched the video. If you did, and that was your take away...maybe we should talk.
More concise version of what I was trying to say.
I didn't but there are multiple people in this thread making the argument that you need to "maintain consent" I almost responded to one a few pages back but left it alone until I saw another person make the same argument.
Maintaining consent, to me, just means pay attention to your partner and how comfortable they seem with what is happening or what's about to happen. Sex can escalate in any number of ways (I mean, in terms of what you and your partner want to do with/to each other), so it's always good to ask or check in. Of course, if your partner looks *visibly* upset or uncomfortable, you should check in.
This isn't 100% relevant to the OT, but one of the first times my partner and I hooked up, I wanted to go down on her. So, mid-hookup, I asked her if I could go down on her. She shook her head no--so I didn't and we just continued what we were doing before. As we got closer to each other, I asked her about it, we talked through why she didn't want me to, and we eventually worked through it. It didn't affect our desire for each other at all.