When I finally get a job I need to stay at home to help with billsI think this analysis also misses the extent to which the parents are living in the kids home as much as the kids are living in the parents home. All the problems besetting young people - increased rents, stagnant wages, poor economy - hit the adults at least partially. The upper middle class kids going back home after college are probably moochers to a significant extent, but I know more than one millennial working service jobs that contribute as much income to the household as their parents. My boyfriend's mom is moving in with us in a few weeks because the alternative is to stay in a trailer park.
The economics of the situation is that the optimal household size is somewhere from 3-6 people. People doing well economically can pay if they'd rather live alone before starting a new a family, but the rest of us are going to have to make do. You can do roommates, but on the whole, a family member that you've known for years is going to be much more reliable, less of a security risk, and at least for some of us more pleasant to be around.
Well, I read the entire article.
Outside of the opening paragraphs, it's actually really benign. All it actually says is:
- Learn that buying things isn't a solution to your problems
- Get a job when you're a teenager
- Do volunteer work for old people
- Travel so you see how other people live
- Read books
If it weren't for the rather unfortunate part quoted in the OP, it would be like the most generic parenting advice article ever, and it's advice that hasn't changed for many decades.
There's nothing to get angry about here.
I don't know anything about this guy other than I'm supposed to hate him because GAF tells me to. I read the article strictly without any of this knowledge, and it wasn't all that exciting to me. It's really the kind of stuff I would make my kids do if I had any, like get a job in high school (preferably a shitty one like at McDonalds) so they know what shitty jobs are like. And read books.
Houston, shouldn't matter though. $60k+ more than enough for a single person to move out of their parent's house if they want to. And that is who the article in the OP is talking about.Where in Texas? Because 60k isn't a lot in DFW.
What's wrong with living with roommates... I'd assume that would be preferred to living with parents
especially by the parents
No excuse for adult youth to not be on their own in one way or another. just maybe not in the level of comfort to which they had become accustomed.
In past generations marriage was considered a true sign of maturity and even that has shifted due to social mores changing.Disregarding economy is straight up laughable. They really are out of touch.
It does strike me that the culture of America has little in place for coming of age". People don't seem to become adults, they simply graduate and do the same thing they were doing before.
What is maturity? When is someone actually an adult? There's drinking ages, and legal statuses as adults, but its not exactly a grand launching point for the rest of your life.
I remember having a bit of a crisis post-high school of not knowing if I was an adult or not. And when you look at cultures actually having coming of age ceremonies and having cultural weight over adulthood, I realize America has done a poor job of instilling what it means to be an adult in people.
Doesn't help that supposedly mature people do some childish stuff. Adulthood doesn't really mean anything to me. I'm more concerned with people's intelligence and wisdom. Maturity doesn't seem to mean anything.
Live like a prince or peasant, tough decision.
Well, I read the entire article.
Outside of the opening paragraphs, it's actually really benign. All it actually says is:
- Learn that buying things isn't a solution to your problems
- Get a job when you're a teenager
- Do volunteer work for old people
- Travel so you see how other people live
- Read books
If it weren't for the rather unfortunate part quoted in the OP, it would be like the most generic parenting advice article ever, and it's advice that hasn't changed for many decades.
There's nothing to get angry about here.
I agree with this somewhat.
In my own antecdotal experience at a job ive been at for 5 years watching the churn and turnover of the entry level jobs as they hire 50 people and only 10 are there after 6 months, mostly due to stupid stuff like attendance and behavioral problems.They have actually had a problem with people who are just tourists, get good at the interview process, stay on for the training in a classroom, then stop showing up for the real job when they get bored, then on to the next company. You can't realistically say anything but factual things and its very dangerous to say negative things in a job referral so the next employer is none the wiser, especially if they lie on the resume/application.
My wife works a starbucks and says they regularly will hire 15 people and be lucky if 2-3 of them don't just stop showing up after 2 weeks.
I mean, when you see stuff like that happening over and over at entry level you can't blame the employer, when the training resources are there, and both our jobs are very generous with pay and benefits for their relative skill level required.
There is when you consider the context of the person writing it and what his policies are.