so what are some other 'boring' reasons? Haven't heard of any one actually making decent wages over there, and i heard work is pretty intense.
what are the benefits of having a family there?
Define decent wages. On gaf, most people think making 35k a year is a decent wage. I think it's paltry. However, there are places in Japan where that's plenty of money to get by. Actually, probably 90% of Japan is like that, with only the major metropolis type cities requiring a higher cost of living. Most of the English teacher in Asia crowd here on gaf probably made about that much and I'm sure they have plenty of stories of how it was plenty. Let's say when I first went there, I made more than that, and as the many years have gone by, I make quite a lot, especially since I got temporarily transferred back here to the east coast. It depends on the field and experience, of course.
As for work, in what country does a good life not require hard work? We just had a thread where Europeans went to town on Americans for only having 10 vacation days a year, but I don't think anyone would even categorize America as an easy working country. Japan does put a lot of emphasis on work, but as always, the situation depends and there's also a sense of community and camaraderie promoted in the workplace that I think a lot of Western cultures lack (I've lived in the states and central Europe for reference).
In terms of family, I've spent the majority of my marriage/parenthood there, but having been back in the states for the last year, the difference is really night and day. The attention and care put into having a child, for instance, is so much different than here. The amount of time the mother stays in the hospital, the amount of guidance and follow-ups she receives from the doctors/city, the relative fees for all of this, the monthly stipend from the government, the free health care, the excellent nursery/pre-school system, the excellent school systems (in general, and depending on location as anywhere else). Those stand out to me, personally. They might not be big points for others, and there are of course other countries that offer very similar benefits, but my point of comparison would be America right now. There are more reasons that I can get into if you're more interested. I admit when the earthquake hit us it wasn't the best of times economically, but I can get behind Abenomics for the time being.