Feels weird typing this here since I usually don't need this sort of advice (also, I hate to interrupt the Kendrick debate, because it's good stuff), but I trust you brehs and I could use some other perspectives.
So me and this friend been going out together for a while. Nothing major at first - going to see movies, going out to eat, yadda yadda. But lately, things have been escalating, to the point we ended up making out in my room yesterday.
Now, it should be known I don't want a relationship and neither does she (like not at all; not with each other and not with other people). But I guess she's concerned because we're clearly heading toward sex and she doesn't want it ruining the friendship because it's happened to her before this year. Cool. I get that. This past year hasn't been great for me and friends either, so I've had that in mind the entire time.
But I suppose the concern (or curiosity, rather) on my part is just how much could shit change? I mean, it would be my first time - so big step there - but it's like...I'm not really pressed over it. I'm not the stereotypical virgin who's trying to get in them drawers at any cost. Cause it's like, if it happens, cool. And if not, nothing in my life has changed so whatever. Overall, I know what shit is; we've both been clear about where we stand. But she still feels the need to text me saying she's not in love with me (to which I texted back "well duh"...okay it was more eloquent and long winded than that, but it basically boiled down to "well duh").
But even as confident as I am in that, I know this is uncharted territory for me and I know sex can change things. So I don't know. At this point, it's pretty much going to happen unless one of us truly says "nah." So I guess the outcomes are either she's right that I'm overestimating my level of fucks not given and that thang gon have me Tommen Baratheon-tier sprung (shout outs to GoT), or I'm right and she turning a molehill into a mountain. Have y'all ever had this sort of situation with a friend before? Maybe have some stories you could share, or just some sage wisdom (or aint shit commentary)?
(This ended up longer than I intended lol)