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[Winter John]

The problem here is she's a Wisconsin 8 (NY, Cali 4). If she had chosen to be a man and said, "Wife? Kids? Fuck that noise. I got wasted last night and banged some hoor over a trash can," all these fuckin mids wouldn't be so buttraged about it. They'd still be mad, because they always are, but they wouldn't be out there predicting futures and acting like fuckin agony aunts.

I watched her video, shrugged and went back to whatever bullshit I was doing before; Because no man in his right mind would give a fuck what some Wisconsin 8 does with her life. But I understand the mids you see. I have been amongst them. I have learned their secret ways. They look at the fuckin rank seacow they married with her tits flopping all over their couch. They see that fuckin symbol of total failure. Of everything that's gone wrong. That dead weight of missed exercise classes, broken mobility scooters, ever mounting food bills, and then they look at this Wisconsin 8, this unattainable beauty telling them their life goals are meaningless bullshit. It's going to sting. It's a hard pill to swallow.

 

[a multicultural team of v]

the hype around making Shakshouka alone is massive, and growing



same "if i say it enough times i will start to believe it" willing something into existence energy.

 

[Interfectum]

Being a father to three boys has certainly enriched my life. While I might have less leisure time for activities like going out for drinks or playing video games, I haven't given them up entirely. However, after becoming a parent, pursuits such as trying out a new recipe or binge-watching shows on Netflix seem... less fulfilling? I believe many fear that parenthood will rob them of their free time or sense of self. Yet, they often overlook the profound depth it adds to life. Parenthood comes with its peaks and valleys; the emotions are just more intense. There might be moments of sheer exhaustion, but they are balanced by moments of pure joy. I cherish my role as a dad. However, I also recognize that it's not a path everyone wishes to take. If someone chooses a life filled with drinks and binge-watching shows on Hulu, that's perfectly fine too... Good luck with that!

 

[poppabk]

lol ok. If you are by yourself you are not allowed to cook you are required to waste money on prepared food every time.

I lived apart from my wife and kids in an apartment for 5 days a week for a couple of years for work. I would cook for myself but honestly it does feel kinda depressing making a fancy meal with lots of prep and then sitting down to eat it by yourself - takes a lot of effort just to remain invested in cooking as a hobby.
I honestly don't care what this woman does, and don't think there is anything wrong with the way she lives but the video seems a weird flex as she isn't doing anything that sounds out of the ordinary (except for the name of the dish) for someone with kids and a partner.
"Hey you know all that stuff normal people do - well I get to do it alone!"

 

[Aesius]

Fertility doesn't drop that much. One of my best friends had her first child at 32.

More and more women are having children after 30. Dating with an eye towards marriage isn't impossible nor rare for women in their 30s or even 40s. It's not even rare for them to have kids in their late 30s.

It's less about fertility in your early 30s and more thinking about the timeline required to be in a position to get pregnant and have kids if the woman is single.

A proudly single woman who doesn't want kids at 29 is extremely unlikely to have a kid 32, because that requires her:

1. Deciding she wants to have a boyfriend/husband and children
2. Finding a boyfriend (which may involve a few failed short-term relationships before she finds someone she's compatible with)
3. Dating him long enough for him to propose (assuming she wants to be married when she has a child)
4. Going through the engagement process
5. Getting married
6. Trying to conceive (which can take up to a year even in young fertile women) and carrying the baby to term (

As I said, it becomes a time crunch. Especially if she wants more than one child. Not saying it's guaranteed she won't be able to have kids, because it's true that women can get pregnant at 35 and beyond (although 40 is a hard drop-off in fertility), but it does make the entire process more harried and almost desperate than it could/should be.

 

[Rentahamster]

A proudly single woman who doesn't want kids at 29 is extremely unlikely to have a kid 32, because that requires her:

1. Deciding she wants to have a boyfriend/husband and children
2. Finding a boyfriend (which may involve a few failed short-term relationships before she finds someone she's compatible with)
3. Dating him long enough for him to propose (assuming she wants to be married when she has a child)
4. Going through the engagement process
5. Getting married
6. Trying to conceive (which can take up to a year even in young fertile women) and carrying the baby to term (

As I said, it becomes a time crunch. Especially if she wants more than one child.

Your timeline doesn't "require" any of these steps aside from number 6.

it does make the entire process more harried and almost desperate than it could/should be.

Your characterization of the process is exaggerated.

 

[HoodWinked]

the hype around making Shakshouka alone is massive, and growing



same "if i say it enough times i will start to believe it" willing something into existence energy.

yes.

 

[Woggleman]

At the end of the day it is better to realize that parenthood is not for you and decide not to have kids than it is to have kids and be a terrible parent. Doing the former hurts nobody while the latter creates a ripple affect of dysfunction. As long as she isn't one of those tik tok feminists who think all men are scum who are plotting to harm women then she is okay with me. Even if she it is better a woman like that doesn't reproduce.

 

[-Minsc-]

My wife is 42 and we are trying for our first child. Time will tell how long it takes.

 

[Rentahamster]

My wife is 42 and we are trying for our first child. Time will tell how long it takes.

Good luck!

 

[Boozeroony]

My wife is 42 and we are trying for our first child. Time will tell how long it takes.

Go for the eggs, Boo!

 

[ReBurn]

She seems nice

 

[Coconutt]

 

[West Texas CEO]

This thread went from dunking on the future cat lady to actual insightful advice real quick!

I don't know what thread you've been reading.

 

[Kakax11]

Well reverse psychology is what she's using here, clearly she got tired of looking for a man on her own

 

[daffyduck]

Your timeline doesn't "require" any of these steps aside from number 6.



Your characterization of the process is exaggerated.

Well you can't be talking about "one night stands" or "friends with benefits".

Artificial insemination would be a possibility *for now*, but rules for that are already getting clarified.

 

[Rentahamster]

Well you can't be talking about "one night stands" or "friends with benefits".

Artificial insemination would be a possibility *for now*, but rules for that are already getting clarified.

I'm not sure what you mean by the first sentence. Can you clarify please?

What do you mean about rules for artificial insemination? Lots of successful pregnancies have been produced by fertility clinics via artificial insemination for decades. The technology is only going to improve from here.

 

[daffyduck]

Re your response to the "timeline steps".

The rights of the parties involved. The tech might be improving, but it may not be as attractive an option.

 

[Rentahamster]

Re your response to the "timeline steps".

Yes, that part is obvious, but why can't I be talking about one night stands or friends with benefits? There are other options besides those, too, BTW. Life is varied and complex.

The rights of the parties involved.

Which relevant parties and which relevant rights?

The tech might be improving, but it may not be as attractive an option.

Doesn't matter. People use it now, and it's only getting better.

 

[daffyduck]

Those aren't viable options for baby making.

All parties, and their obligations to each other.

 

[Rentahamster]

Those aren't viable options for baby making.

Why not?

All parties, and their obligations to each other.

Which relevant parties and which relevant obligations? I asked for clarifications because this isn't a specific statement. This statement means different things to different people.

 

[daffyduck]

Why not? You can’t be serious.

It shouldn’t mean ”different things to different people”. The sperm donor, the mother, and the child. Guys could donate with no strings attached. That’s changing.

 

[NotMyProblemAnymoreCunt]

Not getting married and having no kids is the best decision I ever made in my life

 

[jason10mm]

Son of a bitch, guess what I'm doing tonight...

 

[Days like these...]

I'm making that too, ever since my divorce and considering I'm a barren female. I need to pass the time some how

 

[Deleted member 1159]

Son of a bitch, guess what I'm doing tonight...

Fuck pizza night DM your address

 

[WoJ]

I just stumbled across the original video yesterday. I don't have a problem with people who choose to stay childless. Kids aren't for everyone. And not everyone is meant to be a parent. This woman has a certain smugness about her in that she is simultaneously trying to demean people who are married and have families and also convince herself she's okay because she doesn't. And that's the real problem.

There are going to be a lot of 40 plus year old unmarried cat lady Aunt's who aren't terribly happy with their lives in about 10 years.

 

[DeafTourette]

I hope y'all know that all those women y'all purport will single in their 40s also means a lot of men will be single too ..

But it's ok when men are 40 and single.

 

[Days like these...]

I hope y'all know that all those women y'all purport will single in their 40s also means a lot of men will be single too ..

But it's ok when men are 40 and single.

If some sad cringey bro made a video trying to convince us how "amazing" his life is don't worry he wouldn't get a pass either. You don't need to white knight this she/her. She put herself out there.

 

[WoJ]

I hope y'all know that all those women y'all purport will single in their 40s also means a lot of men will be single too ..

But it's ok when men are 40 and single.

Yeah there will. It is already trending in that direction. But like it or not there will be less single men than single women. Men have more options when they are older. Thats just reality. They are more likely to date a 33 year old woman when they are 45 than a 45 year old woman is to date a younger guy. It is already playing out that way with women in their 20s dating older men and men in their 20s being alone.

I don't really think it's better or worse or "okay" if we see a large number of men versus women (or vice versa) single and alone in mid life. It's just unfortunate we appear to be headed that direction for a large number of people.