Or how I think i'm gonna being stalked by an internet girl. Sorry about the lenght.
A few weeks ago, I was hanging out in a french canadian irc channel, minding my own business, talking about random stuff in the main channel. I've been going and on off on that channel since my early teens, it's kind of a habbit hard to get rid off. I like talking with people and that it's, I'm not there to pick up easy skanks or anything like that. Just general chatting.
There comes this girl. She comes in private chat and start talking about how she thinks I sound like a fun person. I usually ignore private messages, and since I used a rather genderless nickname, I always get lots of privates going like "hay are u a f or m" and shit like that. I answered something about how utterly awesome of a person I was, and yes, she was right. The conversation casually went on, talking about movies and music and so on.
Typical internet chatting.
As usual, late every night, I show up in the same channel, and when she notices me, she comes and chat in private. I never seek her out, as a matter of fact. Over time she asks me If I had some instant messenger, i'm like yes, I do. I never give out such infos since anyways I only have real life friends (tm) in my program, and I kind of dont care or want foreigners in my list. So I give her my infos.
She adds me, and start talking to me by there. Over time, I noticed that she seems.. quite.. lonely, by the way she talks. I don't really ask or make comments about this, since I figured she probably is just another of those bizzaer internet people. With the days, she starts talking about her life, about how she had many problems, and how she.. !!! ACKBAR MOMENT !!! Had a restraining order put against her once.
What?
So she tells me that when she was a teenager, she was desperatly in love with her social worker and started stalking him. It became so bad he got her arrested and she was locked up in some sort of low-security mental institution for a few months.
What?
I go "Wow.. that's pretty fucked up" and starts talking about she isnt going to get any men if she does things like that. She kind of goes overboard and says that she's surprised that I still "want to talk with her" after she told me her secret. Hmmm. Ok guys, don't get me wrong, I never hit on her, I never did anything, I just talked to her and had some regular chitchat and that's it. I always made sure that I never gave her any special hopes, or anything. I'm neutral. Then she goes on and on about her life again, and I tell her that she's been pretty unlucky and how she shouldnt worry, eventually something good will happen, and so on.
I'm still incredibly creeped out that I'm talking to a stalker chick, but for some twisted reasons, I don't delete her, because I want to see wtf is gonna happen, and I also think that it would be a pretty shitty thing to do to someone, I mean she's human after all, and probably really needs to talk, the net is probably her only gateway to the outside world. I don't like making people feel like worthless shits, bizzare creepy girl or not.
Days goes by.
She goes about how it's great to have a male friend who doesn't want to get in her pants, and how it's cool that I understand her (yeah ok, especially since it's going pretty bad with her live-in boyfriend, and how she's not a good looking girl, and since I seem to be a pretty popular guy with lots of friends and girls (I only mentionned over time where I was going out and so on) , it's cool that I give her some time in my day to talk about, even if she was fugly. She goes "I'm so happy that you talk to me like you would talk to one of your cute friends of yours"
I.. kind of go "Uh ok", I tell her that it's alright, she doesnt have to be so hard on herself
The day after she goes "hey Shuri I took pictures of me, Want to see them?" I'm like yeah sure why not. She floods my mailbox (she obviously had that email already prepared, waiting to click on send) with pictures of her.
Hmm yeah. She's obviously not a maxim model, as expected. But it's ok, i'm only casually chatting with her. The first pics where close up of her faces, laying on what seem to be on her bed; smiling. Then the other pictures were her around her appartment; someone else had taken those pics, "my boyfriend, I told him it was something for my classes" she says.
Hmm.
In instant messenger, she starts flooding.. "SHURI ARE YOU STILL THERE?! SHURI I AM TOO UGLY TO BE YOUR FRIEND, IS THAT IT?! SHUri ANSWER *crying emoticon icon* YEAH I KNEW THAT I WAS TOO UGLY FOR YOU"
"Nah I'm there, I was looking at the pics, it's ok, youre not so bad (...), you seem like a nice girl, stop being so hard on yourself" OH GOD THE TERRIBLE MISTAKE. She goes in an hysteric batshit insane mood; "oh wow, I can't believe you just said that, it makes me feel so important"
I'm really weirded out at this point.
I change the subject to this local metal show I had went to a few days prior, and how great the music was, and how we had a blast.
"Oh god, I wish I could have been there with you" .. I go "well, I don't think you'd really fit with the people there, it's not really a place for gentle girls" "Yeah yeah, I bet you spend the night eyeing those goth girls and talking with them".. she continues..
"Without even thinking about the fact that I was here at home, waiting for you to come back"
... ACKBAR ALERT FULL POWER!
Then I go and mention that she shouldnt be waiting like that for me, that she should be taking care of her boyfriend instead of talking to internet people (oh teh irony). She suddenly becomes very sad and so on, and starts complaining about how guys threat her like shit all the time. She starts going over her past relationships and so on, I mention the infamous exgf episode in brief details, and become incredibly pissed off at what happened and how she would kill my exgf for doing that to me. I forget that she also mentionned that she kinda stalked ("but it wasnt really stalking") some of her former boyfriends.
I'm like yeah but forget about the past, think about your boyfriend and about yourself, etc
(haha, she just logged on as I'm typing this post, dun dun dun )
I then notice how her mood changed from that day. She became more and more.. err.. interested? She kept saying obvious innuendos about how SHE WAS IN LOVE WITH ME
I kept going WHAT?! and she always changed the subject.
I knew that something was going on. She was probably in love with me, or rather my internet version of myself. What.. the fuck!
Last night, I was listening to music, and she goes "I have to tell you something that's torturing me, and you will probably not talk to me after that" i'm like, what the hell?
"But i'm afraid that my boyfriend might be monitoring my conversations, let's go on irc, he cant read there" (uh ok, i'm pretty sure he can)
On irc she confesses her love to me, and how pathetic she thinks she is to even have the ambition to like a guy like me (?!). She goes about how she's gonna burst in tears if she ever sees me in the subway system in montreal this summer (she.. keeps mentionning that they are chances that we'll randomly meet) when I go to work..
... Well, I think the chances are pretty rare.. oh WAIT OH MY GOD FUCK NO
It dawned on me. I realised that I did the mistake of saying at with stations I was getting on and off when going to work later this summer, and gave her also the times I was going to work ("well I start at 8h and finish at 5pm"). She keeps mentionning that she cant wait to see me
Great. Fucking Idea Shuri, yeah you are a genius. I'm sitting here right now, and I'm 100% sure that she's going to try to fake "a random meet up" at least once this summer. She knows what I look like, because I had a pic of me in my profile. She kept mentionning how good I looked (wtf, I look like a killer for fucks sake). So she knows how I look like.So I'm pretty damn sure that she's going to show up at my departure and ending stations this summer, at least once. Or even worst, follow me home or some shit.
She did shit like that to at least 3 other guys in her life, and now seems to be incredibly "in love" with me. And If I cut contacts with her, she is going to do it anyways. She told me that she would send letters and emails to people she stalked MONTHS AFTER THEY CUT CONTACT WITH HER
Anyway, this is just creepy, and also very funny at the same time, because I never thought it would happen TO ME. I kind of don't know how i'm gonna deal with this, i'm probably going to act like a jackass progressively more and more on the chatroom so that she leaves me alone. I know that saying shit like how i had just met some new girl wouldnt work with her. She seems just that crazy.
It's so creepy yet sad, I really feel pity for her; man there's some people out there that are lonely and just need to talk to other AT ANY COST
I'm more emertic than Tupperware about my infos and whereabouts from now on! Damn you crazy internet people!
tldr for the lazy people: Girl talks to shuri, girl happens to be of the stalkerish-type, girl confesses love to shuri after like 3 weeks of casual chat. Shuri never ever hit on her, or said anything that might her think so. Girl wants to her shuri at all cost and will probably hunt him down in the Montreal subway system after work this summer. Shuri cries for own safety
A few weeks ago, I was hanging out in a french canadian irc channel, minding my own business, talking about random stuff in the main channel. I've been going and on off on that channel since my early teens, it's kind of a habbit hard to get rid off. I like talking with people and that it's, I'm not there to pick up easy skanks or anything like that. Just general chatting.
There comes this girl. She comes in private chat and start talking about how she thinks I sound like a fun person. I usually ignore private messages, and since I used a rather genderless nickname, I always get lots of privates going like "hay are u a f or m" and shit like that. I answered something about how utterly awesome of a person I was, and yes, she was right. The conversation casually went on, talking about movies and music and so on.
Typical internet chatting.
As usual, late every night, I show up in the same channel, and when she notices me, she comes and chat in private. I never seek her out, as a matter of fact. Over time she asks me If I had some instant messenger, i'm like yes, I do. I never give out such infos since anyways I only have real life friends (tm) in my program, and I kind of dont care or want foreigners in my list. So I give her my infos.
She adds me, and start talking to me by there. Over time, I noticed that she seems.. quite.. lonely, by the way she talks. I don't really ask or make comments about this, since I figured she probably is just another of those bizzaer internet people. With the days, she starts talking about her life, about how she had many problems, and how she.. !!! ACKBAR MOMENT !!! Had a restraining order put against her once.
What?
So she tells me that when she was a teenager, she was desperatly in love with her social worker and started stalking him. It became so bad he got her arrested and she was locked up in some sort of low-security mental institution for a few months.
What?
I go "Wow.. that's pretty fucked up" and starts talking about she isnt going to get any men if she does things like that. She kind of goes overboard and says that she's surprised that I still "want to talk with her" after she told me her secret. Hmmm. Ok guys, don't get me wrong, I never hit on her, I never did anything, I just talked to her and had some regular chitchat and that's it. I always made sure that I never gave her any special hopes, or anything. I'm neutral. Then she goes on and on about her life again, and I tell her that she's been pretty unlucky and how she shouldnt worry, eventually something good will happen, and so on.
I'm still incredibly creeped out that I'm talking to a stalker chick, but for some twisted reasons, I don't delete her, because I want to see wtf is gonna happen, and I also think that it would be a pretty shitty thing to do to someone, I mean she's human after all, and probably really needs to talk, the net is probably her only gateway to the outside world. I don't like making people feel like worthless shits, bizzare creepy girl or not.
Days goes by.
She goes about how it's great to have a male friend who doesn't want to get in her pants, and how it's cool that I understand her (yeah ok, especially since it's going pretty bad with her live-in boyfriend, and how she's not a good looking girl, and since I seem to be a pretty popular guy with lots of friends and girls (I only mentionned over time where I was going out and so on) , it's cool that I give her some time in my day to talk about, even if she was fugly. She goes "I'm so happy that you talk to me like you would talk to one of your cute friends of yours"
I.. kind of go "Uh ok", I tell her that it's alright, she doesnt have to be so hard on herself
The day after she goes "hey Shuri I took pictures of me, Want to see them?" I'm like yeah sure why not. She floods my mailbox (she obviously had that email already prepared, waiting to click on send) with pictures of her.
Hmm yeah. She's obviously not a maxim model, as expected. But it's ok, i'm only casually chatting with her. The first pics where close up of her faces, laying on what seem to be on her bed; smiling. Then the other pictures were her around her appartment; someone else had taken those pics, "my boyfriend, I told him it was something for my classes" she says.
Hmm.
In instant messenger, she starts flooding.. "SHURI ARE YOU STILL THERE?! SHURI I AM TOO UGLY TO BE YOUR FRIEND, IS THAT IT?! SHUri ANSWER *crying emoticon icon* YEAH I KNEW THAT I WAS TOO UGLY FOR YOU"
"Nah I'm there, I was looking at the pics, it's ok, youre not so bad (...), you seem like a nice girl, stop being so hard on yourself" OH GOD THE TERRIBLE MISTAKE. She goes in an hysteric batshit insane mood; "oh wow, I can't believe you just said that, it makes me feel so important"
I'm really weirded out at this point.
I change the subject to this local metal show I had went to a few days prior, and how great the music was, and how we had a blast.
"Oh god, I wish I could have been there with you" .. I go "well, I don't think you'd really fit with the people there, it's not really a place for gentle girls" "Yeah yeah, I bet you spend the night eyeing those goth girls and talking with them".. she continues..
"Without even thinking about the fact that I was here at home, waiting for you to come back"
... ACKBAR ALERT FULL POWER!
Then I go and mention that she shouldnt be waiting like that for me, that she should be taking care of her boyfriend instead of talking to internet people (oh teh irony). She suddenly becomes very sad and so on, and starts complaining about how guys threat her like shit all the time. She starts going over her past relationships and so on, I mention the infamous exgf episode in brief details, and become incredibly pissed off at what happened and how she would kill my exgf for doing that to me. I forget that she also mentionned that she kinda stalked ("but it wasnt really stalking") some of her former boyfriends.
I'm like yeah but forget about the past, think about your boyfriend and about yourself, etc
(haha, she just logged on as I'm typing this post, dun dun dun )
I then notice how her mood changed from that day. She became more and more.. err.. interested? She kept saying obvious innuendos about how SHE WAS IN LOVE WITH ME
I kept going WHAT?! and she always changed the subject.
I knew that something was going on. She was probably in love with me, or rather my internet version of myself. What.. the fuck!
Last night, I was listening to music, and she goes "I have to tell you something that's torturing me, and you will probably not talk to me after that" i'm like, what the hell?
"But i'm afraid that my boyfriend might be monitoring my conversations, let's go on irc, he cant read there" (uh ok, i'm pretty sure he can)
On irc she confesses her love to me, and how pathetic she thinks she is to even have the ambition to like a guy like me (?!). She goes about how she's gonna burst in tears if she ever sees me in the subway system in montreal this summer (she.. keeps mentionning that they are chances that we'll randomly meet) when I go to work..
... Well, I think the chances are pretty rare.. oh WAIT OH MY GOD FUCK NO
It dawned on me. I realised that I did the mistake of saying at with stations I was getting on and off when going to work later this summer, and gave her also the times I was going to work ("well I start at 8h and finish at 5pm"). She keeps mentionning that she cant wait to see me
Great. Fucking Idea Shuri, yeah you are a genius. I'm sitting here right now, and I'm 100% sure that she's going to try to fake "a random meet up" at least once this summer. She knows what I look like, because I had a pic of me in my profile. She kept mentionning how good I looked (wtf, I look like a killer for fucks sake). So she knows how I look like.So I'm pretty damn sure that she's going to show up at my departure and ending stations this summer, at least once. Or even worst, follow me home or some shit.
She did shit like that to at least 3 other guys in her life, and now seems to be incredibly "in love" with me. And If I cut contacts with her, she is going to do it anyways. She told me that she would send letters and emails to people she stalked MONTHS AFTER THEY CUT CONTACT WITH HER
Anyway, this is just creepy, and also very funny at the same time, because I never thought it would happen TO ME. I kind of don't know how i'm gonna deal with this, i'm probably going to act like a jackass progressively more and more on the chatroom so that she leaves me alone. I know that saying shit like how i had just met some new girl wouldnt work with her. She seems just that crazy.
It's so creepy yet sad, I really feel pity for her; man there's some people out there that are lonely and just need to talk to other AT ANY COST
I'm more emertic than Tupperware about my infos and whereabouts from now on! Damn you crazy internet people!
tldr for the lazy people: Girl talks to shuri, girl happens to be of the stalkerish-type, girl confesses love to shuri after like 3 weeks of casual chat. Shuri never ever hit on her, or said anything that might her think so. Girl wants to her shuri at all cost and will probably hunt him down in the Montreal subway system after work this summer. Shuri cries for own safety
