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Tokyo. ???-year old highschool-looking Japanese girl. Drunk, desperately horny. WWYD?
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She wouldn't even tell me her name. You think she's going to tell me her age? I also kind of didn't want to know after a while since she'd already had her tongue down my throat.
Jack The Nipper
Banned
2 or 3 girls a week
Been 3 a day a couple times
But I actually want a relationship where I actually can really care about a girl and get along well and take care of one another.
Sex can get a bit boring and start looking for.something more i think.
I don't think the age difference matters if she's 18 or older. You didn't seek her out, she wanted to be with you.
I don't think it's morally right to have sex with someone who's extremely drunk, especially if there's a difference in mental state and one person is more sober than the other. You dodged a bullet. This is what could've happened:
Tadaima just shot themselves in the foot.
I don't know how much the rest of you know about Japanese culture (I'm an expert), but honor and shame are huge parts of it. It's not like it is in America where you can become successful by being an asshole. If you screw someone drunk in Japan, you bring shame to yourself, and the only way to get rid of that shame is repentance.
What this means is the japanese public, after hearing about this, is not going to want to spend time with Tadaima in either bars or love hotels, nor will they purchase any of Tadaima's drinks. This is HUGE. You can laugh all you want, but Tadaima has alienated an entire market of women with this move.
Tadaima, publicly apologize and cancel your friend request or you can kiss your dating goodbye.
I don't think it's morally right to have sex with someone who's extremely drunk, especially if there's a difference in mental state and one person is more sober than the other. You dodged a bullet. This is what could've happened:
Tadaima just shot themselves in the foot.
I don't know how much the rest of you know about Japanese culture (I'm an expert), but honor and shame are huge parts of it. It's not like it is in America where you can become successful by being an asshole. If you screw someone drunk in Japan, you bring shame to yourself, and the only way to get rid of that shame is repentance.
What this means is the japanese public, after hearing about this, is not going to want to spend time with Tadaima in either bars or love hotels, nor will they purchase any of Tadaima's drinks. This is HUGE. You can laugh all you want, but Tadaima has alienated an entire market of women with this move.
Tadaima, publicly apologize and cancel your friend request or you can kiss your dating goodbye.
Reverend Funk
Comfy Penetration
Haha check you out, studly.
Jack The Nipper
Banned
I guess that is a bit much, not sure if I shouod be ashamed or not
I wish we would have arrived to the bar before she was at that stage and had a chance to warm to each other, flirt, etc. But perhaps she wouldn't have been so forward about her desires had she not been totally wasted, and nothing would have happened since I was with my coworker and wouldn't have initiated anything.
You did good OP.
If it happened that crazily, for all you know it could've been a setup. Also, the whole don't go with the crazies thing.
80s Bad Guy
Banned
We're good for a party, not to bring home to mom and dad though...
The major part is hey. This is life with Lisa ling.
PumpkinSpice
Banned
I haven't read you whole post, but it seems like she was more than drunk enough to be unable to consent.
Yeah, i paid more than that for one glass of Guinness last time i was out. Even if that's watered-down to hell, it's strange. Japan's much more expensive usually.
Strange women abroad are less likely to be trustworthy than strange women domestically. She could just be out for casual sex, but more than likely she's a benign gold-digger at best, or something yet shadier. Between Enjo Kosai and a tendency to think white foreigners are all rich, signs aren't good.
Not an uncommon conceit in the US either. I can get drunk for free if I show up in my underwear on special days at certain gay bars where I live (Las Vegas), for example.
It almost makes me wonder how the 24/7 all you can drink concept would do around here...
SapientWolf
Trucker Sexologist
Going by all the threads about Japanese guys losing interest in sex, I imagine they're getting pretty thirsty down there.
Common Knowledge
Member
If I had sex with a girl who seemed as wasted as the OP describes, and I myself was still sober enough to recognize how wasted she was, I'd feel pretty disgusted with myself for a good while.
I think you did the right thing.
I think you did the right thing.
Jack The Nipper
Banned
I never shared my stories with many but you still don't want friends with benefits to find your other friends with benefits.
I had a couple of strange close calls. Actually sort of unbelievable.
One girl was in the kitchen cooking and she had stayed the night. One of my other friends had just came in my home without knocking cause she often came to hang out or watch movies. I had to tell the other girl to hide in the bedroom cause this other girl likes to fight and gets mad easily. So girl two finished the cooking that girl 1 started and snuck out while girl 2 cooked. This seems way beyond crazy to me and how girl 2 didn't find girl 1 since it's just a one bedroom apartment. No where to go.
In the end I never try to ha e a relationship but in the end these girls always end up to wanting a relationship.
It's actually decently hard to have a true relation as friends with sex.
There were a few other times that one girl was in an elevator while the other was leaving.
And another where a friend came in and someone else was here as well. They both stayed super quite but it wasnt really my fault. The second girl showed up unannounced. The first girl just got up and went to the door and said. Theanks for the sex, and sort of laughed while looking at girl 2.
Then girl 2 stayed to watch a movie a movie
Girl 1 and 2 both want to get married. I have ever never even hinted at them to be more than friends and I think they get that... But at the same time they don't.
But serious question, how can I comic to a girl? I honestly feel I just never really liked anyone in a way where I want to spend everyday of my life with just her.
I do hope to marry and have a family, sincerely.
I had a couple of strange close calls. Actually sort of unbelievable.
One girl was in the kitchen cooking and she had stayed the night. One of my other friends had just came in my home without knocking cause she often came to hang out or watch movies. I had to tell the other girl to hide in the bedroom cause this other girl likes to fight and gets mad easily. So girl two finished the cooking that girl 1 started and snuck out while girl 2 cooked. This seems way beyond crazy to me and how girl 2 didn't find girl 1 since it's just a one bedroom apartment. No where to go.
In the end I never try to ha e a relationship but in the end these girls always end up to wanting a relationship.
It's actually decently hard to have a true relation as friends with sex.
There were a few other times that one girl was in an elevator while the other was leaving.
And another where a friend came in and someone else was here as well. They both stayed super quite but it wasnt really my fault. The second girl showed up unannounced. The first girl just got up and went to the door and said. Theanks for the sex, and sort of laughed while looking at girl 2.
Then girl 2 stayed to watch a movie a movie
Girl 1 and 2 both want to get married. I have ever never even hinted at them to be more than friends and I think they get that... But at the same time they don't.
But serious question, how can I comic to a girl? I honestly feel I just never really liked anyone in a way where I want to spend everyday of my life with just her.
I do hope to marry and have a family, sincerely.
I also had my week-old iPad in my bag and about $500 in my wallet, as well as my ID and whatnot. I guess she could have made off with them, but she seemed more like a heartbroken girl wanting affection and embrace than a criminal.
Cheers to those saying I made the right decision. The only regrets I have are not being able to get her to give me her Line/Facebook ID, and not thinking about asking her friends for theirs... although there probably wouldn't have been a good chance for the latter, and it might have made her jealous if she thought I was doing it because I was into them?
She also kept asking me if I thought she was "kimochi warui" which is kind of like asking if I am not interested in her, but in a way that suggests I am maybe repulsed by her (but not exactly). Which I found to be insane since she was so cute.
Cheers to those saying I made the right decision. The only regrets I have are not being able to get her to give me her Line/Facebook ID, and not thinking about asking her friends for theirs... although there probably wouldn't have been a good chance for the latter, and it might have made her jealous if she thought I was doing it because I was into them?
She also kept asking me if I thought she was "kimochi warui" which is kind of like asking if I am not interested in her, but in a way that suggests I am maybe repulsed by her (but not exactly). Which I found to be insane since she was so cute.
Jack The Nipper
Banned
I think so, I don't even go to bars or drink. I have never did sex with a girl that drunk but I disagree with you a little. Some girls want to drink and do sex to make it easier for them. I have had a lot of girls ask me to go with them drinks while at my home but I didn't have.
They say they need to drink or they feel a bit out of place. Those particular girls only did making out or something without drinking but they seem much more outgoing in most other ways.
LUFTRAUSER
Banned
Congratulations on not being a rapist, OP.
Jack The Nipper
Banned
Criminal thing is highly unlikely honestly. Especially in Japan. Theft is more male dominant anyways. Girls just get men to buy them things
Black-Wind
Member
You're really feeling conflicted because you didn't take the chance to fuck some strange OFF HER ASS/ FALLING DOWN drunk girl you met in a bar? Someone who can't consent because they're falling down drunk? Someone who is likely not in their right state of mind?
On top of that you can't even verify how old she was? (not that being a drunk-as-fuck 25 year old would change how you should act or anything)
Fuck dude, if you're that horny go to backpage or watch some porn or something.
And no, I wouldn't toss the ol dick at a drunk stranger who can't consent. You should be happy with what you got outta the encounter (provided she didn't spit some guy's jizz in your mouth. HEY, You're the one going into detail about that part ... and there's no telling wtf she did before you came)
On top of that you can't even verify how old she was? (not that being a drunk-as-fuck 25 year old would change how you should act or anything)
Fuck dude, if you're that horny go to backpage or watch some porn or something.
And no, I wouldn't toss the ol dick at a drunk stranger who can't consent. You should be happy with what you got outta the encounter (provided she didn't spit some guy's jizz in your mouth. HEY, You're the one going into detail about that part ... and there's no telling wtf she did before you came)
tearsintherain
Member
you should have taken her to a love hotel, whipped out your 3DS, and played pokemon ruby with her and showed her all the pokemon's you have collected
It's been a while since I've laughed that hard. Thank you.
Jack The Nipper
Banned
lol damn man, the other man's jiz
To be fair it's hard to grasp the full nature of it in text form.
Ben Morales
Member
Both of these are my fetish. Damn. I think I may have succumbed.
Common Knowledge
Member
I'm talking about them being wasted and likely blacked-out, though. I'm sure alcohol is involved in a lot of sexual encounters, considering the whole bar scene and everything, but you got to be able to know when a person is likely beyond the rational consent stage.
Woah, calm down.
Judging by the tab her friends were shouting out, she was drinking with them, for about an hour before we arrived.
I think no straight man would be physically capable of staying not-horny from that type of encounter.
Common Knowledge
Member
Being horny doesn't mean you got to act on it, though. That's called self-control.
BladeoftheImmortal
Member
I should visit japan again.
LUFTRAUSER
Banned
I hate being around drunk people. And if someone spat in my mouth I'm not sure if I'd punch them in the face or vomit.
Sho_Nuff82
Member
Was this your first time ever making out in a bar? This story sounds painfully native for a guy in his mid twenties.
I think you blew a chance at a perfectly legal good time. If you wanted her to sober up, all you had to do was leave the bar and take her to get food before whatever y'all did after.
I think you blew a chance at a perfectly legal good time. If you wanted her to sober up, all you had to do was leave the bar and take her to get food before whatever y'all did after.
Common Knowledge
Member
Unfortunately I don't really think that's common knowledge for some people, though.
Should be.
Jack The Nipper
Banned
Yeah man, I feel you.
Everyone has to be a bit careful. Most of my friends are nice simple people but..
A girl that was once seeing me ended up being married. People will still lie to you. I'm not looking for any crazy men showing up at my home.
A girl at a bakery near my home was really In to me and always brouht me snacks. she had been married for like 8 years. Only found out cause he ended up being the shop owner and he was there once. She told me after that. A lot of these girls are worse than men and will lie. They want sex too but I would much rather someone be straight with me.
super-famicom
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