Yes. Generally if they have a preference it's best to just go with that.
Ah, cool. I think I have a solid grasp about the whole situation.
Except now that someone said that Tom's wife is straight. That does not bode well for the long term sustainability of the marriage. She likes cock and I assume masculine behavior. What happens when Tom stops providing those things and other men start to push up on her?
I guess time will tell.