Unfaithful GAF, tell me your story

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Laughing Banana said:
Wow. I am not sure whether to congratulate you for having the steel necessary to continue despite what happened or feel sorry for you due to that.

I don't know if I am able to stay with a person that cheated me in marriage. I had a girl cheated on me after around 3 years of relationship and it hurt like hell--can't imagine what it would feel like having that happening after an 11 years of marriage...
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It felt pretty bad. :)

Still does, but now that we are working through it, it's getting better. Part of it is understanding what happened, why it happened, stuff like that. It was barely physical, but it was an emotional affair, and I feel that it would have gone further some days. Somedays I don't think it would have.

I think the worst part of it all is the amount of energy I have spent thinking about it. Energy that could have been used elsewhere in my (or our) lives.
 
I was really bad during my Highschool years. Too much sex and not caring about feelings of the people involved. Some very nice girls got hurt in the process and I regret everything . Since, have been with the same girl for 7+ years and never considered cheating.
 
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
 
I was 15, in my first 'serious' relationship. We'd been going out for a little over a year, both freshmen in high school. She was a little above my league(maybe not above my league, just 'developed' for a younger high school girl), which was cool, but also a little difficult to deal with when we were around a ton of junior/senior dudes always hitting on her. She liked the attention, but we were still good for the most part. Anyways, end of the year was coming up and she asked me if I cared if she went to the prom with this senior dude. I said I wasn't really comfortable with that, we fought about it, and she ended up going anyways, saying it didn't mean anything, she just wanted to go have fun with her friend, who also got invited by some guy. This friend had also become a friend of mine through her.

Anyways, I found out later on from her friend she ended up making out with the dude. I was pretty devastated by it. I didn't break up with her right away, though. Didn't even tell her I found out. My buddy's sister was always into me and she was really cute, so at a party the next weekend, I ended up making out with her(and a bit more) in front of a lot of people. Sure enough, word got to my g/f and she was all upset about it, crying, asking me how I could do it and everything. I then told her that I found out what she did, she denied it of course, but I just told her I hope she's miserable now and some other mean stuff.

I dont really feel bad for it. She deserved it. It really messed me up for a while, too, relationship-wise. I was far less trusting than I had been before and it made me more insecure. But also more picky. It was an early lesson to date nice chicks, not just the hottest one that comes along.
 
Taco_Human said:
Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.
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You poor naive bastard.
 
Taco_Human said:
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
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She wants a third...
 
I know this couple who are always lovey dovey with each other at parties. Never seen them argue or anything. They seem like they're in their honeymoon period but have been married for ages. I'm pretty sure it's over ten years.

Anyway, the husband always has pictures of himself with different girls on Facebook. The wife always seems to comment on them saying stuff like "she's hot! Did you hit that?" So I'm assuming they have an open relationship or something. I hang with the guy sometimes and women just seem to be magnetically attracted to him. The wife seems very soft-spoken but when the conversation goes in the gutter, she's always laughing the loudest and jumping in with the double entendres. So they are both probably freaky.

No specific stories really...just, I guess an observation that these things aren't always as damaging to relationships as some people like to imply. Everyone is different.
 
PhoenixDark said:
Never cheated but...

Awhile ago one of my female friends got very drunk at a party and called me. I wound up picking her up and taking her to my place since it was closer, plus she lived with her parents and they were super strict (ie they probably would have kicked her out). Ive known this girl for awhile, I kind of consider her my little sister. She's very attractive but we've always had a pure friend relationship

She threw up in the tub and then fell asleep on my bed. I called my girlfriend and told her the situation; it was around midnight. My gf at the time didn't like my friend, mainly because she thought she was too flirty with guys including me. I asked her to come over but she didn't want to; she told me she trusted me, and told me to take care of my friend...

I slept on the couch; luckily my roommate wasn't home. She woke me up around 2am still drunk. She wanted me to fuck her, started crying, told me she wanted me to come to bed with her, etc. I will admit that we wound up kissing, but nothing else happened. I put her back in the bed and then I went back to the couch.

The next day she apologized and asked we did anything. I told her we only kissed; I wish I didn't tell her...but that's another story
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You kissed her after she threw up? UR a monster.
 
Before I got into a serious relationship with my now-wife, I was a scumbag douche who cheated on pretty much every girlfriend I ever had. One particular story stands out to me.

I was 16 and my parents were away overseas. So it was party time. Invited all my friends and soon the house was filled with 30-40 people, including my gf at the time. While my gf was busy talking to her friends I noticed this cute new chick that I'd never seen before was giving me the lusty eye. I got up and nodded my head for her to follow me. Not long after that, we were in the basement laundry room making out. She wanted to give me head, but I got really nervous that someone might walk in and see then go tell my gf. So we went into the spare bedroom in the basement, locked the door, and got to fucking.

About three minutes into it, I hear footsteps coming down the stairway and hear my gf's voice calling for me. I immediately pull out, tell the girl to hush and start panicking. I hear her walking around in the basement and realize it's only a matter of time.... My heart was beating out of my chest and I knew I was fucked.

All of a sudden I hear the door knob turn....

Once she realized the door was locked, the shit hit the fan. She starts screaming and smashing and kicking at the door.

It was at that point that I noticed the window up near the ceiling of the room. So I climb up to the window, pop the screen off, throw my clothes through the window then proceed to start squeezing my butt naked ass through this tiny basement window and into the back yard. I close the curtains, and get out of sight.

Once the girl saw that I was out of sight, she went to casually open the door for my gf. She was amazing! She pretended to not know what the hell was going on. "you scared me!" She says. "Why were you pounding on the door like that?!" She then proceeds to tell my gf that her bf had just dumped her and she locked herself in the room to be alone and cry. My gf asked if she had seen me, the girl said no and my gf left. Meanwhile, I'm in the backyard butt naked and putting my clothes on.

By the time my gf had gotten back upstairs, I had already ran back around to the front door and was already back in the living room casually chatting with my friends. When she found me and asked me where the fuck I was, I casually told her that I was outside with so-and-so having a smoke. She believed me and never found out what went down that night.
 
Solo said:
You poor naive bastard.
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Solo nails it again. I hope your wrong though for this guy's sake.

Only time I was unfaithful was with a girl I dated when I was 16, went to a hotel party with friends and ended up making out with another girl. Told my girlfriend the next day and ended things. Felt like crap.
 
LowEndTorque said:
Before I got into a serious relationship with my now-wife, I was a scumbag douche who cheated on pretty much every girlfriend I ever had. One particular story stands out to me.

I was 16 and my parents were away overseas. So it was party time. Invited all my friends and soon the house was filled with 30-40 people, including my gf at the time. While my gf was busy talking to her friends I noticed this cute new chick that I'd never seen before was giving me the lusty eye. I got up and nodded my head for her to follow me. Not long after that, we were in the basement laundry room making out. She wanted to give me head, but I got really nervous that someone might walk in and see then go tell my gf. So we went into the spare bedroom in the basement, locked the door, and got to fucking.

About three minutes into it, I hear footsteps coming down the stairway and hear my gf's voice calling for me. I immediately pull out, tell the girl to hush and start panicking. I hear her walking around in the basement and realize it's only a matter of time.... My heart was beating out of my chest and I knew I was fucked.

All of a sudden I hear the door knob turn....

Once she realized the door was locked, the shit hit the fan. She starts screaming and smashing and kicking at the door.

It was at that point that I noticed the window up near the ceiling of the room. So I climb up to the window, pop the screen off, throw my clothes through the window then proceed to start squeezing my butt naked ass through this tiny basement window and into the back yard. I close the curtains, and get out of sight.

Once the girl saw that I was out of sight, she went to casually open the door for my gf. She was amazing! She pretended to not know what the hell was going on. "you scared me!" She says. "Why were you pounding on the door like that?!" She then proceeds to tell my gf that her bf had just dumped her and she locked herself in the room to be alone and cry. My gf asked if she had seen me, the girl said no and my gf left. Meanwhile, I'm in the backyard butt naked and putting my clothes on.

By the time my gf had gotten back upstairs, I had already ran back around to the front door and was already back in the living room casually chatting with my friends. When she found me and asked me where the fuck I was, I casually told her that I was outside with so-and-so having a smoke. She believed me and never found out what went down that night.
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You are horrible, but this was funny. haha
 
Taco_Human said:
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
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lol
 
Taco_Human said:
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
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This is a joke, right??
 
Taco_Human said:
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
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Hmm.
 
Taco_Human said:
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
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Dude.. like, dude.
 
Micerider said:
Never actually cheated anyone, but had two stories with girls who cheated their bf. I didn't really pushed them to...and one of them even told me she had already broke up before anything happened (that was not the case).

I must admit that I was gullible, and thought that them cheating was to have an actual relationship with me (whereas, in one case, it was for pure fuck-fun and the other was because she was, I believe, rather looking for an exit from her relationship, to break it with a bang).

From all the drama and fuss they both generated I know for SURE that cheating leads no-one to happiness (now, I consider cheating differently than breaking up to go with someone else, which CAN lead to great things).
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This is probably a horrible way to see it, but I've made out with/messed around with/slept with quite a few chicks that had boyfriends(some I knew about at the time, some I didn't) and in pretty much every case I was not the main instigator of the cheating - it was them. And if wasn't going to be me they cheated with, it'd probably be somebody else. That doesn't justify it and I feel bad for the times I've done it, but put the blame on the cheater, not the third party involved unless that third party is a friend or something of the person thats getting cheated on.
 
fanboi said:
You mean virgin GAF?
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If by 'virgin' you mean 'responsible 70% of population' than sure.

Myself - never cheated, end of story.

Seanspeed said:
This is probably a horrible way to see it, but I've made out with/messed around with/slept with quite a few chicks that had boyfriends(some I knew about at the time, some I didn't) and in pretty much every case I was not the main instigator of the cheating - it was them. And if wasn't going to be me they cheated with, it'd probably be somebody else. That doesn't justify it and I feel bad for the times I've done it, but put the blame on the cheater, not the third party involved unless that third party is a friend or something of the person thats getting cheated on.
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Did you know they were in a relationship? You could've said no. Answer like "it'd probably be somebody else" is BS.
 
Taco_Human said:
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
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this post hurts to read...
 
I cheated on my ex gf with my now wife. We were friends but we were both in a relationship with other people. One night she came over and I was giving her a hug and she just smelled so damn good that I started to kiss her neck. It just went from there. Well worth it.
 
Castor Krieg said:
Did you know they were in a relationship? You could've said no. Answer like "it'd probably be somebody else" is BS.
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Like it said in the post, sometimes I knew, sometimes I didn't. There might be others that I just never found out about, too.

How is it bullshit anyways? I realize its not a very morally upstanding thing to do, but seriously, only one person is doing the cheating here. Its not my duty to keep other people's relationships in check.
 
Shrug, my current gf (15 months) has given me the "if you cheat on me once I can probably live with that" statement before. I have no intentions of doing it; and I'm sure I flat out told her that I'd break up with her in a second if she cheated on me. Then again, she's also propositioned two of my female friends to have a threesome (unsuccessfully :( ) with us before so it might just be because my gf is crazy.

On to the topic at hand. I did cheat on one of my exes while in college back when I was living in my frat. Now this girl was super crazy and clingy so the relationship was going in the shitter (i write this to make myself feel slightly better). My girlfriend didn't like going to the bar with me, so usually that meant I refrained from doing it. However one night I was out, while she was back in my room studying or something. A friend of mine from highschool who was smoking hot (who i was interested in for like 4 years at that point) came up at the end of the night and said she wanted me to take her home. She couldn't bring me back to her place, so I snuck her into my frat, and paid a guy $20 to use his room to just defile this chick, while my gf was like 70 feet away in my room. I felt pretty bad about it, but thought it was a one-time deal and i'd just take the secret to my grave. Well, two weeks later it happens again, and this time we do it in like a common room of my frat (same deal, she was there but didn't know where i slunk off to). After I finished up I got right back there and she remarked on how sweaty and out of breath I looked. I pretended like I was helping carry kegs in the house and I went to go shower. Next thing I know my gf at the time slinks into the shower with me and I have the most guilty, feel terrible sex of my life.

I broke up with her a week later. I had a FWB situation with my high school friend start up which lasted like 8 months. The high school friend is still the best lay I've ever had. Worth the knowledge that I was a huge scumbag.
 
mernst23 said:
Shrug, my current gf (15 months) has given me the "if you cheat on me once I can probably live with that" statement before. I have no intentions of doing it; and I'm sure I flat out told her that I'd break up with her in a second if she cheated on me. Then again, she's also propositioned two of my female friends to have a threesome (unsuccessfully :( ) with us before so it might just be because my gf is crazy.
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Read this paragraph back to yourself out loud.
 
mernst23 said:
Yes i know the implications of what was said. There are no other signals she was/is cheating so i'm going to attribute that one to just being a stupid statement.
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Or she could just be kinky.

GAF has a way of thinking that every sexual deviance is a sign of cheating. She just sounds kinky. She's obviously (strongly) hinting that she wants to try some crazy shit. You got yourself a good one if you play your cards right.
 
Ok guys/gals, would your reaction to a Cheating partner be different if it was someone of the same sex? I know I'm quite liberal, but I honestly find it more funny than anything.

Infact, I'd love a bisexual girlfriend, even if she wasn't into 3somes.
 
ThoughtsOfSpeaking said:
Ok guys/gals, would your reaction to a Cheating partner be different if it was someone of the same sex? I know I'm quite liberal, but I honestly find it more funny than anything.
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Yea, definitely different. Its really just a male macho/territorial thing. Her with another girl isn't gonna bother me that much. They're not really as much of a threat as a guy is and it doesn't really dent my manhood.
 
I haven't really cheated but I usually date\sleep with a few girls at the same time. But I make it apparent I am not a committed man.
 
ThoughtsOfSpeaking said:
Ok guys/gals, would your reaction to a Cheating partner be different if it was someone of the same sex? I know I'm quite liberal, but I honestly find it more funny than anything.

Infact, I'd love a bisexual girlfriend, even if she wasn't into 3somes.
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My gf is bi. There's no difference in my mind. If she's trying to get off without my participation with someone else. That's cheating. She already knows she has the green light to sleep with a girl without me participating as long as I get to watch.
 
Only time I "cheated" has been on holidays where the significant other was not around. Bunch of friends driving four states over for New Years? Yeah, I made out with a nice woman while we were both on chemicals. No one needs to know and no one needs to get hurt, because it was meaningless.
 
mernst23 said:
My gf is bi. There's no difference in my mind. If she's trying to get off without my participation with someone else. That's cheating. She already knows she has the green light to sleep with a girl without me participating as long as I get to watch.
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So there's no difference in your mind? Meaning you'd be ok with her banging a dude so long as you got to watch?
 
Seanspeed said:
So there's no difference in your mind? Meaning you'd be ok with her banging a dude so long as you got to watch?
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Shrug, maybe? I haven't really thought about it; a cuckold situation is maybe a little different because I have the same equipment so it's more of a slight against me.
 
I cheated on my ex about 10 years ago with a married Japanese airhostess, I was living in Thailand and she used to spend a weekend in BKK about every 2-3 weeks and we'd hook up most times.
Never got caught and never told my ex about it. I felt more bad for the husband than I did my own GF at the time.
 
mernst23 said:
Shrug, maybe? I haven't really thought about it; a cuckold situation is maybe a little different because I have the same equipment so it's more of a slight against me.
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Well exactly. It is definitely different. You're ok with her and another girl so long as you get to watch because you'd enjoy watching. You probably wouldn't enjoy watching her and another guy. Its emasculating to us, as we're fairly territorial things deep down still.
 
I start missing my wife if I don't see her for a few days, can't even imagine betraying her trust, sappy but true.
 
pyros said:
I start missing my wife if I don't see her for a few days, can't even imagine betraying her trust, sappy but true.
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Same. Cheating sounds like the worst idea ever. Frankly I'm surprised it's that common, but then again, I hardly think like most people.
 
Taco_Human said:
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
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There is no cake.
 
Taco_Human said:
Been with my girl for over 2 years a day I can't imagine cheating. I wanna marry this woman.

Though she kinda mentions sometimes that she feels bad I never dated around or had experiences with other women. She tells me a few single cheats wouldn't hurt before we get married later on but I always tell her I would never betray her.

She hasn't cheated and we're eventually moving in together.

This thread hurts to read and imagine anything like this ever happens :(
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I'm almost in the same boat. My girls been with quite a few guys in her lifetime, I haven't been with many at all. She tells me she wants me to have sex with another girl before we get married, I just don't think I could ever do that
 
I really don't get this 'cheating' talk and how your convoluted rules and perspectives inform your feelings. I don't get how sec with someone is the worse thing you could do to someone else. Almost everything in this thread takes some real logical hoop jumping.

By the way most of you talk I have 'cheated' (i find this terminology faulty) on anyone I have ever had any relations with. Similarly by your experiences I have been cheated on many times. However, I can't say that I feel that to be true. I find the whole game of 'cheating' quite dumb and wasteful of care and emotion. I have found life without it far less dramatic and shrill.
 
LowEndTorque said:
Before I got into a serious relationship with my now-wife, I was a scumbag douche who cheated on pretty much every girlfriend I ever had. One particular story stands out to me.

I was 16 and my parents were away overseas. So it was party time. Invited all my friends and soon the house was filled with 30-40 people, including my gf at the time. While my gf was busy talking to her friends I noticed this cute new chick that I'd never seen before was giving me the lusty eye. I got up and nodded my head for her to follow me. Not long after that, we were in the basement laundry room making out. She wanted to give me head, but I got really nervous that someone might walk in and see then go tell my gf. So we went into the spare bedroom in the basement, locked the door, and got to fucking.

About three minutes into it, I hear footsteps coming down the stairway and hear my gf's voice calling for me. I immediately pull out, tell the girl to hush and start panicking. I hear her walking around in the basement and realize it's only a matter of time.... My heart was beating out of my chest and I knew I was fucked.

All of a sudden I hear the door knob turn....

Once she realized the door was locked, the shit hit the fan. She starts screaming and smashing and kicking at the door.

It was at that point that I noticed the window up near the ceiling of the room. So I climb up to the window, pop the screen off, throw my clothes through the window then proceed to start squeezing my butt naked ass through this tiny basement window and into the back yard. I close the curtains, and get out of sight.

Once the girl saw that I was out of sight, she went to casually open the door for my gf. She was amazing! She pretended to not know what the hell was going on. "you scared me!" She says. "Why were you pounding on the door like that?!" She then proceeds to tell my gf that her bf had just dumped her and she locked herself in the room to be alone and cry. My gf asked if she had seen me, the girl said no and my gf left. Meanwhile, I'm in the backyard butt naked and putting my clothes on.

By the time my gf had gotten back upstairs, I had already ran back around to the front door and was already back in the living room casually chatting with my friends. When she found me and asked me where the fuck I was, I casually told her that I was outside with so-and-so having a smoke. She believed me and never found out what went down that night.
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Too movie-esque to believe.
 
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