The Book Reader
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Title is pretty self explanatory. How do you feel about having kids in your current life situation? If you feel inclined, share your age and reasoning.
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Want kids? Have kids? Don’t want kids?
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ThatStupidLion
Member
definitely one of, if not the best experience life has to offer.
Your life flips upside down and 180, but i look at all my single and no children couple friends and never have I wished to swap places after my kids came along.
Its incredibly tough, but incredibly rewarding.
Give it your all if youre a parent.
36, 2 kids, 3rd on the way.
Your life flips upside down and 180, but i look at all my single and no children couple friends and never have I wished to swap places after my kids came along.
Its incredibly tough, but incredibly rewarding.
Give it your all if youre a parent.
36, 2 kids, 3rd on the way.
chromhound
Member
I don't pullout
I've got a son. As much as I love him life would be so much easier if I didn't have kids.
Being a dad is hard work, and feels like an utter chore.
I can't imagine what it's like being a mum. Certainly 10x harder what I'm doing at present.
Still, I love my son to bits. Even though being a patent fucking sucks.
Being a dad is hard work, and feels like an utter chore.
I can't imagine what it's like being a mum. Certainly 10x harder what I'm doing at present.
Still, I love my son to bits. Even though being a patent fucking sucks.
JimmyRustler
Member
Having and raising kids is basically my biggest wish/dream right now And has been for quite some time. Unfortunately it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen.
gaming_again
Member
I have a two year old boy. It’s impossible to describe what it means to me. The idea that I I had any concept of what ‘love’ meant 24 months ago is just laughable. The idea that I thought I was an adult is also laughable.
I miss my spare time fiercely though.
I miss my spare time fiercely though.
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Nitty_Grimes
Made a crappy phPBB forum once ... once.
Not for me. Approaching 50, single, live on my own and answer to nobody.
Don’t mean that arrogantly, just I have nobody to worry about / put first / consider.
If I wanna fuck off for a three month trip round the world tomorrow I can for example.
Don’t mean that arrogantly, just I have nobody to worry about / put first / consider.
If I wanna fuck off for a three month trip round the world tomorrow I can for example.
The ninja farmer
Member
Just coming out the other side and starting to get my life back (sounds wrong, but the best way I can put it)
i am raising 2 out of my 3 at the moment as they finish off their teenage years. Finally no more school meetings and parents nights (a big win
)
Kids change everything, both good and bad and it’s a hell of a ride. For me it was all about adapting and embracing the change they bring and finding a level inside that I didn’t know existed. I’m not perfect, but for me it wasn’t a choice and besides. Kids mean it becomes a marathon, not a sprint
I thought I understood things about myself and the world around me, before my girls turned up. Even between my 3, I am still learning new things and differences with them, all the time
I also like to think I am a better person in this world now, and a more rounded, experienced man. but still have plenty to do, both for myself and my little tribe
But we are all doing well and I wouldn’t change both the good and bad for the world (hospital trips with the kids are like next level in fear and anguish, but a little smile, thank you or random cuddle. can almost instantly correct a bad day and give you unbelievable reserves of energy or ideas)
Wishing all the parents out there good luck and best wishes. You are doing a super job
i am raising 2 out of my 3 at the moment as they finish off their teenage years. Finally no more school meetings and parents nights (a big win
) Kids change everything, both good and bad and it’s a hell of a ride. For me it was all about adapting and embracing the change they bring and finding a level inside that I didn’t know existed. I’m not perfect, but for me it wasn’t a choice and besides. Kids mean it becomes a marathon, not a sprint
I thought I understood things about myself and the world around me, before my girls turned up. Even between my 3, I am still learning new things and differences with them, all the time
I also like to think I am a better person in this world now, and a more rounded, experienced man. but still have plenty to do, both for myself and my little tribe
But we are all doing well and I wouldn’t change both the good and bad for the world (hospital trips with the kids are like next level in fear and anguish, but a little smile, thank you or random cuddle. can almost instantly correct a bad day and give you unbelievable reserves of energy or ideas)
Wishing all the parents out there good luck and best wishes. You are doing a super job
Rockondevil
Member
I have a son and I love him and wouldn’t be without now.
But I could easily have done the solo life and enjoyed it.
This meme is the truest thing I’ve ever read though.
But I could easily have done the solo life and enjoyed it.
This meme is the truest thing I’ve ever read though.
PuppetMaster
Member
My son was born this year. I am very happy to spoil just the one.
I am the oldest in large family. So I am very used to being around kids. And baby sitting kids even outside my immediate family. And because of that, I didn't want my own kids for a long time.
I lived a very hedonistic lifestyle through my 20s and 30s. But once I hit 40, I felt like something was missing. And I started wanting my own kid.
Who knows our relationship will turn out in the future. But at the moment my son is basically the only thing in the world that matters or gives life any meaning.
I am the oldest in large family. So I am very used to being around kids. And baby sitting kids even outside my immediate family. And because of that, I didn't want my own kids for a long time.
I lived a very hedonistic lifestyle through my 20s and 30s. But once I hit 40, I felt like something was missing. And I started wanting my own kid.
Who knows our relationship will turn out in the future. But at the moment my son is basically the only thing in the world that matters or gives life any meaning.
FunkMiller
Member
No thanks. I have a relaxed lifestyle, with plenty of disposable income, some of which will pay for my old age. I get to travel a lot, pursue my hobbies whenever I want, and I’m not contributing to the overcrowding on this planet that’ll make everyone’s lives progressively worse.
INC
Member
Was with my ex partner for 20 years, we both wanted kids, unfortunately she couldn't have children due to medical reasons, so I basically threw the idea of ever being a a father in the ocean.
She then cheats and leaves telling me at least I can have kids now.......women are cold as fuck sometimes
well I'm nearly 40 now, and single so given up on the idea, but who knows what tomorrow brings
She then cheats and leaves telling me at least I can have kids now.......women are cold as fuck sometimes
well I'm nearly 40 now, and single so given up on the idea, but who knows what tomorrow brings
The ninja farmer
Member
Andyliini
Member
I don't have kids, and I don't want them either. My girlfriend agrees and she can't have them either way due to medical reasons. I do not think I have it in me to ever get kids, I get anxious even when our cat shows signs of sickness.
I also love my peace and quiet time too much.
I also love my peace and quiet time too much.
RainblowDash
Gold Member
Don’t want kids, childfree ftw
INC
Member
Brother. Her loss, but if she cheated, regardless of reasons. Then she ain’t got your back and you are better off without her, or finding someone who will have
It’s all about the journey, this part is just about the next fork in the road
Dude, I'm good, I'm owning life atm, life's never been better, and she put on 3 stone and got fat. I lost 3 stone and smashing the gym....
So yeh, her loss
chromhound
Member
Cyberpunkd
Member
What for? To do the same things till you die?
This guy gets it. There is no other experience that compares with raising kids.
Dark Star
Member
i'm in my mid-late 20's and I don't really want kids right now
just enjoying my free time, spending money on myself, hobbies, etc.
in a perfect world i'd like to get married and have kids, but i feel like right now either would be such a tough financial and emotional burden for me. Maybe i'll change my mind when i'm my 30's, but I just don't like the way humans are doing things and where we are headed, it's not sustainable for the future. I wouldn't want to raise kids in a world that is worse than the one i grew up in.
just enjoying my free time, spending money on myself, hobbies, etc.
in a perfect world i'd like to get married and have kids, but i feel like right now either would be such a tough financial and emotional burden for me. Maybe i'll change my mind when i'm my 30's, but I just don't like the way humans are doing things and where we are headed, it's not sustainable for the future. I wouldn't want to raise kids in a world that is worse than the one i grew up in.
crazyjah2003
Member
Man... I want kids soo much.
Brian Fellows
Pete Carroll Owns Me
No thank you.
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Deleted member 1159
Unconfirmed Member
My two kids are dirty and expensive and gross and loud and obnoxious and I love them
RJMacready73
Banned
Kids are 90% pain in the fucking hole and 10% brilliant but it's that 10% makes living through the other 90 worthwhile besides I need someone to wipe my hole when I'm a dribbling 90y.o. manbaby
Heimdall_Xtreme
Hermen Hulst Fanclub's #1 Member
I do want to, but I don't get involved with just any woman.
I have had many girlfriends and proposals in life, but I have learned from other people who make mistakes or choose the wrong woman and have legal or financial problems with their children.
At least in Mexico, women seek their benefit above all else and you have to be careful.
For example, first I achieve my goals and fortunately I have an economic balance that I can easily raise with children... What I am looking for is a person who is correct and who doesnt be a cheat, like many girls divorced.
I have had many girlfriends and proposals in life, but I have learned from other people who make mistakes or choose the wrong woman and have legal or financial problems with their children.
At least in Mexico, women seek their benefit above all else and you have to be careful.
For example, first I achieve my goals and fortunately I have an economic balance that I can easily raise with children... What I am looking for is a person who is correct and who doesnt be a cheat, like many girls divorced.
AlteredForms
Banned
My advice to people who talk about the increased cost and responsbility is to have a single child, no more than one. At least that way a part of you lives on after death and the fact you can say you're a parent. Just have one kid, you don't have to go all out with 3-4 like some people.
Heimdall_Xtreme
Hermen Hulst Fanclub's #1 Member
That's what I mean, we must be too careful, one day they love you and the next day they betray you.
Age in the case of men is not worrisome, women are the ones who despair more about their physiology.
We are almost the same, I have an economic income that I can afford to visit a country every 3 months, so we must take advantage of it.
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Aesius
Member
I have a 2 year old boy and a 2 week old boy.
It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and the best thing I’ve ever done.
Having kids changes everything, but honestly, my wife and I were homebodies already. So really, the biggest things we are “missing” is more time to passively consume media.
That said, I managed to put 140 hours into both RDR2 and Elden Ring since my firstborn arrived. We’ll see how it goes with having two in the house now.
Sometimes I catch myself wishing they were older. I’m looking forward to them being 3 and 5 and 8 and 10. Going on family vacations, Christmases, etc. All the stuff I remember with my brother, but hopefully it will be even better for them because they are only 25 months apart. My brother and I are nearly 5 years apart.
It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and the best thing I’ve ever done.
Having kids changes everything, but honestly, my wife and I were homebodies already. So really, the biggest things we are “missing” is more time to passively consume media.
That said, I managed to put 140 hours into both RDR2 and Elden Ring since my firstborn arrived. We’ll see how it goes with having two in the house now.
Sometimes I catch myself wishing they were older. I’m looking forward to them being 3 and 5 and 8 and 10. Going on family vacations, Christmases, etc. All the stuff I remember with my brother, but hopefully it will be even better for them because they are only 25 months apart. My brother and I are nearly 5 years apart.
Werewolf Jones
Member
Needs a "I'm gonna adopt" and "No I'm gay lol" option
V1LÆM
Gold Member
fair point but i'm a miserable bastard.
when i'm dead just throw me in trash. ideally someone would shoot me well before then if i go loopy.
drganon
Member
Also, "I'm a loser that's going to die alone" option ( that one is for me).
Celcius
°Temp. member
Yes, is that a crime? I'm just answering the OP's question
Aesius
Member
Counterpoint: with two kids you get to reuse a lot of stuff with the second (clothes, toys, accessories, etc.). And the day-to-day can actually be easier once they reach a certain age because they can play with each other instead of demanding your time.
Hell no to 3 or more kids, though. Then you're outnumbered and have to deal with middle child syndrome.
Doczu
Member
Got two sons, aged 1.5 and 3.5
We're 32 and 30 yo, always wanted to have kids. It's hard, cause we suspect the older one has ADD (but too soon to diagnose and surely not keen on medicating him with pills from a young age so it will be difficult), and things got... Different for both of us.
Wouldn't want it back the way it was. It's like a new quest line that's not open for everyone.
We're 32 and 30 yo, always wanted to have kids. It's hard, cause we suspect the older one has ADD (but too soon to diagnose and surely not keen on medicating him with pills from a young age so it will be difficult), and things got... Different for both of us.
Wouldn't want it back the way it was. It's like a new quest line that's not open for everyone.