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Want kids? Have kids? Don’t want kids?
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TVexperto
Member
why too old?Have kids. I was 37 … imo too old for me and was a mistake. I should have it a lot early.
My wife was 29.
Life change a lot and feels like before I was just wasting time doing Netflix, games and travel.
I lol literally every time I talk to someone my age who's like "I can't do or afford this fun/cool/awesome/nice thing anymore because I have kids".
My kids have each completed a lap of earth by their first birthday and my social life remains intact. The only things off limits are regular binge drinking and business class on some airlines. Kids are only troublesome before they are 3-4 and need a stroller. Ambulatory kids can be taken nearly anywhere or be watched by a friend or relative when needed.
AJUMP23
Parody of actual AJUMP23
I know lots of Dinks in my industry. They seem pretty good. But I love having kids. But I don’t look down on people for choosing not to have them. I also don’t go around telling people about my kids all the time.
Cyberpunkd
Member
This. People are freaking out forgetting you get them to age 4-5 and you are good for another 50 (that's when you die). Not a bad ROI.
OmegaSupreme
advanced basic bitch
Anyone who doesn't have or want kids is selfish in some way. Full stop. People who can't have children for medical reasons is an obvious exception.
Doom85
Member
LMAO, some people do go WAY overboard in talking about them, like every single moment needs to be shared with the whole world. Fits this final emoji:
Doom85
Member
Hang on, slow down. Let’s see, if you have 1, and she has 2, and then, okay, err, do we carry the 1 now or….ugh!
Hey, we’re talking about whether we do or do not want to have kids or already have them. Keep your disgusting math problems out of this! Next you’ll be tying science into this somehow!
jezhumphrey75
Banned
never wanted kids but had one, i wouldn't recommend it in anyway, but i love my son for than anything and wouldn't be without him...you will never feel as much as you do for your child, the first few years are awful, it gets easier....
NecrosaroIII
Ultimate DQ Fan
Voted "I don't want kids" and "I want kids"
Some days I do want kids. I want to experience fatherhood and experience the love of a child. But at the same time, I don't htink I have anything to offer a child. My family line is cursed and I want it to end.
Some days I do want kids. I want to experience fatherhood and experience the love of a child. But at the same time, I don't htink I have anything to offer a child. My family line is cursed and I want it to end.
Sidney Prescott
Member
Undecided. Right now in my late 20's, not really. I may feel differently when I get a bit older.
jezhumphrey75
Banned
i had mine at 33 , honestly if your gonna do it make it soon, at 38 and hes 5 now, i cant keep up with him and i exercise alot, and the demands of a child outweighs anything you have ever done lol.
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Doczu
Member
So much this.
It's not only difficult to keep up physically with your kid, but there will also be a big difference in your relationship due to how you percieve the world. It's almost 2 generations worth of difference when you have a kid at around 40 or just above it. You will be nearing 60 when your kid is an adult, you might not live to see your grand children. If you're unlucky your kid might be bullied for having old ass parents and kids are RELENTLESS. Though this might be moot seeing how older parents get these days. But we did have a kid at school (almost 25 years ago) whose parents were well above their 50s. He was teased and more on a daily basis. Turns out they couldn't have kids, tried for years and then it just happened. He never shared it with his class mates...
gaming_again
Member
Yeah I try not to be in the business of telling people what they should or shouldn’t do but like how ultra religious people must feel, it’s damned hard to not evangelise about it sometimes. I want everybody to feel what I feel.
It’s especially difficult when a childless friend is so clearly lost.
But yeah. You don’t want to be that guy.
Chronicle
Member
Those days will come. From age 1.5 to 3.5 kids are adorable and hilarious. Enjoy the moments. They'll be gone before you know it.
Puscifer
Member
I had a period where I changed my mind and wanted kids for a solid year, made financial preparations than COVID and the result social changes happened and I said fuck it. Plus I have a spouse that refuses to raise a child in a more rural conservative environment or hell, even in an area 20-30 minutes outside the city so I said fuck the idea.
I can't imagine ever wanting kids, especially in an environment like this. Rather spare a life this nonsense.
I can't imagine ever wanting kids, especially in an environment like this. Rather spare a life this nonsense.
indigo-cyclops
Member
I've got one, a son. He's going on 7 years old and is such a good, funny, creative little dude. He's great in school but really let's loose at home, and can be a real cut up. I sometimes wish we could give him a sibling but my wife is completely against another and I respect that and have come to terms with it. He's becoming independent and with that, it can be difficult. I know it's taken a toll on my wife as she is not as laid back as I am.
What it boils down to is, I don't regret a thing about it but it's not always the easiest. But seeing him smile every day, or playing Minecraft with him reminds me how much being a parent has given me direction and purpose in my life.
What it boils down to is, I don't regret a thing about it but it's not always the easiest. But seeing him smile every day, or playing Minecraft with him reminds me how much being a parent has given me direction and purpose in my life.
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BennyBlanco
aka IMurRIVAL69
Wife and I just had our first. She was born on my birthday. It’s certainly changed my life and we still have things to figure out when my wife goes back to work but overall it’s been an amazing experience.
Aesius
Member
The sleep thing is what makes or breaks the first couple of years. Most of our friends' kids are champion sleepers and were permanently sleeping through the night by 2 months old, so parenthood has been pretty easy for them.
Our firstborn was and still is a pretty bad sleeper and he's 26 months. Like yours, he didn't start sleeping through the night until his first birthday and even now he still has phases where he wakes up a few times at night. His little brother seems to be better but newborn behavior doesn't always dictate infant/toddler behavior.
For anyone considering kids...ask your parents about what you were like as a baby/toddler and find out what your girlfriend/wife was like, too. Turns out my wife was probably the bottom 1 percentile of sleepers as a kid and didn't start consistently sleeping through the night until she was about 6-7 years old! Thankfully our son isn't that bad but now I understand where he gets it from.
TaylorSwiftFan
Member
Where’s the option where you want kids but it’s not happening?
Doczu
Member
The worst kind of situation...
SnipeyMcGee
Member
I hate kids. I love the life I have. Got a vasectomy at 27 and haven't looked back.
gaming_again
Member
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