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What is your biggest single regret in life?

kamkamkam

Member
Only one thing.

I built a new computer in 2010 and needed to move everything from my old machine to my new one.

Everything on the old machine was sorted into two folders.

  • Keep
  • Delete

It was 3:00 am and the last items were sorted. In my haze, I moved the Delete folder to my new machine and shift+delete'd the keep folder.

Almost a decades worth of PSDs, documents, media, MSN/AIM chat logs, projects gone in an instant...
 

StormCell

Member
GAF, I think I regret not being more of myself in junior high and high school... and unfortunately I wouldn't really find my crowd until my junior year AND then I moved away. In junior high, a lot of pieces began to fall into place for me to come into being myself finally, and I really began to form some good friendships. And then I moved to the other side of the country and then promptly went into an identity crisis in a completely different culture. I wouldn't really find myself again until college.
 

8bitpill

Member
My biggest regret is moving to Philadelphia. That places is a garbage dump that will only bring out the worst in you. Luckily this year I have been able to move away after 4 long years.
Lived there growing up, into my late twenties. My wife owned a house she bought in her early twenties in South Phila on 12th st. Let me tell you the issues we had there (this was considered a nicer part at the time as well).

Car broken into for a iPod Nano that was 1st generation and maybe fetch someone like ten dollars.
Freshly potted plants that were in the planter out front our house, stolen and spaded out perfectly.
Stolen Trash Can, hose, the list goes on for common outdoor items.
Our Car hit multiple times by people trying to park.
Towed out front of our place (the sidewalk that was attached to her house).
Constant issues with neighbors.
There was a drug / grow house next to ours, (this was two blocks from the police station on 11th street) house was raided and full haze mat suites for cleaning it out.
A guy from either the fire station that is there or the police station reeving his engine at full throttle when he turned onto our street as he left work at 3am in the morning.
The bus route that was on 12th.
General public just not caring about other peoples property.

I mean I could go on, like this one individual who would religiously hock a loogie every morning out front of our place and make it so audible that you could hear the snot from his nose being sucked into his throat and mouth.

My wife bought her house in 2007, she sold it in 2013 and we moved to the coast of Maine. Let me tell you, it was one of the best decisions we ever made.

We even had our daughter years ago, and that wouldn't have happen if we stayed in Philadelphia.
 
You're not wrong, but just because you've either got a lot of work to do or a mess to clean up doesn't mean that's all marriage brings. I don't know what state your marriage is in, but I hope you learn to find the joy in it because my wife is the best thing I ever found.


The worst thing you could ever do is get married to check it out or see what you've been missing. Have you ever brought a puppy home? Have you experienced the nonstop barks and whines of a puppy separated from its litter for the first time? That is what it will be like after the honeymoon period settles. I'm talking about the first time you two have a disagreement. The first time you disappoint her or let her down with your decision making. There will be no peace in the house until you learn to resolve and settle. It will test the boundaries of your love. Marriage is about deciding to be committed to this other person, and contrary to what most will say in this modern time it is a decision you make all the way back before you said your vows.

When you marry someone you can love and be committed to, there are a lot of great things about marriage--in addition to sex. You've no longer running through life alone. A lot of things you did with friends, you now get to do with your spouse, and it's different and it's better than doing them with friends because your spouse is in it for you just as much as they're in it for themselves, meaning if there's some event you wanted to go to, your friends might have let you miss it and laughed at you whereas your spouse is likely to try to help you get to that thing. My wife knows I love to go fishing, and if there's a possibility I might not get to go for some random reason, she will tie on her boots, put on her warm outdoor clothing, crawl out into the outdoors with me, and we'll launch the boat and go fishing. She is there with me every step, and she is my support in every battle or fight. We've each lost family that was really close and a crucial part of our childhoods: friends might call once or a couple of times to check in on you, but a spouse sits there with you through it all, cooks you a meal to make sure you're eating, and surprises you with a new video game when you're ready to try to have a little fun again.

The best things about a spouse, and this is getting a little biblical, is that it is the literal tipping point in life when a man no longer looks to his parents for support but instead will turn to his spouse for physical and emotional support.
Damn
 

Ionian

Member
Only one thing.

I built a new computer in 2010 and needed to move everything from my old machine to my new one.

Everything on the old machine was sorted into two folders.

  • Keep
  • Delete

It was 3:00 am and the last items were sorted. In my haze, I moved the Delete folder to my new machine and shift+delete'd the keep folder.

Almost a decades worth of PSDs, documents, media, MSN/AIM chat logs, projects gone in an instant...

You could have recovered them. There's free software that can do it but only if you didn't already write over the sector/part again.

Have had to do it for myself and also for a memory card my sister had of her pictures. The software is easy to use.

Obviously too late now but just if it ever happens to you again :)
 

Romulus

Member
Never really used my athletism for anything tangible. Too busy chasing ass, gaming, life.
I was gifted with tremendous explosiveness that has likely faded now. Tried out for a semi pro football team, made it, but never even showed up for training because I was too damn stupid.

Not saying I could have been a NFL player but I had almost zero experience or drive.
 

StonedRider

Member
No regrets, I'm happy!
Even negative things in my life shaped me as I am now and I'd not want to change them.
Bitcoin? Fuck it, easy money did not make anyone happy. Bad marriage? It was an interesting experiment anyway.

I should say, fortunately, I did not experience critically bad events like losing a leg, burned out house or something.
 

NeoIkaruGAF

Gold Member
I regret bugging my parents to get me some ultimately superfluous stuff that I wanted just because and in some cases didn’t even appreciate enough to justify the expense. Books that I still have to read to this day, games that I later sold (for a profit, at least there’s that) still shrinkwrapped or barely even played for an hour or two.

I still do that sometimes, but at least it’s my money. We weren’t poor and I wasn’t exactly spoiled, but seeing how my parents are faring today, I can’t help regretting every time I acted like they owed me some stupid stuff.
 

Aesius

Member
Many regrets. To many and or personal to say. I would say that being oblivious to me being many a thing because of having extremely low self esteem/extremely severely negative self image that in retrospect made me waste soooooo many fucking years. Mental health induced warped headspace bb.
The negative self-talk feedback loop is a son of a bitch for causing complete and utter stagnation in life. Especially when it happens during critical developmental years.
 

ÆMNE22A!C

NO PAIN TRANCE CONTINUE
The negative self-talk feedback loop is a son of a bitch for causing complete and utter stagnation in life. Especially when it happens during critical developmental years.

Indeed it does, let alone it's so strong that attaching from that viewpoint surfaces a fundamental duality in the psyche itself uncovering a duality in perception about oneself. Who to belief, my made up mind about myself or the external feedback I've gathered through social interaction? Not even adding the extremely severe body dysmorphia which the dominant half of my psyche has a firm grip on. Lot of mental gymnastics to keep on trucking.

TLDR: When the negative feedback loop has so much airtime you don't realize the ads are your true self instead of the lies.

Oh well.. 🤣
 
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rapid32.5

Member
Most of my friends have been getting married lately and it's had me wondering if I'm missing out. What do you find to be the most difficult thing about marriage?
In my case, the wife only wanted a kid, so she could do nothing with her life and me supporting the kid. Her mom didn't raise her the right way to be family oriented. In my country, women get pregnant just to please/show their parents or neighbors how "tough to be an adult with a kid" by leeching off grandparents or husband's money. Best advice would be look at her mom and if she is already divorced or how she behaves with her husband. Ask a question, do you wanna be in his shoes under her heel ? Many men don't wanna acknowledge these facts, because they are afraid being alone/single. I'm not like that, because I was raised to be independent and rely on myself only. If your woman doesn't make you happy there is no point of sticking around for years in misery. You're a man you can only decide what's good for you, this includes being single and happy with yourself if necessary.
 
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My 2 biggest: Not discovering bitcoin and not playing football (soccer) sooner.

I was only a middle school kid when bitcoin was a thing and my family only had a Compaq computer at the time. But hey... now i'm in a good start with Dogecoins a decade later and i'm proud of that haha. As for football, I've never thought I would be an athlete. Started playing late at 15-16, now very good at 24 atm. Yet I wish I could've played it sooner.. maybe lead me somewhere better in life....

My other smaller regerts:

-Not being social. Yea I have friends.. yet were not very outgoing. Never been to a club, bar, high school party, never attended dances back in HS, etc. Basically not a young normie.

-Not asking out the pawg in my gym. Been eyeing me for almost a dam year.. loolololol.

-Even though i'm only 24, kinda regret dropping out of college. Yet, I still feel it's a great decision because I still don't know what to peruse. And going to college with no plan is a BIG no no imo.
 

Ionian

Member
-Even though i'm only 24, kinda regret dropping out of college. Yet, I still feel it's a great decision because I still don't know what to peruse. And going to college with no plan is a BIG no no imo.

Dude you have loads of time. If you don't want to go into a college there are courses online.

Depends on dedication though, online (I did after college) became I'll just do it tomorrow. depends on the person.

Just there ARE options for you. 24 is very young my good man.
 

FunkMiller

Banned
Moving back to the U.K from Sydney the year before Covid struck. I could be paddling my fat ass around Balmoral Beach right now, and not sat here freezing said fat ass off in April in the middle of a fucking lockdown.
 

Alright

Banned
I regret doing everything i wanted to do so early in life. I basically lived a full life by the time i was 26. I accomplished it by being determined, hard working and taking risks. I don't want to get married or have kids.

Now i'm just sat in God's waiting room, reading GAF monthly, waiting for him to call my number. There's a sense of freedom to it all though.
 

Winter John

Member
Oof. I understand how you would regret that, but it for damn sure isn't your fault his ass stabbed a guy 15 times. You might have saved him from himself that night, but it could have happened any other night. Some people are just destined for ruin without a real philosophical shift in perspective and being.
Yeah. It was a real fucker. I visited him once in jail and that was the end as far as I was concerned.
 

Meicyn

Member
My biggest regret is not buying shares of Citigroup in the midst of the housing bubble pop. All I had to do was press the button to submit my purchase order. I closed my stock app instead, unsure of what would happen.

Then the banks got bailed out.
 
Not calling home to get me the hell out of five day Nike tennis camp I went to when I was 14. I was there with a friend otherwise I would have.

We were on the fourth floor in the heat of summer. It had to be 100+ degrees in our room. Going to bed drenched in sweat each night.

Not long after I got viral encephalitis which affected my short term memory and made me sleep like 15 hours a night. Had to he homeschooled when I was too tired to make it to school.

I was too conked to be an advocate for myself. My parents + doctors put me on medication I didn't need that made me act really strange at school. Saw many of my peers lose respect for me and I didn't fully comprehend why in my state.

Took almost ten years for the fog to lift and starting to feel like myself again.

I wish I was wiser than my years at that camp. I should have called the fucking police to show them the conditions we were being subjected to.
 
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MilkLizard

Member
Taxes. Here if you never start declaring your taxes the government leaves you alone, but once you start they got you by the balls. Back then I was young and listened to my mother and for some years I actually got some money back but nowadays...shit's fucked up I swear.
 

MacReady13

Member
I have ALWAYS wanted to be a film maker. I decided to instead get a house and a "normal" job instead of following my dreams. I'm 2 months shy of 41 and still cling onto the dream of making films one day, but with 4 kids and a wife (plus a mortgage) that dream is quickly disappearing into the ether. It is my one major regret in life...
 

pauljeremiah

Gold Member
Not going to Cambridge to study when I had the chance, decided to go to Columbia in NYC instead. Things would have worked out fie for me, but I always think they would have worked out better if I went to study in the UK.
 

kamkamkam

Member
Not going to Cambridge to study when I had the chance, decided to go to Columbia in NYC instead. Things would have worked out fie for me, but I always think they would have worked out better if I went to study in the UK.

Tom Hanks Fancy GIF
 

godhandiscen

There are millions of whiny 5-year olds on Earth, and I AM THEIR KING.
not travelling. not getting those tattoos i wanted. not going to see the bands i wanted. stupid stuff like that. i took it all for granted and made excuses for my self but really i was too fucking scared/anxious to do anything. there was no way to know we'd be in a global pandemic. i've promised myself that once things get back to normal(ish) then i'm gonna go crazy and do everything i was too scared to do. i might still be scared/anxious but i'll push myself to do it no matter what. the last year or so has really made me kick myself and realise how stupid i've been.

My capitalistic heart loves your spirit. I can’t wait to see those economic recovery numbers.
 

Ironbunny

Member
When in a backpacking trip I met a girl whos contact details I never took. She was about to be married so I didnt pursue it further. After the week of hanging around together we separated and the last glance we took of each other from distance still haunts me. It was in the eyes. Its been 20 years. 😔
 
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I wish I would have exercised when I was younger. I exercise so much today, but I always wonder what my abilities would have been like if I developed them in my teen years
 
Failing a test which would have gotten me into my first choice at university which my best friend also attended. There isn't a day that goes by where that doesn't haunt me, as where I ended up was much crappier and I hated it.
 

Tschumi

Member
No big regrets just yet but if i don't shape up I'll have wasted a 5 year visa in Japan doing slacker work ^_^v
 

bigedole

Member
It's funny to me how many people's biggest regret revolves around sex lol. Your lives must either be very awesome or very vacuous if missing out on a 15 minute orgasm session is the thing you regret most in life!

Definitely feel for the people who got stuck in bad relationships. Relationships are fucking hard, and even when both people are good, caring people who earnestly want the best for the family they still won't always work out. Definitely the best advice I'd give to any college-aged individual is to put a lot of thought and time into that shit.
 
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Mossybrew

Banned
Moving to the Pacific Northwest 9 years ago. It's been all downhill from that one decision. Though, as the saying goes, you never know when your bad luck has saved you from even worse luck. Don't know how life would have gone had I stayed in So Cal, maybe even with all the bullshit this was the better choice, so I don't really dwell on it too much because that kind of woulda coulda thinking is pointless.
 

GeorgPrime

Banned
Going to university... just to get ripped off by politics and getting left behind with a huge debt
 
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stn

Member
I hate having regrets but I do have one in the last few years. It was a Sunday and I had to go to work because I got a new client (I'm a lawyer) who came to me and had a matter that was extremely time-sensitive. Of course, the asshole came last minute. So I went to work that weekend to get shit done on time. What I didn't know was that the same day I went to work that weekend, one of my dogs had to be put down, which I found out when I got home. Normally I wouldn't have a regret since life is life, but the shitty part is that the asshole client complained I charged him too much after I worked my ass OFF and he filed a complaint with my regulatory body. The complaint was very quickly thrown out because it was all bullshit and I had all the evidence in the world, but it was shitty because I missed out on seeing my dog in her last moments all for an ungrateful fuck of a human being.

EDIT: I also had to waste the time of a few legal assistants in helping me piece shit together.
 
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