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What is your biggest single regret in life?

Aesius

Member
Everyone who has been on/lurking Gaf for more than ten years including @EviLore should be multi-millionaires now.

But we ignored the advice of fellow gaffers, who told all of us to put $100 in bitcoin, back when it was $0.50 a coin.

I went to do it, then saw i had to give them my passport details and noped out.

Goddamnit
Yeah, but most would have sold 1,000 times over by now.
 

MastAndo

Member
Started smoking cigarettes. Seriously kids stay well away from nicotine.
I was going to go on some whiny rant about a missed opportunity with a pretty great girl way back when, but this is definitely the one. It's not particularly close either, so I'm not sure why this didn't pop into my head immediately.
 

Aesius

Member
I was going to go on some whiny rant about a missed opportunity with a pretty great girl way back when, but this is definitely the one. It's not particularly close either, so I'm not sure why this didn't pop into my head immediately.
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But what about feeling good all the time?
 

waquzy

Member
Didn't ask out a girl from my local Lidl before she moved to a different town, we were vibing hardcore, but I didn't have the effin balls to ask her phone number, it's been bugging me for years ever since....
 

JCK75

Member
Knowing a slump was coming in Bitcoin 2-3 years back and selling before it hit... and then seeing where it is today.
 

clarky

Gold Member
I was going to go on some whiny rant about a missed opportunity with a pretty great girl way back when, but this is definitely the one. It's not particularly close either, so I'm not sure why this didn't pop into my head immediately.
Yup I'm 46 and I've done some really stupid shit in my time. Life's to short for regrets but man I really do regret ever lighting up, the most pointless expensive horrible drug out there by a country mile.
 
Proposing to a woman who was emotionally abusive to me. So much money and time lost.
Yeah bro. I feel you. Went through the same thing but only in my case we got married and in the end she didn't give a fuck about saving our marriage. 6 years wasted with that woman.
But they say what comes around, goes around. Now I'm in a happy relationship and she's had 2 different kids with 2 different guys and she's now a single mom and looks like a beached whale.
 
Yeah bro. I feel you. Went through the same thing but only in my case we got married and in the end she didn't give a fuck about saving our marriage. 6 years wasted with that woman.
But they say what comes around, goes around. Now I'm in a happy relationship and she's had 2 different kids with 2 different guys and she's now a single mom and looks like a beached whale.
Luckily I didn't marry her but had to go through months of therapy after I broke it off. Still over three years in the relationship of manipulation. Watch out for them narcissists. I was young and naive, was very idealistic about love.
 
Had a chance at a three way with two women sometime around 2013. Ended up sleeping with one of the women but I really should have taken it. Oh well.
 
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nush

Gold Member
Sold two copies of Panzer Dragoon Saga once when I needed some money.

I hid a box of Panzer Dragoon Sagas in the warehouse and took them off the list for the sales team. This was back when the price was only about £80 -£100. If I left them there long enough I could buy them for the close out price. Except one of the sales team did a manual search of the stock, found them and sold them just a week before I was going to buy them. Fuck.
 

Belmonte

Member
I should have started going to the gym sooner than I did. But I was a smart-ass who thought mind was all that matter. Stupid.
 
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My only regret was too young for Lisa Bonet
My only regret was too young for Nia Long
Now all I'm left with is hoes from reality shows
Hand her a script the bitch probably couldn't read along
My only regret was too young for Sade Adu
My only regret could never take Aaliyah home
Now all I'm left with is hoes up in Greystone
With the stale face cause they know it's they song

Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved
 
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About 10 yrs ago There was this zombie mulch game on your browser that you could exploit for Home Depot coupons - playing it would give you a $10, $15, and $20 coupon that worked in the self checkout to minimize suspicion. On top of that Someone on slickdeals created a program so that it would auto play to generate coupons automatically. I got several hundreds of dollars worth of free shit from home Depot but I stopped because I started to feel bad. I regret feeling bad and not getting thousands of dollars of free shit.
Is that one of your twelve deflections?
 
Luckily I didn't marry her but had to go through months of therapy after I broke it off. Still over three years in the relationship of manipulation. Watch out for them narcissists. I was young and naive, was very idealistic about love.
I was the broken one in the divorce. Felt like I was never going to get out of it but people always kept telling me, time heals pain. And I can say that is certainly true. Give yourself time. You'll eventually get out of it.

As for the bolded: I was the same. The divorce taught me important lessons.
 

Goro Majima

Kitty Genovese Member
Sometimes I have regrets but I was fortunate enough to avoid any drug or alcohol addictions, surprise babies, or serious disabling injuries. So in the grand scheme of things I'm doing pretty good.

I often think about if my life had gone absolutely any differently than it had, I never would have met my wife whom I love dearly.

It's funny to think about the butterfly effect and how one event can change the course of your life. For me it all started in 2005 when I told my friend to pull over into Gamecrazy so I could see if they had an OEM box for KOTOR 2 on the original Xbox because I had just bought the game in a crappy Hollywood Video replacement box. I went in and talked to the manager and he told me that they desperately needed people to work there that had some amount of social skills. Long story short, this one job kick started a series of events where I eventually met my ex-wife which led to us moving to Texas where we got divorced and then I met my current wife.

So if I regret almost a single major event between 2005 and 2016, then I'm not married to the love of my life and that's pretty crazy. Wish I had kept that particular copy of KOTOR 2!
 

C4.lukin

Banned
I..

I went to the island of misfit toys. Nobody gave a shit about them.

I killed them all. The women and the children, they were animals and I cut them down like animals!

Oh yeah and that broken Jack In the Box!!! I sliced that fucker from head to bottom of box.

Now that I think about it, I have zero regrets.
 

Mondai

Member
Not telling one of my former friends to fuck off sooner, she was a very toxic person and I wish I had the balls to just say “go fuck yourself” way before our friendship ended.
 

mxbison

Member
Nothing really. I could say being lazy in school, but then I never would've met my wife.

I also thought about buying Bitcoin way back then. But let's be honest, everyone who invested $100 would have sold it all at like $5,000 and not held until it was worth 20 million....
 
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Winter John

Member
One of my best buddies stabbed a guy 15 times after they spent a night drinking, getting high. He'd come round to my place earlier. I was just sitting in front of the tv getting stoned when he turned up. The moment he came in I knew something was off. I didn't know what it was but my spidey sense was going off. He didn't want a joint, he wasn't saying much. He hung around for about 10 minutes then took off. A little voice told me to go down and bring him back but I was stoned so I let him go. He went to a bar, met one of our friends and that was that. I've always felt none of it would've happened if I'd gotten my ass off the couch and brought him back.
 

kittoo

Cretinously credulous
I came here to write how my biggest regret was not banging a girl whom I had a crush on and who also had a crush on me and even came and stayed with me a couple of nights (I even had a thread here on GAF or posted in the love thread or something).
But then I saw other posts and had a sobering effect on me. I am both thankful that I as of now havent had big regrets, but at the same time recognize that life can be hard. This thread is something.

One of my best buddies stabbed a guy 15 times after they spent a night drinking, getting high. He'd come round to my place earlier. I was just sitting in front of the tv getting stoned when he turned up. The moment he came in I knew something was off. I didn't know what it was but my spidey sense was going off. He didn't want a joint, he wasn't saying much. He hung around for about 10 minutes then took off. A little voice told me to go down and bring him back but I was stoned so I let him go. He went to a bar, met one of our friends and that was that. I've always felt none of it would've happened if I'd gotten my ass off the couch and brought him back.

Did the other guy survive? Is your buddy OK?
 
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INC

Member
One of my best buddies stabbed a guy 15 times after they spent a night drinking, getting high. He'd come round to my place earlier. I was just sitting in front of the tv getting stoned when he turned up. The moment he came in I knew something was off. I didn't know what it was but my spidey sense was going off. He didn't want a joint, he wasn't saying much. He hung around for about 10 minutes then took off. A little voice told me to go down and bring him back but I was stoned so I let him go. He went to a bar, met one of our friends and that was that. I've always felt none of it would've happened if I'd gotten my ass off the couch and brought him back.

You're not responsible for others actions dude, but I see how you could dwell on that. Harsh
 

V1LÆM

Gold Member
not travelling. not getting those tattoos i wanted. not going to see the bands i wanted. stupid stuff like that. i took it all for granted and made excuses for my self but really i was too fucking scared/anxious to do anything. there was no way to know we'd be in a global pandemic. i've promised myself that once things get back to normal(ish) then i'm gonna go crazy and do everything i was too scared to do. i might still be scared/anxious but i'll push myself to do it no matter what. the last year or so has really made me kick myself and realise how stupid i've been.
 
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Aesius

Member
Sometimes I have regrets but I was fortunate enough to avoid any drug or alcohol addictions, surprise babies, or serious disabling injuries. So in the grand scheme of things I'm doing pretty good.

I often think about if my life had gone absolutely any differently than it had, I never would have met my wife whom I love dearly.

It's funny to think about the butterfly effect and how one event can change the course of your life. For me it all started in 2005 when I told my friend to pull over into Gamecrazy so I could see if they had an OEM box for KOTOR 2 on the original Xbox because I had just bought the game in a crappy Hollywood Video replacement box. I went in and talked to the manager and he told me that they desperately needed people to work there that had some amount of social skills. Long story short, this one job kick started a series of events where I eventually met my ex-wife which led to us moving to Texas where we got divorced and then I met my current wife.

So if I regret almost a single major event between 2005 and 2016, then I'm not married to the love of my life and that's pretty crazy. Wish I had kept that particular copy of KOTOR 2!
Those singular events changing the entire direction of your life are crazy.

The biggest one for me was going to a party on a whim during summer break between my freshman and sophomore years of college. At the time I was going to a university in my hometown and living with my parents. Totally unhappy with the situation.

While at the party, I ran into some high school friends who were going to a state school ~2 hours away from my hometown. We reconnected, partied more over the summer, and then I started visiting them at the state school. I had so much fun there that I ended up transferring to it, which completely changed the course of my life.
 

8bitpill

Member
Not having confidence when I was younger. It helps in so many situations.

It went from my teen years to my early twenties, but lingered for quite awhile. It didn't stop me from doing most of what I wanted to do, but it always made me question every little thing and made me feel I wasn't making the right decision in every scenario.
 

StormCell

Member
Getting married. Watch and learn kids. 99% you will learn the hard way.
You're not wrong, but just because you've either got a lot of work to do or a mess to clean up doesn't mean that's all marriage brings. I don't know what state your marriage is in, but I hope you learn to find the joy in it because my wife is the best thing I ever found.

Most of my friends have been getting married lately and it's had me wondering if I'm missing out. What do you find to be the most difficult thing about marriage?
The worst thing you could ever do is get married to check it out or see what you've been missing. Have you ever brought a puppy home? Have you experienced the nonstop barks and whines of a puppy separated from its litter for the first time? That is what it will be like after the honeymoon period settles. I'm talking about the first time you two have a disagreement. The first time you disappoint her or let her down with your decision making. There will be no peace in the house until you learn to resolve and settle. It will test the boundaries of your love. Marriage is about deciding to be committed to this other person, and contrary to what most will say in this modern time it is a decision you make all the way back before you said your vows.

When you marry someone you can love and be committed to, there are a lot of great things about marriage--in addition to sex. You've no longer running through life alone. A lot of things you did with friends, you now get to do with your spouse, and it's different and it's better than doing them with friends because your spouse is in it for you just as much as they're in it for themselves, meaning if there's some event you wanted to go to, your friends might have let you miss it and laughed at you whereas your spouse is likely to try to help you get to that thing. My wife knows I love to go fishing, and if there's a possibility I might not get to go for some random reason, she will tie on her boots, put on her warm outdoor clothing, crawl out into the outdoors with me, and we'll launch the boat and go fishing. She is there with me every step, and she is my support in every battle or fight. We've each lost family that was really close and a crucial part of our childhoods: friends might call once or a couple of times to check in on you, but a spouse sits there with you through it all, cooks you a meal to make sure you're eating, and surprises you with a new video game when you're ready to try to have a little fun again.

The best things about a spouse, and this is getting a little biblical, is that it is the literal tipping point in life when a man no longer looks to his parents for support but instead will turn to his spouse for physical and emotional support.
 
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StormCell

Member
One of my best buddies stabbed a guy 15 times after they spent a night drinking, getting high. He'd come round to my place earlier. I was just sitting in front of the tv getting stoned when he turned up. The moment he came in I knew something was off. I didn't know what it was but my spidey sense was going off. He didn't want a joint, he wasn't saying much. He hung around for about 10 minutes then took off. A little voice told me to go down and bring him back but I was stoned so I let him go. He went to a bar, met one of our friends and that was that. I've always felt none of it would've happened if I'd gotten my ass off the couch and brought him back.
Oof. I understand how you would regret that, but it for damn sure isn't your fault his ass stabbed a guy 15 times. You might have saved him from himself that night, but it could have happened any other night. Some people are just destined for ruin without a real philosophical shift in perspective and being.
 
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