What was the biggest fuck up of your life?
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PuppetSlave
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I dunno, if the fuck up is not that big then I don't regret them that much. They can teach me good lessons.
Example: I did not know what I wanted to study so I applied to a certain education more or less on random. 6 months later I knew that it was not for me at all but found out what I did want to learn. Turned to that instead and never looked back.
A year wasted maybe but it did learn me where I wanted to go in life professionally. I am very happy about that.
Example: I did not know what I wanted to study so I applied to a certain education more or less on random. 6 months later I knew that it was not for me at all but found out what I did want to learn. Turned to that instead and never looked back.
A year wasted maybe but it did learn me where I wanted to go in life professionally. I am very happy about that.
Ether_Snake:
Man, my childhood life was very similar to yours. Only real differences were that my parents seperated due to my dad trying to kill my mom and I when I was 3, after which he was in jail for several years, rather than a divorce; my dad then killed himself on his third attempt when I was twelve; and my mom is sensitive, over-protective, and a christian conservative, the exact opposite of myself. And I began living on my own when I was 19. Otherwise, spot on.
I know what you mean about becoming comfortable with being alone. About friendships being difficult to maintain because you just can't connect properly with other people, or because you simply don't care enough to bother. Emotional connections just don't rate as much as it feels like they should. And when you do find people that you actually want to be around, you end up pushing too hard because they're all you really have going on right now.
However, I do have outside interests like politics, tv, baseball, and video games that allow me to connect to other people, at least temporarily. And I have calmed down in terms of neediness. The key is just to continually meet and talk to new people. At work, at school, on the fucking street. Relationships come and go so easily, that a high rate of turnover works as a fair balance.
What I would recommend for you, is to find some roommates to live with, in a new city/country if you desire that cover; people that you can be comfortable around and whom you can be yourself around. Over time, this constant, inescapable contact and socializing should prove to be a benefit to your general interactions with others. You may hate it at first, but you might love it too. Depends on the roommates. And never, ever act needy. It's rough, but you just have to believe that there's always a light at the end of the tunnel, because sometimes there actually is.
Man, my childhood life was very similar to yours. Only real differences were that my parents seperated due to my dad trying to kill my mom and I when I was 3, after which he was in jail for several years, rather than a divorce; my dad then killed himself on his third attempt when I was twelve; and my mom is sensitive, over-protective, and a christian conservative, the exact opposite of myself. And I began living on my own when I was 19. Otherwise, spot on.
I know what you mean about becoming comfortable with being alone. About friendships being difficult to maintain because you just can't connect properly with other people, or because you simply don't care enough to bother. Emotional connections just don't rate as much as it feels like they should. And when you do find people that you actually want to be around, you end up pushing too hard because they're all you really have going on right now.
However, I do have outside interests like politics, tv, baseball, and video games that allow me to connect to other people, at least temporarily. And I have calmed down in terms of neediness. The key is just to continually meet and talk to new people. At work, at school, on the fucking street. Relationships come and go so easily, that a high rate of turnover works as a fair balance.
What I would recommend for you, is to find some roommates to live with, in a new city/country if you desire that cover; people that you can be comfortable around and whom you can be yourself around. Over time, this constant, inescapable contact and socializing should prove to be a benefit to your general interactions with others. You may hate it at first, but you might love it too. Depends on the roommates. And never, ever act needy. It's rough, but you just have to believe that there's always a light at the end of the tunnel, because sometimes there actually is.
ChackanKun
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I recently spilled alcohol (the one that's used to clean) on my laptop keyboard which caused some malfunction. It's working perfectly now...i hope 
I wish I was true to my self.
That's really all I can say. There's no specific thing, as I feel that I have lived a good life, but I wish that I had really reached for something more than the average life. Girl shit, school shit, friends, work, we all make mistakes. In the end it`s really about whether we`ve reached our full potential.
That's really all I can say. There's no specific thing, as I feel that I have lived a good life, but I wish that I had really reached for something more than the average life. Girl shit, school shit, friends, work, we all make mistakes. In the end it`s really about whether we`ve reached our full potential.
::FIXXXER::
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it happened on saturday night. Im still trying to figure out what what teh fall out will be.
involving a girl i like.
involving a girl i like.
:lol so many. I don't even remember the last time I used a calculator on a test in a mathematics course. Physics, sure, but not any of my college math courses (differential/integral calculus; sequences, series, and multivariable calc; matrices and matrix calculations; differential equations)roosters93 said:
brandonh83
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Either a girl I dated about 4 years ago or blowing a $5,000 credit line on pointless shit :lol
Dahellisdat said:
Oh I been there. This crazy chick just went totally ballistic at a pub one night. Scratched my face up pretty bad. Wouldnt say it was the worst fuck up of my life though. The sex was awesome.
Id say my general inability to find any direction in my life is my main problem. Its kind of like an ongoing clusterfuck and its not something I wanna be a part of anymore.
Unregistered007
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Ladies and Gentle man, let me present you with the biggest FUCK UP OF ALL.
I was one of the top student in Ontario, Canada. I was ace in
Physics, Chemistry, Maths and somewhat Bio in high school. I needed one extra credit so I took OAC (Grade 13) Computers and I got 91. I was really intrigued and I wanted to pursue a career in computer. I only did a little bit of Java and some HTML and I went to university and got admission in Computer Engineering. Anyways the first semester fucked me with, I failed the computer programming course, I had 70+ in other 4 courses and a 24 a 24 in PROGRAMMING course. I hated the Chinese Prof who could not speak English. The university gave me a choice to talk it again, I requested them to transfer me in some other engineering course where there is no computer programming. They said they don`t have any seats. So I went through and did the programming course, I still didn`t like it so guess what I did, I left university without telling anyone in administration, I got all DNW or failing marks.
I been trying to get into something at university level for a while. I still find interest in Science but I been working the shittest jobs since then. If there is any advise anyone can give me please let me know. I am trying to apply to York in Kinesiology and they have requested that I write them a letter. I would definitely like some advise on to how to write the letter, which by the way is due asap.
I was one of the top student in Ontario, Canada. I was ace in
Physics, Chemistry, Maths and somewhat Bio in high school. I needed one extra credit so I took OAC (Grade 13) Computers and I got 91. I was really intrigued and I wanted to pursue a career in computer. I only did a little bit of Java and some HTML and I went to university and got admission in Computer Engineering. Anyways the first semester fucked me with, I failed the computer programming course, I had 70+ in other 4 courses and a 24 a 24 in PROGRAMMING course. I hated the Chinese Prof who could not speak English. The university gave me a choice to talk it again, I requested them to transfer me in some other engineering course where there is no computer programming. They said they don`t have any seats. So I went through and did the programming course, I still didn`t like it so guess what I did, I left university without telling anyone in administration, I got all DNW or failing marks.
I been trying to get into something at university level for a while. I still find interest in Science but I been working the shittest jobs since then. If there is any advise anyone can give me please let me know. I am trying to apply to York in Kinesiology and they have requested that I write them a letter. I would definitely like some advise on to how to write the letter, which by the way is due asap.
CajoleJuice
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NOArmitage said:
Always lying to my parents about school stuff since 7th grade. I'm a senior now with 21 days left to graduate and my parents are still getting emails from teachers about how I'm missing work. I hate talking to my parents about stuff like that. Especially since I always manage to get it done. Rawr. :<
Unregistered007
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mrkgoo said:
I can do pretty well at university level in sciences.
Jacobi said:
What did you do to change that? Were you lazy in the beginning? Because I can't seem to actually FORCE myself to study for a test. I always say I'm going to make a schedule so that I would take one hour of my time to study, make homework, ... But I don't.
So my biggest fuck up, and still...fucking up..., is that I'm still too lazy to do something for school.
B!TCH said:I accidentally slipped a homeless guy a twenty when I meant to give him a one. They don't even look alike
This wouldn't have happened if you were in Canada.
Anyways, as for me, being too lazy to go out to social events. I still try to go now and again to meet my quota, but I'm just not the drinking/partying type. I'm sure my friends will grow out of it, but me not getting into it means impossibility in meeting girls. Not like I see any girls in engineering at University...they're all at the other end of the campus in arts courses. =\
Unregistered007 said:
Well that blows. TBH though, engineering courses in University are way beyond anything you do in high school. It doesn't help that many engineering profs are foreign, so you often need to learn by yourself. I couldn't imagine doing it without online notes...thankfully all of my classes have online notes, and the textbooks fill in the rest of the gaps.
Either way, don't feel too bad about not doing well in engineering. Over half of my friends dropped out or failed after first year...it's not for everyone.
As for the programming course...you must have gotten really unlucky and gotten a horrible prof or something. I don't remember my first year programming course was a stupidly easy Java introductory course. What language was the course in? Also, what university did you go to?
blackaroni
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Taking out a $13,000 student loan at the age of 19 so my ex-gf (gf at the time) could have a much needed car and place to live. We live and we learn. Funny thing is, I don't really regret it. God knows where she'd be if it wasn't for me, probably selling her body on a street corner.
HamPster PamPster
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Senior year of high school I quit track to be with a girl... who then dumped me
Our school lost the championship by 2 points, I could have been those 2 points
It was our coach's last season too - he deserved to go out on a win
Overall I wish I tried harder at sports - I never would have gotten a scholarship or anything but it would have been fun to try sports at the college level
EDIT: I hated not being able to understand professors as well! First semester Freshman year of college I dropped the math course requirement because I had no idea what the guy was saying. 6 years later and the math requirement was the very last class I took (only class I took that semester) man did I put that one off:lol should have just man'd up and got it out of the way early
I also took an 8am Chem course my first semester... the first in a long series of dumb college decisions
Our school lost the championship by 2 points, I could have been those 2 points
It was our coach's last season too - he deserved to go out on a win
Overall I wish I tried harder at sports - I never would have gotten a scholarship or anything but it would have been fun to try sports at the college level
EDIT: I hated not being able to understand professors as well! First semester Freshman year of college I dropped the math course requirement because I had no idea what the guy was saying. 6 years later and the math requirement was the very last class I took (only class I took that semester) man did I put that one off:lol should have just man'd up and got it out of the way early
I also took an 8am Chem course my first semester... the first in a long series of dumb college decisions
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roosters93 said:
ironically my math courses don't allow it.
and to everyone regretting videogames i'm smh.
it seems like it's caused a lot of social problems for people due to excess but for me it's been the ultimate tool in making friends.
im also kinda surprised at the number of people regretting not going pro in sports. kinda makes me wonder too... even though im mediocre at most sports and have the stamina of something with no stamina.
CharlieDigital
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w3stfa11 said:
More like a feeling of inferiority or a fear of heartbreak if she finds someone better than you.
KilgoreTrout
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Getting back together with an ex after she got out of rehab for being a heroin addict. Such a bad idea... :lol
Mr. Blonde
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Going to a local university instead of trying to get into a top one. But I'll correct that in my law school/graduate school search.
SouthernDragon
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Just happened today.
My best friend and I have been planning a trip abroad for almost a year. I slaved away in menial jobs for a year (never worked before) to save up enough cash to go. I barely save up enough, and all that's left is apply for the visa.
I apply for it at the last possible minute, like a fucking retard. Whatever. I usually get my visa in a week, no big deal, right?
The embassy delays all visas two days, and they just shut down for two additional days, which means I have just fucked over my friend badly. She's not going back to her country, which means she's missing out on a summer with friends and family, not going to celebrate her birthday with them, and she's going to have to go back to her university up north to take organic chemistry and something else for Summer A.
I'm pretty sure she hates me right now.
Which sucks, because we were as close as close can be.
There's really no justification here; I fucked up massively. : (
I'm surprised she's still even considering going with me.
My best friend and I have been planning a trip abroad for almost a year. I slaved away in menial jobs for a year (never worked before) to save up enough cash to go. I barely save up enough, and all that's left is apply for the visa.
I apply for it at the last possible minute, like a fucking retard. Whatever. I usually get my visa in a week, no big deal, right?
The embassy delays all visas two days, and they just shut down for two additional days, which means I have just fucked over my friend badly. She's not going back to her country, which means she's missing out on a summer with friends and family, not going to celebrate her birthday with them, and she's going to have to go back to her university up north to take organic chemistry and something else for Summer A.
I'm pretty sure she hates me right now.
Which sucks, because we were as close as close can be.
There's really no justification here; I fucked up massively. : (
I'm surprised she's still even considering going with me.
SouthernDragon
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mrkgoo said:
Miami to Beijing.
I purchased tickets and everything. Non-refundable, too.
Why? Because she thought I could be trusted to be a responsible person.
FairyD said:
That's quite the idea, but I'm sure she was looking forward to celebrating with childhood friends and family. Something tells me it's not going to be quite the same.
I'm not even sure I could afford to do anything. My job is 5 (10 if I'm lucky!) hours a week at 7~ dollars an hour.
P.S. It's nice.
Edit: Or at least it was.
Count Dookkake
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Raguel said:
That's the spirits!
Thunder Monkey
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That time I was a hired assassin for six years.
Holy crap...I have nothing that depressing, but mistakes are part of life and you gotta be sure to learn from them. So i'll list my mistakes and the positive outcome. I live life with no regrets and I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong.
* I was honor roll student in HS. I messed up my first year of college, due to a LOT of factors, mostly me being lazy and not sure what i wanted to do. Thanks to that I decided to move out of my town and start college elsewhere. I now know what it's like to have my own apartment, pay my own bills, had a roommate who's a life long friend. I am glad things turned out the way they did.
* I had 2 serious relationships before the last one, but they all ended in a very nice manner, because both girls had to move. There there was no shock when it was over. There was closure both times. I went off on my last GF in a fight she started (serious verbal abuse). She was at fault, but i went overboard with what i said and I dumped her on the spot. Thanks to that I got my first real heartbreak, and you're not a man until you experience a real heartbreak. I will be more careful in my next relationship/s and I'll be a better man
* I was honor roll student in HS. I messed up my first year of college, due to a LOT of factors, mostly me being lazy and not sure what i wanted to do. Thanks to that I decided to move out of my town and start college elsewhere. I now know what it's like to have my own apartment, pay my own bills, had a roommate who's a life long friend. I am glad things turned out the way they did.
* I had 2 serious relationships before the last one, but they all ended in a very nice manner, because both girls had to move. There there was no shock when it was over. There was closure both times. I went off on my last GF in a fight she started (serious verbal abuse). She was at fault, but i went overboard with what i said and I dumped her on the spot. Thanks to that I got my first real heartbreak, and you're not a man until you experience a real heartbreak. I will be more careful in my next relationship/s and I'll be a better man
SundaySounds
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clockradiospeakers
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B.K. said:
Indeed :/
Ether_Snake
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CygnusXS said:
Sounds like a difficult childhood, really harsh. In my case I'm not needy, I let get very easily and have done since early high school basically.
But yeah, I'll see what I can do, I agree with you.
WickedAngel
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Getting your mother pregnant.
...srsly though...
Trying to get through college without taking on debt. I stayed home for two years and went to community college while everyone else did the fucking sensible thing, went off to university, and had a great fucking time.
In the end, I still ended up having to take on debt once my workload got too large. Now I've transferred to university and I'm a year from graduating but the fact of the matter is that most meaningful, long-lasting friendships in college come from your dorm days. I can make friends but it's not the same.
...srsly though...
Trying to get through college without taking on debt. I stayed home for two years and went to community college while everyone else did the fucking sensible thing, went off to university, and had a great fucking time.
In the end, I still ended up having to take on debt once my workload got too large. Now I've transferred to university and I'm a year from graduating but the fact of the matter is that most meaningful, long-lasting friendships in college come from your dorm days. I can make friends but it's not the same.
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