Why are you so boring? (to Tabris)

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Staccat0 said:
Kind of a side tangent of this thread, but people who bitch about their Facebook friends posting too many pictures of their kids are... embarrassing. There is 0 reason to get pissed off that someone is sharing shit that their close friends and family clearly enjoy.

They just aren't your friends. It's weird you added them on FB to start with if you hate their joy so much. No one is stopping you from posting pictures of your food or links to political articles you didn't read or cat videos or selfies holding a beer or whatever brings joy to your empty existence.

Best case scenario you are what? Worried about a babies online privacy?

Sorry. We've had a few of these lately, and as a new parent it makes me feel unnecessarily self consious about sharing candid pics of my daughter in a place where her grandparents and great-grandparents have easy access. Then I remember that my friends actually like me.
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Yeah, I agree. Or the other thing is to just unfollow their feed and if you want to check up on them just manually go to their page. That being said, I don't really feel like sharing that intimate part of my life with everyone that is on my facebook and I have other personal reasons for not wanting to post pictures of my kid on my fb. My solution though is making a facebook dedicated to my kid/ their development, milestones, and daily stuff and only adding people I know will care about that stuff and that I feel comfortable sharing with.

But yeah it's just is weird to me to complain about someone else's posts of something they care about.
 
MogCakes said:
The twist: Tabris is actually married with kids and is faking his GAF persona
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That's the thing he's been faking his persona for a lot of years here.

Or I shouldn't say faking but exaggerating it. Looks like he realized a long time ago it's the only way he'd get attention plus things like this happen whenever he posts.

Best thing anyone could do is ignore him but he's really good at posting something just stupid enough to get people to respond.
 
I've had more or less no social life for the most part of my life. I met some good people recently. Unfortunately, I have little to talk about with them. Apart from gossiping and immediate surroundings there is little to talk about with me, and I hate gossip. I listen to music nobody likes, I'm not that interested in politics, or in watching sports, I play only single-player video games, nobody really cares what I do at work, I like to watch old and obscure movies nobody likes. I am refuse to talk about subjects such as religion, economics, ecology - because talking about something you know more about is frustrating for me.
I just haven't developed any interests that would ease socializing. I don't do anything that interesting to the common masses.
 
RedSonja said:
I've had more or less no social life for the most part of my life. I met some good people recently. Unfortunately, I have little to talk about with them. Apart from gossiping and immediate surroundings there is little to talk about with me, and I hate gossip. I listen to music nobody likes, I'm not that interested in politics, or in watching sports, I play only single-player video games, nobody really cares what I do at work, I like to watch old and obscure movies nobody likes. I am refuse to talk about subjects such as religion, economics, ecology - because talking about something you know more about is frustrating for me.
I just haven't developed any interests that would ease socializing. I don't do anything that interesting to the common masses.
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I don't think you got the point of this thread lol.
 
The twist is that OP didn't stop doing stuff with his friends because they're boring, his friends stopped doing stuff with him because he acts like a pretentious twat. Now he's desperate to gain validation for his vain and empty existence.
 
Oxn said:
Hes not living the dream. The dream is to have babies and smoke briskets on the weekend
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Don't forget friends.

I think I'm gonna go watch an episode or two. I'll be back here to discuss.

Pivot!

Pivotttttt
 
I know quite a few people like Tabris (from what I gather from his posts) and they're insufferable. Also I know a lot of young parents who are not boring at all. In fact, by the time I was one year old I had to get an addition to my passport because mine was already full so my parents definitely weren't boring by Tabris's definition.

I can guarantee that I've had at least as exciting and interesting a life as he has (again based on his posts) but I enjoy the experiences for what they are not because I think it will impress other people and I don't brag about my life to make me feel better about myself. I realize that not everyone is as privileged and fortunate as myself and think that is important to live modestly and help others who are less fortunate rather than being an ostentatious show off. Also, I am really looking forward to one day (hopefully soon) becoming a parent.
 
Had to skip to the end of the thread because the more I read the OP's posts, the more Elliot Rodgers/Patrick Bateman vibes I get. I can't be the only one feeling it right?
 
Hey why did this thread get so bi-

Risible said:
"Can you believe Tabris? Dude is never going to grow up. For fucks sake he's still dating 20 somethings. And if I have to hear one more story about how wasted he got last weekend I'm going to shoot myself. Yes, we get it Peter Pan, college never ended for you, some of us have moved on to adulthood."

What your friends with kids say about you on our super secret adults with kids only forum.
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CaLe said:
You try being interesting when the only free time you have is talking to an ungrateful friend at the bar.
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Zodzilla said:
OP's friends have witnessed the apex of human life and meaning. OP chugs a beer in a bar and wonders aloud, "HEY, this is fucking awesome! Who wouldn't want to do this shit forever!"
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jb1234 said:
A story I'm sure he'll be telling his kids some day.
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CaptainAhab said:
I haven't seen him post a single interest that isn't some middle of the road consumer bullshit. Renting a skidoo or eating a BRGR in a suit doesn't make you interesting. Maybe he grew up in the Midwest? Please tell us more about how people who created a meal for the human being they created are boring while you play video poker at the bar with 20 year olds.
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Snowman Prophet of Doom said:
OP, you come across like a smug ass in this thread. You're the millennial equivalent of Andre Gregory thinking that "losing oneself" in ridiculous New Age rituals is so deep and meaningful, when the reality is that a truly interesting person can get as much out of going on a walk with their kid as a climb up Everest. "Interesting" is something you bring to things, not something "out there", inherent in the nature of particular activities.
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Quick said:
I genuinely hope this is just an elaborate parody thread or straight troll job by Tabris. Because if what he's saying is actually all true, then I feel bad for him. This is straight up some Barney Stinson-type stuff that it's so cartoonish.

I take no issue in anything he typed out in terms of having fun, but to dismiss people with children so easily with such arrogance is just terrible.

In HIMYM, Barney didn't really get a lot of attention from his parents (dad was gone, mom wasn't always focused on him). I think I'm sensing the same with Tabris.

Not enough friends who want to hang out with him on his terms and doesn't value friendships enough to make a compromise or sacrifice once in a while, so he has to resort to hoping to entertain strangers. Reminds me of the lonely guy at the bar, who would randomly talk to anybody to be reminded that he's alive.
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xxracerxx said:
Anyone could do what tour books tell you to do, even new parents.
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It's Reyn Time! said:
I once successfully evaded the police while carrying an apocalyptically drunk friend on my shoulders. We ducked into an alley and didn't get caught, despite said friend loudly ranting about UK agriculture law.

I got Brian May (of Queen fame's) autograph while gushing blood from a nasty mosh pit related injury to my eye. I rambled something concussed about music and you could actually see the mixture of concern and disinterest in his handwriting.

As a house party I hosted was winding down I noticed a flashing yellow light coming through the curtains. Several friends of mine had raided a nearby construction/roadworks site and stolen every kind of stop sign, traffic cone, barricade etc and filled my front garden with them. The flashing lights came from the icing on the cake - a 12 foot tall set of battery operated traffic lights, cycling through red, amber, green. Thousands of pounds of equipment illuminating the whole street with the crime they'd just committed.

At another house party we stole an industrial roll of cling film from work, threaded a baseball bat through it and cling filmed the following; our friend Sarah to the staircase, our friend Tom inside his own car while he slept (he had to roll down a window and use his keys to cut his way out in the morning, it took him about an hour and a half) and both ends of a street using trees on either side of the road.

At that same house party the miserable shit I lived next door to kept phoning the police to complain and spying on people in our garden from his back window, so we faked an accidental death, complete with a hasty mannequin burial to give him a genuine reason to call the police.

I've been to a bunch of checklist places and done tourist bollocks, I've been blackout drunk, I've tripped my balls off and I've been as high as it's possible for me to get. I've been chased by the police, private security, thugs, a ticket tout, a German pimp, chavs and junkies, been attacked and fought back and I've walked home with the taste of blood in my mouth. I've made poor decisions because of lowered inhibitions and nightclub lighting and I'm sure I've BEEN the poor decision on more than one occasion. I've been disappointment with women I yearned for and fell deeply in love with ones I never expected I would. I did all of this while going to college, working full time and maintaining good friendships and relationships.

That part of my life was done by my mid twenties. It was reckless, experimental, insane at times and a whole lot of fun, but to have carried on chasing that would've been pretty pathetic going into my late twenties, thirties. I'm in my mid thirties and a parent now, and a fucking good one I have to say, in part because I got all of that shit out of my system while my body was capable of keeping up with it. I'm raising a human life and using the experiences I've had in my 35 years to shape it as best I can. That may seem boring to you, but by any scale it's more important and meaningful than eating at a well reviewed restaurant. Hopefully that's a value I can teach to my boy so that he doesn't end up a braggart and eternal bore who sees other people as being there for his entertainment.

That's the part you don't get, your friends who've become parents will occasionally wish they could have a night away, some rest perhaps, but by and large they knew what they were getting into and decided the sleepless nights and shitty nappies would be worth it. They'll have a romanticised notion of doing the things you do, but here's the thing: they're not wishing they could do it with you. They see your social media updates and they skip right past them, because they've decided what they're doing is more important and more rewarding than hanging out with you.
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Stasis said:
The pumpkin spice latter reply is the best.

It includes a promo video for a coffee place for no reason at all. A photo of his condo for anyone who hasn't seen it yet, and just tons of pretentiousness. Followed by, I don't really like coffee anyway, in a subsequent post.

Wow. As others have said, you're either aware of how you come across and don't care, or you're fully unaware. Not sure which is worse. Either way you should strive to correct it. It's a massive turn off and hindrance to acceptance. And don't say you don't want it. These threads exist to get attention and allow you to discuss your personal life. They're designed that way. That's obvious.

In a sense I understand you. I like the finer things. I come from money and I have it, maybe not as much you, maybe more. Its irrelevant and I dont care. I grew up in Greenwich Village to a father who's a psychoanalyst to many famous people from various walks. Which is simply so you understand my background. I've attended awesome events, traveled far and wide, been to the finest dining establishments, courtside seats, hanging with athletes after games blablabla. See? I'm on "your level". I've partied, a LOT, with a lot of really attractive women (by most people's standards, obviously taste isn't universal) and I've lived that bachelor life with a tidy well designed condo filled with nice things and zero financial concern or any responsibility beyond: who am I hanging out with tonight? And what restaurant should I go to? Every single fucking night, with a bunch of friends who did it too. Whole weeks of closing out local hotspots until 5am with staff because we knew the owners, waitresses, bartenders. It was fantastic and I regret nothing. It ended at 27. I'm around your age now.

I hit a point where, and I think this is personal to everyone rather than a specific age, I wanted more. Or less, depending on perspective. I guess you see it as less. I settled down with a great girl. She's sexy to me for a bunch of different reasons beyond just the physical. Her job (a nurse, helping people, caring), her tolerance of my eccentricities, all the little things she does, including the imperfections like leaving her clothes all over the bathroom floor constantly and messing up my well organized spaces (again, I understand you) because its exasperating yet adorable etc etc etc. We find the right one eventually. Most of us. Not everyone, and that's fine too... but regardless of relationship status you eventually settle. You calm down. Priorities shift. It doesn't become all about you anymore. You wanna make her/him happy. Or you wanna make your kid happy. You want to make your friends feel welcome and happy too, one reason we love hosting is the satisfaction we get from that. Seeing our friends kids eyes light up because they know we included them in the planning, its amazing. We love them like if they were our own. You want a family maybe too, then. Most of my friends have kids now and we still see them. Its less frequent but we have a blast, even if its different. They arrive early and leave earlier, yep. Their kids come. We play with them. We have fun. We dont get hammered and have spontaneous bar parties except for maybe 2-3 times a year. We want kids, and that's coming soon. You adapt to evolving personalities, priorities, lifestyles and friendships.

I'm not gonna say "grow up" because you aren't ready yet, or may never be, like I said... I think it's personal to everyone and not a set number. But I will say maybe grow up with how you present yourself. Or how much attention you seem to require. Ego stroking. Why? Get rid of your "boring" friends and find a new younger crowd with matching priorities and desires for now, or adapt to the omes you do have instead of the other way around. Find some common ground. Understand their side of things. Trust me when I say they don't all secretly envy you and want your life. I know I don't. I'm happy setting up on Sunday to do a full day of week prep-cooking and cleaning and then watching TV. I'm happy doing it on a Friday or Saturday even! Reading in bed. Discussing what shows were watching. Games were playing, books were reading, songs we like... it's different, bit its not horrible at all. You'll see.

And please leave out the condescending little smiley/winky face at the end of the one line reply. Come on now.

TL;DR: I can relate and understand but shit changes and you're not making any effort to "get it".
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Too much to respond to in this thread, but I'll get to them.

Only thing I wanted to note is I'm not a car salesmen lol, not even sure how that got started.

One of my favourite car designs is an Infiniti G35 though and if I didn't live downtown (it's gross even thinking about living in suburbia in a house with a lawn) and I wasn't against the carbon footprint of regular car use, I would want one of those. But most likely if I didn't live downtown (I just shuddered), I would try to get a Tesla so I could feel fine about my 2nd issue with cars.
 
The next turn this thread will take is a rousing debate between suburban living versus urban living!

Tabris man, can you at least try to see where the opposition is coming from? You don't have to agree, but come on dude, you've had a number of great posts explaining exactly what you want to be explained.
 
Chiming in again as a parent - I had the opportunity to go out to an occasion not unlike something I would do in my early twenties.

It was fun enough, but it was observing some of the group around me get particularly drunk and have their own version of "fun". I observed from afar and it made me think of this thread for a bit. It did somewhat feel like I was missing out and made me reflect about perhaps how boring a person I am.

But then I came home. I had missed giving my kids' bedtime stories and a goodnight kiss. I watched them sleep for a little while just sort of pondering.

There's nothing I would give up. If I have to be "boring" to do this parenting thing, it's easily worth it.
 
Tabris said:
Too much to respond to in this thread, but I'll get to them.

Only thing I wanted to note is I'm not a car salesmen lol, not even sure how that got started.

One of my favourite car designs is an Infiniti G35 though and if I didn't live downtown (it's gross even thinking about living in suburbia in a house with a lawn) and I wasn't against the carbon footprint of regular car use, I would want one of those. But most likely if I didn't live downtown (I just shuddered), I would try to get a Tesla so I could feel fine about my 2nd issue with cars.
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You sound like a cartoon character, man.
 
Tabris said:
Too much to respond to in this thread, but I'll get to them.

Only thing I wanted to note is I'm not a car salesmen lol, not even sure how that got started.

One of my favourite car designs is an Infiniti G35 though and if I didn't live downtown (it's gross even thinking about living in suburbia in a house with a lawn) and I wasn't against the carbon footprint of regular car use, I would want one of those. But most likely if I didn't live downtown (I just shuddered), I would try to get a Tesla so I could feel fine about my 2nd issue with cars.
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Well played. I am now convinced this is just an elaborate troll thread.
 
Tabris said:
Too much to respond to in this thread, but I'll get to them.

Only thing I wanted to note is I'm not a car salesmen lol, not even sure how that got started.

One of my favourite car designs is an Infiniti G35 though and if I didn't live downtown (it's gross even thinking about living in suburbia in a house with a lawn) and I wasn't against the carbon footprint of regular car use, I would want one of those. But most likely if I didn't live downtown (I just shuddered), I would try to get a Tesla so I could feel fine about my 2nd issue with cars.
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How can anyone take this thread seriously when OP post things like that lol
 
OP has out-robertsan21ed robertsan21!

Remember when robertsan21's tag used to be something along the lines of: Don't you love Me? Me! Me! Me!
 
Lev said:
Did Tabris talk about his flat yet? If not, then I'm impressed.
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Oh he has. And advertised his favourite coffee shop.
Tabris said:
Pumpkin spice lattes are gross to me. I like frappuccinos though. This is my go to coffee place:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmS9g97zUzE



Nope. I don't leave things out on display except electronics, keep things organized and clean. You can see here, nothing but controllers are visible:

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=963976

Plus I would never own a camera. Don't like carrying anything but my phone, my credit card holder, and my keys. I've reduced my keys I carry with a bluetooth lock on my door which I open with my phone. And once ApplePay is in Canada, I can get rid of the credit cards.
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Oxn said:
Hes not living the dream. The dream is to have babies and smoke briskets on the weekend
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Dat sunday breakfast tho.

In reality, the most interesting lives are somewhere in between. In the last year or so, I've enjoyed just chilling at a bbq with friends, having a board game night, taking a tour of the Cu Chi tunnels in Vietnam, drinking on a rooftop bar in Bangkok, hitting up an owl cafe in Tokyo, climbing up the Great Wall of China, seeing Chairman Mao's corpse on display, drinking in a hole in the wall bar in South Jersey with my sisters, getting surprisingly filmed singing Backstreet Boys karaoke for Hong Kong television, and all kinds of other cool shit. Life is awesome.

All this shopping and Vegas nonsense doesn't really interest me, but every once in a while it can be cool. But the "that's not fun" salt is just as bad and grating as Tabris' coked-up fastlane faux-lifestyle.

And if I never hear the "I created another human being, it's the most magical thing ever" line again, it will be too soon.
 
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