Why are you so boring? (to Tabris)

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Chichikov said:
Can I give you an advice?
Don't.
Of course you should spend quality time with your children and of course you should strive to be best parent that you can, but most (many? some? me and people I know? this ain't a survey) people will go crazy if they're spending all of their free time with their kids.
I strongly believe a well adjusted and happy parents are more important to a kid then having both of them present and engaged with them at all time.
And unless you have to work crazy long hours, it is possible to have kids, be a good parent and still have a meaningful, interesting part of your life that does not directly involve your kids.

Also, letting kids to have some time away from their parents (or at least time when their parents is not actively engaging them) are good for their development.
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Feel free to offer advice, mun.

I will ignore it.
I've got 3 kids, the eldest is 4 and I'm / we're surviving just fine.

The eldest doesn't need us as much now, goes over her friends house occasionally, spends the day with her grandparents occasionally, and the middle one is starting to get there as well.

The youngest though, still needs us (well, my wife mostly) a lot. And we're going to devote our time to her at the moment... They don't stay that young for long, so going to make the most of it.
 
Tabris said:
Listen to a 2 year old sing Let It Go for the 10th time.

vs

Joining in with a bunch of your friends, and some strangers you met before, singing in a karaoke room you guys rented out, doing shots right before you sing each time, after getting a table at the club where you met up with those strangers while one of your buddy tried to pick up a girl in the group, after pre-gaming at a local bar.
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Although the first one of these sounds pretty boring, I have to say that your idea of exciting and cool, sounds like the most depressing thing in the world. Is that the pinnacle for you? Sure going to the pub and getting drunk is great sometimes, but if singing Karaoke whilst you watch your friend try and pick up a girl is what is fun to you, then you really need to get out more.
 
Napoleonthechimp said:
Why does he have to be creepy in this scenario?

Rather that than waste time with women in their 30s who end up feeling pressured to have children it is more fun to date women in their 20s. It is also less cruel, as you're not wasting their time by running out their biological clock.
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LOL
 
Tabris said:
Listen to a 2 year old sing Let It Go for the 10th time.

vs

Joining in with a bunch of your friends, and some strangers you met before, singing in a karaoke room you guys rented out, doing shots right before you sing each time, after getting a table at the club where you met up with those strangers while one of your buddy tried to pick up a girl in the group, after pre-gaming at a local bar.
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It's again a difference of lifestyle and what you personally find interesting. 'Cause to be honest the second choice doesn't sound all that appealing to me and I'm not even a parent yet. But I've never really been on bars or drinking.
 
Chichikov said:
Can I give you an advice?
Don't.
Of course you should spend quality time with your children and of course you should strive to be best parent that you can, but most (many? some? me and people I know? this ain't a survey) people will go crazy if they're spending all of their free time with their kids.
I strongly believe a well adjusted and happy parents are more important to a kid then having both of them present and engaged with them at all time.
And unless you have to work crazy long hours, it is possible to have kids, be a good parent and still have a meaningful, interesting part of your life that does not directly involve your kids.

Also, letting kids to have some time away from their parents (or at least time when their parents is not actively engaging them) are good for their development.
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This 100%. Children who have their children around them constantly CAN (not will) become demanding and bossy. Being away from your kids at times is healthy for their independence.

Shit, I didn't see my dad more than a week out of every month when I was growing up, and I loved him more than anything. We had a falling out when I was an adult because of other stuff, but we're mending things up. It was never about quantity of time spent. It was about quality.

Captain Tuttle said:
Yes, OP is too old to be hanging out in bars

Time to grow up son
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I'm hoping this is sarcasm. Adults go to bars all the time, dude.
 
McGreevious said:
Which fictional character are you impersonating? It's on the tip of my mind, I just can't remember exactly who it is.
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I dunno why you would think this. I have my avatar as people would compare my posts to him like it was an insult so I wore it with pride as I think the character has good taste (I love his apartment). Before that it was Peyton Manning.

Fatalah said:
I'm pretty sure the OP is Jesse Katsopoulos from season 1 of Full House.
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Have mercy and cut. it. out.

jb1234 said:
Yeah, I had some fun times in my 20s but you have to grow up eventually. Get into your mid-30s and you'll find that your metabolism no longer can handle that lifestyle. Just a single shot of booze these days knocks me out.
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You can skip the pre-gaming and just sip on their drinks through out the night if you have an issue with metabolism. My girlfriend can't handle much alcohol so she just spaces out the drinking through out the night by ordering one drink and nursing that or just sipping on the drinks I get (I'm not a beer person and more cocktails - especially as I've gotten older). I can handle a lot though so not a problem for me.
 
Dead Man said:
Both sound pretty shit to me. :/
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So much this. We get it man, you have money and no responsibility. I mean, go back and just look at your threads here. Between your constant posting of your condo and how much money you've spent decorating it, repeated stealth brag threads about your sex life, and this thread, you really come across as a shallow, selfish, and frankly a bit boring person.

Maybe other people just grew out of the stage in life where you feel like you have to constantly try to impress people.
 
Tabris said:
Are you kidding? There's no set age for people going to bars.

Maybe you are thinking clubs?
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The character you're playing has a lot of growing up to do. I'm quite sure you're just out to rustle some jimmies - and it looks like it's succeeding - but the person you're pretending to be is really sad and based on the people who seemed to have never mentally developed past their early 20s. These are not people to emulate.
 
outunderthestars said:
So much this. We get it man, you have money and no responsibility. I mean, go back and just look at your threads here. Between your constant posting of your condo and how much money you've spent decorating it, repeated stealth brag threads about your sex life, and this thread, you really come across as a shallow, selfish, and frankly a bit boring person.

Maybe other people just grew out of the stage in life where you feel like you have to constantly try to impress people.
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I don't like confronting people, but this is definitely the impression I get from Tardis. And this indeed makes him come across as shallow and boring himself.
 
I'm going to add a slightly different perspective.

When all my peers (friends I grew up with) started having kids, I tried to empathise and go with it, but it wasn't until I had kids of my own that I truly "got" it.

I kind of dropped out of sync with them for a bit, but with kids, I fell in sync again. We're probably closer than ever (especially with social media and technology the way it is, I actually chat with my friends than I ever did at other times in my life that wasn't school).

Frankly, after kids, I felt I couldn't actually fully relate with people who didn't have kids. It's like you're suddenly part of a club and everyone else doesn't really "get" it. It sounds kind of bad, but it's really just priority changes, and what you have in common as priorities is simply not in sync any more.

Everyone grows up and moves on. You say drinking and partying out, and being spontaneous as "fun", but even you have to admit that your definition of fun changes as you grow. I mean, if you didn't, you might still be playing with action figures in the sandpit. How can you not see that it's possible to change priorities and definition of fun as you grow?
 
I have no interest in parenthood due to my belief that most people enter into it out of some dumb social obligation, or because they lack purpose in their lives so they pop out kids to give them it.

Those people's lives were empty and devoid of meaning before children. After kids they no longer have the time to mask it with interesting activities.

But hey, at least their kids will be someone. Right? Not if they follow in their parent's boring footsteps they won't. If you waste your lives then they'll likely amount to nothing, or spend the remainder of their lives struggling to overcome their parent's failings.

But hey... parenthood is magical!

jb1234 said:
Yeah, I had some fun times in my 20s but you have to grow up eventually. Get into your mid-30s and you'll find that your metabolism no longer can handle that lifestyle. Just a single shot of booze these days knocks me out.
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Maybe if people found themselves consistently working out then their metabolism wouldn't turn to shit.

For most being lazy and not developing good habits while taking up a sedentary lifestyle is what causes their metabolism to become garbage.
 
lol I don't know how thinking new parents are boring is a character. It's my real feelings and based on the non-parents responding to this (about a quarter of the posts) agreeing with me, seems like I am on to something.

I get called a character for any of my opinions, whether sports (my nhl and nfl fandom), gaming (my sony fandom), dating and sex life, urban vs sub-urban, interior design (people don't like me discussing my condo's interior design), and doing fun things like dining out. They are just my real opinions.

All of that is off topic though. I have a feeling you know you became boring so you're trying to deflect the conversation :)
 
Napoleonthechimp said:
Maybe if people found themselves consistently working out then their metabolism wouldn't turn to shit.

For most being lazy and not developing good habits while taking up a sedentary lifestyle is what causes their metabolism to become garbage.
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What does working out have to do with tolerance to alcohol?
 
Tabris said:
All of that is off topic though. I have a feeling you know you became boring so you're trying to deflect the conversation :)
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who would've guessed the thread would turn and OP would resort to insulting people? How boring and mundane OP.
 
FortuneFaded said:
What does working out have to do with tolerance to alcohol?
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You burn sugar (ethanol) faster when your ATP>ADP cycle is faster due to working out / gaining muscle. That's why non-muscular people get drunk faster, they don't burn as much ethanol in their system.
 
I had a friend show me her daughter's dance recital rehearsal footage on her phone. All the girls are like under age 5, so they're nothing but headless chickens wandering around aimlessly. 20-30 seconds sure that's fine, but she showed me the ENTIRE video. It was 2 minutes of hell and me biting my tongue.

I know you're proud parents and all, but OMFG, no childless folks nor other parents that are outside your family tree finds this mundane act of not dancing amusing.
 
Herbs said:
who would've guessed the thread would turn and OP would resort to insulting people? How boring and mundane OP.
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If you think that's an insult then just a tease in response to people calling me a character, maybe parenthood has made you too sensitive ;)
 
Tabris said:
lol I don't know how thinking new parents are boring is a character. It's my real feelings and based on the non-parents responding to this (about a quarter of the posts) agreeing with me, seems like I am on to something.

I get called a character for any of my opinions, whether sports (my nhl and nfl fandom), gaming (my sony fandom), dating and sex life, urban vs sub-urban, interior design (people don't like me discussing my condo's interior design), and doing fun things like dining out. They are just my real opinions.

All of that is off topic though. I have a feeling you know you became boring so you're trying to deflect the conversation :)
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No, because you talk like a normal human being in the NFL thread. Also, I don't have kids so your continued messing around misses its mark yet again.

I just have a basic understanding of growing up. I'm sorry I don't believe anybody is quite so dumb as to not make the connection between things they once liked falling out of favor and others no longer thinking doing shots at the bar are the pinnacle of entertainment. Unless you literally do the things you did as a child, there is a zero percent chance you do not understand this.

So, there are three options. One, you're incredibly stupid - and again, you post like a regular human everywhere else so this is out. Two, you still play with Legos and think Power Rangers are the best TV show ever. Or three, you're just fucking around. There is no fourth option.
 
Napoleonthechimp said:
Why does he have to be creepy in this scenario?

Rather that than waste time with women in their 30s who end up feeling pressured to have children it is more fun to date women in their 20s. It is also less cruel, as you're not wasting their time by running out their biological clock.
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WanderingWind said:
No, because you talk like a normal human being in the NFL thread. Also, I don't have kids so your continued messing around misses its mark yet again.

I just have a basic understanding of growing up. I'm sorry I don't believe anybody is quite so dumb as to not make the connection between things they once liked falling out of favor and others no longer thinking doing shots at the bar are the pinnacle of entertainment. Unless you literally do the things you did as a child, there is a zero percent chance you do not understand this.

So, there are three options. One, you're incredibly stupid - and again, you post like a regular human everywhere else so this is out. Two, you still play with Legos and think Power Rangers are the best TV show ever. Or three, you're just fucking around. There is no fourth option.
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I play with Lego :(
 
FortuneFaded said:
What does working out have to do with tolerance to alcohol?
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Do you think working out is purely about aesthetics? Intense exercise boosts your entire metabolic system. It also boosts your testosterone levels and makes you feel young well into old age.

Not keeping the future in mind when they're young is what results in people's metabolism turning to shit as they get older.
 
WanderingWind said:
So, there are three options. One, you're incredibly stupid - and again, you post like a regular human everywhere else so this is out. Two, you still play with Legos and think Power Rangers are the best TV show ever. Or three, you're just fucking around. There is no fourth option.
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I said I understood why they have little time. I'm not complaining about the fact they have less time, that's understandable. I am complaining about how they use that time and the types of conversations we have after they have had kids. I was using the karaoke bar example as a contrast against listening to your friends kid singing Let It Go 10 times over - plus karaoke rooms are good times.

Also I never really played with legos as a kid.
 
Napoleonthechimp said:
Do you think working out is purely about aesthetics? Intense exercise boosts your entire metabolic system. It also boosts your testosterone levels and makes you feel young well into old age.

Not keeping the future in mind when they're young is what results in people's metabolism turning to shit as they get older.
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I think having lots of alcohol when you are young turns you to shit as you get older. It is probably true that if you have someone of the same gender and height who are both non-drinkers but one works out a lot more than the other, then the one who works out will be able to tolerate more on average. But people built up a tolerance of alcohol by regularly having it and that make much more of a difference than whoever works out more.
 
McGreevious said:
The bolded isn't true at all. And I probably wasn't clear with what I meant by that comment. I'm not saying you need to be an active part of the kids life, but it's no unreasonable to expect you to at least be interested in it, especially if you were good friends with the parents. And I don't mean asking how the kid is getting on because you feel like they want you to ask, but I just feel that if you were good friends with these people you should be genuinely interested in their child and be empathetic to the fact that they have a new top priority in life now.
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I can agree with that. This is probably one of those "extremes" issues, where parents who constantly shove their progeny in your face are annoying, and people that won't hang out with new parents are mean.

Parents that are sensitive to the idea that other people won't find their kids fascinating, and non-parents that show some empathy and take some interest in their friends' children, should all get along just fine.

That said, I stand by my view that in general parents misjudge how interesting their kids are, to the rest of the world.
 
Are you sure you're not the one who is boring OP? Did you ever consider that they find you just as boringseeing as you have nothing in common with them?

I'm sure your 30-something friends with kids find it hard to find anything in common with your 20-something girlfriend and your immature outlook on life.

Maybe they have all grown up and you are still desperately trying to hold on to a way of life that you are too old for.
 
Ruddles72 said:
I can agree with that. This is probably one of those "extremes" issues, where parents who constantly shove their progeny in your face are annoying, and people that won't hang out with new parents are mean.

Parents that are sensitive to the idea that other people won't find their kids fascinating, and non-parents that show some empathy and take some interest in their friends' children, should all get along just fine.

That said, I stand by my view that in general parents misjudge how interesting their kids are, to the rest of the world.
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There's also probably bit of bias, as the parents who DON'T show off their kids...you never see...;)
 
Tabris said:
I said I understood why they have little time. I'm not complaining about the fact they have less time, that's understandable. I am complaining about how they use that time and the types of conversations we have after they have had kids. I was using the karaoke bar example as a contrast against listening to your friends kid singing Let It Go 10 times over - plus karaoke rooms are good times.

Also I never really played with legos as a kid.
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Then frankly, you should understand that the types of conversation people find entertaining are entirely subjective. Again, if I approach a non-football fan and trying to strike up a conversation about MNF, they would very likely be bored out of their gourd. And with the Lego line there, it's abundantly clear you're still fucking around. Nobody is quite that dense. Stop playing, bro. lol
 
you sound like an immature egomaniacal twit. You "get" this and that, yet you don't get the simple logic behind having a baby = life changer, complaining about how these probably dead tired and busy people whose life has become ten times more complicated than before can't be as extraordinarily brilliant as you anymore during conversations, poor soul. Meh. Grow up
 
Tabris said:
No I mean my answer is always yes to something like that. That's why I don't like planning things weeks out. You never know what better thing may become available. Need to be available for the opportunity.

Actually, you know what the difference is - it's like those beer commercials that show the person who said yes to something and the person who said no. I'm trying to find them on youtube. That encapsulates it well.
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Yeah i understand. But a person with a kid has new responsibilities. Ofcourse, there comes a time, after a year or two years when he should be able to answer that question with "yes!" again too.
 
Napoleonthechimp said:
Do you think working out is purely about aesthetics? Intense exercise boosts your entire metabolic system. It also boosts your testosterone levels and makes you feel young well into old age.

Not keeping the future in mind when they're young is what results in people's metabolism turning to shit as they get older.
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Is there really a connection to "intense exercise" and alcohol tolerance? I think a marathon runner for instance would have lower alcohol tolerance than an old man or alcoholic that does not exercise much but drinks hard alcohol all the time (or even just somebody that is taller and weighs more).
 
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