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Why Being Smart Won't Help Get You Laid
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ILOVEASIANS
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Ultimo hombre said:
amirite?
titiklabingapat
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Even if you're not attractive, it is extrmely easy to get laid. It's a matter of quality, really.
Baggatoast
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I usually pace around a girl or follow her from a distance for a couple of hours before I guster the courage to talk to her. Most of the time she won't open the window :/.
But in all seriousness if I talk to a girl I ask a lot of questions, start basic and get more and more personally. Works most of the time.
But in all seriousness if I talk to a girl I ask a lot of questions, start basic and get more and more personally. Works most of the time.
SnakeswithLasers
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Like I'm going to trust something written by a Ph.D. about why he doesn't get laid..."obviously it's because I'm super rad."
I think the article should have been retitled to demonstrate how smart people have problems with long term relationships, or even getting to that point at all. In college, most people can get laid just by adding alcohol to the equation. The farther you get into a relationship, though, the more difficult it is to stay interested with someone who you may have nothing in common with, or someone who isn't on the same level as you intellectually.
I'm sure this also doesn't really apply to the normal above average student, it's the person that chose school over everything else. Most of these kids probably have trouble relating to people because they don't have a great interest in anything else
I'm sure this also doesn't really apply to the normal above average student, it's the person that chose school over everything else. Most of these kids probably have trouble relating to people because they don't have a great interest in anything else
NarcissisticJay
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Im not getting laid because my boyfriend is on NeoGaf while I'm the one playing video games!!! Signed, Amy
Monocle
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Social development problems can occur when a person allows just about any solitary activity to dominate his or her life. This is hardly limited to cerebral pastimes, so intelligence can't be treated as the defining factor. Sit on your ass watching sitcoms every day for years and you'll have social problems. If anything, more intelligent people will be better off, assuming they spent their time on mentally enriching activities.ATF487 said:
Ultimo hombre said:
Nasty! I love it!
Baggatoast said:
I think most people are like that. What annoys me though is those who basically hangs around you for aaaaaages (try days, weeks, or months) but won't even start a convo at all. How was I supposed to know if you're interested or not if you don't even converse? Okay, if I like the person, I'd start the convo first but for once, I'd like to see someone that I like to have the guts to start a convo first especially if the person has been staring/following me around for ages.
SouthernDragon
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Ultimo hombre said:
We have a winner!
soundahfekz
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Never stopped me from getting laid. Relationships on the other hand, it's hard to find an equal.
Snowman Prophet of Doom
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To clarify my previous post: I do not presume that I am smart (I think that I am, but I do not presume). Rather, I mean that the type that they describe - one who mostly stayed in his house when young and now has no idea how to function in social situations - is the type of person that I am. This fact depresses me endlessly. I can have a lot of friends, but when it comes to women I lack even the most basic sense on how to proceed. I'm close to just forgetting about it all together and quitting.
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Pimpwerx said:
But do they love game?
I find this article pretty accurate, in my experience.
I'm a smart motherfucker, but there are different "smarts' engaged when you are going after a girl, and over-thinking things, as smart people tend to do, will usually fuck up the balance.
Cavemanning that shit is much much more effective.
I'm a smart motherfucker, but there are different "smarts' engaged when you are going after a girl, and over-thinking things, as smart people tend to do, will usually fuck up the balance.
Cavemanning that shit is much much more effective.
SnakeswithLasers
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ReiGun said:
Apparently you don't work at a university.
ProfessorLobo
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baultista said:
At least you have the "not smart" thing going for you. Maybe that will overrule the fat thing.
cyclonekruse
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Monocle said:
I thought it pretty obvious that the article was directed at a specific kind of "smart" person. There are clearly different types of intelligence and those with social intelligence probably aren't going to be having the problems outlined in the article. And there are plenty of people who are both book smart and people smart. Benzer is talking to the academically-gifted-but-socially-inept smart people and trying to explain to them why they fail at relationships. He's not really making any sort of connection between intelligence and being awkward at parties.
Yes, we're a dominant species because of our frontal lobes. Our reasoning allows us to develop and employ much more complex strategies for survival and, yes, even mating. However, there is such a thing as overthinking. That's partially what social anxiety is. You (your brain) starts going into all the "what if?"s of the situation, especially the outcomes that will end poorly, and you become paralyzed with fear. Our frontal lobes can get us into trouble that way. So, yes, not thinking quite so much can be helpful at times. Letting the various modules in your head do their thing without "you" getting in the way as much can be beneficial. Hence, why the social lubricant known as alcohol works so well.
_Alkaline_
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Kinda disagree.
More intelligent = more likely to hold a good conversation = more likely to FHUTA.
More intelligent = more likely to hold a good conversation = more likely to FHUTA.
Ben Pierce
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wow, I used to be that guy. I was that way for a very long time, but I grew out of that stage. I'm still smart and take my studies seriously, but I'm much more sociable, and that's the biggest part. Make a girl laugh and you're golden
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will gently cradle you as time slowly ticks away.
Number 5 describes me perfectly. My standards are that high that I could be a consultant with the IEEE. Whilst I like my partners to be physically attractive, I prefer intelligence to looks. Simply because I couldn't relate to someone of a lower intelligence (they couldn't relate to me either) nor would we be equals in a relationship.
Actually it's all about confidence. In a lot of cultures men are seen as confident by being aggressive and by using this aggression to get their way. You'll be hard pressed to find a culture wherein this is not the case. As for Japan, they're pretty much the same - unless of course you're one of these herbivore men that is.
nyong said:
Actually it's all about confidence. In a lot of cultures men are seen as confident by being aggressive and by using this aggression to get their way. You'll be hard pressed to find a culture wherein this is not the case. As for Japan, they're pretty much the same - unless of course you're one of these herbivore men that is.
fallengorn
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But what if you are smart at getting laid?
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PantherLotus said:
This. The guys I have been most attracted to in life have been highly intelligent, driven, very high achievers and successful, and they had the charisma to match their intelligence.
And as far as sex goes, the best sex has a strong mental chemistry to it. If you can't stimulate my mind then you aren't likely to stimulate much else.
Tonay said:
LOL, so true. But there's a big difference between that and the nerdy passive aggressive type of cockiness and arrogance.
When women claim to not like traits like that, they're thinking of like how Richard Dawkins acts. An insufferable little shit. Unfortunately for those who want to debunk the article, there's a pretty large sect on Neogaf that thinks he acts really cool.
Want to know what's worse IMO than the totally quiet nerd, or the passive aggressive narcissist nerd? The obnoxious, loud, thinks-he's-REALLY-funny nerd that can't stop talking. This guy annoys the entire lunchroom every single day. Still, somehow, I bet this type of nerd gets more play than the other two among the females in their Smash Brothers playgroup. He is easily able to assimilate into other groups of people with horrible senses of humor. He is the fucking alpha nerd and he fucking knows it.
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nyong said:
yes, japan is like the virgin's mecca, amirite?
because all the socially-inept white dudes are getting tons of pussy there just because they're so smart, i'm sure.
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