Why do people hate kid's pictures on social media?

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Didn't know people cared that much. If my friends start posting non-stop of their kids (which no ever really does), I'll just skip it. Like everything else. Most of the time, they're cute pics so I've never really found it problematic.
 
Nyoro SF said:
It's not the content, it's the amount.
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I agree to an extent. Although, by the same token, it's also kinda the content.

My roommate and I had this conversation the other day. From the moment kids are born nowadays they have a camera shoved in their face. And let's be honest, the kids could give two shits about how many likes or comments their picture receives on the internet. That's our generations obsession, even if we're seeding the next one with it.

So, I guess to me it's both the content and the amount. They go hand in hand.
 
Staccat0 said:
I know people are going to say, "It can get annoying" but I am curious if anyone can articulate why.

What else do people post on social media? Pictures of themselves eating or drinking? Dumb political memes? Links to articles people "like" but don't read? Youtube videos? None of that seems any better.

What is it about kids that bugs people? Personally, I use FB to stay connected to my friends. If they had a kid, I would assume that is part of that. Is the problem just that people are FB friends with people who aren't actually their friends?

It makes me think that these people just wish they were using Twitter, but are too lazy. FB is mostly for older people now right?
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As a general rule, kids are nowhere near as cute or interesting as their parents believe. : p
 
Nyoro SF said:
It's not the content, it's the amount.
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It's this. 99% of the time a person posts a picture of their kid they're not doing anything of note. Seeing that every other day is annoying.

People who constantly do everything else you listed in the OP are annoying too. It's why I have like half of the people on my friends list removed from my feed.
 
Aren't image recognition alogorithms good enough to identify most pictures that people post online? Facebook should be able to auto-tag or flag pictures of children.

I should be click on a friend's profile and select an option that says "Do not show me pictures of this person's children (or meals or whatever)". I shouldn't have to block/unfriend someone completely just because they are overzealous about their toddler's day at the beach.
 
I don't get it. Why do people have so much trouble just scrolling past things they don't want to see or care about? Do you read every single thing that every single one of your friends post?
 
I'm just not interested in pictures of other people's kids or pets. I don't make a big deal about it though, and just continue scrolling past them.
 
Marty Chinn said:
I don't get it. Why do people have so much trouble just scrolling past things they don't want to see or care about? Do you read every single thing that every single one of your friends post?
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I have a lot of funny and interesting friends who post great articles, have interesting discussions, and are generally entertaining

until it comes to their kids. I'm sure I'll find those photos more interesting if I ever have kids of my own, but that's not the plan right now so I do just scroll on past them. If I have a friend who only spams photos of kids (I do have a few) they get unfollowed on my news feed because I'm not interested in the slightest.
 
Marty Chinn said:
I don't get it. Why do people have so much trouble just scrolling past things they don't want to see or care about? Do you read every single thing that every single one of your friends post?
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You don't have to read anything to see a picture. When people have a habit of doing something like posting the same thing over and over it goes from "Oh look, a picture of Jimmy's kid." to "Christ, Jimmy posts a lot of pictures of his kid."

You're kind of missing the whole point of what people are saying, which is that you don't even have to read every single post your friends put out because they're doing it so often that at any given time you could scroll through your feed and see more pictures. It ends up feeling like spam mail.
 
Nyoro SF said:
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Bingo, exactly why I created a Group to post my kid's pictures in. I invited any friends and family that wanted to be included initially, gave the option to my other friends to request an invite, and I can control what others (Friends of Friends, etc.) can see.

Win, win, win.
 
Zen_Arcade said:
You don't have to read anything to see a picture. When people have a habit of doing something like posting the same thing over and over it goes from "Oh look, a picture of Jimmy's kid." to "Christ, Jimmy posts a lot of pictures of his kid."

You're kind of missing the whole point of what people are saying, which is that you don't even have to read every single post your friends put out because they're doing it so often that at any given time you could scroll through your feed and see more pictures. It ends up feeling like spam mail.
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I don't get worked up over it though. People post pics, memes, articles, video links, etc. Plenty of visual things and if I don't care about it, I just scroll right past it and move on. I don't look at every single thing that everyone posts. I skim and stop where it's something interesting and then scroll by anything I'm not or not in the mood for. I just don't get why people get so upset rather than scroll and move on.
 
Marty Chinn said:
I don't get worked up over it though. People post pics, memes, articles, video links, etc. Plenty of visual things and if I don't care about it, I just scroll right past it and move on. I don't look at every single thing that everyone posts. I skim and stop where it's something interesting and then scroll by anything I'm not or not in the mood for. I just don't get why people get so upset rather than scroll and move on.
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I mean, I don't really see anyone in here getting worked up. You can be annoyed by something without getting outright angry about it. I guarantee you the vast majority of people in here do just scroll by them. But for like a split second while the picture passes they think "Christ, another one?"

Annoyance is actually a very mild reaction to something you don't like.
 
Because a lot of people think their kids are exceptionally cute or remarkably gifted and that everyone else needs to know this so they can marvel. Most of the time, it's not true. I mean, it's good that the parents think so, as they clearly love their kids, but the rest of us don't care. Some people fall into the trap of having their entire identity become "parent", so all they want to talk about or post is their kids and it's tedious to literally everyone else. Other parents might be into talking about parenting with these people, but they really want an opportunity to talk about their own kids and have only a mild interest in other people's.

That said, I know a guy whose posts are almost all pictures of his kid, but he's a great photographer so the photos are well-composed and aesthetically pleasing. I don't mind looking at those because he's made it interesting. Conversely, I know someone else who only posts gripes about their schedule and the dullest selfies imaginable. It doesn't have to be about kids to be annoying.
 
A bunch of defensive parents ITT I see.

Why does it get to you that someone dislikes your pictures online? That's always been the case, forever on any site.
 
I kinda hated pictures of other people's kids until I had kids. Now I'm excited to see my friends families usually. But we tried not to post much for awhile, to protect our kids privacy (my wife's starting to abandon that).

I hate religious/atheist/"funny"/political posts though. Happily, I can now just block people.
 
I don't need to see every thing that you thought was cute that your kid did. Post some milestone pictures, or them doing something new for the first time. Go ahead and post, but don't be excessive.

I don't need:
1. You and the kids enjoying another movie night in on the couch!
2. The fiftieth trip to the beach this year!
3. Just a picture of your kid standing in the kitchen, and you caption it: McKayla's acting all sassy again!
4. Out to eat!
5. Kids get to visit Grandma and Grandpa again. Although these can sometimes be good if you accidentally capture a look of disgust from one of the grandparents for you letting your shitty kid wear an angry birds t-shirt to Aunt Jo-Anne's funeral. Also, why the fuck are you taking pictures at a funeral?

I'm a parent of one kid. He's 14, and I don't really post family pictures. I try to keep it to around two a month, which I think is palatable.
 
there's a biological reason that you see your own offspring as these wondrous and magical people. and because of that, the same pictures you put up of your kid that seem super interesting to you are probably not that interesting to other people. that said, three seconds of my attention on a news feed isn't some steep price to pay.
 
Honestly, I love all the kid pictures everyone on my Facebook posts. I really enjoy seeing people I grew up with moving on to the next phase of their life.

As far as my own pictures, I pretty much just have Facebook so my relatives (the closest of who live 5 states away) can see my kids grow up as I only get to see them once a year if that. They usually get on my case if I don't post a lot of pictures of my kids. If scrolling by a person on Facebook is too difficult for you, you should look into curating your page using the tools they offer you. There's literally no reason to whine about it one way or the other.
 
As an adult, I am in control of how big or how small my digital presence is.

When people put their children on Facebook, they're making that decision for them. That child will never have a voice in their exposure.

That irks me.
 
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Know a girl who used be a "bad ass" then she had a kid and now her FB page is 90% "Here is my kid being a kid."

It's really interesting to see the change over.
 
As far as posts that annoy me on Facebook, pictures of kids rank way below uninformed political memes, sharing clickbait articles, and pitches for multilevel marketing schemes.

I think what a lot of people are not understanding is that they are not the targeted audience for these pictures. People are using Facebook and the like as an easy way to share pictures with grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. You may not be interested, but those pictures are probably getting a lot of likes.
 
My former best friend (who got married and subsequently decided that keeping in touch with his friends of several decades wasn't worth the time, but that's a whole other discussion) and his wife would post baby pictures of his kid every day. Several of them in fact... every day. And then his mom would repost them. And his new family in law would post pictures of the kid on their timeline constantly. So Everytime I went to Facebook there was this kid, just a massive onslaught of this average baby doing it's average things.

The thing is, kids aren't anything special, and if you have no real emotional bond to the little bugger it's just that, an average kid on a horsey, an average kid in a stroller, an average kid on the slide. Those pictures are fine for you to have and keep for later, but nobody really actually cares. Now, to occasionally post some cute pics of your kids is just fine. Just like it is fine to occasionally post your pets, your car, or whatever else is going on in your life. But know that having a kid is nothing special and most people don't need five pics a day of a kid doing regular kid things. If he wins a gold medal at a track meet? Sure, post a pic of the kid on the podium. But if it's a kid on a horse getting led around by an adult? Probably not very interesting... which is why you only got likes from your direct family and nobody else.

Also, kids aren't little wonders. Really, they are a natural occurrence that is the result of regular biology. Most humans have a need to procreate, so you had sex, and then natural biology happened and now there is a baby. Happened like ten billion times in the last century alone if you are only counting humans. I understand you are proud, but again, to anyone else: nothing special unless your kid did something actually impressive.

Now, rant said and done, I don't hate pictures of kids, but try and limit yourself or you will end up getting unfollowed. Still, hardly the worst offenders on FB.
 
Narcissism. By that I mean they can't stand to share the spotlight with someone else's kids. They want their stupid cat pictures front and center, or their lunch, or what they're going to wear over the weekend, what they just unboxed from eBay/Amazon, etc.
 
It's always the number - multiple pictures every day of your bundles of joy are just as annoying as multiple articles every day showing Bernie had the election stolen from him.
 
My in-laws don't seem to filter their photo uploads an awful lot - so if they go to the park for a day and snap 200 pictures, those are all getting dumped on Facebook when they get home. Why? No idea.

I might put up a couple dozen photos of my kids over a year.
 
People in here really hate the people they follow. I love seeing pictures of cute little babies, they remind me of my cute tiny little niece.
 
I have banned family and friends from posting pictures of my son on Facebook. The thought that somebody in the future like an employer could track my son from birth online is a nightmare to me. I have posted pictures of him here as it is anonymous, but fuck everyone in my town knowing my business.

I would maybe be a bit more relaxed, but a certain family member is obsessed with Facebook and posts everything they do and are friends with pretty much everyone that lives here, including people I very much dislike.

Not judging others that do post them, it's just a personal boundary of mine. I don't and never will have a Facebook account.
 
| Praxis | said:
I have banned family and friends from posting pictures of my son on Facebook. The thought that somebody in the future like an employer could track my son from birth online is a nightmare to me. I have posted pictures of him here as it is anonymous, but fuck everyone in my town knowing my business.
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I'd be careful with that assumption, if I were you. I suspect by the time our kids are out looking for jobs facial recognition searching will be so sophisticated that nothing will be anonymous. I say this as someone who has posted my kid's picture here once or twice.
 
I see it as removing a layer of privacy that the child has no idea they are entitled to.

If my parents were acting like amateur paparazzi, I would grow up to despise them for it. A child is to young to understand how privacy works, and this is robbing them of a basic human right.
 
There's always one thing that people hate to see on Facebook and would rather complain about it than hit the "unfollow" button.

Kor of Memory said:
I see it as removing a layer of privacy that the child has no idea they are entitled to.

If my parents were acting like amateur paparazzi, I would grow up to despise them for it. A child is to young to understand how privacy works, and this is robbing them of a basic human right.
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lmao what

People need to accept that your parents are always in control of your privacy until you're 18/out of your parents home.

My baby photos are definitely not an invasion of my privacy lol.
 
Kisaya said:
There's always one thing that people hate to see on Facebook and would rather complain about it than hit the "unfollow" button.
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No one here is really complaining tho. Op asked a question and we answered. Otherwise i never complane about this issue.
 
Kisaya said:
There's always one thing that people hate to see on Facebook and would rather complain about it than hit the "unfollow" button.



lmao what

People need to accept that your parents are always in control of your privacy until you're 18/out of your parents home.

My baby photos are definitely not an invasion of my privacy lol.
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That's exactly the point. The parents are in control of that privacy and are neglecting it terribly.

And I don't know about you but my baby photos are in an album in a closet somewhere. Not on a digital media site for countless people to view.
 
Bio-Frost said:
No one here is really complaining tho. Op asked a question and we answered. Otherwise i never complane about this issue.
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Wasn't referring to people in this thread, but answering the question as well.

Kor of Memory said:
That's exactly the point. The parents are in control of that privacy and are neglecting it terribly.

And I don't know about you but my baby photos are in an album in a closet somewhere. Not on a digital media site for countless people to view.
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I don't think parents are neglecting that privacy at all. Back then I bet your parents shared that album to the whole world (or at least, whenever someone visited or carrying it with them). If they didn't, I can guarantee most parents have. My parents sure were passing by baby photo album around and bringing it along with them to gatherings.

Being in a digital world now, Facebook is more accessible to document and achieve baby/family photos. A hell lot cheaper than printing photos and buying albums to put them in.
 
I keep the amount of times I post my daughter to about twice a month. Not cause I give a shit what other people on Facebook think, they can block or unfriend me if they don't like it. But I just don't post her that much.
 
Baby pictures are fine, I think I just find excessive cooing a bit annoying. IMO it can become the parental equivalent of "had a salad today" level of status updates.
 
Kisaya said:
There's always one thing that people hate to see on Facebook and would rather complain about it than hit the "unfollow" button.
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The thread is about people who dislike seeing these pictures and why, not people who complain about it and why.

Also in terms of Facebook offense, it's really not that bad. The worst offender is people with shitty views who post about their shitty views after a breaking story happens thinking it's okay.
 
Kids look the same. I don't love your kids, you do. Kids are unable to do anything well so they are boring. And we all know you're only showing the 10% of the time that kids were being cute instead of the 90% where they were being a pain in the ass.
 
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