Mental Health |OT| Depression & Co.

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Collete said:
I'm in fucking tears...
My damn minor advisor apparently did not listen to me when I told her that I was graduating this semester, when I was applying my minor for my degree, I even told her I was graduating so they should make it be applied for this semester...I went at the earliest time possible to get this done......Then this shit happens and she puts my minor is effective in summer instead of this spring...I just emailed her about this but...I'm in fucking tears...I might not graduate...AGAIN this semester...
I'm fucking cursed...
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What an idiot(the advisor)! There must be some way they can change that, almost like a clerical error. Sounds like BS on their part! Keep fighting for it.
 
Just got an email from my mom:they want to admit my sister to a psychiatric hospital. I get if no one wants to read my rambling from the previous page. Can you just tell me if you have any experience with stuff like this if that will help a potentially suicidal eleven year old get better? Is it good for her?
 
ImpassionateGods said:
Just got an email from my mom:they want to admit my sister to a psychiatric hospital. I get if no one wants to read my rambling from the previous page. Can you just tell me if you have any experience with stuff like this if that will help a potentially suicidal eleven year old get better? Is it good for her?
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Committing an eleven year-old sounds extremely excessive even if she might resort to cutting. Unless cutting is a very successful suicide method for children. Edit: However, I don't know the full context so it might not be such a bad move for the short term.
 
ImpassionateGods said:
Just got an email from my mom:they want to admit my sister to a psychiatric hospital. I get if no one wants to read my rambling from the previous page. Can you just tell me if you have any experience with stuff like this if that will help a potentially suicidal eleven year old get better? Is it good for her?
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I went to a psychiatric hospital about nearly a year ago (damn...been that long)...I don't think it helped me since I stayed there for a week and the experience was agonizing...Don't really want to get into it, but it was a pain in the ass to get out of that place.
Talk to your mother more about this. Go through your options before sending her to a hospital. If you and your sister are close, talk to her personally.
Edit: that said, don't take my knowledge 100%. I don't know your situation fully. I'm just speaking from my experience.
Lionheart1827 said:
What an idiot(the advisor)! There must be some way they can change that, almost like a clerical error. Sounds like BS on their part! Keep fighting for it.
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I emailed her...hoping for the best.
 
She called me on the phone to tell me she was staying there so looks like the decision's been made. She was crying and I'm so afraid this is going to hurt her more. I don't really know the situation fully either. I had no idea.
 
ImpassionateGods said:
She called me on the phone to tell me she was staying there so looks like the decision's been made. She was crying and I'm so afraid this is going to hurt her more.
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Just go visit her on the daily visitation hours. Those help immensely when she's coped up in a place like that when she's surrounded by a group of strangers. It'll be nice to know her family still visits and supports her.
Be strong for her. Just make sure she knows that as long as she follows by their rules, and goes to every therapy session assigned, she will get out of that place.
 
Collete said:
I'm in fucking tears...
My damn minor advisor apparently did not listen to me when I told her that I was graduating this semester, when I was applying my minor for my degree, I even told her I was graduating so they should make it be applied for this semester...I went at the earliest time possible to get this done......Then this shit happens and she puts my minor is effective in summer instead of this spring...I just emailed her about this but...I'm in fucking tears...I might not graduate...AGAIN this semester...
I'm fucking cursed...
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Contact the dean or something if it doesn't get resolved. My advisor almost screwed me out of graduating and I went to the dean and he helped me graduate in the spring.
 
Collete said:
I'm in fucking tears...
My damn minor advisor apparently did not listen to me when I told her that I was graduating this semester, when I was applying my minor for my degree, I even told her I was graduating so they should make it be applied for this semester...I went at the earliest time possible to get this done......Then this shit happens and she puts my minor is effective in summer instead of this spring...I just emailed her about this but...I'm in fucking tears...I might not graduate...AGAIN this semester...
I'm fucking cursed...
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Zaraki_Kenpachi said:
Contact the dean or something if it doesn't get resolved. My advisor almost screwed me out of graduating and I went to the dean and he helped me graduate in the spring.
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I'm confident the university will figure it out. If you've taken the courses, it seems like that's purely a bureaucratic thing and those can be sorted out.
 
Smiley90 said:
I'm confident the university will figure it out. If you've taken the courses, it seems like that's purely a bureaucratic thing and those can be sorted out.
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Pretty much, the advisor might not want to help (mine didn't) but it was fixed and I graduated but it was so late I had to wait an extra month for my physical diploma but that was it.

ImpassionateGods said:
Just got an email from my mom:they want to admit my sister to a psychiatric hospital. I get if no one wants to read my rambling from the previous page. Can you just tell me if you have any experience with stuff like this if that will help a potentially suicidal eleven year old get better? Is it good for her?
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I read it but I don't know how much I can help. Does she know about your depression? Have you talked to her about it? Depending on how things are maybe talk to her about, sometimes feeling like you're not alone is the best thing. Maybe at the very least ask her about it, why she feels that way etc. Maybe share anything that you've found helpful. The biggest thing is to be for her, it's rough since you're not in the best place yourself but make an attempt to contact her every day and pretend if you have to make her feel better. It's a little hard since she's so young. Maybe if she was older you could share more about how you're feeling and talk about how you each feel each day. I don't know how she is so maybe you can but you might not because she's too young to understand. The biggest thing is being supportive and being there when she needs you.
 
Thank you everyone. I was able to go see her(couldn't go with my parents cause of a stomach ache) and she was happy to see me so we talked and laughed for a few hours. We stopped the hospital from sending her to the place they wanted because it got abysmal reviews, so everything is up in the air as of right now. I feel more hopeful than before and I think she does too.
 
ImpassionateGods said:
Someone please help me I don't know what to do.

My sister(11 years old) was called down to the principal's office because her friends were concerned over an email she sent them where she talked about cutting herself. They aren't letting her back into the school until she gets okayed by a psychologist. I know the password to her email so I logged in to read it(this may be dishonest and shitty but I don't really care at this point). She sounds very very depressed. She wrote that she wants to cut herself every day and one day came so close she had bandaids and scissors ready to go before she stopped herself. She wrote out a metaphor about anxiety and depression and being trapped in a hole full of knives and it ended in a suicide in which no one cared and at this point I don't even know if the suicide was part of the metaphor or if she actually would kill herself one day. I try to be a good sister and I believe that I am. We love each other a lot, she is the most important person in the world to me, and I spend basically the whole day after school with her when I'm home(sometimes I'm a lazy asshole who turns down a game but I always sit with her). I know that she's been depressed and that school causes her A LOT of anxiety but I didn't know it was this bad. I am not capable of cheering a person up when they're sad, so I figure I will just continue to be by her side, make her happy,give her things to look forward to. I think I should tone down my negativity. I am very worried that I have passed along these thoughts to her. On a few of my worst days I haven't been able to keep up the positive front and my emails reflected that. I never talked about suicide or cutting.

What can I do to make this as good for her as possible? What should I avoid doing so I don't make it worse? I wish out of all the people in the world she could be the happiest one alive because she is utterly wonderful and she deserves that. Today I had a terrible morning and I found myself wishing I could get everyone in my family to leave me alone for the day so I could hide in my room. I didn't want to play with my sister because I knew I would have to pretend to be happy. Now she is gone for the rest of my day on the way to the doctor and a part of me feels like I caused even this to happen. I wrote on my blog that if everyone out there died i wouldn't give a shit but I wrote it that way to exclude my family and I never meant her. idk.
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Quoting the whole thing since it was the last post on the last page. Those tend to get lost. D:

Anyways, I didn't have experience with depression (diagnosed at least) at such a young age, but it started for me at around 14. I think the most important things were:

1) Having others let me know that my feelings were valid and that I wasn't just whining or making this up or that I couldn't possibly have a hard life at such a young age.
2) Having others let me know that it wasn't my fault I was feeling this.

Is school a primary cause of this?
 
ImpassionateGods said:
She called me on the phone to tell me she was staying there so looks like the decision's been made. She was crying and I'm so afraid this is going to hurt her more. I don't really know the situation fully either. I had no idea.
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Well don't beat yourself up for starters, it's clear you care about your sister.

Go see her during visitation hours and start from there, meet her doctors etc.

Good luck.

ImpassionateGods said:
Thank you everyone. I was able to go see her(couldn't go with my parents cause of a stomach ache) and she was happy to see me so we talked and laughed for a few hours. We stopped the hospital from sending her to the place they wanted because it got abysmal reviews, so everything is up in the air as of right now. I feel more hopeful than before and I think she does too.
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Didn't catch this post, glad to read it

Shearie said:
Nevermind.
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I give a fuck, I was just sleeping at 3 AM :)
 
I feel like fucking shit and I don't know what I can do to fix it. I don't want to be alone but I also don't want to be around people. The only person I feel like I can talk to is one of my best friends but she has her own life with her boyfriend and class so I can't be pestering her 24/7 with my problems.

I've been stuck in my own house for ages too scared to go outside and I'm so goddamn sick of it. I want to go do something meaningful but I don't know what I can do. I can't get a job or finish getting my drivers license in my mental state right now, so I guess working out is all that's left to me. I want to be fit again but I don't know if it'll actually lift my spirit.

I keep thinking of all the things I could be doing that I end up doing the same idiotic thing: doing fuck all at my laptop and watching bullshit tv shows on TV.
 
Gonna do my best to have an all right birthday today. 23 is a very weird number. 24 feels special, but never 22 or 23. It's weird.
 
I'm not sure if this belongs here. My girlfriend broke up with me about a a week ago. She told me that she was so depressed and so tired and that she couldn't do it a few times for a few weeks before it happened. She is clinically depressed and on medication for it, and she had to have her dosages changed a month ago because she wasn't sleeping due to terrible nightmares.

She said we could get together and talk in a month after she and I do a lot of thinking, and maybe go from there. She did say that a big part of her is hoping for a month when I texted her that night, and I told her that I'm hoping for a month from now, but said she can't promise anything and that she didn't want to give me hope. She also texted me Tuesday night to tell me that she really cares and worries about me and then apologized later that night if she upset me, and said she had to say that. I responded to tell her that I really care and worry about her too the next morning, and neither she nor I have contacted each other since.

I initially had a relationship with her because I kept trying, and she said quite a few times that she likes that about me. I want her to be happy, and I want to be with her. I think those two can include each other. But I don't know what to do. I don't have much experience with any of this stuff. And I want to handle it the best way possible. Everyone I've talked to has told me to give her space and figure myself out so I'm doing that. They've also told me that there's a good chance for something in a month. I'm looking for some advice from people with experience. Can anyone help me out with some words or something? Typing it out has helped me process it, but I want more advice, because I know I'm not exactly thinking rationally right now.
 
Thank you all for the birthday wishes everyone!
I survived today! So that's something to celebrate as well :)

A Human Becoming said:
Happy Birthday! Are we going to be honored to see one of your art pieces on this special day?
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People actually appreciate my art?
Didn't think anyone gave a damn haha
But nah, I'm trying to keep a strict schedule to keep one up every Wednesday and I've been maintaining that. (This week's was the Helix Fossil)
There'll be one up on next Wednesday however so look forward to that!

Edit: Next week's will be horrible :D

Fiction said:
Happy Birthday Collete <3
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Happy birthday yourself, girl!
 
Collete said:
People actually appreciate my art?
Didn't think anyone gave a damn haha
But nah, I'm trying to keep a strict schedule to keep one up every Wednesday and I've been maintaining that. (This week's was the Helix Fossil)
There'll be one up on next Wednesday however so look forward to that!
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Of course we do. GAF appreciates everything you do! What's your tumblr page?

Also Happy Birthday Fiction!
 
Collete and Fiction! HAPPY! BIRTHDAY! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!
(Happy birthday)
Your Canadian, MikeDip
 
I wish I could just move on and forget certain people. Instead I break down and shake from anxiety when I hear or think about them.
 
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