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So... yea. My Gf of 7yrs is pregnant.
Im in a blank state of mind though.

Precautions . What do i need to be wary of?
Education. What are some easy reads so im not dumb about this?
I baby sitted last night and baby started crying right about the time i was getting in a round of dota (my homies sis got a one year old he was babysitting.. which i ended up babysitting because he work night shift) . But once you put them to sleep whats the timer on them?? is it all random??
Been around kids before.. but they make me feel awkward. I feel like i could break them by breathing to hard when theyre in my harms.
I tried burping a baby, his mother told me im not tapping his back hard enough...
im like how the fuck i should know how hard to tap???!!



Im a sponge right now..help me soak it in.
 
Congratulations!

Wish I could offer advice but I dont know much about pregnancy.

Dota might not be the best game to play while babysitting since the matches can last so long.
 
Renoir said:
I baby sitted last night and baby started crying right about the time i was getting in a round of dota (my homies sis got a one year old he was babysitting.. which i ended up babysitting because he work night shift) . But once you put them to sleep whats the timer on them?? is it all random??
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Newborn's sleep when they sleep. Best thing to do is sleep when they do.

Also, your game playing time goes to hell. You'll be lucky to play anything for the first few weeks/months.
 
A lot of your concerns come from not really being comfortable/having experience with kids.

I've got 4 kids. First one came when I was 22, and was a bum who sat on the couch and smoked reefer all day while playing video games. 10 years later I'm married to this child's mother and own a home, own a business, have paid off 2 of the 4 kid's college tuition, and basically have my shit together.

I didn't read any books or do anything special. I just realized that at that moment in time, I was now responsible for a human life. I guess basically what I'm saying is make sure your life is in order. That's what you should be worried about now. Because once the kid comes instincts kick in and you just get it. Every kid is different, you'll quickly learn how durable they are and what makes them happy or not.
 
FDA announced this week to make sure they eat low-mercury fish. It's for the baby. Look up the list of fishes online. Avoid high-mercury fish cuz they can cause issues with the baby.
 
Renoir said:
But once you put them to sleep whats the timer on them?? is it all random??
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Hahaha! I'd assume it is random, they're aren't machines :P.

Best of luck OP! Maybe a nurse can give you coaching for how to burp the baby and stuff like that.
 
Double D said:
A lot of your concerns come from not really being comfortable/having experience with kids.

I've got 4 kids. First one came when I was 22, and was a bum who sat on the couch and smoked reefer all day while playing video games. 10 years later I'm married to this child's mother and own a home, own a business, have paid off 2 of the 4 kid's college tuition, and basically have my shit together.

I didn't read any books or do anything special. I just realized that at that moment in time, I was now responsible for a human life. I guess basically what I'm saying is make sure your life is in order. That's what you should be worried about now. Because once the kid comes instincts kick in and you just get it. Every kid is different, you'll quickly learn how durable they are and what makes them happy or not.
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well 6 more months ill be a leo.
i have a plan and all. i guess what im trying to say is it instinct to know how it cry's and reasons like the mother would know? is that the same for man?
I can see my self getting on the brink of madness if i change the diaper, feed him.. and the baby is still crying..

what surprised you the most?
You said you didnt read books.. you wish you did ? or going in blind made it just as good of an experience?
 
Renoir said:
I can see my self getting on the brink of madness if i change the diaper, feed him.. and the baby is still crying..
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If a newborn cries it's either 1) hungry, 2) needs changing, or 3) it's tired. If you cover those 3 things whenever it cries you should be good to go.

The whole book reading thing is a bit over rated. Google can fill in the blanks most of the time.

Other thing is pregnant women can't eat/drink certain things, like energy drinks and certain foods. Might want to check online to see if she can't eat her once favourite food for 9(ish) months. Also, if she gets a cold she can't take medicine for it. Pregnant women have to cut out a fair few things, it sucks for them.
 
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Renoir said:
well 6 more months ill be a leo.
i have a plan and all. i guess what im trying to say is it instinct to know how it cry's and reasons like the mother would know? is that the same for man?
I can see my self getting on the brink of madness if i change the diaper, feed him.. and the baby is still crying..

what surprised you the most?
You said you didnt read books.. you wish you did ? or going in blind made it just as good of an experience?
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you'll be surprised at your own instincts, it'll get very 'natural' for you even if it doesn't feel that way now.

newborn isnt too bad if they're crying it's usually: a) hungry b) diaper c) tired d) wants to be held. just go through the list and knock em off one by one.
 
CelticKnight said:
If a newborn cries it's either 1) hungry, 2) needs changing, or 3) it's tired. If you cover those 3 things whenever it cries you should be good to go.

The whole book reading thing is a bit over rated. Google can fill in the blanks most of the time.

Other thing is pregnant women can't eat/drink certain things, like energy drinks and certain foods. Might want to check online to see if she can't eat her once favourite food for 9(ish) months. Also, if she gets a cold she can't take medicine for it. Pregnant women have to cut out a fair few things, it sucks for them.
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If the baby is tired why wont he just fall asleep??!!!!

Ill definetly check on a list of food intake that is proper

Mogwai said:
Seeking pregnancy advice here is very unprofessional.

I pity that unborn baby.
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/sarcasm?? there are many fathers here i dont know about mothers. But i would think my gaf brethren would give me the real deal without the fluff.
 
Renoir said:
well 6 more months ill be a leo.
i have a plan and all. i guess what im trying to say is it instinct to know how it cry's and reasons like the mother would know? is that the same for man?
I can see my self getting on the brink of madness if i change the diaper, feed him.. and the baby is still crying..

what surprised you the most?
You said you didnt read books.. you wish you did ? or going in blind made it just as good of an experience?
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I'd say a lot of it is instincts. Another thing is kids cry for very few reasons.

1) They need a diaper change

2) They're tired

3) They're hungry

4) They're gassy (need to burp or pump their legs to fart)

5) They're sick

Sick is the wildcard. You'll probably get your fair share of ear infections which suck, but are easily treated. Diaper rashes can make them uncomfortable, and will happen if you don't address #1 in a reasonable time. Triple paste will usually solve this.

A good pediatrician is important. I've learned a bunch from just going in there and asking them all kinds of questions during visits.

I guess what surprised me the most is how rough some nights can be. Seems like it should be a given that sleeping is going to suck, but once you actually have to wake up every couple of hours or so and take care of someone you really understand what it's like. At this point it's just second nature for me to pop up in the middle of the night and be ready to deal with anything. And I can basically function normally on about 4 hours of sleep.

I don't wish I read books. My wife read some. It certainly can't hurt, but the pure experience is the ultimate lesson.
 
Saw the birthing during sex ed..
i dont really want to see it again.
Probably will stay by the GF side and be a cheerleader for her..
 
Renoir said:
So... yea. My Gf of 7yrs is pregnant.
Im in a blank state of mind though.

Precautions . What do i need to be wary of?
Education. What are some easy reads so im not dumb about this?
I baby sitted last night and baby started crying right about the time i was getting in a round of dota (my homies sis got a one year old he was babysitting.. which i ended up babysitting because he work night shift) . But once you put them to sleep whats the timer on them?? is it all random??
Been around kids before.. but they make me feel awkward. I feel like i could break them by breathing to hard when theyre in my harms.
I tried burping a baby, his mother told me im not tapping his back hard enough...
im like how the fuck i should know how hard to tap???!!



Im a sponge right now..help me soak it in.
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precautions - well a bit late for that now.

I was awkward around babies before we had our own - somehow it just clicks and is the most natural thing in the world.

Oh and dota? Lol. It is completely random. You might get lucky and they'll sleep through fairly well. You might get unlucky and they'll be up every hour during the night. It'll pass though

There isn't really a book - you just wing it. Yes that is normal. Yes their shit really is that colour sometimes. The second child is much more relaxed
 
Go with her to her doctors appointments. Read some books (the What To Expect series is quite good). Attend some classes on childbirth and parenting.
 
Depending on where you live, you and your woman should consider if you want the birth to be

1) with midwife at home
2) with midwife at hospital
3) with doctors at hospital.

People have various opinions on the merits of these options, but you should be aware of what they entail. Also, sleep while you can!
 
Fiction said:
Go with her to her doctors appointments. Read some books (the What To Expect series is quite good). Attend some classes on childbirth and parenting.
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Seconding this...it's about as straight forward and simple as it sounds. Being a parent is simple, it's just a non-stop job. Read up, go with her to classes and appointments. It will help you bond not only as a couple, but as a parent too. Teambuilding.

Oh and try to enjoy the time as much as possible. Laugh. Lots.

Edit: lol @ DOTA interruptions. Don't plan on doing any team or competitive gaming for awhile, because your best laid plans will be upheaved. Single player is the way to go if you HAVE to get time in. My favorite was an all nighter with my son. I made my wife go to bed at 11, and just camped in the living room with a rocker, a Guinness, some wings, my PS3 and my son. I rocked him with my foot, played games, heated the milk when he stirred, fed him, burped him, changed him, rocked him back to sleep and continued playing Fallout 3. 7 am my wife wakes up complaining that her boobs hurt. Just goes to show you what I said earlier about the best laid plans.

I got some snark because I let my wife sleep and minded the baby all night. Parenthood is fucking awesome.
 
yongeandcollege said:
Depending on where you live, you and your woman should consider if you want the birth to be

1) with midwife at home
2) with midwife at hospital
3) with doctors at hospital.

People have various opinions on the merits of these options, but you should be aware of what they entail. Also, sleep while you can!
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I like the cut of your jib.

Also 'what to expect' is garbage.
 
does she need appointments at 7 weeks?
Im in GA and shes still in FL .. Planning to move her here to GA in the next couple of months. any thing detrimental needs to be done now? I know food intake is a big one..

Omegasquash said:
Seconding this...it's about as straight forward and simple as it sounds. Being a parent is simple, it's just a non-stop job. Read up, go with her to classes and appointments. It will help you bond not only as a couple, but as a parent too. Teambuilding.

Oh and try to enjoy the time as much as possible. Laugh. Lots.

Edit: lol @ DOTA interruptions. Don't plan on doing any team or competitive gaming for awhile, because your best laid plans will be upheaved. Single player is the way to go if you HAVE to get time in. My favorite was an all nighter with my son. I made my wife go to bed at 11, and just camped in the living room with a rocker, a Guinness, some wings, my PS3 and my son. I rocked him with my foot, played games, heated the milk when he stirred, fed him, burped him, changed him, rocked him back to sleep and continued playing Fallout 3. 7 am my wife wakes up complaining that her boobs hurt. Just goes to show you what I said earlier about the best laid plans.

I got some snark because I let my wife sleep and minded the baby all night. Parenthood is fucking awesome.
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i guess i can catch up on some backlog on my steam account..
this doesnt sound to bad at all.
 
Renoir said:
So... yea. My Gf of 7yrs is pregnant.
Im in a blank state of mind though.

Precautions . What do i need to be wary of?
Education. What are some easy reads so im not dumb about this?
I baby sitted last night and baby started crying right about the time i was getting in a round of dota (my homies sis got a one year old he was babysitting.. which i ended up babysitting because he work night shift) . But once you put them to sleep whats the timer on them?? is it all random??
Been around kids before.. but they make me feel awkward. I feel like i could break them by breathing to hard when theyre in my harms.
I tried burping a baby, his mother told me im not tapping his back hard enough...
im like how the fuck i should know how hard to tap???!!



Im a sponge right now..help me soak it in.
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I just had my first kid (a little girl). She is so awesome... so I can try and offer some advice...

1) Its ok to not feel the same bond that your girlfriend will feel. The bond between man and child can take a bit longer sometimes... where as the mother has it almost instantly due to carrying her/ him for 9 months.
2) They feel fragile at first... but it is surprising just how durable they are. Dont be afraid... you will know when you are being too rough
3) Burping a baby is an art form.. I had/ have the most luck sitting her in my lap and holding her head... and patting her back... My wife puts her over the shoulder... whatever you feel more comfortable with.
4) I hate crying babies.. and it has always bothered me. Strange thing is... my baby crying does not bother me. In fact (its rather entertainin) when she is in somebody elses arms and they are in panic mode.
5) Kids sleep until they wake up. With my daughter she loves to nap after she eats. So I will change diaper, then feed... then burp and then rock to sleep... She was 3 months old this past Sunday and slept from 9:15 to 5:30 AM last night.... Of course not all babies are like that...
Let me know if you have any other questions or anything... I am sure you will do fine!
 
Help her. Take turns at taking care of the baby during the night. Don't get up at the same time with her just to support her in the moment. Take turns, i.e. it's your turn, it's my turn. Get your sleep but give her a chance to get hers.

Put some moisturizer in a little medicine cup like a Nyquil serving cup, and microwave it for about 6 seconds. Any longer and you'll liquefy it. Rub that warm cream on her feet and legs until you're out of the cream. Do this for her all the time - at least every night or two. Her feet will be sore and cracked constantly and in general she'll appreciate this.

Shower with her and clean her feet, wash her back, wash her undercarriage, wash her asshole etc. Stuff she'll have trouble reaching - or will appreciate you're bothering to do for her.

Don't let her overdo it with weight gain. If she gains a lot, support her to lose it, as soon as possible. Support her in every way you can, except for letting her gain, and keep, baby weight. Let her know you're aware of the weight gain, but don't let her accept it as the "new her". Let her know you'll tolerate it temporarily but subtly and without crushing her spirit make sure you are VERY aware that she is currently fat and maybe unattractive, but that you know what's under there and that you still love what's under there. Sometimes they never lose it, and since she got what she came for (the baby) she may never feel motivated to be attractive for the rest of her life, unless she's looking for side dick. Be really careful of this one.

After the little one arrives, make sure to give your woman as much attention as you gave her before the baby. A lot of women get jealous of their own children because now they aren't the center of the universe anymore.

Keep having sex. Make her feel attractive even if she isn't. If you had a heavily sexual relationship, keep fucking her. Don't ever stop. If you stop, it'll end. Request hand jobs or oral sex if she can't make love. AND OFFER IT BACK. Don't let her accept the idea that just because her sexual appetite may
(absolutely will)
drop, yours will too.

Don't feel rushed to get married. In fact it may be easier not to get married at this point.

Stop smoking, stop drinking and stop taking drugs if you do any of these things.
 
Renoir said:
does she need appointments at 7 weeks?
Im in GA and shes still in FL .. Planning to move her here to GA in the next couple of months. any thing detrimental needs to be done now? I know food intake is a big one..
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She needs to go and get a checkup ASAP. The doctor will discuss diet and other things you both need to know. Will put her on prenatal vitamins.

Honestly, it's not rocket science. Women have been giving birth since forever now. There's stuff that can help her along. No drinking and no smoking are the big ones that need to be addressed. Check with a doctor before taking any over the counter/prescription meds.

Source: survived three pregnancies


Edit: wtf at the post above me
 
Thanks all for the congrats.

MrPressStart said:
I just had my first kid (a little girl). She is so awesome... so I can try and offer some advice...

1) Its ok to not feel the same bond that your girlfriend will feel. The bond between man and child can take a bit longer sometimes... where as the mother has it almost instantly due to carrying her/ him for 9 months.
2) They feel fragile at first... but it is surprising just how durable they are. Dont be afraid... you will know when you are being too rough
3) Burping a baby is an art form.. I had/ have the most luck sitting her in my lap and holding her head... and patting her back... My wife puts her over the shoulder... whatever you feel more comfortable with.
4) I hate crying babies.. and it has always bothered me. Strange thing is... my baby crying does not bother me. In fact (its rather entertainin) when she is in somebody elses arms and they are in panic mode.
5) Kids sleep until they wake up. With my daughter she loves to nap after she eats. So I will change diaper, then feed... then burp and then rock to sleep... She was 3 months old this past Sunday and slept from 9:15 to 5:30 AM last night.... Of course not all babies are like that...
Let me know if you have any other questions or anything... I am sure you will do fine!
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4 is me. When a baby make weird face or start making any noise ..
im just like where is your owner?? you need to go back to them so they can fix you.
 
Renoir said:
i guess i can catch up on some backlog on my steam account..
this doesnt sound to bad at all.
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Don't get me wrong...you WILL be too tired to give two fucks about playing most nights. That night was me managing shit like a boss is all. In four years after having my first, I managed to put on 40 (ish) lbs and sleeping far less than I should, even after the first started sleeping through the night.

There'll be time to do things, just bear in mind that literally everything in your life is moved back on the priority scale, and that will force other adjustments too. Seriously...when you have to use the potty and don't have anywhere to put the baby for a hot minute, that's a stressor.
 
TOP SHOTTA said:
Help her. Take turns at taking care of the baby during the night. Don't get up at the same time with her just to support her in the moment. Take turns, i.e. it's your turn, it's my turn. Get your sleep but give her a chance to get hers.

Put some moisturizer in a little medicine cup like a Nyquil serving cup, and microwave it for about 6 seconds. Any longer and you'll liquefy it. Rub that warm cream on her feet and legs until you're out of the cream. Do this for her all the time - at least every night or two. Her feet will be sore and cracked constantly and in general she'll appreciate this.

Shower with her and clean her feet, wash her back, wash her undercarriage, wash her asshole etc. Stuff she'll have trouble reaching - or will appreciate you're bothering to do for her.

Don't let her overdo it with weight gain. If she gains a lot, support her to lose it, as soon as possible. Support her in every way you can, except for letting her gain, and keep, baby weight. Let her know you're aware of the weight gain, but don't let her accept it as the "new her". Let her know you'll tolerate it temporarily but subtly and without crushing her spirit make sure you are VERY aware that she is currently fat and maybe unattractive, but that you know what's under there and that you still love what's under there. Sometimes they never lose it, and since she got what she came for (the baby) she may never feel motivated to be attractive for the rest of her life, unless she's looking for side dick. Be really careful of this one.

After the little one arrives, make sure to give your woman as much attention as you gave her before the baby. A lot of women get jealous of their own children because now they aren't the center of the universe anymore.

Keep having sex. Make her feel attractive even if she isn't. If you had a heavily sexual relationship, keep fucking her. Don't ever stop. If you stop, it'll end. Request hand jobs or oral sex if she can't make love. AND OFFER IT BACK. Don't let her accept the idea that just because her sexual appetite may
(absolutely will)
drop, yours will too.

Don't feel rushed to get married. In fact it may be easier not to get married at this point.

Stop smoking, stop drinking and stop taking drugs if you do any of these things.
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What? Terrible advice. This man will be divorced in a few years. Ignore him.
 
Omegasquash said:
Don't get me wrong...you WILL be too tired to give two fucks about playing most nights. That night was me managing shit like a boss is all. In four years after having my first, I managed to put on 40 (ish) lbs and sleeping far less than I should, even after the first started sleeping through the night.

There'll be time to do things, just bear in mind that literally everything in your life is moved back on the priority scale, and that will force other adjustments too. Seriously...when you have to use the potty and don't have anywhere to put the baby for a hot minute, that's a stressor.
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I think im going to have it pretty rough but the setup might be nice.

After i graduate from the academy im probably going to be on morning watch. (11pm-7am)
she'll watch the baby at night i watch him/her during the day. Used to be a bouncer so 4 hours of sleep wont be a problem after some adjustments. now getting continous 4 hours of sleep might be the problem .


TOP SHOTTA said:
Help her. Take turns at taking care of the baby during the night. Don't get up at the same time with her just to support her in the moment. Take turns, i.e. it's your turn, it's my turn. Get your sleep but give her a chance to get hers.

Put some moisturizer in a little medicine cup like a Nyquil serving cup, and microwave it for about 6 seconds. Any longer and you'll liquefy it. Rub that warm cream on her feet and legs until you're out of the cream. Do this for her all the time - at least every night or two. Her feet will be sore and cracked constantly and in general she'll appreciate this.

Shower with her and clean her feet, wash her back, wash her undercarriage, wash her asshole etc. Stuff she'll have trouble reaching - or will appreciate you're bothering to do for her.

Don't let her overdo it with weight gain. If she gains a lot, support her to lose it, as soon as possible. Support her in every way you can, except for letting her gain, and keep, baby weight. Let her know you're aware of the weight gain, but don't let her accept it as the "new her". Let her know you'll tolerate it temporarily but subtly and without crushing her spirit make sure you are VERY aware that she is currently fat and maybe unattractive, but that you know what's under there and that you still love what's under there. Sometimes they never lose it, and since she got what she came for (the baby) she may never feel motivated to be attractive for the rest of her life, unless she's looking for side dick. Be really careful of this one.

After the little one arrives, make sure to give your woman as much attention as you gave her before the baby. A lot of women get jealous of their own children because now they aren't the center of the universe anymore.

Keep having sex. Make her feel attractive even if she isn't. If you had a heavily sexual relationship, keep fucking her. Don't ever stop. If you stop, it'll end. Request hand jobs or oral sex if she can't make love. AND OFFER IT BACK. Don't let her accept the idea that just because her sexual appetite may
(absolutely will)
drop, yours will too.

Don't feel rushed to get married. In fact it may be easier not to get married at this point.

Stop smoking, stop drinking and stop taking drugs if you do any of these things.
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Good show on this one.
Not getting married any time soon.

I do hope i can word that to her properly without hurting to much..
My mom was a body builder. After my bro. she was just like work 24/7 (dad wasn't around) and let her self go.
But im going to be main provider, and participate in the growth of this child. So i hope it turns out ok.
 
TOP SHOTTA said:
Help her. Take turns at taking care of the baby during the night. Don't get up at the same time with her just to support her in the moment. Take turns, i.e. it's your turn, it's my turn. Get your sleep but give her a chance to get hers.

Put some moisturizer in a little medicine cup like a Nyquil serving cup, and microwave it for about 6 seconds. Any longer and you'll liquefy it. Rub that warm cream on her feet and legs until you're out of the cream. Do this for her all the time - at least every night or two. Her feet will be sore and cracked constantly and in general she'll appreciate this.

Shower with her and clean her feet, wash her back, wash her undercarriage, wash her asshole etc. Stuff she'll have trouble reaching - or will appreciate you're bothering to do for her.

Don't let her overdo it with weight gain. If she gains a lot, support her to lose it, as soon as possible. Support her in every way you can, except for letting her gain, and keep, baby weight. Let her know you're aware of the weight gain, but don't let her accept it as the "new her". Let her know you'll tolerate it temporarily but subtly and without crushing her spirit make sure you are VERY aware that she is currently fat and maybe unattractive, but that you know what's under there and that you still love what's under there. Sometimes they never lose it, and since she got what she came for (the baby) she may never feel motivated to be attractive for the rest of her life, unless she's looking for side dick. Be really careful of this one.

After the little one arrives, make sure to give your woman as much attention as you gave her before the baby. A lot of women get jealous of their own children because now they aren't the center of the universe anymore.

Keep having sex. Make her feel attractive even if she isn't. If you had a heavily sexual relationship, keep fucking her. Don't ever stop. If you stop, it'll end. Request hand jobs or oral sex if she can't make love. AND OFFER IT BACK. Don't let her accept the idea that just because her sexual appetite may
(absolutely will)
drop, yours will too.

Don't feel rushed to get married. In fact it may be easier not to get married at this point.

Stop smoking, stop drinking and stop taking drugs if you do any of these things.
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do you have kids? do you have a gf/wife?
 
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