So Pregnacy... From Rice grain to Watermelon...

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matt360 said:
I think you guys are being too hard on Shotta. Gaining too much weight during pregnancy is a real problem and is bad for both the mother and the baby. My wife is pregnant right now, and she has very good eating habits, but if she were stuffing herself full of McDonalds and ice cream and junk every single day, it would be irresponsible of me NOT to say anything, as that could harm the baby. The baby's and mother's physical health comes before the emotional needs of the mother. That, and there's absolutely no reason why anyone should be gaining 40, 50, or 60lbs during pregnancy. Maybe that's just the area of Florida where I'm from, but most of my friends' wives seem to pack on some serious weight during their pregnancies.
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My wife and I had twins in December. And the eating suggestions for twins is a little crazy.

There's a woman who runs a Multiples clinic who was actually advising women to eat fast food (McDonalds, Burger King, etc) because of the dense calorie count.

We said no to that, and tried to eat our normal, reasonaly healthy foods. She just ate two lunches every day.

And one of the easiest ways to lose weight post-baby is breastfeeding. The weight melted off my wife with the first pregnancy. People actually thought she was scary thin for a while.

Hasn't worked quite as well with the twins though, as there was lots of stretching and not everything went back to where it was before.
 
Dorrin said:
Eleven years ago I had a lot of similar questions as you. Now I'm on the father of four kids including a set of twins, all of our kids were born in a 42 month period of time. Here is my very basic advice:

1) Be glad it is just one, as far as I'm concerned you have already won there. Our oldest had just turned 2 the month before our twins were born. Having twins nearly broke our marriage, we had no outside help at all, I have no memory of the year 2006.

2) Hope you get an easy baby. I'm dead serious with this, there are easy babies and hard babies. Our last was an easy baby, slept through the night in just a few weeks, didn't have bad gas etc. He was a joke compared to the others who were always upset gassy and didn't sleep well at all for months. Even now at 6 the kid is more mellow then his brothers.

3) I was in the same boat with the how do I hold the baby, will they break type stuff before I had my first. You will figure this all out with time, on the job training works best here. Your baby is actually much tougher then you think and they will certainly *try* to let you know they want something.

Funny story.. I had never changed a diaper before, my first try with my wife watching me my son projectile shits all over my arm and the floor.

Twin diaper story... They both had been sick and had decided to have blow out diapers at the same time. My wife wasn't in the house, just sons and I. While changing one the other crawls away from me and proceeds to rip off his diaper half way off and takes off crawling with shit going everywhere. I try to grab him which allows the other to escape still coated in shit. I had two crawling babies covered in shit going in opposite directions.

4) After they get older try to establish a schedule, this is a quite a ways off for you but we found having a good schedule, bedtime routine etc helps so much.

5) Learn to turn the focus away from yourself. I put my sons first. I've given up some career things because it would have damaged my home life etc. I'd like a bigger house and I could afford it but with the one I have now I can put them through college, etc etc.

Finally in closing... it is worth it, you will be amazed at how fun/interesting/weird/random your life will be. For me its only gotten more interesting as they have gotten older. Now with a 10, 8,8 and almost 7 year old we have so much fun. Good luck.
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man o man..

Selner said:
Oh, one other thing on the gaming front.

The AAP's guidance on "screens" is to limit the baby's exposure to things like TV and phones until around age 2.
http://www.aap.org/en-us/advocacy-and-policy/aap-health-initiatives/Pages/Media-and-Children.aspx

I have a 2.5 year old and 5-month old twins.
The TV and Xbox are unplugged. We even "cut the cord" and turned off our cable TV service. Only have internet now.

My only game time now is on my phone, and is very limited.

One more thing, is your GF going to be a stay at home mom? Or are you going to be a stay at home dad? If both are going to be working, start looking for day care NOW. I am not sure where you live, but in many places the waiting lists for daycare can be absurd.

We put my 2.5 year old on a list before he was born. He's still hasn't gotten in yet.
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Didnt know there was guideline for that. thats good to know.

But wont your baby behind the other baby's learning how to interact with all the electronics? Especially in this day and age?
But since they're so young does it really matter?
I cut the cord long a go. It amaze me how tv is so lame when i go at some ones house. they hit the guide button , this list come up with all these channels... but there is nothing that's interesting on. always end up watching adventure time rerun.

Didnt know there was a waiting list for day care. I live In GA ATL. Im hoping this goes smoothly. I plan so be the sole earner probably for 6month - 1yr.
what is the average recover time after giving birth? Can she do office work? Can the baby be in Day care when hes 6 months old?

Selner said:
While it's a funny video, I feel the need to say that you should not put bumpers in the crib.

The AAP's guidance is nothing in the crib with the baby. No blankets, no bumpers. Just the baby and what the baby is wearing. At least for a newborn. Once they can roll over (both directions), you can start putting blankets in.

And I have totally considered doing what the guy in the video did. I have slept on the floor of the baby's room (when baby was sick).
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what if baby get cold?
do i just keep the room warm?
 
Your biggest contribution right now is to be there for your partner. She is going through a massive and terrifying ordeal and your support is one of the main things that will help her through it while strengthening your relationship at the same time.

She will be in some bad discomfort at times with hormones fluctuating crazily and a little voice in the back of her head occasionally taking control. Even though she KNOWS what she's feeling isn't rational she will sometimes say some crazy stuff. Just take it in stride, have patience and it will pass. Patience and understanding will come in helpful here.

Prenatal classes are good to attend with her. Both as a show of support to her but also to inform yourself plus potentially meet other couples who are going through the same thing you guys are which can turn out to be a nice support system.

When it comes to the birthing, you should really be there. My daughter ended up requiring a c-section to get her out which in a way is pretty good as it's scheduled and over with fairly quick (relative to regular labour anyway, especially first-time.)

C-section was pretty scary too as it's pretty major surgery while the mom is awake except there's a big screen preventing her from seeing what's going on down there and what's going on with the baby. All I remember was NOT wanting to look at that scene but still smelling cooking flesh while they were cauterizing and the suction sound. But in the moment it was in the far reaches of my mind.

Be it natural birth or c-section, you want to be holding that woman's hand as she's going through this and feeling helpless and tired and scared. Be her rock through this storm, hold her eyes with yours and give her all the strength you can. You don't need to talk much or possibly at all, just be there for her completely.

Then, hearing that tiny cry protesting against the bright lights and loud sounds can be an amazing moment. The nurses let me clip the umbilical cord (and it's cut up a bit from the belly, kinda impossible to screw it up as that part will just fall off eventually) and gave her to me to hold and bring to my girlfriend for a short time while they were still putting her insides back together.

If family/friends want to help out, one of the BEST ways is to bring over pre-made frozen food that just needs to be thrown in the oven/microwave. Cooking anything substantial feels like a massive effort for a while and getting something fairly nutritious while not breaking the bank is a godsend.

Good luck and hopefully yours sleeps for you. Ours has had sleeping issues for 2 years despite best efforts. Pretty much all of our friends have had ones that sleep through the night within weeks/months, ridiculously jealous. You're in an otherworldly state when you get 3-4 hours sleep (on a good night) for months/years on end. My girlfriend has it a lot worse as she will let me sleep so I don't get myself killed at work from lack of sleep but it's a lot to handle that plus everyday stuff.
 
Oh man.. she told her parents. I told my mother. Almost everyone know now.
reality check gauge is getting full fast.
 
Selner said:
And one of the easiest ways to lose weight post-baby is breastfeeding. The weight melted off my wife with the first pregnancy. People actually thought she was scary thin for a while.
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Not going to comment on the crazy talk about women and losing birth weight, but I can say that breast feeding does burn tremendous calories, my wife lost tons of weight while breast feeding.
 
It's pretty random. I got lucky. My son (born in January) slept through the night since the day he was born. He goes down at 9 or 9:30 every night and doesn't wake up until I get him up at 6:30 or 7. So I can still fit in some Dota or Hearthstone or whatever

I will tell you that online games that can't be abandoned at a moments are probably not the best things to be playing with a newborn. My wife hates me.
 
My daughter is 8 1/2 months old and we're expecting a little boy in October. Yupp, we move fast, lol. Actually, we were trying for a long time and it just wasn't happening. Doctors told me that my numbers were high enough to get the job done, and she was healthy. We ended up going through IVF and had our beautiful baby girl. We knew we wanted to have two children, and the thought of having to go through IVF again wasn't exactly thrilling to us, considering my wife had to take a lot of needles and several trips to far away doctors. Everyone said that women are more fertile after giving birth, so we decided to see what happened by not using any protection, and she almost immediately got pregnant with our soon to be born little boy. Life is crazy sometimes.

Anyway, back to the subject of diet. My wife avoids almost all caffeine except when necessary, no cold lunch meats as apparently they contain bacteria that is very bad when pregnant. She takes her vitamins and an extra iron supplement. Besides that she just tries to eat as she normally would. She didn't even look pregnant until the last two months. She's a very tiny girl.
 
Renoir said:
Oh man.. she told her parents. I told my mother. Almost everyone know now.
reality check gauge is getting full fast.
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Ooh. Fun. We're holding out til the 12 week mark before we start spilling the beans. Her parents will be thrilled. My Mum will be... scared.
 
Chopper said:
Ooh. Fun. We're holding out til the 12 week mark before we start spilling the beans. Her parents will be thrilled. My Mum will be... scared.
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Same here.
My mother was like your not ready but im happy speech.
Her mother and father was happy, they were like, its about damn time..
 
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GF was cramping really bad, had to rush to hospital.
Everything is ok. They did an ultra sound. And man... I got this pic sent to me.
And i Cant tell wtf is in the pic.
:/
 
Renoir said:
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GF was cramping really bad, had to rush to hospital.
Everything is ok. They did an ultra sound. And man... I got this pic sent to me.
And i Cant tell wtf is in the pic.
:/
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How far along is she now? Sometimes depending on that, things can be odd looking.
 
My son was born 5 weeks early via emergency c-section (placental abruption - very scary) on the 27th of February, although he was planned I still vividly remember that mix of panic and excitement leading up to his birth. The best advice I will give is not to put too much pressure on yourselves. Everyone will be full of advice, and it doesn't matter what you do someone will always tell you that you should have done I differently. We've learned there aren't really any set rules and you can't really prepare. You learn it all on the job and will most likely spend a lot of time second guessing yourselves and feeling. Generally inadequate. Try to ignore these feelings and just enjoy everything, it's a hell of a ride!

Also they're expensive, start planning your finances now and saving up for things like cribs and pushchairs. Don't buy clothes, people will buy you a crap ton. For the stuff bought for you see if you can get receipts as they grow out of them quickly. If your Partner wants to breastfeed but for any reason can't don't let her beat herself up over it, and ignore anyone who looks down on you for bottle feeding. If you have to bottle feed something that heats up the formula for you is amazingly helpful, that and a microwave steriliser will give you hours of your life back.
 
Renoir said:
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GF was cramping really bad, had to rush to hospital.
Everything is ok. They did an ultra sound. And man... I got this pic sent to me.
And i Cant tell wtf is in the pic.
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Glad everything's okay man. 13 weeks here. We got scanned a couple of weeks ago, and everything's good. I was scared shitless after the aforementioned tummy pains, but the little heart was pounding like a good'un when we saw it for the first time, so it's all good.

*brofist*
 
Selner said:
My wife and I had twins in December. And the eating suggestions for twins is a little crazy.

There's a woman who runs a Multiples clinic who was actually advising women to eat fast food (McDonalds, Burger King, etc) because of the dense calorie count.
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wth

Why don't they advise women to additionally eat (actually drink) medical liquid food. That's as high on calories as you can get and it's not bad junk food with lots of fat and crap in it.
 
If you're lazy about laundry now don't even think about going the cloth diapers route. Supposedly they save you money in the long run but differences are minimal if you buy disposables that are store brand and when they're on sale. Target frequently does good sales that bring down cost to near 10cents/diaper for size 1-3.

Oh, and congrats! You will be stressed to hell and back and your relationship strained, but babies are also a ton of fun.
 
TOP SHOTTA said:
Help her. Take turns at taking care of the baby during the night. Don't get up at the same time with her just to support her in the moment. Take turns, i.e. it's your turn, it's my turn. Get your sleep but give her a chance to get hers.

Put some moisturizer in a little medicine cup like a Nyquil serving cup, and microwave it for about 6 seconds. Any longer and you'll liquefy it. Rub that warm cream on her feet and legs until you're out of the cream. Do this for her all the time - at least every night or two. Her feet will be sore and cracked constantly and in general she'll appreciate this.

Shower with her and clean her feet, wash her back, wash her undercarriage, wash her asshole etc. Stuff she'll have trouble reaching - or will appreciate you're bothering to do for her.

Don't let her overdo it with weight gain. If she gains a lot, support her to lose it, as soon as possible. Support her in every way you can, except for letting her gain, and keep, baby weight. Let her know you're aware of the weight gain, but don't let her accept it as the "new her". Let her know you'll tolerate it temporarily but subtly and without crushing her spirit make sure you are VERY aware that she is currently fat and maybe unattractive, but that you know what's under there and that you still love what's under there. Sometimes they never lose it, and since she got what she came for (the baby) she may never feel motivated to be attractive for the rest of her life, unless she's looking for side dick. Be really careful of this one.

After the little one arrives, make sure to give your woman as much attention as you gave her before the baby. A lot of women get jealous of their own children because now they aren't the center of the universe anymore.

Keep having sex. Make her feel attractive even if she isn't. If you had a heavily sexual relationship, keep fucking her. Don't ever stop. If you stop, it'll end. Request hand jobs or oral sex if she can't make love. AND OFFER IT BACK. Don't let her accept the idea that just because her sexual appetite may
(absolutely will)
drop, yours will too.

Don't feel rushed to get married. In fact it may be easier not to get married at this point.

Stop smoking, stop drinking and stop taking drugs if you do any of these things.
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I don't know for sure since I've never been pregnant or got anyone pregnant, but couldn't one of those detachable shower wands enable a pregnant person to wash his or her own own butthole without needing assistance?
 
seing that pic makes every thing so real. hear the heart beat all fast, crazy.
You see it on tv. but when you hear it. and you know its your baby. its a griping experience.
 
so.. you cant train / put the baby on a certain patern?
or its just wildly random this sleeping thing that is..
 
You spend the first year getting them to walk and talk. You spend the next 17 telling them to sit down and shut up. Congrats and good luck. I have a 7 yr old. Its 100 times easier as a baby. Make sure you have 2... close in age.
 
Renoir said:
so.. you cant train / put the baby on a certain patern?
or its just wildly random this sleeping thing that is..
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Yes you can train them.
But here's the kicker, you GF is current training the baby to sleep during the day and be awake at night. This is happening because the baby is being rocked while she moves around.
 
How's it all going man? We just had our 20 week scan this morning. Half way! Can't believe we won't see it again until it's out! And we've decided not to find out the sex. Exciting shit.
 
She found another dick man. Bail out.

Oh wait, wrong thread :D Congrats OP! You're the man!

After reading this thread, it's obvious I have SO MUCH MATURING to do before I get a woman pregnant. And I'm 25.
 
Chopper said:
How's it all going man? We just had our 20 week scan this morning. Half way! Can't believe we won't see it again until it's out! And we've decided not to find out the sex. Exciting shit.
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Congrats dude! Exciting, ain't it.

I couldn't wait to find out the sex. I even had a private 4D scan at 17/18 weeks to find out earlier. Never figured out how it was classed as 4D, but it looked cool as fuck. We had another at 30 weeks or thereabouts I think, and it was amazing to see how accurate it was when she was born.

I miss the pregnancy stuff. Might have to talk to the missus about giving our daughter a brother or sister before too long.
 
Eiolon said:
You spend the first year getting them to walk and talk. You spend the next 17 telling them to sit down and shut up. Congrats and good luck. I have a 7 yr old. Its 100 times easier as a baby. Make sure you have 2... close in age.
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Ours is 6 years old. I felt it gets easier as they get older. They turn into amazing little people.

The first year was the roughest: learn a lot of patience and nap every chance you get!

Grandparents, if nearby, can also be lifesavers!
 
Renoir said:
So... yea. My Gf of 7yrs is pregnant.
Im in a blank state of mind though.

Precautions . What do i need to be wary of?
Education. What are some easy reads so im not dumb about this?
I baby sitted last night and baby started crying right about the time i was getting in a round of dota (my homies sis got a one year old he was babysitting.. which i ended up babysitting because he work night shift) . But once you put them to sleep whats the timer on them?? is it all random??
Been around kids before.. but they make me feel awkward. I feel like i could break them by breathing to hard when theyre in my harms.
I tried burping a baby, his mother told me im not tapping his back hard enough...
im like how the fuck i should know how hard to tap???!!



Im a sponge right now..help me soak it in.
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Trust me, your basic programming contain most of the stuff you need, but you need to load Baby first.
 
Renoir said:
So... yea. My Gf of 7yrs is pregnant.
Im in a blank state of mind though.

Precautions . What do i need to be wary of?
Education. What are some easy reads so im not dumb about this?
I baby sitted last night and baby started crying right about the time i was getting in a round of dota (my homies sis got a one year old he was babysitting.. which i ended up babysitting because he work night shift) . But once you put them to sleep whats the timer on them?? is it all random??
Been around kids before.. but they make me feel awkward. I feel like i could break them by breathing to hard when theyre in my harms.
I tried burping a baby, his mother told me im not tapping his back hard enough...
im like how the fuck i should know how hard to tap???!!



Im a sponge right now..help me soak it in.
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FORGET ALL ABOUT GAMING HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA...

















...seriously, get a PSP or vita or something, it's the only gaming you'll do for years
 
It’s weird that this thread should rez now.. Mrs Matrix and I found out she was pregnant yesterday. We have been planning and discussing it for months so at the moment things don’t really feel any different than they did a couple of days ago.

She is only 4 weeks at the moment so I guess when we go for the 12 week scan and start having appointments and stuff, then it will feel more real.

I’m not too worried about us having kids though; Mrs Matrix has a degree in child psychology, has studied the Montessori method, currently works in a nursery and is in the process of becoming an early years practitioner assessor.

I actually got a promotion at work on Monday too so the extra cash and no more night shifts will be very welcome.

The only thing we are worried about is how much weight she will put on. She used to be a model and was hoping to get back into it recently. She won’t be able to go to the gym as much and probably won’t have much time or inclination to after the baby is born.

I’m hoping it doesn’t ruin ‘that area’ too.. I like it as it is.
 
Im going to find out the sex next week.
22 weeks in . Its an eggplant.

Still in the Police Academy, 10 weeks left. Got pepper Sprayed and Tasered this week.
worst days of my life .

But since im in GA, and shes in FL for now.. Shes going to find out the sex before me.
I told her to surprise me when i go visit for the baby shower.
 
Congrats to all expectant Gaffers. One positive about pregnancy is you don't have to wear protection during sex. A guy never really geta that pleasure under normal circumstances. Unless one of the two is fixed.

I have an 8m old right now. Precious stage.

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I'm usually not one to share too much of my personal life but babies are too precious not to share. I have one of him making that face like the baby on the beach clenching his fist from that internet meme lol
 
Well, my wife is pregnant and is currently 12 weeks. We won't find out the sex until November and I can't wait. I really hope this first one is a boy.

She's just started showing so it's become crazy real. It first got real when we had our first ultra-sound. Seeing our kid's heart beat on the TV in the hospital made the wife cry but I held my tears back so I could pay attention to what the nurse was doing.

I can't wait to welcome this kid into the world... And I made him.
 
Shit, I remember reading this thread months ago :o

freaked out about the coming months. But OP don't worry it will be all good. Just had this guy 3 weeks ago-

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Not getting much sleep, he's a pain in the ass and I sometimes want to throw him out the window, but he's completely worth it. I NEVER wanted kids, and always feel awkward around them, but once he came out I was a crying mess :p

Other than missing quite a bit of game time(which I am sure will get better), life is all good :)
 
mr stroke said:
Shit, I remember reading this thread months ago :o

freaked out about the coming months. But OP don't worry it will be all good. Just had this guy 3 weeks ago-

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Not getting much sleep, he's a pain in the ass and I sometimes want to throw him out the window, but he's completely worth it. I NEVER wanted kids, and always feel awkward around them, but once he came out I was a crying mess :p

Other than missing quite a bit of game time(which I am sure will get better), life is all good :)
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That is a fantastic picture.

My baby's gonna need one of those hats.
 
Don't drop the baby. Rule number one.

After that, sleep when you can. The first couple months can be tiring.
 
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