So...I caught my girlfriend cheating on me.

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Whitebison

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First of all sorry for my english, it's not my first language.

This morning my girlfriend tells me that she's going out with his friend (a girl) for 3 o 4 hours at max and that she will not come home to lunch, okay...11 hours later she didn't come back home (she texted me a couple of hours before that she was still with his friend in his house) so I decide to take a walk with my dog...

And then when I was a couple of blocks from my house I see my girlfriend kissing another guy...goddamn. She then sees me and gets all frozen, seeing that shit broke my heart but as I was with my dog so I didn't wanted to get too close because I know I'll fight the guy and crush him (he is skinny and short) with the risk of loosing my dog's leash and losing him. As I walk by the opposite sidewalk I tell my girlfriend that she's pathetic.

So then I took my dog to the house and go back to that street in full berserk mode to beat the guy, as I showed up at the corner the guy gets in the car and goes away in a second...As you would guess we are not a couple anymore.

The thing is I'm completely alone in this country (my "gf" and I are spanish currently living on mexico), here's a thread I made a couple of months ago explaining the current situation...

I can't go back to Spain right now because two things:

First...I have a flight already payed for october and the most important I can't go back to spain before that because we're now in full summer and they won't allow my dog to get in the plane so I have to irremediably wait to October...

tl;dr : So here I am...trapped in a country that I don't like without friends and a girl that cheated on me.
 
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Lenz44

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I'm really sorry to hear that : / I guess the best thing you can do is explore the country on your own and find things that you have really wanted to do, and the time will fly by.
 
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anonymous_abc

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Sorry for that, good thing you didn't end up beating anyone up, wouldn't help and would only end in trouble.
October isn't that long. Travel if you can, make the most of your last few months in Mexico.
 
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Yoda

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At least you didn't do anything stupid like try to continue the relationship; never worth it for someone who is willing to go behind your back.
 
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Jado

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Whitebison said:
The point is...I don't want to be here anymore, Mexican people are great and friendly but I don't know...I feel like
I don't belong here, we have very different cultures.

The problem is that my girlfriend doesn't want to come back to spain, she says she's happy here and she's not coming back...

I don't know what to do...we've been together for five years, I can't leave her alone in Mexico (although she has a couple of friends here) , feels wrong to me.

I know that the fact that she prefers to stay in Mexico alone than coming back to Spain with me says there's something wrong in our relatioship...but then
again...I can't leave here alone.
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El OP de tu otra thread lo dice todo. Vete lo mas rapido que pueda de esa miseria.

Sorry for my bad Spanish. Yeah, do what you must as soon as you're able. This chapter of your life seems done.
 
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Shaanyboi

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That totally sucks dude. If your situation wasn't so complicated, frankly I'd toss her shit to the curb. Doesn't sound like that's an option though...
 
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Rushersauce

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Que le den. ¿Qué mierda tiene en la cabeza? ¿En otro país y engañando a su pareja?. Menos mal que te la encontraste con las manos en la masa.

Te sacaste un buen peso de encima. Puta ingrata.
Best of lucks, buddy.
 
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Nephtis

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I wouldn't blame the guy -- chances are he didn't know she was in a relationship.

in any case, it's good you found out. She would've been perfectly happen to keep at it instead of breaking up with you. In the meantime just kick her out -- she'll have to find a place on her own, you have no more responsibilities with her. Enjoy the rest of your time there and go back to Spain as soon as you can.
 
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Nerokis

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Sorry to hear that, man.

Still, October is not that far away, and Mexico is actually a pretty underrated place. Where do you live, exactly? It seems Mexico thus far has been almost entirely about your girlfriend, but for the duration of your time there, you should enjoy it for yourself. Chances are you won't be back there anytime soon, so you may as well. Check out the lovely city of Puebla, check out the pyramids, swim in one of the famous Yucatan Peninsula cenotes. You're self-employed and Mexico isn't an overly expensive place, so if you can, you may as well travel as much as possible to minimize the time around your girlfriend. There is an incredible amount of beauty to experience there. (Be smart about your travels, though, of course. Mexico can obviously be a dangerous place, too.)
 
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TheJLC

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October is right around the corner. Just try checking up again if you can speed up the flight for you and your dog, things can change. Otherwise, October is right around the corner. Don't worry about her anymore or the guy, you go back to Spain and continue with your life.
 
SolVanderlyn

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I'm just sorry you didn't get there in time to beat him up.

The whole situation is terrible. Sorry you had to go through that. At least you caught her, though.
 
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corduroyCUCK

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she was pretty awful to you i must say,

the fact that you moved to a country you hated for her is commendable, she obviously wouldn't have done the same for you. it was shitty of her to keep the relationship going when she obviously had other plans. you, sir, experienced one of my worst fears, but now you're free and the only way to go is up. get out there and live a life with somebody you deserve.

also, why anybody would choose Mexico over Spain is beyond me. Spain is GORGEOUS.
 
lem0n

lem0n

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I can't imagine. I'm sorry, bro. But there's a silver lining to everything. If it's not now, it could have been later on. Be happy you weren't married, had a kid, whatever... Just keep your head up and take one day at a time. You will meet someone even better, and honest hopefully
 
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Doctoglethorpe

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Don't fight the guy. Your ex made the decision herself, and he might not even realize she was cheating. Even if he did, nothing is solved by fighting. You'll just wind up with more problems then you started off with.
 
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And_Gignac

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Oh man I'm so sorry :(

Maybe you can try and move to another city (guadalajara, DF or Monterrey, depending on where you are living right now) until October? It may help you feeling less bored and, of course, avoiding awkward encounters with your ex.


corduroyCHUCK said:
also, why anybody would choose Mexico over Spain is beyond me. Spain is GORGEOUS.
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Unemployment I suppose? There was a recent immigration wave of young, professional spaniards to Mexico City due to the hardships of the unemployment crisis in Spain.
 
Hip Hop

Hip Hop

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Doctoglethorpe said:
Don't fight the guy. Your ex made the decision herself, and he might not even realize she was cheating. Even if he did, nothing is solved by fighting. You'll just wind up with more problems then you started off with.
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It ain't worth it. He really could escalate things, especially if the guy knows others that could back him up. Since OP is an out of towner too.
 
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SkeptiMism

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Wow. I remember reading your original thread. That's some real shitty behavior of your girlfriend. Don't blame the guy though - as others have said he might not have even known she has a man, and it was her decision.
 
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SuperAndroid17

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Seriously though, ojala que te recuperes pronto...
 
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Whitebison

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Radec said:
Sorry to hear that.

And i doubt she's loyal to you back in spain too.
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We were almot 24/7 together so I doubt that.

She said to me that today was the third time she hang out with the guy...that she had no excuse blabla... fucking pathetic.

I think I'm going to focus on my work and working out everyday.
 
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Whitebison

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Doctoglethorpe said:
Don't fight the guy. Your ex made the decision herself, and he might not even realize she was cheating. Even if he did, nothing is solved by fighting. You'll just wind up with more problems then you started off with.
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Yeah, it was for the heat of the moment...besides, I'm here with a tourist visa and a ugly fight would complicate a lot of things.
 
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UnblessedSoul

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You know trying to beat up the guy gets you nowhere right?, if anything you will get charged with assault, your girlfriend was the unfaithful one, get rid of her and find someone better
 
Daffy Duck

Daffy Duck

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Damn, it sucks to hear she ruined everything but you dodged a bullet with not beating the crap out of the dude.

That's extra shit you don't want to deal with. You have no idea who he is affiliated with.
 
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Lucifon

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Whitebison said:
We were almot 24/7 together so I doubt that.

She said to me that today was the third time she hang out with the guy...that she had no excuse blabla... fucking pathetic.

I think I'm going to focus on my work and working out everyday.
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Totally the right thing to do dude :) Get lost in some awesome games and spend the time focusing on yourself, e.g working out and work as you said. It'll help a ton!
 
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Wazzy

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I'm sorry to hear you were cheated on. That's shitty and you don't deserve that.

However, I'm not sure why your reaction was to beat up the guy. Don't you think that's an extreme reaction to have?
 
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Arksy

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Sorry for your situation OP.....This might give you an actual opportunity to explore the country properly...Mexico can be amazing and you should totally go out and enjoy yourself rather than feel sorry for yourself at home.

I love the way Spanish speakers shift from English to Spanish almost within the same sentence. It's so cool.
 
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