tearsintherain
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I don't need to know much else. Making your kid feel stupid, your words, for lending their friend borrow it is shitty parenting. I didn't say they were shitty parents. I said that is an act of shitty parenting. Every parent is guilty of shitty parenting because parents are human and make mistakes. if there is a "Big Book of Parenting" and it said "Make your kid feel like an idiot if he loses his expensive toy by letting his friend borrow it", I'd say that's some shitty parenting advice.
While wildly off tangent from the topic its interesting to see the parenting styles discussed here. My parents were immigrants and I was an idiotic kid growing up, losing stuff constantly or getting it taken by bullies. Every time I would get long, long lectures on how hard they worked to buy those things and how disappointed they were in how careless I was with the items. It really seared into my mind the value of things.
On the flip side with my own kids I coddle them way, way too much but thats probably society today, I never see any kid being spanked or even yelled at and that was a thing everyone did when I was growing up. While I don't know for a fact I suspect immigrant and poorer families definitely have a different style of parenting when it comes to trust, charity, and losing things than affluent families.