NeoGAF Anonymous Confessions 2015 - Bare Your Burdens

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crazy cam story guy should just leave that whole mess behind and move on. nothing good would come out of it if it keeps going on.

20 yr virgin, just chill and focus on improving other aspects of your life. sometimes these things happen when you least expect it.

daveo42 said:
Virgin at 20 is nothing. I didn't lose mine till I was 31. Some others on GAF were/are in the same boat. Don't let it get you down if you're only 20 and still a virgin. Don't let that worry you all that much.

Or get an escort. I've heard that's one way to lose your virginity faster.
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should get The 21st Century Richard Gere to mentor him or something lol
 
The company I used to work for was fairly small (5 core staff including the owner, 2 part time). For the longest time, I had been looking for work but had been very hesitant in leaving I had a senior role within the company and felt scared my leaving would have a big impact on the company which I cared a lot about (my boss and I had and continue to have a fantastic relationship). However, I had passions for other things in the company (which the whole team knew about, including my boss) which I was never given a full chance to move into, despite being very vocal about it. About 3 months ago, we had hired a new core staff person, and he got given the title (and responsibilities) of the type of position I had been interested in (a position was explicitly created for that person in that role and title). I actually like the new guy and am happy he got what he wanted, but was very angry at the owner for not letting me move into that position. I got very pissed and started sending out resumes and really didn't care what would happen to the company. And I didn't feel it was enough.

I slowly stopped work on client projects and tickets. 2 other senior staff didn't know what was happening (they didn't realize it was me) and I started planting the seed in them that they should move on. And one by one, I left for a new job, the other senior staff quit (despite having no other job lined up) after a few weeks, and just recently, the final one also announced quitting. And given there are no more senior staff at the company, the owner is deciding to close shop. No one was wholly satisfied there, but I know my actions completely led the charge in making the others quit. I didn't expect the owner to close shop but he did and I completely regret that.

The owner doesn't know I caused all of this and we still have a good relationship. I know he'll start something new and recover. But the new hire got royally screwed alongside the 2 part timers, and I am an asshole for doing so.
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A petty, pathetic asshole.
 
IronRinn said:
Year of revenge up in the confessions thread. God damn.
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No greater good. No just cause. Only for revenge.
 
I used to always want my first time to be special (and for a while had a "no sex without love" personal rule) but now I think I'll take what I can get...
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I had that "fuck it I'll take what I can get" moment (though I'd never even been kissed) when I decided to hook up with my at the time best friend who had told me in no uncertain terms that she didn't do relationships. She immediately caught feelings and we ended up going out for a year and a half so it didn't actually really matter. That said, in the end whether or not you want to hold out for something special is a thing that you and only you should decide. Don't let other people's expectations push you one way or the other because it's your memory that you're making not theirs.

internetwolf said:
So you're sexually attracted but not mentally attracted.
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There's a pretty wide spectrum there.
 
I don't think the confessor acted in the right way at all BUT I wouldn't throw him under the boss completely - the other staff who left are responsible for their own actions, regardless of his influence.

That said, it's poor form to ditch your work responsibilities whilst you're still in your role. No problem looking elsewhere, but you still have a duty to do your job until you leave.
 
NotTheGuyYouKill said:
A petty, pathetic asshole.
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Instead of being completely passive-aggressive, why not just go to the boss and go "look, you hired this dude to do the job I explicitly wanted to do. I'm sorry, but I'm going to leave for greener pastures." And leave. Why go the backdoor way about it? I mean, do you feel better now that he's had to close shop because of what you did?
 
NotTheGuyYouKill said:
A petty, pathetic asshole.
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I wouldn't hold him responsible for other people quitting. He may have planted the seed, sure, but he can't be held responsible for someone else's actions. Sounds like the company was a shitty place to work, otherwise folks wouldn't have jumped ship en masse.
 
ClosingADoor said:
What the hell. Just quit and move on yourself if you wanted to do something different. Way to ruin some peoples hard work in building a business.
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This. Don't screw the company over something like new blood coming in. If you're upset, let your boss know. If you wanted to move on, do so. Don't burn bridges that take down a whole company.
 
jorgeton said:
I wouldn't hold him responsible for other people quitting. He may have planted the seed, sure, but he can't be held responsible for someone else's actions. Sounds like the company was a shitty place to work, otherwise folks wouldn't have jumped ship en masse.
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They had a senior role and they were sure they would detriment the company if they left. They stopped doing work while employed and the company caved around them. Go figure.
 
jorgeton said:
I wouldn't hold him responsible for other people quitting. He may have planted the seed, sure, but he can't be held responsible for someone else's actions. Sounds like the company was a shitty place to work, otherwise folks wouldn't have jumped ship en masse.
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Guy is kind of an asshole for even trying to get the other people to quit as well, but in all honesty they chose to quit too. They weren't forced to, and they too knew what quitting would do to the company. Looks like they also had a beef as well with the management.
 
I can't give my GF the big O. She says she's never had one before. She enjoys vaginal and digital intercourse, but I still feel somewhat inadequate. Oral doesn't seem to do much for her either, so I'm not sure what to do. She's fairly sexually conservative too. Maybe it's not a big deal because she enjoys sex anyway :S
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Just keep experimenting. I'm sure you guys will eventually crack that nut.
 
NotTheGuyYouKill said:
Just keep experimenting. I'm sure you guys will eventually crack that nut.
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Don't go for it everytime you have sex. If she feels stressed and frustrated about not orgasming, it will only make it harder. Sex can be wonderful even if noone orgasms.

Also, try and buy her some toys, maybe if she can there with a little mechanical help, that will help in the future.
 
NotTheGuyYouKill said:
Just keep experimenting. I'm sure you guys will eventually crack that nut.
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I sympathise for the OP. My wife had never had one before we got together, but I wouldn't put the eventual success down to my prowess or anything like that. I think it happened because two people were very relaxed and comfortable with each other, which melts away the anxiety and pressure of it happening. It's one of the cruel ironies in life where the best thing you can do is both not think about it, but in telling yourself that, all you can do is think about it more.

My advice is to just enjoy the moments. If it happens, great. If it doesn't, you can both still have a lot of fun regardless. After all, it's hardly like the only fun part of sex for us guys is the big finale.

Oh and the toys idea mentioned above is a good one. Apparently the hitachi wand is a favourite.
 
OP with wife that can't orgasm.

Very few women orgasm from penetrative sex. Try different stuff of course, but you might start with her clitoris. And yeah she can't be too tense or focused on having one either otherwise she'll do more to stop it. Alcohol helps (obviously make sure everything is consensual).
 
NotTheGuyYouKill said:
Just keep experimenting. I'm sure you guys will eventually crack that nut.
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Are we talking about plain normal orgasm, right? Not squirtting or anything like that? Because a few minutes of foreplay before sex always do for my girlfriend. I guess some girls need more to reach it. Just keep trying and don't worry to much about it, relax and it will happen.
 
Endruen said:
Are we talking about plain normal orgasm, right? Not squirtting or anything like that? Because a few minutes of foreplay before sex always do for my girlfriend. I guess some girls need more to reach it. Just keep trying and don't worry to much about it, relax and it will happen.
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I think it really depends on the person. I add my anecdotes to the pile but I someone I know is reading this thread from time to time so I'm not super comfortable doing that :P
 
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