Why are you so boring? (to Tabris)

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Stasis said:
The pumpkin spice latter reply is the best.

It includes a promo video for a coffee place for no reason at all. A photo of his condo for anyone who hasn't seen it yet, and just tons of pretentiousness. Followed by, I don't really like coffee anyway, in a subsequent post.

Wow. As others have said, you're either aware of how you come across and don't care, or you're fully unaware. Not sure which is worse. Either way you should strive to correct it. It's a massive turn off and hindrance to acceptance. And don't say you don't want it. These threads exist to get attention and allow you to discuss your personal life. They're designed that way. That's obvious.

In a sense I understand you. I like the finer things. I come from money and I have it, maybe not as much you, maybe more. Its irrelevant and I dont care. I grew up in Greenwich Village to a father who's a psychoanalyst to many famous people from various walks. Which is simply so you understand my background. I've attended awesome events, traveled far and wide, been to the finest dining establishments, courtside seats, hanging with athletes after games blablabla. See? I'm on "your level". I've partied, a LOT, with a lot of really attractive women (by most people's standards, obviously taste isn't universal) and I've lived that bachelor life with a tidy well designed condo filled with nice things and zero financial concern or any responsibility beyond: who am I hanging out with tonight? And what restaurant should I go to? Every single fucking night, with a bunch of friends who did it too. Whole weeks of closing out local hotspots until 5am with staff because we knew the owners, waitresses, bartenders. It was fantastic and I regret nothing. It ended at 27. I'm around your age now.

I hit a point where, and I think this is personal to everyone rather than a specific age, I wanted more. Or less, depending on perspective. I guess you see it as less. I settled down with a great girl. She's sexy to me for a bunch of different reasons beyond just the physical. Her job (a nurse, helping people, caring), her tolerance of my eccentricities, all the little things she does, including the imperfections like leaving her clothes all over the bathroom floor constantly and messing up my well organized spaces (again, I understand you) because its exasperating yet adorable etc etc etc. We find the right one eventually. Most of us. Not everyone, and that's fine too... but regardless of relationship status you eventually settle. You calm down. Priorities shift. It doesn't become all about you anymore. You wanna make her/him happy. Or you wanna make your kid happy. You want to make your friends feel welcome and happy too, one reason we love hosting is the satisfaction we get from that. Seeing our friends kids eyes light up because they know we included them in the planning, its amazing. We love them like if they were our own. You want a family maybe too, then. Most of my friends have kids now and we still see them. Its less frequent but we have a blast, even if its different. They arrive early and leave earlier, yep. Their kids come. We play with them. We have fun. We dont get hammered and have spontaneous bar parties except for maybe 2-3 times a year. We want kids, and that's coming soon. You adapt to evolving personalities, priorities, lifestyles and friendships.

I'm not gonna say "grow up" because you aren't ready yet, or may never be, like I said... I think it's personal to everyone and not a set number. But I will say maybe grow up with how you present yourself. Or how much attention you seem to require. Ego stroking. Why? Get rid of your "boring" friends and find a new younger crowd with matching priorities and desires for now, or adapt to the omes you do have instead of the other way around. Find some common ground. Understand their side of things. Trust me when I say they don't all secretly envy you and want your life. I know I don't. I'm happy setting up on Sunday to do a full day of week prep-cooking and cleaning and then watching TV. I'm happy doing it on a Friday or Saturday even! Reading in bed. Discussing what shows were watching. Games were playing, books were reading, songs we like... it's different, bit its not horrible at all. You'll see.

And please leave out the condescending little smiley/winky face at the end of the one line reply. Come on now.

TL;DR: I can relate and understand but shit changes and you're not making any effort to "get it".
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Thanks for taking the time to type out the actual issue at-hand. ;b
 
Its okay Bronson I posted that a decent amount of people's on GAF were boring, of course some would be defensive. I don't filter my opinions and thoughts on gaf. The fact they are defensive reinforces my point because if it had no truth this thread would have died off.

I don't think too many people have crossed the line, I'm not bothered. I'm currently in the bath getting ready for the night listening to that new asap rocky track everyday and reading gaf on my iPad. It's relaxing. I'll respond to a lost of the comments later.
 
Why would you go out with boring people and not your exciting friends? Seems like you're not smart enough to know what you're getting into when you agree to go out.
 
Tabris said:
Its okay Bronson I posted that a decent amount of people's on GAF were boring, of course some would be defensive. I don't filter my opinions and thoughts on gaf. The fact they are defensive reinforces my point because if it had no truth this thread would have died off.

I don't think too many people have crossed the line, I'm not bothered. I'm currently in the bath getting ready for the night listening to that new asap rocky track everyday and reading gaf on my iPad. It's relaxing. I'll respond to a lost of the comments later.
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Logical fallacy. Bruh. Textbook confirmation bias.
 
Minus_Me said:
I once flew to NYC from Montreal, a 45 minute flight, so I could have dinner at Masa and flew back that same day.

Its a cool experience, but putting it on par with raising a person its on a much lower level. To me at least.

At the end of the day, you do what makes you happy.
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I flew to Paris for a weekend earlier this year, for me it was just to go see a show and to do some shopping, basically a normal once-a-month weekend. There was an elderly couple in the suites next to me on the plane, basically they saved for the last fifteen years just do to this one in a lifetime trip. They were so happy to be upgraded to first class and it was the unbelievable thing to be living that.

It made me depressed. For me, it was nearly a boring weekeend, to them, it was the goal of their lives. I haven't travelled internationally since. Trying to enjoy a low profile, "boring" life is now my goal.
 
This is how I feel right now reading this thread:

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Tabris said:
I'm currently in the bath getting ready for the night listening to that new asap rocky track everyday and reading gaf on my iPad.
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Posting brands in a thread where people explain to you why your living "product placement" act is dumb as hell is either the most unaware or ridiculous thing you've done.

No, wait, literally nothing will top you posting pics of a hotel bed just after you had sex in it.

Oxn said:
For him and myself.
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You've never been mad online. You're actually laughing. This is all so hilarious to you.
 
Tabris said:
Its okay Bronson I posted that a decent amount of people's on GAF were boring, of course some would be defensive. I don't filter my opinions and thoughts on gaf. The fact they are defensive reinforces my point because if it had no truth this thread would have died off.

I don't think too many people have crossed the line, I'm not bothered. I'm currently in the bath getting ready for the night listening to that new asap rocky track everyday and reading gaf on my iPad. It's relaxing. I'll respond to a lost of the comments later.
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If you're not using the new ipad Pro then you're a pleb.
 
Dastardly Jerks said:
Posting brands in a thread where people explain to you why your living "product placement" act is dumb as hell is either the most unaware or ridiculous thing you've done.

No, wait, literally nothing will top you posting pics of a hotel bed just after you had sex in it.



You've never been mad online. You're actually laughing. This is all so hilarious to you.
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Ok the bed thing is pretty funny. I'm now on team tabris. He seems to get you guys angrier than Floyd Mayweather.
 
I was boring when I was younger because I was poor and couldn't do anything. Now I'm in my 30s and well established both financially and in my career but my friends have kids now, and can't do shit with me anymore so I'm still boring. Time to make new younger friends and just hide my age.
 
phil-x said:
I flew to Paris for a weekend earlier this year, for me it was just to go see a show and to do some shopping, basically a normal once-a-month weekend. There was an elderly couple in the suites next to me on the plane, basically they saved for the last fifteen years just do to this one in a lifetime trip. They were so happy to be upgraded to first class and it was the unbelievable thing to be living that.

It made me depressed. For me, it was nearly a boring weekeend, to them, it was the goal of their lives. I haven't travelled internationally since. Trying to enjoy a low profile, "boring" life is now my goal.
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Hey, I remember you... you're the dude in Montreal with the fantastic loft who actually doesn't come across as a braggart. I remember loving your renovation/update posts. If I'm rembering correctly. How's it going? =)
 
Stasis said:
Hey, I remember you... you're the dude in Montreal with the fantastic loft who actually doesn't come across as a braggart. I remember loving your renovation/update posts. If I'm rembering correctly. How's it going? =)
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Well my new loft should be finished next week! Moving before xmas hopefully. Took one more year than planned, had so many construction issues...
 
Oxn said:
Please link me to that bed post, I gotta see it now.
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Oh I actually haven't seen it, I just read about it 5 posts up. Would love to see it though that definitely won me over.

I got no hate in this thread. People seem to not like the guy because he enjoys life and has a nice place/career. I don't see anything wrong with that.

It's like the bonus thread where everyone is saying "lol bonus? Stealth brag!" over and over.
 
Stasis said:
The pumpkin spice latter reply is the best.

It includes a promo video for a coffee place for no reason at all. A photo of his condo for anyone who hasn't seen it yet, and just tons of pretentiousness. Followed by, I don't really like coffee anyway, in a subsequent post.

Wow. As others have said, you're either aware of how you come across and don't care, or you're fully unaware. Not sure which is worse. Either way you should strive to correct it. It's a massive turn off and hindrance to acceptance. And don't say you don't want it. These threads exist to get attention and allow you to discuss your personal life. They're designed that way. That's obvious.

In a sense I understand you. I like the finer things. I come from money and I have it, maybe not as much you, maybe more. Its irrelevant and I dont care. I grew up in Greenwich Village to a father who's a psychoanalyst to many famous people from various walks. Which is simply so you understand my background. I've attended awesome events, traveled far and wide, been to the finest dining establishments, courtside seats, hanging with athletes after games blablabla. See? I'm on "your level". I've partied, a LOT, with a lot of really attractive women (by most people's standards, obviously taste isn't universal) and I've lived that bachelor life with a tidy well designed condo filled with nice things and zero financial concern or any responsibility beyond: who am I hanging out with tonight? And what restaurant should I go to? Every single fucking night, with a bunch of friends who did it too. Whole weeks of closing out local hotspots until 5am with staff because we knew the owners, waitresses, bartenders. It was fantastic and I regret nothing. It ended at 27. I'm around your age now.

I hit a point where, and I think this is personal to everyone rather than a specific age, I wanted more. Or less, depending on perspective. I guess you see it as less. I settled down with a great girl. She's sexy to me for a bunch of different reasons beyond just the physical. Her job (a nurse, helping people, caring), her tolerance of my eccentricities, all the little things she does, including the imperfections like leaving her clothes all over the bathroom floor constantly and messing up my well organized spaces (again, I understand you) because its exasperating yet adorable etc etc etc. We find the right one eventually. Most of us. Not everyone, and that's fine too... but regardless of relationship status you eventually settle. You calm down. Priorities shift. It doesn't become all about you anymore. You wanna make her/him happy. Or you wanna make your kid happy. You want to make your friends feel welcome and happy too, one reason we love hosting is the satisfaction we get from that. Seeing our friends kids eyes light up because they know we included them in the planning, its amazing. We love them like if they were our own. You want a family maybe too, then. Most of my friends have kids now and we still see them. Its less frequent but we have a blast, even if its different. They arrive early and leave earlier, yep. Their kids come. We play with them. We have fun. We dont get hammered and have spontaneous bar parties except for maybe 2-3 times a year. We want kids, and that's coming soon. You adapt to evolving personalities, priorities, lifestyles and friendships.

I'm not gonna say "grow up" because you aren't ready yet, or may never be, like I said... I think it's personal to everyone and not a set number. But I will say maybe grow up with how you present yourself. Or how much attention you seem to require. Ego stroking. Why? Get rid of your "boring" friends and find a new younger crowd with matching priorities and desires for now, or adapt to the omes you do have instead of the other way around. Find some common ground. Understand their side of things. Trust me when I say they don't all secretly envy you and want your life. I know I don't. I'm happy setting up on Sunday to do a full day of week prep-cooking and cleaning and then watching TV. I'm happy doing it on a Friday or Saturday even! Reading in bed. Discussing what shows were watching. Games were playing, books were reading, songs we like... it's different, bit its not horrible at all. You'll see.

And please leave out the condescending little smiley/winky face at the end of the one line reply. Come on now.

TL;DR: I can relate and understand but shit changes and you're not making any effort to "get it".
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Let's not start falling down some stupid well of poor Tabris. He knows exactly what he is doing, and jerks off to the attention and flailing around his "superiority" over others. He understands perfectly what he is doing, it's just that it's kinds of pathetic.
 
Dastardly Jerks said:
Posting brands in a thread where people explain to you why your living "product placement" act is dumb as hell is either the most unaware or ridiculous thing you've done.

No, wait, literally nothing will top you posting pics of a hotel bed just after you had sex in it.



You've never been mad online. You're actually laughing. This is all so hilarious to you.
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Can you post the sex bed link pls?
 
phil-x said:
Well my new loft should be finished next week! Moving before xmas hopefully. Took one more year than planned, had so many construction issues...
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Gonna need pics. Your last one was amazing. Either make a topic or send me pm, if you're willing of course!

Zaraki_Kenpachi said:
Let's not start falling down some stupid well of poor Tabris. He knows exactly what he is doing, and jerks off to the attention and flailing around his "superiority" over others. He understands perfectly what he is doing, it's just that it's kinds of pathetic.
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I don't feel "poor Tabris" at all. I know why these threads are made. Just trying to understand and add my own perspective. For better or worse, lol. I tried to resist responding since day one. Couldn't do it anymore.
 
Stasis said:
Gonna need pics. Your last one was amazing. Either make a topic or send me pm, if you're willing of course!
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I wanna see it as well. I love lofts and I'll get one one day. Totally dreaming here as the lofts are expensive here and all are in areas with heavy traffic. But yeah might as well make something good from this thread.
 
Zaraki_Kenpachi said:
I week like the pictures are gone. He literally made a thread about it if you want to dig. I think he deleted the pictures after the last time he was made fun of for it.
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That sounds like the greatest thread of all time. Sad I missed it.

Did everyone get angry at him like this thread while he smokes a cigar in the bath?
 
Zaraki_Kenpachi said:
I think the pictures are gone. He literally made a thread about it if you want to dig. I think he deleted the pictures after the last time he was made fun of for it.
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Well I dont really need the pic really, but I just want to see how he described the whole situation.
 
Oxn said:
Well I dont really need the pic really, but I just want to see how he described the whole situation.
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I think all that's left is this:


Originally Posted by Tabris
I want to thank everyone here for the advice! I decided best way to deal with this was to go all in, just let it go and have fun - so we got a romantic suite at the Shangri-La and spent entire night in there.



Sorry for the overshare :) Just a fun night so wanted to scream it from the rooftops, and this thread motivated me to do this and just totally go all in. May have been some of the best sex I've ever had and we just kept on trying new things (well at least to me) all night
 
Stasis said:
Gonna need pics. Your last one was amazing. Either make a topic or send me pm, if you're willing of course?
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Sure! I could update the thread. I actually finished my bathroom walls with black sand stones with onyx lol. Hopefully it'll look good. I'm quite the reserved and lonely guy, I'm always happy to share if people are interested.
 
Phat Michael said:
That sounds like the greatest thread of all time. Sad I missed it.

Did everyone get angry at him like this thread while he smokes a cigar in the bath?
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:lol

phil-x said:
Sure! I could update the thread. I actually finished my bathroom walls with black sand stones with onyx lol. Hopefully it'll look good. I'm quite the reserved and lonely guy, I'm always happy to share if people are interested.
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Definitely interested. I'm sure many others are too. The last one was inspiring. I remember reading a lot of your posts. Glad you're doing well and accomplishing goals! Hâte de voir ça man.
 
teruterubozu said:
Around $3,000 I assume. PRS is sweet - I have a '93 Custom - but it kills my back cuz it's like a solid brick. These days I play my lighter (and cheaper) guitars.
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Close enough. I've never minded the weight, but mine was made in '06 so maybe they're lighter now. I do have a 'cheap' cabronita tele that I use for alternate tunings, and it is way lighter, but it makes the tele feel like a toy.

mrklaw said:
which is handy, as he likes to peg them at 24 as well
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http://www.hiyoooo.com/
 
Tabris said:
Its okay Bronson I posted that a decent amount of people's on GAF were boring, of course some would be defensive. I don't filter my opinions and thoughts on gaf. The fact they are defensive reinforces my point because if it had no truth this thread would have died off.

I don't think too many people have crossed the line, I'm not bothered. I'm currently in the bath getting ready for the night listening to that new asap rocky track everyday and reading gaf on my iPad. It's relaxing. I'll respond to a lost of the comments later.
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Well part of me hopes you're just pissing with us and going with the flow, but the thread keeps rolling in part because you keep feeding the fire with those glorious posts of yours :)
 
Phat Michael said:
Why do you keep saying that you have never been mad online? You keep specifying that for some reason.
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"I'm not mad, I'm actually laughing" is the most overused internet trope. The micro aggression in actually having to point out how much you're laughing is in itself being as aggressive as you say you aren't.

Oxn did it on behalf of Tabris, so now I'm just making fun of them.
 
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