My GF called me bitch 3x then came into BR and when I wasnt ready said "Fuck You"
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I'm confused, is this thread about the OP's problem they was having tonight or your problem with people who use the term outrage culture?
TheStruggler
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GhostWriter24
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It's a young relationship, and being called bitch, then being spurned and told to fuck myself because I didn't want to take her in a person's bathroom seems pretty bad. Maybe it's just me.
Outrage culture? All I asked was for some advice on the situation that was presented before me. Didn't mean to anger, or frustrate anyone.
I just explained why, why are you asking the same question over and over?
lol okay but I repeat my question I asked you before, why are you only replying to people that are agreeing with you? why make the thread if you aren't taking other viewpoints onboard?
I really don't want to switch genders, but really think about it:
"My boyfriend, who's been great till now, got drunk at a party and has been calling me a bitch in front of our friends. I went to the bathroom to take a piss and he followed me in there demanding I fuck him, and when I said I couldn't, he told me to go fuck myself"
"Lol, sounds like he's right about you being a bitch. You should have fucked him. Maybe wait until the morning before you overreact"
Joyful
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cause talk shit get hit
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
I ctrl+F'd your responses in here to make sure I didn't miss details, but I was wondering, what do you mean "Before tonight, I thought she was incredible."
Is she some saint when she isn't drinking?
I did, you must not be able to read, do you want me to dictate it? I said people are being outraged and overreacting because they seemingly don't understand that every relationship is different and complex and that there are no black and whites.
Byakuya769
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She sounds crazy. Bail.
I cannot fathom putting up with that type of behavior or having the energy to deal with life with a crazy asshole by my side.
Plenty of better people out there.
This topic has made me realize that some GAF members can certainly put up with a lot in a relationship.
At no point in my life would the thoughts "She pushed me down a flight of fucking stairs/calls me Hitler on a daily basis/got mad because I wouldn't have bathroom sex with her at someone else's party, but it's all cool" ever enter my head unless I seriously did take crazy pills.
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Deleted member 80556
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I don't know what the fuck I'm reading with some responses here.
Swinging? Taking money without telling your partner? Maybe you actually are a bitch? Oh man, and this is a progressive forum, I don't even want to know how it is in the general population.
Swinging? Taking money without telling your partner? Maybe you actually are a bitch? Oh man, and this is a progressive forum, I don't even want to know how it is in the general population.
I ain't seeing anyone outraged, let me dictate it: just baffled by some of the ridiculous shit people are saying. Shrug, some people love to pretend outrage culture is a thing though.
travisbickle
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Maybe she found some of your hidden porn? Do the women in the porn you watch act like that?
Okay, so you don't know what dictation is either, nice to know. But you seem really offended with my use of the word outrage, I may even say, you are getting OUTRAGED by my use of it.
calm down, smh, being a bit too transparent about the type of person you are..
OP did you add jokingly to the op? I don't remember seeing that before.
GhostWriter24
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She claimed it was. Idk. It was in front of a lot of people. So I added it. I called her out multiple times for saying it but she was pretty fucked up.
And what type of person is that?
Why do you selectively reply to the people that agree with you? what was the point of this thread?
if she called you a bitch and you called her out at the party, and she didn't stop cause she was drunk; fine.
if you called her up on it after the party, when sober, and she didn't apologise, that's pretty shit, but you can work through it. but surely, surely it would just be like "Yeah...I don't know what I was thinking, I'm sorry" and then you all move on.
if you called her up on it after the party, when sober, and she didn't apologise, that's pretty shit, but you can work through it. but surely, surely it would just be like "Yeah...I don't know what I was thinking, I'm sorry" and then you all move on.
Okay yeah, I had a different image in my head initially. idk, still weird to do that but if it was clearly jokingly and she was pretty drunk than it seems like slightly less of a deal. Hard to say without being there though idk.
Sickboy007
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Have you heard from her in the meantime?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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This is one of the more bizarre responses to a situation I've seen. I'm actually bewildered by some of you.
"Shit happens when you drink"? If the genders were reversed, just about every single one of you would be asking for someone's head on a stick and be pouring sympathy like nobody's business. Doesn't matter if you've been drinking or not. That kind of behavior is not acceptable, in public or private (unless it's some private sexual consensual thing, I guess.).
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills or something. Just such a dearth of respect and some fucking weird-ass blinders here.
OP, I'm telling you now: her behavior was not normal, and I don't buy the excuse of "You're not yourself when you're drunk."
If you're not yourself, then who the fuck are you? Someone else takes control of your body and you aren't responsible for the things said or done while inebriated?
Practice some goddamned self-control and self-responsibility.
"Shit happens when you drink"? If the genders were reversed, just about every single one of you would be asking for someone's head on a stick and be pouring sympathy like nobody's business. Doesn't matter if you've been drinking or not. That kind of behavior is not acceptable, in public or private (unless it's some private sexual consensual thing, I guess.).
I feel like I'm taking crazy pills or something. Just such a dearth of respect and some fucking weird-ass blinders here.
OP, I'm telling you now: her behavior was not normal, and I don't buy the excuse of "You're not yourself when you're drunk."
If you're not yourself, then who the fuck are you? Someone else takes control of your body and you aren't responsible for the things said or done while inebriated?
Practice some goddamned self-control and self-responsibility.
GhostWriter24
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Yes. She begged me to come to her apartment, but I told her I would talk to her tomorrow.
TickleMeElbow
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They should lock a bunch of GAF members with their SOs in a house and film a reality show lol.
Shit would be like the Jersey Shore but with less steroids and more vidya games/mountain dew.
Forerunner
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Just talk to her in the morning when she is sober and go from there.
Take that up with the people who said that part in the bold. The gender flip thing itself really doesn't affect my thought process nearly as much as it should because honestly I've been approaching this with the idea in my head that OP could be a girl and this could be a Lesbian relationship.
As far as I can see, OP was drinking, OP was actually up for having sex until that bathroom moment as was admitted by the OP. There's probably a lot more going on here that OP really isn't telling us and as far as I know with this limited data the best recourse is literally sober up and do it tomorrow in a clear and concise manner that allows no room for error because the OP will be of sound mind and judgement to analyze the situation and come to a better conclusion for themselves while initiating the breakup in a better condition than one where they were drinking (what sounds like heavily) not hours before.
If there is fault in sobering up before interacting with a human being then I ask of you to point it out.
Sickboy007
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Don't really know what I'd do in the aftermath. I'd probably be curious to know whether she just snapped because...whatever, or if it's a meaner streak she's always had, or if in her drunkenness she thought you did her wrong somehow. You don't have an obligation to stick around though.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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I guess it's the only way to get the pussy for some people.
Messofanego
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You have got to be kidding me.
GhostWriter24
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No one WANTS to endure them, people hold on to the good parts and try to disregard the rest. That's the pitfall.
I really liked her, but after what happened tonight, I want to end things before she seriously hurts me.
That was probably just a snap response from him, don't worry about it.
Good call, no point addressing this until both of you are sober.
jesus christ, why did you make a thread if you wanted it to just be an echo chamber of what you already think?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Maybe he just felt shitty and wanted to let it out.
FreeMufasa
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Ah man. Called a bitch by yours, multiple times, in front of people you know. Ahhh man that's gotta hurt OP. Right in the feels.
Eppy Thatcher
God's had his chance.
And you seem to be here just to echo yourself... over and over and over again.
Here's an idea... stop subjecting yourself to this oh so horrible abuse and move to a new thread? This one is obviously giving you tha vapors.
If waiting for the smell of alcohol to leave your breath before breaking up with someone is all takes for someone to "endure emotional abuse" then I truly have missed the memo about what constitutes abuse anymore.
I'm with this guy. OP I never said don't break-up with her. I never even said "You should absolutely give her a second chance" all I said was wait until tomorrow when youu (and especially her) are in a better state of mind for any serious discussion and a break-up definitely qualifies as a serious discussion.
probably not to defend himself against a bunch of guys on the internet
I didn't think it was terrible until he mentioned it wasn't even at their place. She's out at a friends acting a memorable fool.
GhostWriter24
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Because maybe it took a few people to help me understand my situation fully?
Are you offended that I agree with a few others that can relate or sympathize with me?
Yeah I am done in this thread, there is no point, I get it, he doesn't want any real discussion so I am leaving it. I just wanted to talk about it with the guy and give him another perspective but he is ignoring everything that isn't 100% what he agrees with.
I can relate with you 100%, my ex was abusive, but I didn't disregard everyone that didnt agree with me.
ScatheZombie
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Because that's literally every GAF relationship thread. I called this shit back on page 4. I'm sure if the thread continues we'll get the typical slow drip of new info that either makes the OP look ridiculous or the situation look like 1/10th as bad as it was made out to be originally. It happens every damn time.
GHG
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On a scale of 1-10 (10 being absolutely wasted) how drunk was she? Is this the first time anything like this has happened?
Advice isn't "lol it's not a big deal," it's minimizing the problem. Again, OP, you, anyone, should never allow yourself to be disparaged, especially by the person who is supposed to be your OG best friend that you supposedly love. Thinking it's normal is how it continues to happen. You remind me of my old roommates who literally patterned their relationship off Roseanne and Degrassi and couldn't figure out why they were so miserable half the time.
Aquavelvaman
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This is probably the worst thread on GAF right now.
I already told you to stop trying to troll me with your terrible relationship ideologies and even worse reading comprehension
The OP was drunkenly belittled in front of his friends by his SO who refused to stop, and then told to fuck off when he wouldn't put out.
If the OP's line was crossed there, that's entirely reasonable - I wouldn't want to ever deal with an abusive spouse, even if she's drunk. I dealt with that shit for years, I would drop someone in a second if they ever did that to me now, because I have enough self respect to not put myself through that.
If there is no excuse for that kind of behaviour for him, I think he's in good company, because there are plenty of women who feel the same way.
Did he ask for advice?
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