So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....

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OP, not sure exactly what the law says with respect to the possessions / furniture you referenced but might be worth tracking down receipts / credit card statements to help establish that they do actually belong to you. People can be really shitty (or in this case shittier) in situations like this.
 
KingSnake said:
I understand that, but still doesn't make it better. Just ignore her bitchy friend completely.
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No, he did the exact right thing by not letting her in. She could have hit him, broke his stuff, and forgetting any of this we know for certain she would have got in his face screaming and he doesn't deserve that.

There's no reality where letting them both in was the right thing to do.
 
OP, is there any chance to obtain gf's bff's mobile number?
Our pitbul Caesar sadly died 2 weeks ago and we need someone else to protect our property now.
Is she clean?Does she need vaccinations?
 
Herbspiceguy said:
Fancy looking for some new furniture?
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slider said:
OP, not sure exactly what the law says with respect to the possessions / furniture you referenced but might be worth tracking down receipts / credit card statements to help establish that they do actually belong to you. People can be really shitty (or in this case shittier) in situations like this.
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Yeah, if she wants to be bitchy she can at least go to the police and make a complaint about it. The same with locking her out of the flat.
 
sammyCYBORG said:
When you see a 70 page thread you assume some drama will be happening. I simply don't understand so many people being "hooked" to a very common, everyday break up story is all.
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Because the whole episode played out in the thread with people offering advice and eager to see what would happen. If he was telling us now after it all happened then it would have been different.
 
OCD Guy said:
So I didn't go to work today, I didn't go to bed unitl 4am so there was no chance I was getting up at 7am and able to do a full day at work.

Contacted my manager and explained the situation (not in detail obviously) and he was quite understanding.

Anyway my first point of call was to contact the estate agent, it turns out there is a break clause, so that's great right?

Well actually it's not because as I'm in a joint tenancy my ex would need to agree to it, but we've not spoken since last night when she was in the flat (I didn't reply to the text)

At around 11am I hear the door open and pull, the chain is still on the door so hence the loud noise, my stomach turns a bit, as I'm walking to the door I hear "Open the door you fucking cunt".

Oh good it's her friend. There's a lot of shouting, and I tell my ex that I don't want her friend in here, and if she want's me to remove the chain she'll have to be alone.

Understandably I didn't want to have to deal with a loud mouthy idiot shouting her mouth off at me.

My ex barely responds, all it is her friend shouting her mouth off. Saying things along the lines of "You can't lock her out, this ain't your flat" So there's not much I can do, as she's not the type that will calmly talk, and when I try to respond she just shouts all over me (you can imagine the type) so I just sit down in the front room until they give up. This must have lasted for about 30 minutes.

Once they go I close the door and put my key in the door, this way she can't even open the door, as putting a key through the other side won't work when there's a key already in the door.

I've not heard anything since that happened. What I've done my end is what most people end up doing, calling mummy and asking for help. So they're coming round in a few hours to start removing some of my stuff. They can't fit the furniture in their car, but I'm going to call a few removal guys, or possibly rent a van, need to see what's cheaper.

Obviously I can't lock her out of the flat, but I can take all the furniture out as I'm the one that paid for it. Literally paid for the essentials, the bed, sofa and then things like tv, pc etc are mine anyway (she has no interest in those things apart from the tv)

We have a dog (the chihuahua cross in my avatar before) which we paid half each for so not sure what we would do about that.

I'll feel more comfortable when my parents arrive, I know it makes me sound like a pussy but they won't mouth off, they're pretty fake and all polite around parents. They certainly won't shout and swear.

So that's where I'm at now.
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Good stuff OP, smart moves. Pack your belongings and get out of there ASAP. When you're gone just send her a txt saying "You can come back."
After that I wouldn't answer her calls for a day or two. Stay strong!
 
Ugh... that loudmouth friend.
I hate people like that. Absolutely hate loud people who can't listen and just shout through everything. The true dumbest on the planet. Nothing will be going in the right direction with people like these.

Do not send that message! Be the better adult here.
Try and record stuf when conversations actually happen. Not for us. But for yourself. (though i'd love to hear loudmouth yelling a couple of seconds).
 
OP, if they come back screaming again I would record it. You're justified keeping other people out of your flat, but they could lie to the police about how you've been behaving.
 
Yeah, don't send that, lol.

The friend sounds like the absolute worst. The fact your (ex?)gf doesn't respect you enough to talk to you alone is pretty shitty and very telling.
 
OCD Guy said:
I wasn't serious.

All that would do is provoke a reaction, and also I don't want to give her any clue.

She's not going to expect me to actually move out, that's why I said earlier she'll be full of regret.
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Good. You're doing everything right so far. Stay frosty ;)
 
Prologue said:
Who knows what she told her female friend to have her acting like that.
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I managed to obtain a transcript:

GF: "My boyfriend found out I've been trolling for cock on the side."
Friend: "What? What an asshole! Fuck that guy! None of his fucking business! Who does he think he is! He's a piece of shit and you can do better! Fuck that piece of shit!"
 
OCD Guy said:
I wasn't serious.

All that would do is provoke a reaction, and also I don't want to give her any clue.

She's not going to expect me to actually move out, that's why I said earlier she'll be full of regret.
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Okay, good.

Do you have any local friends that could help with the move? I remember you said you lived in North London, is that far from your parents? If not, maybe the friends could help expedite the moving process?
 
sammyCYBORG said:
When you see a 70 page thread you assume some drama will be happening. I simply don't understand so many people being "hooked" to a very common, everyday break up story is all.
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I know what you're saying. I didn't expect it to go the way it did.

And maybe if I was posting a summary after the fact it would probably not garner any interest.

Posting about it is actually helping to a degree, better than me just sitting here.

I tried playing the console but I can't concentrate, I've still got lots of shit going round my head.

Not sure what sort of twists you'd expect though?
 
OP, one final question... Does she know you post on GAF? I'd guess not but if you're a regular here she might track down this thread.

Wowzas, a siege mentality can be infectious.
 
OCD Guy said:
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Don't say shit. She will spin it to her friends and the authorities that you stole her furniture. She has nothing to lose by continuing to lie.

Many of my breakups involved me being lied on. All for them to save face. Don't do it.

Just cease all comms and move your shit to a secure location.
 
Spend the day moving your stuff, take final notes / photos of the place, post your key through the letter box and text her saying "all yours".

Done.
 
sammyCYBORG said:
When you see a 70 page thread you assume some drama will be happening. I simply don't understand so many people being "hooked" to a very common, everyday break up story is all.
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Not hard to understand: it's something everyone can relate to, it's happening in real time, and the OP is both regularly updating on events and likeable enough that folk want to support him.
 
If some hollywood execs are around... They should contact Sunhi or the OP for permissions to make movie out of this...

This thread is like the welcome to Neogaf gif. lol
 
Mammoth Jones said:
Don't say shit. She will spin it to her friends and the authorities that you stole her furniture. She has nothing to lose by continuing to lie.

Many of my breakups involved me being lied on. All for them to save face. Don't do it.

Just cease all comms and move your shit to a secure location.
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So go rogue? I like it.
 
Matthew McConaughey said:
you can have whatsapp on the iPad?

I call bluff
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You should read the thread, this is covered early on.



tempest3 said:
Pretty sure people explained this way earlier but there is apparently a way to have iPhone apps on the iPad. I don't know much about iOS myself though
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It's not an app, her ipad is not jailbroken or anything, it was the web service on safari.

Sir_Crocodile said:
She doesn't know you gaf then?
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She knows I go on gaming forums, always takes the piss and calls me a geek, but she'd have no idea what Neogaf is.
 
zaldrizes said:
How do these essex girls justify being angry here when she did the cheating? Help me understand the essex minds!
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Has nothing to do with location. I've had woman in the US pull the same shit.

My friend even had her lie and say he hit her which he never did. Didn't matter to her friends and family. Suddenly she's a token of sympathy even after getting pregnant by cheating with another dude.
 
That might be me living in the US for too long, and being a bit paranoid, but you might want to audio/ video record with your phone all interactions from now on, particularly if the friend is involved.
 
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