So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....
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kame-sennin
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I saw your pictures. You're fucking gorgeous. So I don't say this as an insult but as a favor; if you're not in therapy, you need to get in asap. Waaaaay better use of your money than surgery.
I've had cosmetic surgery already. I want more though, and veneers. My teeth aren't rotten but I want them perfect.
I know they say people in the UK have terrible teeth but I'm a little ocd with my teeth and visit the dental hygienist every couple of months and use electric toothbrush, waterpik, manual floss etc
Yes I've been spoilt as I'm an only child. I know I'm lucky at times.
burn this down
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Good lord, I thought this thread wouldn't get better.
OP, if I'd been you I'd have started pulling up the screenshots the moment she started lying to your parents. You're one cool customer. Props.
Where are your pictures, O.P.?
I'm sure more plastic surgery isn't necessary. It was probably never necessary to begin with.
Fuck no. A summary does not justice. You need to read this epic novel.
I second this. I wish I had your looks OP. Or at the very least your hair... Or just hair, really.
I never said that he must stay with her because of kids. I even said that is up to him to try and make things good again. But it's
Some of you guys in here are too jaded. Just because he's been gaming too much he doesn't like her?? Then he doesn't love his kids too, right?
Seriously, all relationships go through some turbulence period. Some recover, some not.
The Real Abed
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Please tell me you have since revealed the truth to your parents.
I never would have let my parents talk me into staying. They're paying her half because they feel bad for her because of what she told them you did. You need to reverse that. You need to get out. Now you're stuck there and there's always the lingering fear that she will come back with her friends. And you know what she'll have told them. Doesn't matter if you have proof. They will be angry and ready to cause some shit.
You should have revealed the truth when she made up that story.
I never would have let my parents talk me into staying. They're paying her half because they feel bad for her because of what she told them you did. You need to reverse that. You need to get out. Now you're stuck there and there's always the lingering fear that she will come back with her friends. And you know what she'll have told them. Doesn't matter if you have proof. They will be angry and ready to cause some shit.
You should have revealed the truth when she made up that story.
Lashley
Why does he wear the mask!?
He's insecure about his looks, it's common
89 pages man T_T when does this git gud?
Sorry to hear about your situation, but I am so very dubious of any excuses given within the first 3 days of somebody being caught talking to other people when they're in a relationship.
Emotional support? She say she didn't send any pics but didn't the original message you read say "send me a pic"? As if all of a sudden for the first time she was going to send the guy a pic after 7 yrs of secretly being friends with him? If it was about emotional support then why did it start before your marriage started having trouble? I dunno man. I wish you the best, that's an awful situation.
Or you know, just fully capable of self-control. I'm exactly the same way. It's not like we don't have emotions, it's just that we (well I can't claim to speak for both of us, but I imagine this is the case. Correct me if I'm wrong) choose not to act on many of them because we know it's not worth it in the end. Nothing good will come of it.
I posted lots in the "rate a poster thread", the thread is large though so can;'t direct link but the last page has someone who quoted me http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.php?p=183701915&pos]
Lashley
Why does he wear the mask!?
Dude, I know you are being super patient and nice but this is a little out of hand. You can't let her get away with trashing your good name. Tell you parents immediately the truth of what happened if you didn't already. You came home and found an ipad with a dudes dong on it, end of story. The more you sit idle quietly while she fabricates this story, the more difficult it will be for you to be believable telling the truth.
It's one thing to be level headed, but this is a good opportunity for you to practice defending your own integrity. You've got to respect yourself first and foremost.
Zombie James
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Hahaha
Helensmith
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With kids involved, you need to try and work this out. You don't need to give up ALL of your free time, but yeah, you should be spending more time with her.
Personally, my free time went out the window when my wife and I had a daughter. I now wake up at 3:30am every morning so that I can get an hour of game time in before going to work (more on the weekend). Otherwise, all my time is spent with either my family.
EDIT - Oh, and as someone else said, her contact with that douchebag needs to stop ASAP.
Absolutely, I went through a similar situation recently. It's a tough road, but different than OCD since you are married with kids.
We are working it out and things are mostly better now. Happy to chat if you want an outside perspective.
Marriage counseling is a must, IMO.
If she's being obstinate, move out for a bit. Being a single mom with two kids will wake her ass up quick, most likely. (It did in my situation).
Edit: FYI if you think you are considering divorce, do not move out until you are forced to by a court order.
Helensmith
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You look like Dave Franco?
freeofgreed
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Ok so this thread fucking blew up... quick summary for those of us just tuning in?
KernelPanic
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I've been in the exact same situation, she has to stop talking to him and you need to keep talking to her and work this out. I had a hell of a time getting rid of the other guy.
It really depends on how far along she was to leaving and whether she wants to work this out etc.
You're going to have to work on the relationship so that she has no reason to talk to people like that under such circumstances.
nekkid
It doesn't matter who we are, what matters is our plan.
Dude, you really don't need it. But if that's your thing, then cool, but now is probably the least favourable time to jump onto the gurney. Wait until you're happy with your situation and yourself, and then go enhance if you still want to.
Baloonatic
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Did you tell your parents what really happened after your ex lied about it?
Yeah, he kinda does. A better looking version of Dave Franco.
adamsappel
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Ah, apologies. Usually those comments are from people who don't want to support "someone else's" children.
TesUSA, your wife should definitely cut ties with this other person. I wouldn't begrudge someone turning to a friend about marital issues (I realize spending one's spare time playing videogames can be neglectful, but it doesn't rise up into permission to seek emotional support outside of the marriage), but a former lover should be out of bounds. And her describing him as a "backup plan" is a problem.
NeOak
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From the beginning.
I'm glad that things have been going as smooth as possible.
My only bit of advice now is to have your mom or dad, or both present when it comes time to sign the papers. You're ex-gf is petty, a liar, and spiteful, so I wouldn't trust her to sign the papers in good faith when it's just the two of you. Having your parents there won't embolden her, and she'll probably sign them with no more fuss.
I don't enter these threads for a shit show, or for some kind of perverse entertainment because other people are going through shit and I'm currently not. I'd hope that any advice I give out in a thread like this is helpful or comforting in some way. The jokes and cartoons and drawings are definitely funny, and I laugh for sure, but I don't look to have a "legendary thread," or anything like that. I like to see people happy. It's awesome that you don't have to move as well.
You really should get some therapy to help with your insecurity. I have vitiligo, which has wreaked fucking havoc on my self esteem and confidence, but fortunately, I have a great support system and wife that has helped me immensely. She also suffers from social anxiety and insecurity, and she's currently getting help for it, and I highly recommend it for you as well. There's no shame in wanting to better yourself, but you're too hard on yourself. You're young, have a good head on your shoulders and an even temperament, but your lack of confidence is going to hurt you eventually. There's nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. Your girlfriend was lying right to your face, and to your parents, and her friends. That's not cool. I used to be like you when it came to just letting things roll off of me, because I have a pretty even temperament. As I've gotten older (37 now), I've learned to speak up for myself. I would have called her on her lies. The proof was there, and she couldn't argue against it, and, since it seems like she respects your parents, I doubt she'd have acted out after being caught in her lie.
In either case, what's done is done, and now you just have to go through the final steps to excise her from your life. Do not keep in contact with her after the forms have been signed and the place is yours. She's going to want you back. She's going to make claims about wanting to make it work. It's bullshit. You deserve better. Work on getting yourself right, and you'll attract someone who is interested in you for more than your looks. I wish you the best, and hopefully we can play some Alienation this weekend!
My only bit of advice now is to have your mom or dad, or both present when it comes time to sign the papers. You're ex-gf is petty, a liar, and spiteful, so I wouldn't trust her to sign the papers in good faith when it's just the two of you. Having your parents there won't embolden her, and she'll probably sign them with no more fuss.
I don't enter these threads for a shit show, or for some kind of perverse entertainment because other people are going through shit and I'm currently not. I'd hope that any advice I give out in a thread like this is helpful or comforting in some way. The jokes and cartoons and drawings are definitely funny, and I laugh for sure, but I don't look to have a "legendary thread," or anything like that. I like to see people happy. It's awesome that you don't have to move as well.
You really should get some therapy to help with your insecurity. I have vitiligo, which has wreaked fucking havoc on my self esteem and confidence, but fortunately, I have a great support system and wife that has helped me immensely. She also suffers from social anxiety and insecurity, and she's currently getting help for it, and I highly recommend it for you as well. There's no shame in wanting to better yourself, but you're too hard on yourself. You're young, have a good head on your shoulders and an even temperament, but your lack of confidence is going to hurt you eventually. There's nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. Your girlfriend was lying right to your face, and to your parents, and her friends. That's not cool. I used to be like you when it came to just letting things roll off of me, because I have a pretty even temperament. As I've gotten older (37 now), I've learned to speak up for myself. I would have called her on her lies. The proof was there, and she couldn't argue against it, and, since it seems like she respects your parents, I doubt she'd have acted out after being caught in her lie.
In either case, what's done is done, and now you just have to go through the final steps to excise her from your life. Do not keep in contact with her after the forms have been signed and the place is yours. She's going to want you back. She's going to make claims about wanting to make it work. It's bullshit. You deserve better. Work on getting yourself right, and you'll attract someone who is interested in you for more than your looks. I wish you the best, and hopefully we can play some Alienation this weekend!
They knew what happened before they got here earlier.
Her oscar performance hasn't changed anything, it might work on her friends. But my parents are the ones that have been there through the depression, insecurity, surgery etc, and they know me more than anyone.
It's just not my style to see multiple people, I struggle to get people, like when I go out I never get people, but I'm pretty reserved, so even if someone tries to talk to me I sorta shut them down, and they just think I'm arrogant but it's not that at all.
Friends of mine are the complete opposite, they'll approach women and if they get knocked back, just move onto the next one.
So is she. She isn't going to pay half of the rent she owes if she isn't living there, furthermore since she is on the agreement she is entitled to living there.
The only way of getting out is to pay a termination fee, usually based on how much rent is left on the lease.
Filth
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InfiniteBento
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Sorry guys, forgot her Essex friend:
omfg
Baloonatic
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That's good, just checking that you weren't letting her ruin your good name
You sound a lot like me, difference being you are really good looking dude. I know you mentioned nose and other types of surgery earlier but please do consider therapy first. Surgery can go wrong in a very bad way and it is possible you would just end up being even less happy with your appearance afterwards.
You need to deal with the root of the problem which seems to be how you think about yourself. Because how you look should not be a problem.
You aren't paying attention.
She said she's leaving.
His mother is covering the ex's half of the rent.
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