GAF... Have I ruined this opportunity? (Girl advice needed)

Go for it. Tell her you felt a connection and should've asked to keep in touch but were too shy, and have been kicking yourself ever since. Be honest.

If it doesn't go your way, respect her boundaries.

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always crazy bacon said:
Nope, he has an opportunity for recovery. Sounds like he made a real connection.
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Or that person could just be inherently friendly and even if she liked him, a dude showing up at a place you eat regularly is sorta fucking creepy. Nothing about that exchange told me she was so in love with him she could overlook what is potentially looking like a stalker.

Sometimes, people are just nice. Take the L and learn from it.
 
It's too late for this one.

I would say use this as a learning experience to not let that initial fear of rejection get in the way of a possible future relationship/friendship. Next time, just ask for the number, very little to lose.
 
TheSpoiler said:
Or that person could just be inherently friendly and even if she liked him, a dude showing up at a place you eat regularly is sorta fucking creepy. Nothing about that exchange told me she was so in love with him she could overlook what is potentially looking like a stalker.

Sometimes, people are just nice. Take the L and learn from it.
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Dude. She told me I should have lunch at this place while I'm in town. Even if she isn't interested, she told me to check it out. I will.
 
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M52B28 said:
Go there to see how the food is. If she's there it's a plus because you experienced something new, and you've reconnected with her.
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Exactly. Go because you got a great recommendation for lunch, expect good food and nothing more. If she does happen to be there, open with, "Hey, I never got your name."
 
Dude FUCKING GO MAN! Get this shit done! She's into you. She TOLD YOU EVERYWHERE SHE WILL BE FOR CHRIST'S SAKE FUCKING FIND HER.


Sorry for yelling. I'm invested.
 
BackLogJoe said:
Dude. She told me I should have lunch at this place while I'm in town. Even if she isn't interested, she told me to check it out. I will.
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Go for it, she's obviously into you.
If she doesn't want to in the end she'll just tell you she's busy and in a rush and that'll be that, at least you'll have tried.
Don't miss out, chances like these don't come around so often.

Just be honest and say, I didn't even get to ask your name, let me make it up to you?
 
BackLogJoe said:
Dude. She told me I should have lunch at this place while I'm in town. Even if she isn't interested, she told me to check it out. I will.
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Yeah I'm sure she wanted you to check it out at the exact same time she is.
Like all I'm saying is not everything is an invitation. Maybe it is and maybe it isn't.
 
This looks extremely salvageable, go have lunch at the place and see if you guys meet again, worst scenario the chemistry won't be there and/or she will reject you and you will just shrug your shoulders and move on after some slight initial dissappointment.

Edit- Don't cling onto the chemistry from the previous day if now she pushes back for some reason, don't be creepy and just back off.
 
I'm far from an expert with girls (don't even have experience), but I would have at least asked for her name and number.

I got a woman's phone number recently, but she started acting crazy/playing games with me. So I just walked away.

It seems like you actually had a decent girl.
 
I'm far from an expert with girls (don't even have experience), but you should at least ask for her name and number.

I got a woman's phone number recently, but she started acting crazy/playing games with me. So I just walked away.

It seems like you actually had a decent girl.
 
I just have a small correction for the people saying we've all been oblivious to obvious flirting before: That is plainly and completely untrue. I understand wanting to make OP feel better but honesty is the much better route. Ifyou say that then lessons may not be properly learned.

OP did in fact mess up that one meeting. However that does not mean OP cant make things better. If she told you where she works,what time her shift starts and ends then it is almost certainly an invitation to visit her. Do so and try to read signs a bit better next time.
 
OP everybody saying "GO!" actually want to see you fail! Don't you see? What are you trying to do is super creepy!
 
maomaoIYP said:
If she's a regular there's a good chance the service staff know her, ask them if she doesn't show up.
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If they do (and you're sure it's her), then maybe leave them a nice tip along with a note to give her next time she's in. Write that you came with your friends for lunch, and that you appreciated the recommendation. Leave your name, number, and a quick apology for not asking her name!

Fuck, I'm way too into this.

Beardz said:
OP everybody saying "GO!" actually want to see you fail! Don't you see? What are you trying to do is super creepy!
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This is overly cynical.
 
TheSpoiler said:
Or that person could just be inherently friendly and even if she liked him, a dude showing up at a place you eat regularly is sorta fucking creepy. Nothing about that exchange told me she was so in love with him she could overlook what is potentially looking like a stalker.

Sometimes, people are just nice. Take the L and learn from it.
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Well, that pessimistic outlook on life sure is going to pay off for you.
 
ColdPizza said:
I feel like your missed your chance at the airport. If you track her down to her lunch spot now you just seem creepy.
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Normally yes, but it's not like he looked her up and stalked her to find this information.

I think it's okay in this case because she's the one who told him about this place, and told him all sorts of stuff about how he could meet her to boot. She obviously wants to see him again.
 
I sure as hell wouldn't tell a strange dude on the airplane where I work or where I eat lunch all the time unless I was really into him. This is why I think it's ok for OP to go to the lunch spot and play it off (also the woman being visibly annoyed that he didn't even ask her name, lol).

This is the best idea I've seen:

Sho_Nuff82 said:
Go to the lunch spot. Bump into her, have a laugh, tell her it's the only spot you know in town because of her, introduce yourself.
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Simple, short, and it shows you were listening to her/interested in her.
 
creepy is if OP had asked her where she eats lunch and then shows up unexpectedly. Her telling OP that they should eat lunch at her usual spot is either a genuine recommendation or a hopeful invitation. Either way involves her wanting them to go there.

e: asking waitstaff/bartender is kinda weird tho
 
Akuun said:
Normally yes, but it's not like he looked her up and stalked her to find this information.

I think it's okay in this case because she's the one who told him about this place, and told him all sorts of stuff about how he could meet her to boot. She obviously wants to see him again.
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That was kind of before he insulted her passively by not asking her name etc. Whatever. Hopefully she'll show up.
 
Good luck OP! But seriously, if she doesn't show up, talk to the staff and leave your number so they can give it to her. The worst that can happen is that she never calls, nothing to lose.
 
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