My GF let a salesman into our home

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There are a couple of things going on in this thread.

1. Opening the door to strangers.

On this subject I'm mixed. I don't like to assume anything and if someone truly needs help I don't want to be so cynical that I won't help them. On the other hand I try not to put myself in situations where I don't have a lot of control over the outcome. If I can choose to get my liquor in a store that isn't in a bad neighborhood over one that is, I'm going to choose the former every time. I'm mixed on this.

2. Girlfriend opening the door without the boyfriend there

Saying a woman shouldn't open the door because a man isn't around isn't something I would say. That's where you come off as sexist. Would the OP have said it if it was a male roommate?

I understand being worried, especially when you feel you're better equipped to deal with a physical situation than she is. And the fact she's wasting money period (it doesn't really matter whose money it is). If it was only about wasting money I think most people would cut you some slack, but some of the other things you've said makes me think it's more than that. I think you should work on it, and hopefully your relationship with your girlfriend will be stronger than it was previously based on mutual understanding instead of distrust.
 
PoorFate said:
I kind of wonder why some other person's were not punished. There was some pretty blatant trolling and baiting on display in this thread, at least from what I've seen.

Letting strangers into your home is a tricky situation. If it's someone you expect for an installation or something, that's fine, but otherwise I would keep the interaction at the door.

Letting your guard down around strangers under the pretense that you are both "adults" and that they will not harm you for their own gain is incredibly naive.

Overall, I'm really disappointed from reading this thread. I expected to read a discussion on experiences with the type of situation described in the OP, but instead it was pretty much trolling and off topic nonsense for the most part.
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This.
 
KittenMaster said:
OP kinda got screwed over by the people of this thread. DetectiveGAF revealed joke threads from the past which caused a huge explosion. It was really entertaining but I have to admit the OP handled himself better than most people that get themselves banned.
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OP will be back, and he didn't totally bail as soon as Detective GAF decended upon him, so he gets respeck knuckles for that.

Post history is going to fuck me I think.
 
Lionel Mandrake providing closure with goddamn swag.

lawblob said:
This is how I will describe and introduce my wife from now on.

Yes, this is my wife, she is small woman.
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This got a hearty laugh out of me. Thanks. My wife would kick me in the groin if I pulled that one.
 
Dragon said:
There are a couple of things going on in this thread.

1. Opening the door to strangers.

On this subject I'm mixed. I don't like to assume anything and if someone truly needs help I don't want to be so cynical that I won't help them. On the other hand I try not to put myself in situations where I don't have a lot of control over the outcome. If I can choose to get my liquor in a store that isn't in a bad neighborhood over one that is, I'm going to choose the former every time. I'm mixed on this.

2. Girlfriend opening the door without the boyfriend there

Saying a woman shouldn't open the door because a man isn't around isn't something I would say. That's where you come off as sexist. Would the OP have said it if it was a male roommate?

I understand being worried, especially when you feel you're better equipped to deal with a physical situation than she is. And the fact she's wasting money period (it doesn't really matter whose money it is). If it was only about wasting money I think most people would cut you some slack, but some of the other things you've said makes me think it's more than that. I think you should work on it, and hopefully your relationship with your girlfriend will be stronger than it was previously based on mutual understanding instead of distrust.
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I mean, I just don't trust strangers. Sorry if that's not "nice" or "politically correct" but if I don't know you I'm gonna go ahead and assume the worst about you and keep my distance until I have sufficient reason to believe otherwise. The real world isn't full of friendly gaffers...I'm a cynical fuck, I know.

I don't care if someone is knocking at my door asking "Excuse me, do you have a moment for Jesus Christ?" If I can't see both hands, I'm gonna assume grandma got a Tech-9 waiting for me. My paranoia is wrong 99.9% of the time. But the 3 times it was dead-on it saved my ass.

But I do have this thing called "tact". I'm not gonna bulldoze and grab my shorty by the hair and tell her how dare she disrespect me. Fuck that.
 
I'd probably be upset if I were in his situation. Gender bullshit aside, when letting a stranger into your house, you don't know if he's a psycopath, a murderer, a burglar looking to scope out the belongings (this has happened to my family), or a scammer. There's just no reason to do it, and the risks outweigh any benefits (which are?). Add in the fact that the homeowner is small woman by herself in the house and you have added risk. Handing a check to a stranger who talked his way into your home because you're afraid to say no isn't too smart either. If you're sharing a home with someone, you have the right to expect to lay down some groundrules between the two of you on issues involving letting strangers and solicitors into your house. Absolutely nothing unreasonable about that.

Can't speak for the way the OP reacted, though. Who knows how well his description matches what really happened, how his girlfriend reacted in return, and I ain't reading the whole thread.
 
I'll miss the OP solely for this line, which had me laughing aloud for a good two minutes:

As i walked away i heard the dude screaming to stop the line.
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I may be in the minority here, but I was very impressed with Marrec's work in this thread. Very subtle and amusing. +1
 
Why would anyone go through the trouble? Do they just have that much time on their hands?

Don't get me wrong--I'm thankful for the entertainment, just a little dumbfounded at the frequency of this kind of stuff.

I can't even trust blame space any more...
 
I like knocking on doors of strangers and asking to come in their house.

I just look around a bit, check out their fridge. Sometimes see if they have any good leftovers.
 
Harry Dresden said:
Hey guys. If she decides to let a stranger in the house and gets raped. Then its her decision to get raped.

We, as men, can't interfere.
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Why ruin a perfectly good ending to this thread? Did you really need to open that can of worms?
 
DrEvil said:
Why ruin a perfectly good ending to this thread? Did you really need to open that can of worms?
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its obvious that hes trying to signal round 2.
 
A meat salesman showed up last week and offered my roommate cheap steaks, the thing is you have to buy 300$ of steak for it to be cheap, and need a meat freezer rather than a regular freezer to hold all the months worth of meat.

When I told him we weren't interested he told me he'd return with some possum from the road because that's what I looked like I'd enjoy rather than steak.

Fuckin asshole.
 
Harry Dresden said:
Hey guys. If she decides to let a stranger in the house and gets raped. Then its her decision to get raped.

We, as men, can't interfere.
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incredible/crazy/can of worms. opening door=invitation to rape.
 
PJV3 said:
incredible/crazy/can of worms. opening door=invitation to rape.
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lol. That's not even the worst part. Unless he was being sarcastic (he has to be right?), Harry Dresden seems to be suggesting that the husband is in some wierd-o-logic-way guilty for his wife being raped.

Edit: "His wife" duh not "her wife"
 
Plasmid said:
A meat salesman showed up last week and offered my roommate cheap steaks, the thing is you have to buy 300$ of steak for it to be cheap, and need a meat freezer rather than a regular freezer to hold all the months worth of meat.

When I told him we weren't interested he told me he'd return with some possum from the road because that's what I looked like I'd enjoy rather than steak.

Fuckin asshole.
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Those types usually obtain their product by stealing it.
 
Segnit said:
lol. That's not even the worst part. Unless he was being sarcastic (he has to be right?), Harry Dresden seems to be suggesting that the husband is in some wierd-o-logic-way guilty for her wife being raped.
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I don't know if he's being sarcastic or not to be honest, the husband is guilty in his scenario by not interfering with the rape... Yeah he's being sarcastic.
 
marrec said:
Not since that magazine salesman gave me the clap.

That ruined my innocence.
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Indeed, you told me about that before.


Let this thread be a lesson to everybody else.

Never be a lousy boyfriend :D
 
Slappers Only said:
It's probably best if you just defend yourself and rape anyone who knocks on your door.
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I get a lot of Jehovah witnesses around here, they annoy me but not that much.
 
Fake topic or not, how did he treat his girlfriend wrong by telling her not to let people in? if she's the type of person that's gonna spend money just because she's afraid to say no then I'd tell her not to let people in the house too.


Back when I was living at home my mother was like that. Lets guys in and they're REALLY pushy, and she doesn't even have the slightest bit of courage to say no. So yeah time and time again she'd switch to a different phone/gas/eletric company because some guy either made a good sales pitch or straight up lied to her and everytime she got her first bill from this new company she'd find out it's not what they promised at all. Sometimes she'd have to pay to switch back to the original provider. All this simply because she felt like she had to say yes. In this case telling her to not let them in was for her own good.
 
Dizzy said:
Fake topic or not, how did he treat his girlfriend wrong by telling her not to let people in? if she's the type of person that's gonna spend money just because she's afraid to say no then I'd tell her not to let people in the house too.


Back when I was living at home my mother was like that. Lets guys in and they're REALLY pushy, and she doesn't even have the slightest bit of courage to say no. So yeah time and time again she'd switch to a different phone/gas/eletric company because some guy either made a good sales pitch or straight up lied to her and every time she got her first bill from this new company she'd find out it's not what they promised at all. Sometimes she'd have to pay to switch back to the original provider. All this simply because she felt like she had to say yes. In this case telling her to not let them in was for her own good.
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Telling... actually no, ordering another adult to act in a certain way in your absence isn't a bright idea.

I have to reach my hand out to ConservativeGAF at some point so it might as well be now. All of you who have diligently been sympathetic to the Thread Starter (TS), to a certain extent, have a case. What is your case? Here, let me give your side a much needed boost.

The TS, the now banned fuzzyreactor, didn't give you guys much of a bone unfortunately. Why? Because in his hastily put together OP, he neglected to mention anything about a similar occurrence in the past. So we're left to assume.

Since we're going to assume, let me assume the best case scenario for you guys (something which almost all TS sympathizers in this thread have already been doing).

So TS comes home. He, for better or for worse, isn't amused by the salesman and so he drives him out. Now lets assume that after the mag salesman had been driven out and in light of the fact that all was well and no immediately visible harm had come, he calmly and very softly sat his GF down on the sofa, then sat down alongside her himself, and started to discuss what, if ANYTHING, was wrong with what just happened.

TS being the absolutely 'sane' person that he is, speaks calmly while trying to genuinely get to the bottom of the issue, his GF though, still in a bit of emotional distress, goes on a bit of an irrationally squeaky tirade.

With TS being slightly inexperienced and all, forgets about the concept of allowing his beloved GF some breathing room to chilll, so he decides to get on GAF and ask for advice.

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If we're going to assume this then I promise you, there is no disagreement in this thread. But my question to you all is, why assume this? Why can't we establish the real facts which are:

He changed facts about his story at least once (more like twice). He gave minimalist answers to everything. There were plenty of omissions in the OP. He was forcibly and without any prior warning ordering his subordinat... er i mean, GF what to do.
 
Lionel Mandrake said:
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For those of you just joining us, the OP claimed to be upset that his girlfriend let a strange magazine salesman into their house, who the OP promptly told to leave, as the girlfriend is not allowed to invite strangers into the home. The chauvinistic manner in which he described it, made him seem like a massive tool. GAF called his sorry ass out on it, and he became defensive. The GAF Detectives did some research and discovered this thread made by the OP last year. The OP then claimed that the previous thread was a lie he made up for kicks. All while GAF nears ever closer to downtime. Will this trainwreck get resolved in time? Will the OP get a tag? Will this thread be locked? Will his girlfriend ever get to read a magazine?

Let's find out.
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Lionel Mandrake said:
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And so our OP was banned, his girlfriend was free to buy as many magazines as she wanted, another case was closed for the GAF-Detectives, and everybody learned a valuable lesson about equality... maybe... probably not. Everyone definitely learned that if you posted something stupid before, it will be brought up again. So there... That's kind of a lesson. Or half. Yes, let's say that everybody learned half of a lesson. Good compromise.

Well, that about does it for this GAF trainwreck. Until next time, I'm Lionel Mandrake. Good night.
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"Hello! I am a British person."

I actually read it in his voice. Amazing!

My first impression of the OP was "Harsh, but I see where he was coming from." If it's shared finances, he definitely had a right to speak up. Complete strangers in a house can be a serious concern. But again, I wouldn't yell at my GF and berate her like a child over it.

I kept reading the thread, seeing the OP Banned, wondering what twist would be made. And then I saw GAF Detective's work, and yeah, pretty much had no sympathy for him after that.

So I must've missed something. Was he banned because he admitted to making a fake thread in the past, or was there some other post of his I missed?
 
Choppasmith said:
"Hello! I am a British person."

I actually read it in his voice. Amazing!

My first impression of the OP was "Harsh, but I see where he was coming from." If it's shared finances, he definitely had a right to speak up. Complete strangers in a house can be a serious concern. But again, I wouldn't yell at my GF and berate her like a child over it.

I kept reading the thread, seeing the OP Banned, wondering what twist would be made. And then I saw GAF Detective's work, and yeah, pretty much had no sympathy for him after that.

So I must've missed something. Was he banned because he admitted to making a fake thread in the past, or was there some other post of his I missed?
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That's what is believed to be the case.
 
Segnit said:
If we're going to assume this then I promise you, there is no disagreement in this thread. But my question to you all is, why assume this? Why can't we establish the real facts which are:

He changed facts about his story at least once (more like twice). He gave minimalist answers to everything. There were plenty of omissions in the OP. He was forcibly and without any prior warning ordering his subordinat... er i mean, GF what to do.
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I don't think that many of them were so much defending the OP as they were arguing with the people who claimed/implied that the wife did nothing wrong or that the OP had no right to be concerned. Does that make sense?
 
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