Dating-Age |OT3| Positivity, Confidence, and Not Being a "Nice" Guy

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Yeah I mean she seemed pretty shaken up when she told me cause she cried pretty hard, but now shes like get over it and its in the past now...im like its been two days since you told me. Her ex cheated on her and I always told her how it was tough for me to completely trust any girl cause most have cheated on me and she basically did the same as her ex.

Yeah...what I'm about to post is my opinion based on experience. She told you because she thought it was the "right" thing to do. For her. Not you.

And she's telling you to get over it? She should be understanding of your past experiences, given what you've said here. I'm not saying that you ought not to get over it, but you're well within your right to process something for more than a couple of days. Provided what you're posting here is the full story, I'd say she needs to back of for a few more days. Telling you to get over it is pretty controlling, mate.

Personally I'd take the high road and say that you need a little bit of time, since that issue hits close to home. If she doesn't respect it, then re-examine your commitment to your relationship.
 
Bowling is pretty great. So is an burger-arcade place like Dave N' Busters.Mini-golf is excellent as well. Don't count out small hikes either!

Think fun activity where you can still talk to each other!

No dave n' busters where I live hahaha, don't think there's anywhere with mini golf either. I guess we could go to a bowling place or somewhere to play pool. But the place I want to eat at is a different one from the one where we would be playing pool/bowling. Also never been bowling in the city I currently live in.
 
No dave n' busters where I live hahaha, don't think there's anywhere with mini golf either. I guess we could go to a bowling place or somewhere to play pool. But the place I want to eat at is a different one from the one where we would be playing pool/bowling. Also never been bowling in the city I currently live in.

Any bars or restaurants around you do trivia? That could be fun and you could show off how smart you are.
 
Any bars or restaurants around you do trivia? That could be fun and you could show off how smart you are.

Nope, but I already got a place figured out thanks to a GAFer in my city. I'll keep all suggestions in mind for second date/other date opportunities though. Now I just need to figure out how to approach it. I have to go to class right after work and the last time I talked to her was on friday. Texting her a bit in class wouldn't be that bad right? I could ask her out tomorrow during my lunch break or something after I scout out the place where the date will hopefully happen.
 
Is it strange for a couple of three years to "plan dates"?

I have a Skype bathtub date tonight with the gf, and she's all excited about it ;)

Never really thought of talking with her every night before bed, watching Breaking Bad, or even when together - going out for dinner, picnic, zoo, concerts, theater etc. as a "date"

Is that more for people who are still trying to figure each other out, never met parents, no intimate sex 'n stuff? "date"
 
Is it strange for a couple of three years to "plan dates"?

I have a Skype bathtub date tonight with the gf, and she's all excited about it ;)

Never really thought of talking with her every night before bed, watching Breaking Bad, or even when together - going out for dinner, picnic, zoo, concerts, theater etc. as a "date"

Is that more for people who are still trying to figure each other out, never met parents, no intimate sex 'n stuff? "date"

Put a ring on her finger buddy
 
Is it strange for a couple of three years to "plan dates"? Is that more for people who are still trying to figure each other out, never met parents, no intimate sex 'n stuff? "date"
Hell no. Girls love that. Whether you are in a long term relationship or a brand new one it's important to still do things and plan events to hang out and have new experiences. Girls and guys alike will get tired of the status quo if you don't make an effort to plan and add some spice to your relationship. YMMV but I would try and at least plan a special night once a month with your SO. It's 100% worth the effort whether it's just a movie night at home or a romantic dinner.
 
Hell no. Girls love that. Whether you are in a long term relationship or a brand new one it's important to still do things and plan events to hang out and have new experiences. Girls and guys alike will get tired of the status quo if you don't make an effort to plan and add some spice to your relationship. YMMV but I would try and at least plan a special night once a month with your SO. It's 100% worth the effort whether it's just a movie night at home or a romantic dinner.

I get all that, but I don't like how my gf says "we never plan dates, I'm very excited for our bath date tonight" (do I just say, I'm excited too :Happyface)

Is it the scenario, or the planned event - because we'd go to the movies practically every weekend and such.

Long distant relationship, so we would come on Skype every night and chat for hours. What difference does it make if I am in a bathtub tonight smoking a cigar talking to her
 
Long distance makes a difference. I would think you really have to make an extra effort to stay close and plan things out. Honestly not a fan of long distance.
 
So the girl responded and we're meeting at a bar/restaurant near where she works after she gets off work. We've been texting back and forth since yesterday afternoon and I feel like we have a lot of stuff in common. I've got a good feeling about this one so we'll see how it goes. I don't want to get too hopeful that the date will go well...but I'm feeling pretty good about it right now based on the texts.

We clicked pretty well at the bar on friday and she was the one who asked me for my number...

I mean I figure the texting is a good sign, right?

I'm over thinking this.

Wish me luck.

I'll be sure to follow the #1 rule and not post about the date on GAF while I'm actually on the date.

Good luck. Have a drink and try to relax.
 
Guys, is there like a break up book that anyone here would recommend to help get over a past ex? Hopefully one that's more tailored for guys? I admit I've been looking and everything I've found is focused on women, really ticking me off already tbh. I've wanted to "get back out there" to help move on but I think I've realised I'm just not ready yet.

Any help would be appreciated here, thanks.
 
So, GAF, this weekend was my second date with the girl from town. It had been just over a week since we went for dinner and ice cream, and the plan was to spend a good chunk of the afternoon and evening with her on Sunday.

I took her out bowling and to putt putt, then to the park before dinner. We walked for a bit and sat down on a bench to cuddle. This was pretty much the extent of my planned afternoon (not including dinner) and I'd hoped to get to spend some time in the park close with her, maybe even kiss her if I was lucky enough.

But I didn't get to make a move to kiss her. Because she totally beat me to the punch when I was resting my head against hers. :p We ended up going back to her place to kill time before dinner and I think we spent more time there than we did once we went to the restaurant. ;)

So, yeah, long story short, I'm dating someone for the first time in forever (and for the first time for the both of us, it's someone in town) and I couldn't be happier. :) She is wonderful and we've got plans both to meet for dinner again mid-week and to spend time together Labor Day weekend (her birthday is a week from today).

If there's a lesson I could tell you guys and gals, it's "don't give up, keep pressing on when things don't go as expected, and be comfortable with yourself before you can be comfortable with others." If I hadn't been turned down so many times on OKCupid and given up, I wouldn't have met her, for sure.

Now, to figure out what to do for her birthday... lol, that's a whole other story.
 
So, GAF, this weekend was my second date with the girl from town. It had been just over a week since we went for dinner and ice cream, and the plan was to spend a good chunk of the afternoon and evening with her on Sunday.

I took her out bowling and to putt putt, then to the park before dinner. We walked for a bit and sat down on a bench to cuddle. This was pretty much the extent of my planned afternoon (not including dinner) and I'd hoped to get to spend some time in the park close with her, maybe even kiss her if I was lucky enough.

But I didn't get to make a move to kiss her. Because she totally beat me to the punch when I was resting my head against hers. :p We ended up going back to her place to kill time before dinner and I think we spent more time there than we did once we went to the restaurant. ;)

So, yeah, long story short, I'm dating someone for the first time in forever (and for the first time for the both of us, it's someone in town) and I couldn't be happier. :) She is wonderful and we've got plans both to meet for dinner again mid-week and to spend time together Labor Day weekend (her birthday is a week from today).

If there's a lesson I could tell you guys and gals, it's "don't give up, keep pressing on when things don't go as expected, and be comfortable with yourself before you can be comfortable with others." If I hadn't been turned down so many times on OKCupid and given up, I wouldn't have met her, for sure.

Now, to figure out what to do for her birthday... lol, that's a whole other story.

Nice, just keep expectations low and let things happen slowly.
 
So I'm back at college (sophomore now). I'm still a virgin.

The thing about this is that in the last six months I've had quite a few opportunities with girls I've just held back, and at this point I'm kind of waiting for someone more special. Not really sure if I should just get it out of the way, or if I should preserve it for now. Not saying I can lose it at the snap of a finger, but I've definitely opted out of quite a few chances recently. Anyone else ever been in a similar situation?

On a side note, there is a girl I'm really interested in but isn't immediately accessible right now. I think it could be a mental block, in a sort of the way that I don't want to "betray" her.
 
So I'm back at college (sophomore now). I'm still a virgin.

The thing about this is that in the last six months I've had quite a few opportunities with girls I've just held back, and at this point I'm kind of waiting for someone more special. Not really sure if I should just get it out of the way, or if I should preserve it for now. Not saying I can lose it at the snap of a finger, but I've definitely opted out of quite a few chances recently. Anyone else ever been in a similar situation?

Just knock the first few times out of the way so when that "special" girl comes along, you don't have sex like a virgin.
 
GAF. I'm back. Here's the rundown.

We met up around 4 at this restaurant and we were both a little nervous. This girl is BEAUTIFUL. I had thought she was but I only had my slightly drunk memory from Friday night to go on...she is very good looking. So we started talking about her day and my day, etc. The usual small talk. And then we just started talking...and talking...and talking. Suddenly it was almost 8:30 and we realized we had been there talking for over 4 hours. During the course of the conversation she invited me out to a second date on Wednesday night.

At that point we got up and decided to go for a walk around the block to warm up since the restaurant was pretty cold. Walked her back to her car after some light flirting. Turns out she had some car trouble so I stayed with her to help her sort it out. The trouble wasn't that bad and she was able to make it home but will be getting the car checked out soon.

Before she left she told me she had a great time and gave me a hug, I kissed the top of her head during the hug. B/c of her car trouble she promised to call when she got home. She did, told me she was going to bed since she had been up since around 4am. I told her that I had a great time and was looking forward to Wednesday. She responded with a "same here :)" thing.

So, GAF, seems like that was a very successful first date? Right?
 
Now, to figure out what to do for her birthday... lol, that's a whole other story.

When is it?

Be careful. Remember you just started dating her. Don't do anything overwhelming...

GAF. I'm back. Here's the rundown.

We met up around 4 at this restaurant and we were both a little nervous. This girl is BEAUTIFUL. I had thought she was but I only had my slightly drunk memory from Friday night to go on...she is very good looking. So we started talking about her day and my day, etc. The usual small talk. And then we just started talking...and talking...and talking. Suddenly it was almost 8:30 and we realized we had been there talking for over 4 hours. During the course of the conversation she invited me out to a second date on Wednesday night.

At that point we got up and decided to go for a walk around the block to warm up since the restaurant was pretty cold. Walked her back to her car after some light flirting. Turns out she had some car trouble so I stayed with her to help her sort it out. The trouble wasn't that bad and she was able to make it home but will be getting the car checked out soon.

Before she left she told me she had a great time and gave me a hug, I kissed the top of her head during the hug. B/c of her car trouble she promised to call when she got home. She did, told me she was going to bed since she had been up since around 4am. I told her that I had a great time and was looking forward to Wednesday. She responded with a "same here :)" thing.

So, GAF, seems like that was a very successful first date? Right?

Yup. Losing track of time talking is a great sign you two are naturally getting along and not having to force feed each other with crappy conversation.
 
GAF. I'm back. Here's the rundown.

We met up around 4 at this restaurant and we were both a little nervous. This girl is BEAUTIFUL. I had thought she was but I only had my slightly drunk memory from Friday night to go on...she is very good looking. So we started talking about her day and my day, etc. The usual small talk. And then we just started talking...and talking...and talking. Suddenly it was almost 8:30 and we realized we had been there talking for over 4 hours. During the course of the conversation she invited me out to a second date on Wednesday night.

At that point we got up and decided to go for a walk around the block to warm up since the restaurant was pretty cold. Walked her back to her car after some light flirting. Turns out she had some car trouble so I stayed with her to help her sort it out. The trouble wasn't that bad and she was able to make it home but will be getting the car checked out soon.

Before she left she told me she had a great time and gave me a hug, I kissed the top of her head during the hug. B/c of her car trouble she promised to call when she got home. She did, told me she was going to bed since she had been up since around 4am. I told her that I had a great time and was looking forward to Wednesday. She responded with a "same here :)" thing.

So, GAF, seems like that was a very successful first date? Right?

Can't really ask for more...taking things slow is nice, and she'll wonder why you're so different than other guys.
 
Just knock the first few times out of the way so when that "special" girl comes along, you don't have sex like a virgin.
This.

Don't bother waiting for that special girl that might never come, period. You're sure to regret it later. Go get your shit off.
 
Fixed, but maybe that's just me lol

lol well that's why I asked when it is.

If it's going to come up less than a month into their dating time, then I'd say just a nice phone call and happy b-day wish, "what are you doing for your big day" etc. talk.

If it's like several months from now, then you're safe with actually doing something for her depending on how the relationship is going.
 
Usually guys always try to hit home runs on first dates, you sound like you just took it easy, let shit happen at its own pace, and I'm sure she found that refreshing.

You don't think the kiss on the head was too much? Also was rubbing her back a little while we were sitting on a bench. Normally I wouldn't do something like those things sober on the first date but it just seemed to be going really well...
 
You don't think the kiss on the head was too much? Also was rubbing her back a little while we were sitting on a bench. Normally I wouldn't do something like those things sober on the first date but it just seemed to be going really well...

Nah sounds like a perfect easygoing date...if she wasn't put-off by the back rubbing and didn't push your hand away then there shouldn't be a problem. Next date try to get her to do the touching. Say your back hurts, ask for a back rub, worst she'll do is say no but she'll laugh at least, best case she'll give you a back rub and get used to touching you.
 
When is it?

Be careful. Remember you just started dating her. Don't do anything overwhelming...

It is Monday, Labor Day.

My plan now is to go out to one of her favorite restaurants for dinner, then spend time with her back at her place playing games or whatever comes along. :)
 
GAF. I'm back. Here's the rundown.

We met up around 4 at this restaurant and we were both a little nervous. This girl is BEAUTIFUL. I had thought she was but I only had my slightly drunk memory from Friday night to go on...she is very good looking. So we started talking about her day and my day, etc. The usual small talk. And then we just started talking...and talking...and talking. Suddenly it was almost 8:30 and we realized we had been there talking for over 4 hours. During the course of the conversation she invited me out to a second date on Wednesday night.

At that point we got up and decided to go for a walk around the block to warm up since the restaurant was pretty cold. Walked her back to her car after some light flirting. Turns out she had some car trouble so I stayed with her to help her sort it out. The trouble wasn't that bad and she was able to make it home but will be getting the car checked out soon.

Before she left she told me she had a great time and gave me a hug, I kissed the top of her head during the hug. B/c of her car trouble she promised to call when she got home. She did, told me she was going to bed since she had been up since around 4am. I told her that I had a great time and was looking forward to Wednesday. She responded with a "same here :)" thing.

So, GAF, seems like that was a very successful first date? Right?
Usually success stories in this thread made me depressed cause these kinds of things weren't happening to me. But i've come to realise it's out of my control. I can't force anyone to like me. They're missing out though cause im a good guy. Whateverz.

Im happy for you. :)
 
Things are a lot slower than I thought they would be as far as meeting people/girls at college so far. For some reason I am more timid than I usually am. I usually don't have confidence issues, but the sheer amount of people here is kind of overwhelming. Wish me luck in the coming weeks GAF.
 
Things are a lot slower than I thought they would be as far as meeting people/girls at college so far. For some reason I am more timid than I usually am. I usually don't have confidence issues, but the sheer amount of people here is kind of overwhelming. Wish me luck in the coming weeks GAF.
More people means more chances to practice your social skills.

And if you screw something up while conversing with your fellow classmates, who cares? You're just one guy in a sea of faces.

Plus, most people forget about little screw ups within an hour or so.
 
More people means more chances to practice your social skills.

And if you screw something up while conversing with your fellow classmates, who cares? You're just one guy in a sea of faces.

Plus, most people forget about little screw ups within an hour or so.

It's not so much that. Everyone is sociable and everyone tries making conversation with the same crap. Name, major, blah, blah, etc. I just can't get into a good flow like usual. My wit has been lacking since I got here. I am currently blaming tiredness though.
 
I had a fantastic first day classes today (Monday). I met two new people and caught up with a couple of others, and a classmate that was in my class who happened to be in my class again this semester. Long post so bare with me guys, but it's good and positive unlike a couple of Negative Nancy's.

I met a dude and a chick in my first class as well as talked to another attractive chick but more on her later. After class had ended I overheard them deeply engaged in conversation when I heard my alma mater get mentioned so I spoke up and broke the into the conversation by asking them if they both went to my alma mater and immediately hit it off with both of them.

The dude was a tall model looking looking guy with model grey eyes. I would find out that he was doing the general Media major as me, focusing more on TV and Documentary production as opposed to my interest in game design and animation. He graduated from another community college but was in the senior college for 2 years which is the same length as me. A passionate, charming fellow to say the least; we would end up exchanging numbers when I saw him and the chick again later that day and getting into deep conversation about bad professors, our very attractive professor, and what not.

The chick on the other hand was a Hispanic note taker (she's gets paid come into to take notes for a disabled student in that person's place) with very neatly done eyebrows and thick lips who graduated from my alma mater in June and had recently transferred into the school in hopes of majoring in TV Production. It also turned turned out that she was taking the same exact Media class (which is a pre-requisite to major in Media) with the same exact lecture professor as me. She looks awfully familiar; I could've sworn I saw her back during my alma mater days.

I saw both of them again much later after I came out my last class initially seeing and talking to the dude while he was waiting in line to see the chairwoman of the department and eventually the chick who met up with him.

While the dude was in the office getting advised, the chick and I continued where we left off. I learned that she had been doing the note taking job for about two years which she started doing at my alma mater's Disability office and teased her about me thinking she was a student who was sitting in the class for the hell of it, along with a few wise cracks. I told her about the lecture professor strictly prohibiting electronics in the lecture. Her interest in me was as high as mines was in her; we clearly had some really good chemistry as we had a lot in common. I think I think I could have gotten her number, but my goal was to reach out and connect to people by simply being myself. Maybe on Thursday; I'll tell her that looks familiar and if she knew the math tutor who helped me and many students graduate.

The other attractive chick from that same class had long honey colored hair the spiraled in curls and a neon pink shirt. I noticed her during the class and afterwards, but I decided against talking to her. I would end up seeing her later on at the computer lab. I broke the ice by asking her if she was in my class earlier and we had a brief abrupt conversation about her diagram, the class after ours that she stays in the room for, and our assignment. She cut it short when I saw that she focused her attention on whatever she was doing in her monitor; ice cold. I immediately took the hint, stopped myself mid sentence, and focused my monitor. Eventually she got up and left in a rush without saying anything to me. I was expecting her to ask me for my name. But I suppose her coldness had to do with whatever she was reading on her monitor which I imagine was an assignment for her next class. No biggie; I shrugged it off.

I also caught up with a dude I met at a Speed Dating event in my school whom I hit it off with and befriended as we always kept bumping into each other (my consolation prize I would end up telling my other friend while introducing him) at the lab. We were later joined by my other friend that I met last year in my Spanish Literature class. I introduced them to each other by throwing in a fact about I how met them and we were catching up and wise cracking left and right.

Lastly, I saw a chick that was in media production class last semester who was also in my class this semester outside and had a brief conversation with her before she had to go to her class. I also saw my former Asian-American/Multi-ethnic literature professor and conversed with him for a while up until he had to teach a class which ended with him buying me a carton of OJ and telling me to stay in touch with him.

It is a good indicator on how this semester I'm really looking to make new friends and potential dates as well step up my social presence/skills. It was the first time since May that I've flirted with women in person (well besides one of the chicks that my brother's dating that I saw in July and cracked a few jokes; also a few fizzled OKC conversations with women). Suffice to say, I still got it. :D

So yeah guys, if you're starting school again, you'd be surprised by how easy it is to talk to and befriend people; simply be yourself, speak up and say something as easy as what they think of the class be it male or female. I'm feeling really good about it and I did it without having to rely the fraternity to introduce me to people; I suppose a cushion of sorts should I quit. That doesn't mean I should strictly stick to them only; on the contrary, I've intentionally distanced myself from them because of my conflicting thoughts.

I'm evidently a very good conversationalist. I didn't talk to anyone in my last class as many people that I wanted to talk to, quickly packed up and left. Feel free to chime in. Hopefully today (Tuesday here), I'll make a few more acquaintances in my Art History class. Also having a nice haircut makes me feel incredibly good. Also smiling helps (just not excessively).

TL;DR: Great first day of classes; made plenty of conversations; befriended two classmates; conversed with another one but got a bit of a cold shoulder from her; caught up with up some friends; eluded the fraternity dudes/hanging out with them; feel good about myself (I suppose it's confidence). :)
 
It's not so much that. Everyone is sociable and everyone tries making conversation with the same crap. Name, major, blah, blah, etc. I just can't get into a good flow like usual. My wit has been lacking since I got here. I am currently blaming tiredness though.
Then get some rest when you can.

Getting enough sleep does play a role in how well we interact with other people.
 
Speaking of classes, today was my first day too. I felt much more sociable than last year and talked with a handful of new faces as well as a number of old ones. I think I always cut myself too short, I'm apparently a better conversationalist that I think!
 
Speaking of classes, today was my first day too. I felt much more sociable than last year and talked with a handful of new faces as well as a number of old ones. I think I always cut myself too short, I'm apparently a better conversationalist that I think!

*Bro fist* Keep that momentum going. It's always better to speak up and say something than not say something and regret it. Or at least communicate a friendly gesture non-verbally. It is positive reinforcement as well as a confidence booster to speak with and make conversation with people.

EviLore's Travel thread is so good for that as it gets me pretty hyped about wanting to talk to people as well as his experiences with good and bad conversations. It's also fascinating to see how he handles things with the latest one being getting stigmatized by a Swedish girl for owning a video game forum and being into video games. I also give him props for saying that GAF is also a social networking website which is indeed very, very true; I've met so many great people thanks to GAF.
 
I too started classes today and had a marvelous semester beginning. Worked out twice and had some fun time at the pool... there are a good deal of pretty girls in my classes, too. And of course, the campus is swarming with gorgeous girls.
 
man yall are lucky.
i only have 1 class with hot chicks in it. well...two but its early so show up half asleep and angry as hell so i dont talk to anybody. the rest of my classes are philosophy classes which are pretty much sausage fests.
the girls in that class cant stop talking about how different i look this semester, yet they cant figure out what the difference is. i worked out a looooot this summer so i just look like i filled out my frame. but i suppose thats a good thing cause those same girls wouldnt give me the time of day last semester.

but that 1 class is enough to do work in. i'd rather do that than try and work at the parties we host. my roommate has a bad habit of swooping on girls that his friends are going after. i chatted up some chick for long time while she was at our party this weekend, got her number, etc etc. the next morning i come to find out from my roommate that he got her number as she was leaving. whatever the hell he texted her after that, she's all on his jock now and i cant even get her to acknowledge me. of course dude isnt above pushing his own friends out of the way just to snatch a girl's attention so idk why it surprised me.
 
While I'm at it, I'll just post my history in the past few weeks. I met one cute girl who clearly acted interested at a fair and got her number. She said she had a boyfriend and I kept in contact anyway. She would call me first 90% of the time, even nowadays. It's kind of annoying even though I like her personality. Turns out she has daddy issues and craves male attention, she is even aware her male "friends" all want a chance with her. :/ Decided to keep her as a friend, since I want to help her in a few areas and we already have something planned to do.

Otherwise, I've been taking it slow and hanging out with friends, going out, doing whatever. Builds my social skills when we talk with people my friends know and it's fun!

*Bro fist* Keep that momentum going. It's always better to speak up and say something than not say something and regret it. Or at least communicate a friendly gesture non-verbally. It is positive reinforcement as well as a confidence booster to speak with and make conversation with people.

EviLore's Travel thread is so good for that as it gets me pretty hyped about wanting to talk to people as well as his experiences with good and bad conversations. It's also fascinating to see how he handles things with the latest one being getting stigmatized by a Swedish girl for owning a video game forum and being into video games. I also give him props for saying that GAF is also a social networking website which is indeed very, very true; I've met so many great people thanks to GAF.

Oh yeah, I always try to walk around with a smile on my face and greet everyone I see, I just usually never start the conversation this often. One thing I gotta remember is that even if it feels like I have nothing to say in a group discussion, I probably should say what's on my mind anyway and be active in the conversation.

I should read that travel thread; it sounds interesting.
 
While I'm at it, I'll just post my history in the past few weeks. I met one cute girl who clearly acted interested at a fair and got her number. She said she had a boyfriend and I kept in contact anyway. She would call me first 90% of the time, even nowadays. It's kind of annoying even though I like her personality. Turns out she has daddy issues and craves male attention, she is even aware her male "friends" all want a chance with her. :/ Decided to keep her as a friend, since I want to help her in a few areas and we already have something planned to do.

This could be troublesome. What areas exactly?
 
I was browsing OkCupid subreddit yesterday and came upon a post that had some advices on online dating. There was one which is useful for dating in general, especially for those who fear rejection.

Remember - 95% people out there are not for you (I'd bump it to 97%). Even if you were dating her/him for some time and everything suddenly went south you shouldn't take it too personal. Same goes with rejection - yes, you WILL get turned down a lot, be it online, bars, clubs or just some public places. But that just means that this person isn't for you so just keep trying.

I know it's banal, but this thread shows that many people tend to give up if they have a few consequitive bad experiences.
 
I've come to find that most girls are in a "relationship" when you first get to know them.

I don't know why but this made me laugh. So true.

that was my problem in university. Just wait for an opening, chat with them, flirt with them and look for opportunities at other places.


Nah it's fine I came to the realization that I shouldn't pursue anything serious for a long long long time. I'm having a serious "I can't move the fuck on" problem going.

I've been trying to see if I can fix it by starting something new but that's a huge mistake.
 
Is it strange for a couple of three years to "plan dates"?

I have a Skype bathtub date tonight with the gf, and she's all excited about it ;)

Never really thought of talking with her every night before bed, watching Breaking Bad, or even when together - going out for dinner, picnic, zoo, concerts, theater etc. as a "date"

Is that more for people who are still trying to figure each other out, never met parents, no intimate sex 'n stuff? "date"

Me and my ex gf would plan date night pretty often. I loved, some of the pre-relationship excitement actually came back.
 
I've come to find that most girls are in a "relationship" when you first get to know them.

Or "sort of" seeing someone. It's just a defensive thing as I'm sure they are hit on all the time.

My answer to a girl I'm hitting on and she says she has a boyfriend "why don't you have two? you'll have more fun" You'll need to deliver it in a lighthearted way and it's better than being blocked.
 
I've come to find that most girls are in a "relationship" when you first get to know them.

This. This is why you shouldn't give a crap if a girl is "taken" and just go after her if you like her. If she doesn't respond, you stop, if she responds, then let her ditch the old bf.
 
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