FallingEdge
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True. You will always accentuate your own negatives even though other people might not see it that way.
I tend to do it a bit myself.
I tend to do it a bit myself.
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Wow...that's weird, I think I do that too. (not for eyebrows but other things)
CountAntonius
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Most definitely. We stare at ourselves more and tend to be much more critical than others.
Vermillion
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So the past few posts have made me... ambivalent, to say the least. On one hand, great, be myself, etc.
On the other, I go to a party school, and therefore a lot of parties. Many of my friends go to parties, and I've met quite a few at parties (mostly males - I find it far easier to make male friends at parties). Now the info on the past few pages poses a problem for going to parties, despite making the chances of a relationship easier (not really, being that most of my new social interaction is at those places).
On the other, I go to a party school, and therefore a lot of parties. Many of my friends go to parties, and I've met quite a few at parties (mostly males - I find it far easier to make male friends at parties). Now the info on the past few pages poses a problem for going to parties, despite making the chances of a relationship easier (not really, being that most of my new social interaction is at those places).
Chuckie
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Vermillion
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Because the same type of thing doesn't apply to parties, and social interaction at parties. Attractiveness indeed matters more there. And relative social normalcy.
Chuckie
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Yeah that is true. Guess at those places you have to be lucky.
It can happen though. I remember a studentparty (back in the days...years ago..when I still was a student ;_; ) where there was this cute korean girl. I considered her to be out of my league tbh...but I was slightly tipsy...so I said: Fuck my league.
So I just started a conversation, she appearantly was even more of a geek than I was, liked Pokemon and a week later we were on a date watching the Phantom Menace.
Now I was a pretty insecure guy back then (still am a bit although less) so if I can do it, so can all of y'all
Vermillion
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That takes a lot of luck, I'd say. And steering the conversation in that direction takes some balls.
Iunno, it usually means I'm watching all the friends I came with dance with girls while I'm doing nothing or my friends are trying to get me to talk to girls. C'est la vie.
Chuckie
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Yeah it was luck. And my balls were a bit enhanced by beer.
I also cannot remember how the hell we ended talking about Pokemon and Star Wars.
I know it wasn't me saying: HEY...you are AzN..you like the Pokemanz??!!!
Vermillion
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Hah, I would imagine not, mon ami.
Kitsunebaby
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Oh, that's definitely true, but I honestly don't mind the circles (raccoons are may favorite animal, after all). My mom just happens to comment on them whenever it's apparent and I wonder if people find them unattractive.
Chuckie
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Well you wouldn't believe the shit people say/assume towards Asian girls.
Not particularly unattractive per se, but if it's really dark it can make a person look sick or really tired.
I know because when I am tired I look like this:
1. Why do women ask their gfs to go with them to the restroom? I mean, I get wanting to talk, but doesn't it seem weird talking to them while doing your business?
2. What is the point of those gargantuan sized purses? I see girls with purses big enough to hide a small arsenal. I get women have more stuff like makeup/hygiene products etc. but surely it doesn't take up all the room?
3. What do you consider a difference between flirting with a guy and cruely teasing?
Thanks girl gaf!
2. What is the point of those gargantuan sized purses? I see girls with purses big enough to hide a small arsenal. I get women have more stuff like makeup/hygiene products etc. but surely it doesn't take up all the room?
3. What do you consider a difference between flirting with a guy and cruely teasing?
Thanks girl gaf!
CountAntonius
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hawkshockey11
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This makes sense. I guess I long for healthy eyes so I seek for them in partners. I still hate just how much of my life has been spent worrying about them. It sucks because other than the eyes, I would be really attractive, and the days they are decent I have a ton of confidence :/.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Do I have a GIF lascivious enough for this photo?
I am not sure.
Post 3577 just adds to the hilarity.
Gonna throw up a question-
How much do you (ladies) like to have your SO challenge you? I find that I unconsciously challenge my girlfriend a lot. I have to actually fight it at times.
When I say challenge I don't mean like... challenge her to a contest, or become a difficult person or anything but, I am always trying to get her to think outside her box. A lot of the time she'll say something and I'll ask her "What makes you think that?". It's more complicated than that usually, but I find that this ends up challenging her a lot.
I don't know entirely why I do it, I don't challenge anyone else really - but I always seem to challenge the girls I am with. I think if I really think about it, I like encouraging critical thought, and a lot of the time it means looking critically at why you think what you think. I don't go out of my way to do it or anything, and I have scaled it back a bit because it can get a little pedantic at times, but I wonder how much it bothers her.
We did talk about it a little while ago, and she was very honest and told me it drove her crazy for a long time, but now she actually finds it pretty endearing - and more interestingly it's started to effect how she reacts to other people/other information in the world. She takes things at face value a lot less often, and she ends up challenging people herself now too.
So... to bring some semblance of a question forward, does it bother the girls on GAF when they are challenged? Do you challenge your SO? Does your SO challenge you? Is it just me who does this and does that make me a horrible person/crazy?
How much do you (ladies) like to have your SO challenge you? I find that I unconsciously challenge my girlfriend a lot. I have to actually fight it at times.
When I say challenge I don't mean like... challenge her to a contest, or become a difficult person or anything but, I am always trying to get her to think outside her box. A lot of the time she'll say something and I'll ask her "What makes you think that?". It's more complicated than that usually, but I find that this ends up challenging her a lot.
I don't know entirely why I do it, I don't challenge anyone else really - but I always seem to challenge the girls I am with. I think if I really think about it, I like encouraging critical thought, and a lot of the time it means looking critically at why you think what you think. I don't go out of my way to do it or anything, and I have scaled it back a bit because it can get a little pedantic at times, but I wonder how much it bothers her.
We did talk about it a little while ago, and she was very honest and told me it drove her crazy for a long time, but now she actually finds it pretty endearing - and more interestingly it's started to effect how she reacts to other people/other information in the world. She takes things at face value a lot less often, and she ends up challenging people herself now too.
So... to bring some semblance of a question forward, does it bother the girls on GAF when they are challenged? Do you challenge your SO? Does your SO challenge you? Is it just me who does this and does that make me a horrible person/crazy?
1. I don't. Bathroom is for bathroom time.
2. When looking for a purse I usually like to have room for: Wallet, phone, keys, a pen and a pad of paper, chap stick, handkerchief, Kindle, handheld game system, and at least two physical books. (I don't always carry this all around at once, but I like to have the space in case I DO need to.)
3. I don't flirt.
I adore it. Fuck complacency, not being challenged leads to a dull relationship for me. I like to think, and if my SO doesn't like to think and get me thinking then I mentally check out.
Confused101
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Alright Girl-GAF, tell me what this could possibly mean.
One of the reps from my college and myself set up a booth at a local techie gathering so we could promote our PC programs. She's single, she's cute, and we've always gotten along great. Let's call her Lara. She notices that one of the other booths has some tall guy in a Darth Vader outfit and their schtick was to have people come over and get their picture taken with the sith lord. Lara mentions that, "We should totally take our picture with him." I agreed and we planned to get it done later in the day.
Okay, fast forward. Another female employee from work shows up who happens to be a long time friend of Lara and we all take the picture together. Both girls use their phones to take the picture and I ask them to text me their pics. The other girl texts me right away and then I notice Lara fidgeting with her phone. I jokingly asked if she was having trouble. She responds with, "Not really. I'm just going to crop myself out of this." I thought she was joking and told her to not be silly and just send it over. When she finally sends it, lo and behold, she removed herself. I was so shocked and hurt, I didn't even ask her why. It almost felt like an insult.
So I'm asking you guys why. Why would someone do that? What possible reason could she have? Did she not want to be seen in public with me? Was she embarrassed about Vader? It was her idea in the first place! I'm at a loss. I haven't had the time to confront her straight up yet but this really bothered me.
One of the reps from my college and myself set up a booth at a local techie gathering so we could promote our PC programs. She's single, she's cute, and we've always gotten along great. Let's call her Lara. She notices that one of the other booths has some tall guy in a Darth Vader outfit and their schtick was to have people come over and get their picture taken with the sith lord. Lara mentions that, "We should totally take our picture with him." I agreed and we planned to get it done later in the day.
Okay, fast forward. Another female employee from work shows up who happens to be a long time friend of Lara and we all take the picture together. Both girls use their phones to take the picture and I ask them to text me their pics. The other girl texts me right away and then I notice Lara fidgeting with her phone. I jokingly asked if she was having trouble. She responds with, "Not really. I'm just going to crop myself out of this." I thought she was joking and told her to not be silly and just send it over. When she finally sends it, lo and behold, she removed herself. I was so shocked and hurt, I didn't even ask her why. It almost felt like an insult.
So I'm asking you guys why. Why would someone do that? What possible reason could she have? Did she not want to be seen in public with me? Was she embarrassed about Vader? It was her idea in the first place! I'm at a loss. I haven't had the time to confront her straight up yet but this really bothered me.
Jackben
bitch I'm taking calls.
WhyNo.
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Could be she thought she looked terrible in the picture, but frankly I don't know you OR her. I don't think I know the situation well enough to tell you.
thebaroness
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A lot of times, women can get pretty competitive and overly sensitive about themselves when there are other women present. I know in the past I've had many SOs of my guyfriends mad and jealous of me just because I'm 1)There. 2) Female. Many times, when I'm with a guy friend and another girl shows up, I kind of feel like I should just disappear or go away to avoid any drama. This could have been what your friend "Lara" was feeling. She probably wanted to just take a picture with you, then once another female showed up, she started feeling self conscious and like she should just not...well be in the picture.
It might not make a lot of sense, but I'm just trying to give you a viewpoint into the female mind.
I'm going to go with it's also hard to comment on without knowing more of the situation or people involved, but I did my best from my perspective.
Confused101
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I appreciate the responses. I can offer additional details but I don't want you guys to rack your brains over something like this. I was just really confused. I guess it's hard to get a good idea without the fine details.
Anyway, Lara and the other girl that showed up have been friends for a very long time. Probably 10 years. The other girl is married as well. The other girl is also very friendly with me. We get lunch for each other, we chat a lot, and this is because her office door is within a few feet of mine. Lara and I are very friendly too but we don't get a lot of chances to talk or do lunch or anything of that nature.
Now when the booth idea was original brought up, another co-worker of mine was originally supposed to join Lara. The we found out the event was the same week he was having oral surgery so he bowed out. Lara repeatedly came to me and asked if I would be joining her at the event. I don't want to say she begged, but she said please. A lot. So I agreed to go. We had a good time too. And mind you, when the other girl showed up, they almost immediately excluded me from conversation. I was pleased that I knew other people who were attending.
So that's the deal. Women are weird and I'll never even pretend to understand them at any point in my life.
Thanks again for the insight.
Anyway, Lara and the other girl that showed up have been friends for a very long time. Probably 10 years. The other girl is married as well. The other girl is also very friendly with me. We get lunch for each other, we chat a lot, and this is because her office door is within a few feet of mine. Lara and I are very friendly too but we don't get a lot of chances to talk or do lunch or anything of that nature.
Now when the booth idea was original brought up, another co-worker of mine was originally supposed to join Lara. The we found out the event was the same week he was having oral surgery so he bowed out. Lara repeatedly came to me and asked if I would be joining her at the event. I don't want to say she begged, but she said please. A lot. So I agreed to go. We had a good time too. And mind you, when the other girl showed up, they almost immediately excluded me from conversation. I was pleased that I knew other people who were attending.
So that's the deal. Women are weird and I'll never even pretend to understand them at any point in my life.
Thanks again for the insight.Devolution
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This is absolutely true, I hate my teeth.
It doesn't bother me to be challenged but there are times when it can feel very condescending so just watch how you word it.
Vermillion
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We are kin, now.
@Lissar: To be fair though, that makes me slightly more accepting of people with similar issues. But I notice it very fast.
Teeth and hair.
Devolution
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If I had kids with someone and they had strong good teeth I'd pray my kids get those and not mine.
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My wife has a bit of an odd taste, she likes guys like that Sherlock Holmes dude...Benedict something...and also some not really handsome Dutch celebs.
Kinda makes me feel odd too tbh hahaha. Means I have a weird non-handsome face too
Your wife has great taste
Yeah, that might be it really for me,
cheekbones aside
That said, I also find Brad Pitt and Hemsworth attractive, so it's not like I am...that different.
There is a difference I think between having a heated conversation and being a condescending ass. I never challenge anyone, I drop stuff if it gets too heated, but people constantly do this to me. "Aw, it's so cute, why do you think that way, since you are obviously so wrong?" type of stuff. It's annoying as all hell.
Serious question ladies. I haven't gone on a date in six years, I finally met a girl this quarter that I feel really attracted to and can't get out of my thoughts. I asked her out and she said yes, our date is tomorrow. My problem with dates and one of the reasons why I avoid them is because I'm deathly afraid of running out of things to talk about. This girl and I, we have already talked a lot so I'm afraid we'll run out of things to talk about, though usually when I'm in a date my mouth never shuts up.
Any tips on keeping my cool so I don't say anything stupid to break the silence, any suggestions on topics that most women like to talk about?
Any tips on keeping my cool so I don't say anything stupid to break the silence, any suggestions on topics that most women like to talk about?
SquiddyCracker
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Checking out her facebook page is one solution.
I think it's a bit stalkerish, but apparently it's pretty common with young people nowadays.
User 100115
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Going in there with topics 'most women' like isn't going to do you any favors. Continue to talk to her like you have before; you'll do fine.
Vermillion
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Facebook stalking is quite common. Just so long as you don't tell the person before you're comfortable with them.
SquiddyCracker
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Yeah, when you think about it, it's really no different from asking her friends for some tips and pointers.
Courting has changed.
NotTheGuyYouKill
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If you run out of things to talk about, why not go do something? Like, if you're at a restaurant, leave and... I dunno, go ice skating.
I relate to everyone like this, but I expect any gf I have to also be able to engage me on this level. If not I get bored really fast.
So that's the deal. Women are weird and I'll never even pretend to understand them at any point in my life.
Women aren't weird, but people are individuals. The only way to understand each other is by being open, communicating, and respecting the other person.
Women are just people, do you usually run out of things to talk about with other friends? Ask a lot of questions and be open to talking about whatever she wants to talk about. If you can't find common ground to talk about on the first date, it might not be a relationship that will work out.
I don't understand, how would that help me? I honestly don't know much about Facebook sorry.
I guess you're right. Every time we're together we have no problem talking and we never run out of things to talk about, it's just that this being a date setting makes me nervous, and when I'm nervous I fuck up quite often.
I suppose you're right.
This is a problem that I have because I will usually run out of things to talk about with friends, at least if I'm running the conversation.
Bam Bam Baklava
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I feel the same way.
Conversation is like playing catch, you toss something over to the other person and it's up to them to toss it back. That's why asking questions is important, it's a great way to keep the conversation going (as long as you aren't grilling them! Ask questions, talk about your experiences and opinions, etc.)
Teaching English conversation in Japan as made me quite adept at learning how to continue a conversation with a reticent partner.
Vermillion
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To be fair, you can't talk to other, newer people the same way you talk to friends. With friends, I know where their line is, and I can read them and anticipate their responses FAR better. Not only that, but I do far crazier things around friends (I just half-moonwalked away from one, actually). Furthermore, I know that it doesn't matter how weird I am around them (or them around me), as it's probably not something that'll fuck us over in the future. Whereas with another person, much less a prospective date, you don't want to throw everything out at once.
Even moreso, if you run out of things to talk about with a friend, you can talk about anything that happened recently, future plans, whatever. And as many inside jokes as you like.
Eh, well I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve, so I don't really hold back much even with people I don't know very well. But also a difference with friends is that I don't really care if we suddenly don't have anything to talk about. Silence is nice too. It's only awkward if you don't know the other person.
In any case, I only meant that some men treat speaking with women as though we're some strange sort of other. But we're just people.
Or your responses show you're paying attention and relating to them in a way they appreciate. Either way, it's always a good quality to have.
Eye contact. I swear some people were never taught that maintaining proper eye contact during a conversation is something that should be done. Looking all around the room when talking to me drives me crazy!
Vermillion
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True enough. It depends on the scenario, though (offering to wingman for a female I just met would be slightly more awkward, I think). In general though, absolutely - you're right.
Dear Lady-gaf
I want to wax my upperbody, especially my semi-hairy back and shoulders. Problem is that it's so uniform all over my upperbody that I'd look like an oreo-cookie if I did a partial wax and something tells me having body hair is the lesser of two evils, i.e as compared to being as barren as a baby's butt. Please advise.
xoxo Corky
I want to wax my upperbody, especially my semi-hairy back and shoulders. Problem is that it's so uniform all over my upperbody that I'd look like an oreo-cookie if I did a partial wax and something tells me having body hair is the lesser of two evils, i.e as compared to being as barren as a baby's butt. Please advise.
xoxo Corky
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