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A woman not interested in sex and a man being ok with it for 11 years isn't normal. You may both be alright with it, but let's not act like it's regular behavior.

There is far more to it than just that. we have our circumstances, reasons and convictions. It is pretty insulting to call someone abnormal just because the same line of thinking is not applied as you may have.

But, that is how the world is.
 
I am screwed (not literally) 23 here. Too bad.

The issue for me is that times have changed and like that random article posted a few days ago, "dating" has now been replaced by "hook-up culture" and I don't really want to go up to a random and have sex with them, unless they were Felicity Jones.. I guess that is just my social awkwardness though.
 
I don't "tell" anyone IRL but if they're all "oh how about men in your life?", I tell them I've never had a boyfriend and only been on one awkward date. I'm sure they get it lol

And I have apparently had no problem bitching about it on the net haha. But I'm getting to the point of not caring again so it's good. Imma die alone and that's what's meant to be and I'm okay with that. :)

Edit: top of the page...fantastic

That your RPJ pic? If so I am really surprised at this!

if you live near NYC hit me up, lol
 
I'm a virgin (21 years old) but i have no idea if my girlfriend knows or not. I don't really care if she knows, lol
 
I'm sexually frustrated just reading this.

I felt the same reading this:

You can be intimate without being a in relationship. I once had this one very confusing relation with a girl, we weren't in a relationship yet we were practically like a couple. We'd sleep together, cuddle, hold hands but we never ever kissed let alone have something like sex.

I don't know how some you guys do it. Must have far more willpower than me.
 
There is far more to it than just that. we have our circumstances, reasons and convictions. It is pretty insulting to call someone abnormal just because the same line of thinking is not applied as you may have.

But, that is how the world is.

What's wrong with being abnormal? You are what you make of your label.
 
I hadn't had sex from the summer of 2007 up until the summer of this past year, 2012.

I think I became a virgin again.

I sometimes think along these same lines, at least in terms of certain aspects of what it means to be a virgin. I'm at eight, going on nine years of -- in latter times, stubborn and actively enforced -- singleness, with nary a hint of intimacy. I'd very, very likely be a much more fumbling, clumsy, anxiety-ridden participant in the sack than I was when I lost my virginity. I'm certainly way more self-aware now, which offers no aid to a naked me. So, outside of the idea of virgin:nonvirgin being simply a binary matter of "have you had this life experience?", I suppose that in the other aspect of virgin:nonvirgin -- "how much finesse do you possess in your coital capacity?" -- I'd perform a darn sight less impressively than those True Beginners.
 
Almost 20 years old and still a virgin. And after always hearing how bad one performs on their first time and how quick the girl realizes he's a virgin, I'm actually dreading it (which will only make it worse, if it ever happens, what I'm starting to seriously doubt).
 
Almost 20 years old and still a virgin. And after always hearing how bad one performs on their first time and how quick the girl realizes he's a virgin, I'm actually dreading it (which will only make it worse, if it ever happens, what I'm starting to seriously doubt).

Like someone said, just be up front about it. Or get a hooker.

Sex isn't that hard. Foreplay takes a bit of experience

When I was like 16 I bought a book called The Guide to Getting it On lol My friends made fun of me so bad.
 
Almost 20 years old and still a virgin. And after always hearing how bad one performs on their first time and how quick the girl realizes he's a virgin, I'm actually dreading it (which will only make it worse, if it ever happens, what I'm starting to seriously doubt).
I was lucky because my ex-girlfriend and I de-virginized each other. The first time was awkward but at least in a fun way that we could both laugh about.

The situation of going in as a virgin, when she isn't, and having a limp dick must make for a bad experience.

Thing is, once you get that first time over with, it gets MUCH better from there on out.

This is why I see myself more as a "relationship sex" kind of guy than a "one-off sex" kind of guy. Being with a partner and learning each other's rhythms is a large part of the experience. I don't think I would get as much satisfaction from having sex with random girls. Then again, I never tried it so I don't know exactly.
 
im a virgin but i dont see it as a big deal... but thats not to say i dont feel somewhat pressured. the biological clock is ticking and the longer i leave it, the harder it will be to do.

although i dont think i'd mention it unless i was asked... even then i'd probably shrug the question off.
 
Wow, I forgot how fucking stupid some people's idea of normal is.

I'm 21, never had a girlfriend, never had a one night stand, never done any kind of fucking. I have an active social life, a decent job and am generally a pretty happy person. But I'm abnormal. THANKS GUYS.
 
don't you have into worrrying at all about the sex it just penis going in and out until the sperm releasing out into something we're all made of atoms.
 
Wow, I forgot how fucking stupid some people's idea of normal is.

I'm 21, never had a girlfriend, never had a one night stand, never done any kind of fucking. I have an active social life, a decent job and am generally a pretty happy person. But I'm abnormal. THANKS GUYS.

Well i will say normal is defined as average in this case. I mean the average 21 year old in north america is not a virgin. I am in the same boat as you though.
 
Not one anymore, but it's been a while since I've had 2P action. Not into hook-ups, dating is a chore, maybe I'm simply not very interested. And it is annoying that people think it's such a big deal, maybe it is for people who really want it and have problems getting it?
 
It's not so simple as that, but I agree that it's not as important as some people make it out to be.

yolo maynes of course a horse it is as easy as that sexy time for dna children to live onto future spread them genes on toast and eat them.
 
Im 21 and still a virgin but its because I have hormone deficiency so I literally have no sex drive or desire for sex at all
it could be fixed but hormone medication is expensive as hell
 
Ha I lost mine at 15 too, to a much older woman. But I lied to everyone before then hahaha. It was a silly male, kid thing to do, I think most guys probably lied to be honest, but we all had our made up stories to throw in each other's faces.
 
Wow, I forgot how fucking stupid some people's idea of normal is.

I'm 21, never had a girlfriend, never had a one night stand, never done any kind of fucking. I have an active social life, a decent job and am generally a pretty happy person. But I'm abnormal. THANKS GUYS.
Abnormal is just a refusal (intentional or unintentional) to conform to society's expectations. Sure, it's great that you're happy, but by the definition of the word as we know it, you are definitively abnormal.

It's not something inherently negative, and it's not something you should get so worked up about.

I am screwed (not literally) 23 here. Too bad.

The issue for me is that times have changed and like that random article posted a few days ago, "dating" has now been replaced by "hook-up culture" and I don't really want to go up to a random and have sex with them, unless they were Felicity Jones.. I guess that is just my social awkwardness though.
I don't think this is true at all. I know plenty of people who still date and still want to date. The problem is getting them to want to date you.
 
I lied to my first and told her I had before because I didn't want her to say no because she would have been my first. It was awkward to say the least at the end
 
yolo maynes of course a horse it is as easy as that sexy time for dna children to live onto future spread them genes on toast and eat them.

ranch dressing in the tomato punch is it a fruit or a vegetable when the clock turns midnight the purple fairies will dance at the sound of a duck roaring in the wind.
 
Lost mine at 20, though had lots of other...interactions...before. Suffice it to say that you likely won't need to tell a gal that you're a virgin. She'll know soon enough.

You could also always just lie, I suppose, but chances are you'll blow it (no pun intended) and look worse. Just take the hit and roll on...obviously she liked you enough to bed you anyway. Ideally you both get a laugh about it and work harder the next day.
 
I used to lie about it. More so when I was growing up, social pressures, and I didn't want to be made fun of. So I told people I lost it at 17, while indeed still be a virgin. I came clean to one of my best girl friends, and she got excited by the fact. So she told me she was going to be the one to take it away, and she did. Lost it a few months shy of turning 21.

Looking back, it was silly as hell. I wished I was more comfortable in my own skin. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, at any age.
 
I'm abnormal too!. My first girlfriend is the one i am going out with now. Started going out with her when i was 19. Never had a one night stand (obviously). Yay for being abnormal.

You've been with your girlfriend for 2 years and you're still a virgin.

Are you guys religious or something?
 
I'd probably feel super violated if someone did that to me tbh. Rather keep my virginity than have someone use me as some kind of fetishistic gratification.
I am sure due to the spontaneity of it, they probably didn't use protection either. She coulda gave him a heads up and set a time and place, I could imagine the work environment was plain ole awkward that day lol.
 
Virginity is quite a stupid concept outside of health and practical reasons. Society uses it to both shame men who are still virgins and simultaneously shame women who aren't.

Sexual oppression is a travesty in all its ugly forms.
 
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