Napoleonthechimp
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Just tell her that you're ready to take your relationship to the next level and that you want her to be your first. She'll love that romantic bullshit and you won't be a virgin by the end of the week.
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Just tell her that you're ready to take your relationship to the next level and that you want her to be your first. She'll love that romantic bullshit and you won't be a virgin by the end of the week.
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No, that isn't certain.
If it bothered me all that much, i would. But it doesn't. I really don't care. Ha.
Being a loser with insecurities like me. Sometimes, I'm not even sure I want to be in a relationship, like I feel like I wouldn't be know how to be a good boyfriend. I'm not unhappy though. I just don't care at the moment about that stuff. I did in high school and college. I think I missed several opportunities on account of being hung up on another girl at the time. Where I work all the women my age are married, and I don't really interact much with people outside coworkers on a regular basis, so there's not even someone I'd like to pursue.
Flying Toaster
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Lies... straight up lies.
Not lies.
Mineshaft_Gap
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Many of my girlfriends experiences seem to have been about the same. Most of the guys were goofs. They were drunk. etc. Bad memories all around.
My first time was when I was with my boyfriend whom I'm still with.
My first time was when I was with my boyfriend whom I'm still with.
Napoleonthechimp
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I know it's scary to put your ego on the line but sometimes you've got to be a man and straight up ask for what you want.
Fudgepuppy
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This thread depresses me to levels I haven't experienced in years since before my life got better.
Why, GAF, why.
Why, GAF, why.
But i don't want, lol. I just said it doesn't really bother me. I don't have much of a sex drive
You are clearly asking the wrong guys
afternoon delight
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You can try to rationalize social conditioning away and also ignore sensory ecstacy, but seriously- have sex as soon as possible because it's wonderful and fantastic and perfect.
But i don't want, lol. I just said it doesn't really bother me. I don't have much of a sex drive
I don't mean this in any demeaning way, and I think a lot of people must be having the same thoughts I am having here. A very natural feature of a healthy romantic relationship is some sort of sexual activity. If you have gone 18 months without having sex or at least having some very frank discussions about what you want out of the relationship sexually, either
1) both of you may have some sort of medical or psychological issue that you should address or
2) you are not in a romantic relationship
TerryWogan
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"Virgin tight"? What the fuck?
CountAntonius
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I'm pretty open about my virginity. I don't advertise it but I don't hide it either. If conversation turns to sexuality I usually mention it. Typically pretty early on because its an important piece of information someone who has interest in me should know. Its never been a deal breaker for anyone thus far.
Oh and by the way I'm 32, agnostic and have on occasion done other things.
Oh and by the way I'm 32, agnostic and have on occasion done other things.
shanshan310
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that's dumb. Of course you can be in a romantic relationship without sex. To say otherwise is highly insulting. Maybe they have talked about it. I know my boyfriend and I didn't have sex until we'd been dating 18ish months (though we were doing other things). Its something that's different for everything relationship.
me too! It was, and continues to be, pretttty great. I don't think I could do a one night stand. I guess I just can't see the appeal in being naked with someone I don't know.
HollovVpo1nt
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A expected a different thread with 'virgin' and 'tight'.
Lionheart1337
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"Virgin tight"? Sounds like something I hear out of gay porn.
Well, to all the Virgins of GAF:
Reminds me of a really weird porn clip I saw. Something like "you like so tight down there, like you're 14" was said........I never blankfaced harder.
It is very amusing how invested society seems to be in how much sex strangers are or are not having, what kind, etc. Meh, live and let live....within boundaries obviously.
"Virgin tight"? Sounds like something I hear out of gay porn.
Well, to all the Virgins of GAF:
Oh I miss animated avatars.
I specifically qualified it with "or had a very frank discussion". The fact that you were "doing other things" means you had a sexual component to your relationship. His relationship as he's portrayed it sounds very different from yours.
shanshan310
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What I go from what he said was that it was something they were both okay with. There was never anything to suggest things were bad. Let people live their lives the way they want to, not the way you think they should live.
GravityMan
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Many people can tell with good accuracy whether an adult male is a virgin or otherwise sexually inexperienced. And it usually doesn't take long for them to suspect. It's easy to tell with decent accuracy if you pay attention and know what to look for. In the case of dating, chances are the woman will have a strong suspicion long before things get intimate.
It's not much different than "gaydar".
If you are a guy under the age of 21, go ahead and tell; most women won't care...and those that do probably aren't worth your time.
If you are a guy 21+ years old, then you're probably better off not telling (unless she asks), unless the woman is strictly religious or something. IOW, "don't ask, don't tell". Most women 21 and up (heck 18+) have already slept with at least 5 guys and likely many more than that....and they assume and expect you to also have previous experience with multiple partners and know what you're doing. Most women do not like to teach.
It is very important to acquire sexual experience while you're in your teens and/or early-mid 20s, as your brain isn't yet fully developed and that period of your life is critical to knowing what you want and shaping what kind of person you'll be in your late 20s, 30s and beyond. Extreme late bloomers (25 years old or older) or "forever alone" types are that way for a reason, and 95% of the time the reason(s) are not good.
It's not much different than "gaydar".
If you are a guy under the age of 21, go ahead and tell; most women won't care...and those that do probably aren't worth your time.
If you are a guy 21+ years old, then you're probably better off not telling (unless she asks), unless the woman is strictly religious or something. IOW, "don't ask, don't tell". Most women 21 and up (heck 18+) have already slept with at least 5 guys and likely many more than that....and they assume and expect you to also have previous experience with multiple partners and know what you're doing. Most women do not like to teach.
It is very important to acquire sexual experience while you're in your teens and/or early-mid 20s, as your brain isn't yet fully developed and that period of your life is critical to knowing what you want and shaping what kind of person you'll be in your late 20s, 30s and beyond. Extreme late bloomers (25 years old or older) or "forever alone" types are that way for a reason, and 95% of the time the reason(s) are not good.
brianjones
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virgin...
I didn't say things were bad. It just didn't sound to me like these people are boyfriend/girlfriend and maybe it should be considered.
Pretty much. Neither of us care too much, don't see the problem. I
uh what? :S What about religious people who wait until they're married before having sex? Are they not really in a relationship until they're married?
Wish i'd never said anything
High school, bullied. Was a nerd, high grades, friends from grade school abandoned me.
Dropped out in junior year. Came down with severe illness and injury. Hated myself.
Senior year eventually got a GED, scored top 5% of all GED applicants.
1 year later, decided i needed a change to save my life and move out of state to pursue a graphics career and stay with my 60yr old aunt and uncle.
60yr old aunt and uncle have different tastes than 20 yr olds.
Go to trade school. Not a typical college experience. Encounter no real friends. Pursue good grades, eventually get a degree.
Couple months later, get a job offer at a job that forbids coworker fraternization.
Become real good at my job, achieve semi-management status. Work with CEO constantly, coworkers don't even want to hang now.
Social anxiety so great, experience so little, desperation sets in, am vastly overweight and hate self.
Parents and sister don't seem to give a fuck. Family questions if im gay. Fuck em. They are out of state, cant hook me up or bother caring, ignorance is bliss.
Decide enough is enough, go to gym and bust ass for two years, dedicate all time to making myself look good and lose weight and get toned. Think if only i looked good, girls might pursue me.
Feel good for a period of two weeks. Manage to get a date off online website cause i got smashed and made a funny message to a girl i really wouldn't have liked. Uncomfortable as fuck. Date doesn't go great. Feel awkward, had no fun. Go on 2nd date, hoping things are better. No such luck. Oh god, you mean not only do i have to struggle to get a date i have to struggle find someone that likes me? wat is this i don't even.
Delete online profile. Forget i am a sexual being. Dive into a pit of misery. Nobody has actively pursued me ever.
Turn 29, hate everyone, find glorious ways to die, nobody cares. Oh but they will.
that's how that shit happens.
CountAntonius
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Ignore em. Its your relationship if you guys have an understanding and it works so be it. There is no one way for a relationship to work.Sigh... you're all arseholes
Thanks - wish i'd never posted in here.
They want to have sex and talk about it, but accept that they have to wait. Depending on how religious, they'll do "other things", as has been said, or they really hold desire in check. Look, I didn't write what I wrote with any intention to insult you, it was more out of concern about what you were writing. I hope that there is intimacy and affection in your relationship and that you talk about these things with your girlfriend and that I overreacted to the fact that you didn't mention these things. But if not, my concern was that what you think is your girlfriend is really just your friend.
EDIT: and there's nothing wrong with not having sex as long as its something you decide on after discussing with your partner. And for the record I lost my virginity at 21 (now I'm an old married dude).
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What about couples who are asexual or otherwise have a low sex drive?
It sounds like you think Carl and/or his GF have sexual needs that aren't being fulfilled by the relationship, but I'm not sure if that is the case.
No worries, I have plenty of friends who are in their 30s and are still virgins.
It does not make me feel better, to know others are worse off than i am. The fact children are starving in Africa, does not make me happy. It makes me feel, that there is no ceiling the limit of suffering i can endure, and it angers me.
So...two people who have no attraction to other people or want to have sex with other people somehow wind up in a romantic relationship? If you say so.
No, I was just trying to find out if Carl was in a romantic relationship. Does he kiss his girlfriend? Have they ever talked about why they haven't done x or y? The description he was giving just sounded confusing. As I said, I wasn't trying to insult, I just wanted to understand (or help if I could).
Gemüsepizza
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Wow, this is clearly one of the most stupid things I have read in recent time, congratulations.
Bluecondor
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Gemüsepizza;46576723 said:
x2 on this one. This is just brutal. People should be free to make important personal choices - especially about sex and relationships. This makes it sound like a person's life is over if they haven't had sex by the age of 25.
And, for the 29 year old guy, don't worry about it. It sounds like you are pushing yourself to get out there and meet people. There are lots of women in their late-20s and 30s who would like to meet a guy like you.
Yep, pretty much in the same boat here. Being socially insecure with low self esteem is a horrible mix. One of the problems is that when I do end up meeting a girl through work or wherever I take way too long to pursue her and end up just being friends.
Joel Was Right
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If you've yet to have sex by your mid 20s, then you have bigger things to worry about than the lack of sex e.g. why you've yet to form a close bond to a girl.
I hope you wouldn't use such a fickle thing as sexual activity to determine if you have it bad or not. Does a rape victim have more "worth" as a person because he/she has experienced sex and you haven't? There's bigger shit to care about, yeah, but that's why you shouldn't care about stupid fucking stuff like this in the first place.
The idiotic social stereotyping is still going on in this thread?
MWS Natural
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The point of my earlier post was that there is a reason for it. Whether is be hormonal, mental or emotional. It's not normal for humans to desire no sexual interaction with each other or themselves.
Their testosterone could be low (hormonal)
Have anxiety issues (mental)
Poor past experience that made them hate the idea of sex (emotional)
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