GAF, I'm 100% sure I'm getting friendzoned on Monday

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You shortened your message but the fundamental reason people told you in the first place to be more "simple and direct" remains unchanged.

I'm not really interested in continuing this conversation with you. Good luck.
 
In my opinion love happens naturally. You meet, talk, spend some amount and both parties can "feel" it.

You cant really force it. To get in the friendzone though, you either dont show any signs of having romantic feelings for the other one or the girl can "smell" you are head over heels for her.
Just act like its another human, because thats what she is. She is no god or something like that.
Besides the smooth thing would be if you would have directly asked her if she wanna go eating, after she told you her last exam is on the wednesday.
Something like "Hey. After your exam, to celebrate, lets get something to eat together." or whatever.
 
Kopite said:
Well I didn't want to sound like I'm desperate to go out with her. I'm not exactly attracted to her, she's prettier than the other girl and all but I'm still in the process of getting over her. I just want to do this as I'm bored and lonely at home right now and I see an opportunity here to meet someone new.
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Why are you giving so much thought as to what this girl thinks? You haven't even known her for....I don't know, a month!
Man, either she wants to have lunch with you or not, stop giving a crap what she already thinks or will think of you if you do "X".
 
Kopite said:
Fine, I've got the advice though.
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I think what he's trying to make you realise is that you're making it seem like you're asking her to lunch because you will be at school tomorrow, rather than because you WANT TO HAVE LUNCH with her.
 
marrec said:
Glad to hear you're trying to get out there and do stuff unrelated to the original girl OP.

See, it's not so hard when you've got friends in GAF!

Now all you have to do is have GAF suggestions wired into some headphones so that you'll know what to say while talking to this other girl.

Yes, nothing could possibly go wrong from that... yes....
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He needs an old iPod...
 
I've followed all 27 pages and OP the best thing for you is to grow up and mature a little more. You at 20 is what I was at 14... wondering what to say, thinking feelings are mutual when they are completely one sided. But its not until you have enough failures that you start to question yourself about what you did wrong. You are obviously not alpha right now, but there's nothing that says you can't be if you work at it. We are all born with the ability to succeed, but over the years our environment clouds our actions, maybe you watched too much anime, watched too many advertisements, listened to too much popular music. That stuff is bullshit and is not real life. Doesn't mean its not entertaining but its fantasy.

Here's a small piece of advice to get you started. Stop acting like such a pussy and justifying everything. Because I bet that girls have already categorised you within 30 seconds of meeting you and you just don't stand a chance once they decide you are beta. beta is a fucking death sentence. And not only that, most people who act alpha within the first 30 seconds can't maintain it and they'll screw up along the way.
 
I think my phone was hanging for a while, I restarted it and received her text although I'm not sure when she sent it : "Maybe... text me when ur going and I'll c how."

So what's the plan of action? Head to Uni, get my loan shit sorted out and then text her? I'll be free for nearly the entire day so I'd rather she just let me know when she's free but is that supposed to be beta behaviour or something?

Or slightly stalkerish plan, head to the library and pretend to bump into her there and just see how things go?
 
Kopite said:
I think my phone was hangigg for a while, I restarted it and received her text although I'm not sure when she sent it : "Maybe... text me when ur going and I'll c how."

So what's the plan of action? Head to Uni, get my loan shit sorted out and then text her? I'll be free for nearly the entire day so I'd rather she just tell let me know when she's free but is that's supposed to be beta behaviour or something?

Or slightly stalkerish plan, head to the library and pretend to bump into her there and just see how things go?
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Go out there, get it sorted out, decide you're going to eat someplace and tell her you're going to eat there, if she wants to join you.


DO NOT GO TO THE LIBRARY and "Bump" into her.
 
Kopite said:
So what's the plan of action? Head to Uni, get my loan shit sorted out and then text her? I'll be free for nearly the entire day so I'd rather she just tell let me know when she's free but is that's supposed to be beta behaviour or something?
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This, don't play games, games are for stalkers. Get your shit handled and then find out where you want to eat. You have to want to eat there regardless of her inclusion in the process. Text 'I'm heading over to (X) for lunch, you hungry?' Or something of that sort.

Or slightly stalkerish plan, head to the library and pretend to bump into her there and just see how things go?
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DONT DO THIS
 
Don't text anything back. The convo's over. She said maybe. Hit her up tomorrow and if she says yes, great, if she says no, never text her again.
 
If you have to preface whatever idea you have in your head with "this might be creepy / stalkerish but..." then it's probably not a good idea. Hope this helps.
 
Kopite said:
I've got to bring up the I'm Asian part here again.
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You keep bringing this up as if being Asian is a handicap and it's really pissing me off. Here's something I want you to engrave in your mind: IT'S NOT.

What you probably meant is that you have extremely strict and probably unfair parents that are unknowingly wrecking your confidence and self-esteem. And I feel for you because that's not cool. However you shouldn't being using your shitty situation as an excuse for your shortcomings. It should fuel your ambitions to better yourself and get the fuck out. Start slow, start joining clubs in your uni. Film club, photography lessons, a creative writing class, whatever you think will interest you. If your parents ask you why you're staying our past class hours you can straight up tell them you're doing extra circular activities. These clubs will force you to socialize with others and they will lead you to parties and social gatherings. Get a part time job, easiest way to get away from your parents and get paid doing it. Just stop hiding behind your fucking Mobas because life is not going to wait for you.

Once you start your path on bettering yourself you're going to start feeling good about yourself, I promise you. And when you start gaining some confidence in yourself it's going to be easier to talk to girls.

As of right now you shouldn't even be thinking of girls. You have to look out for yourself first.
 
man i caught this thread way too late, this is some gold here simply cuz...well hey, i did pretty much the same thing, chased a girl, rejected, kept chasing for 2(!!!!!) years then finally got with her.

in retrospect, ten years later, i missed out on alot of opportunities being dumb. but hey, i wouldn't change anything considering the memories were great.

edit: i however had some sense in not doing some weird ass taylor swift lyrics shit. i'm asian, i WAS conservative, and nothing short of a major disaster would've made me send a girl TAYLOR SWIFT LYRICS
 
Devolution said:
Simple and direct isn't desperate. Desperate is beating around the bush like you're afraid of the answer.
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This right here. Like the old saying goes, "Keep it simple stupid." Just ask her out to lunch and just talk.

Also, for goodness sake and everything holy, please don't mention anything about what happened here and especially don't show her your post on Nat Geo.
 
Wow, read a few early pages up until the Notepad/Taylor Swift conversation. Have to catch up later so forgive me if Im posting out of date opinions.

The first thing that struck is that this girl is either dumb as a brick or she is fucking cruel. She has put this poor guy through hell. Good god man. He pours his heart out to her and she says "Cant tell ya now! Wait till Monday!" knowing that she has already agreed to go out with Guy 2. Who fucking does that? Then to add insult to injury Guy 2 mysteriously turns up at the monday "meeting" when she reveals all, like it's X Factor or something. Talk about rubbing it in his face.

Christ. I think this guy will realise in the future he actually had a lucky escape. Girl is a puppetmaster. I know he didnt act as cooly as he should have (we've all fucked up in similar ways, live and learn) but no one deserves to be treated like that.
 
PlayALLtheGames said:
I'll have to sort of stick up for the OP here. There is no way that an Asian girl is going to town on any cock, I'm sorry. Asians are awkward when it comes to sex. They do not "fuck." They do not go down on each other. They're probably also playing video games and giving each other Eskimo kisses.
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LMFAO. wtf? yo b, this thread. it just keeps on giving and giving. it's a good thread, a generous thread.

My past 2 gfs have been Asian, and trust me they do "fuck." They also give better head than the white and hispanic girls that I've dated in the past. Like, they basically worship the D.

gazele said:
You would know i suppose
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Manu said:
The irony of this post is blowing my mind.
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LMFAOOO. THIS THREAD=LEGENDARY. OMG MAN
 
Kopite said:
I'm guessing most of you have read/know about my thread by now. I was originally going to post this there but I think this is the more suitable thread.

Couple of weeks ago, some of my friends bet me $100 that I couldn't get this hot girls number. Well I took that bet, managed to talk to the girl alone and well told her all about it and asked her politely if I could get her number just so I could win the bet. She did give me her number and I won a $100.

Anyway, later that night, I texted her and after a bit of chit chat I told her I owed her a drink. She told me she was going to have her exams soon but she'll be fine with it as long as it's after her exams(which ends in late November). We texted for a bit and then didn't really communicate with each other till Monday(yep that Monday) when I saw her in campus. She texted me later and we spend some time texting and I reminded her about us going for a drink some day and she said that we definitely should soon.

Well today she told me that her next exam is only on next Wednesday and after spending some time at home today she'll be back on campus tomorrow. In a completely seperate development, I received a call from my Uni this morning asking me to hand in a document pertaining to my student loan tomorrow.

So I've got to head to Uni tomorrow, when most of my friends have the week off and probably won't be around and this girl will be on campus too(although she'll probably be studying with friends). Should I ask her to go for lunch together or something? And if so, how? Thanks.
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What the hell, OP? So, let me get this straight. This a different girl than the one initially mentioned in this thread. Before asking that initial girl out, you made a bet to get this other girl's number? The fuck is going on here!?
 
PlayALLtheGames said:
I'll have to sort of stick up for the OP here. There is no way that an Asian girl is going to town on any cock, I'm sorry. Asians are awkward when it comes to sex. They do not "fuck." They do not go down on each other. They're probably also playing video games and giving each other Eskimo kisses.
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What the fuck is going on in this thread?
 
Kopite said:
Anyway, later that night, I texted her and after a bit of chit chat I told her I owed her a drink. She told me she was going to have her exams soon but she'll be fine with it as long as it's after her exams(which ends in late November). We texted for a bit and then didn't really communicate with each other till Monday(yep that Monday) when I saw her in campus. She texted me later and we spend some time texting and I reminded her about us going for a drink some day and she said that we definitely should soon.
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Oh, I didn't see this one.

I've gotta be honest, I wouldn't give this one too much thought, man. This is how I would interpret this if it were me:

Me: I owe you a drink.
Her: Sure...I might have an hour or so for you in about a month and a half.

Don't give her the time of day unless she initiates.
 
PlayALLtheGames said:
I'll have to sort of stick up for the OP here. There is no way that an Asian girl is going to town on any cock, I'm sorry. Asians are awkward when it comes to sex. They do not "fuck." They do not go down on each other. They're probably also playing video games and giving each other Eskimo kisses.
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Cow Mengde said:
Asians man. That's what's going on. Didn't you read that he's Asian?
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I don't know how much the rest of you know about Asian culture (I'm an expert), but honor and shame are huge parts of it. It's not like it is in America where you can become successful by being an asshole. If you screw someone in Asia, you bring shame to yourself, and the only way to get rid of that shame is by being a Nice Guy™.
 
Kopite said:
Fine. Just one part that I probably went overboard with.

Some background info, this girl, the other dude and 4 of our friends went to see a horror movie together. This were the tickets he was buying and I had declined to go to watch it.
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Probably the best you've I've seen you make so far.
 
PlayALLtheGames said:
I'll have to sort of stick up for the OP here. There is no way that an Asian girl is going to town on any cock, I'm sorry. Asians are awkward when it comes to sex. They do not "fuck." They do not go down on each other. They're probably also playing video games and giving each other Eskimo kisses.
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You know those innocent-looking Asian girls who you swear must be virgins until the day they are married? It's a game they're forced to play in public, even as they have active sex lives behind closed doors. Spoken from experience.
 
Kopite said:
Meet someone new who seems like a cool person? Not spend nearly the whole week alone? Basically following the advice most GAFfers gave on here.
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Oh..ok then. You posted about the other girl in the dating thread so I assumed.. whatever.
 
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