Where do you live?
I apologize for the American slant to this conversation from my end, but it applies to the topic of the thread, and the meanings of phrases like "white pride" and "black pride".
As I've noted previously, while I have shared some of the experience of being oppressed by my peers that American blacks do, I also don't share their culture or upbringing except where it overlaps with being American. I went to a school where a lot of Sudanese kids attended, and they had the same experience despite outward appearances. Due to that cultural separation, they weren't connected to American blacks any more than I was. Even though all of us liked a lot of the same music and such, and obviously we xould be friends, there were lots of other differences in upbringing, family history, language, and so on.
It all really comes down to culture, before race. Even though the language we use to describe culture often sounds like race.
Edit: in response to your edit above, yeah, that makes more sense to me as well, but most people know what they mean by black people meet up. They dont really expect a bunch of Hatians or Somolians showing up on there. I'll admit that it can make me a little uncomfortable at times, but that's it.