You see a woman crying in the parking lot, do you ask her if she's ok?

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I have, regardless of sexuality, and most of the times I can remember, it went well.

Stinkles said:
Awkward social thing:

Ever coincidentally walked behind or near a lone woman at night? I have. I always try to make some distance so she's not scared, like, crossing the road and then overtaking so you are neither near nor behind.

Of course the irony is that now she is LESS safe than she was while a normal non-murdery person was "following" her.

Used to happen to me a lot during college years. Never failed to feel awkward.
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I can relate to this, a lot. I live in a very safe european country where these crimes are nothing the people are used to. Also, I live on the countryside of that country, far away from the big cities where these things might happen. And on my way home, after dusk, I still notice women looking over their shoulders nervously. I always walk slower than them on purpose (and they're almost running). I'm usually well-dressed (suit), so I don't look like a bum either. Still doesn't make them any less comfortable.

One time, a woman started actually running when my phone started ringing.

You know, I get it, they have a right to be paranoid. But my goodness gracious, nobody can expect me to like being suspected as a possible rapist every time I walk home from the bus station after 20:00. For fucks sake.

Aylinato said:
No, I've been threatened by mace at least twice just by walking behind different women heading to my car. I mean I can somewhat understand if I was following them, but they came to my side of the road(which I actively tried avoiding being on the same side to not make them feel threatened).

No, I'm not going to try to comfort a distraught person, I might ask from 10 feet away if they need help or something, but fuck getting maced.
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This almost happened to me once. In Europe. In broad daylight. I walked up to her, asking for directions, and I see how her right hand is gripping a pepper spray in her purse.

inb4 people demanding pics to see if I'm monobrow-man.
 
If I legit wandered across this shit in an isolated area I'd be concerned I was being lured into a trap somewhere, but I'm extremely paranoid.

I ran across a woman coming from out of an abandoned house one night on the side of the highway. It was around midnight and I was walking for fitness. Now I'm not an intimidating looking dude in particular. I'm 5' 7" and while I work out I'm not to the point you can tell in clothes yet. I'm trying to say I'm not a scary looking dude.

That being said ANYBODY you run across in the middle of the night in the middle of nowhere should be suspect. I was armed. I'm always armed and extremely paranoid about shit. She should have been less cavalier about skulking out of the darkness and asking to use my cellphone. Like I'm gonna be that kind of idiot.

I just told her that it was only an mp3 player, not a phone, but that I would call someone for her when I got home if she wanted.

Maybe I'm no hero, but you've gotta be safe above all else.

Also, in these situations I'm always suspicious that the crying woman is actually Kuchisake-onna, the Slash-faced woman.
 
There are times when I step into the parking garage elevator after a woman and I cringe when I see she's already pushed the button to the same level I'm parked on. I try to make the best of it by muttering the lyrics to Lurkin' by Wakka Flocka Flame.


Stinkles said:
Awkward social thing:

Ever coincidentally walked behind or near a lone woman at night? I have. I always try to make some distance so she's not scared, like, crossing the road and then overtaking so you are neither near nor behind.

Of course the irony is that now she is LESS safe than she was while a normal non-murdery person was "following" her.

Used to happen to me a lot during college years. Never failed to feel awkward.
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If she's hurt yah I'll ask but if it's some chick crying I wouldn't even give a second glance. Sorry but I don't care about your life problems.
 
No. The potential outcomes of doing so do not warrant it:

Outcome A: This is an elaborate trap and I’m being set up to be mugged/assaulted.

Outcome B: Their distress real and they want to be left alone. By approaching I’ve just stomped all over that.

Outcome C: Their distress real and they need actual assistance that I can’t render.

Oucome D: Their distresses real and they need assistance I can render.

Three to one odds my intervention will just make things worse. Best to stay out of it.
 
Nope. Unless she looked physically hurt or something, it's usually a personal issue that a stranger asking if they were OK would sometimes make worse.

Plus I'm not really that great at talking to girls who aren't crying, so ones who are I'd definitely just make worse.
 
I had a female friend who referred to those types of situations as "cock crack". Scenarios where men are given the chance to rush into the rescue to save the damsel in distress cos it's a turn on to them. Well, not everyone wants or needs your help, best to leave them be unless it's obvious they could use help (badly injured, etc).
 
Hell no, the last time I went over a crying girl this happened.

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I still have the scars to prove, which is weird because I am not Travis. :|
 
Unlikely. Some people want to be left alone. But if she looked like she was hurt or had been in a struggle. I'd approach.
 
A White Knight could approach her and ask "Why the long face?" and when she looks up he could point at his horse. I'm pretty sure that would cheer her up a bit.
 
I would say that to anyone if it seemed appropriate. Not just a woman.
I feel a lot of concern for others. And I like spreading kindness and concern for others.
 
I'll ask anyone crying if they are ok, man or woman

I hate to see people crying :(
 
It's kind of sad how many people say no with the reason that the woman would assume they were being attacked. Is that really the state the world is in? :(

I'd like to think i'd ask ANYONE if they're okay. Male or female, old or young. It's the human thing to do, right? If they don't want help, they'll say no - but you might just stumble upon someone that genuinely does need your help.
 
It depends. Are there other people around, or is it a secluded area late at night?

If there are signs she's physically hurt, of course I'd stop and help, but if she's just a random girl crying, no I wouldn't.
 
I've attempted to ask a crying person if they were alright (a few female, and one male) and it never seemed like they really wanted help or anything. I personally don't really understand why people cry in public if they don't expect/want someone to help them but I guess some people can't control it.

I've never been single in this situation though, so I guess I was never intending to score in that event.
 
No. Women are fucking crazy, she might be crying for fucking nothing. I wouldn't care, unless she showed signs of physical violence, then I'd probably call the police.
 
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