You see a woman crying in the parking lot, do you ask her if she's ok?

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Is anyone else around? I saw this chick looking sort of out of it and I was tempted to ask if she was okay, but then I noticed a bunch of guys across eyeing me up. It's not unusual for this sort of thing to be something that leads to them coming up and starting shit over it, so as selfish as it seems, ain't no one got time for that shit.

It's odd that they need some kind of justification, but whatever.
 
imadinosaur said:
It's the overparanoia of being put into a group. People criticize anyone who goes to an extreme, but are then so afraid of being labeled themselves that they don't stick true to who they are and modify all their behavior to fit in with a mob mentality of neutrality. It's rather ironic, actualy.
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The term is only appropriate when applied to dudes who defend inappropriate behavior or attack legitimate criticism of shitty female behavior, it has nothing to do really with just helping someone out in distress. It says a lot to me, and nothing particularly good, that someone would project some kind of whiteknighthood to checking up on a fellow human being who's having trouble.
 
Likelyhood directly proportional to how upset the person is.

Are they quietly crying?

Nah, fuck em.

Are they sobbing loudly?

I'll probably see what's up if they're in my direct path.

Are they on the floor convulsing in pure and agonizing sadness?

I'll probably ask if they're okay.
 
Probably not. I imagine if I were to cry in public I'm also probably not strong enough to talk about it to a stranger.
 
Devolution said:
The term is only appropriate when applied to dudes who defend inappropriate behavior or attack legitimate criticism of shitty female behavior, it has nothing to do really with just helping someone out in distress. It says a lot to me, and nothing particularly good, that someone would project some kind of whiteknighthood to checking up on a fellow human being who's having trouble.
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No, I completely agree with you. I was just trying to come up with an analytical reason as to why people do these things. Never said it made sense.

When it comes to helping out someone, I couldn't care LESS what the heck people think of me.
 
imadinosaur said:
No, I completely agree with you. I was just trying to come up with an analytical reason as to why people do these things. Never said it made sense.

When it comes to helping out someone, I couldn't care LESS what the heck people think of me.
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I get that, just wanted to clarify why I particularly loathe how the term has changed from dudes who defend shitty women to being a decent fucking person who happens to be assisting a woman.
 
Zeppelin said:
Of course not. She's probably a strong, independent woman well capable of taking care of herself.
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Because that's why she's bawling her eyes out in a random parking lot? Not saying this makes her weak and dependent.

I know, I know, this is a hypothetical situation. XD
 
JordanN said:
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godammit, was just about to post this
 
Wow. I know that events of trickery do happen but I'm surprised at the responses that make it seem like we live in medieval times where every crying woman is part of some sort of highwayman troupe.
 
When someone's crying, all they need to feel better is a hug. I'd sneak up behind her and give her a great big surprise bear hug.

 
Stinkles said:
Awkward social thing:

Ever coincidentally walked behind or near a lone woman at night? I have. I always try to make some distance so she's not scared, like, crossing the road and then overtaking so you are neither near nor behind.

Of course the irony is that now she is LESS safe than she was while a normal non-murdery person was "following" her.

Used to happen to me a lot during college years. Never failed to feel awkward.
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I sometimes do this and need to remind myself I should keep to my own pace and not go paranoid about what she might be perceiving to then shift my gait. Would go crazy if I started to mind-read other people's intentions and judgements of a situation, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.
 
Stinkles said:
Awkward social thing:

Ever coincidentally walked behind or near a lone woman at night? I have. I always try to make some distance so she's not scared, like, crossing the road and then overtaking so you are neither near nor behind.

Of course the irony is that now she is LESS safe than she was while a normal non-murdery person was "following" her.

Used to happen to me a lot during college years. Never failed to feel awkward.
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This has happened to me. I had free parking for only 4 or 5 more minutes and I had to hurry to get to my spot or I'd have to pay the $3 minimum for the first 15 minutes.

I was walking really hurriedly to my spot but I didn't want to run because there was a lone woman ahead of me and I didn't want to frighten her. I couldn't find the right speed to go, whenever I sped up to go past her she sped up too, so I slowed down and tried not to be noticed. She looked a little panicked but I caught a glimpse of her face and she was cute, probably a 7.5 or maybe low 8s at least, and then I heard her sobbing, so I thought I should try to help. I read on a dating website that you're supposed to establish physical contact in order to not get friend zoned so I skipped up to her and tried to grab her wrist but she flailed her arm away and started crying hysterically and ran away.

This was a red flag for me since it means she probably has major daddy issues or something, I always imagine my first girlfriend as someone sharp witted and not too emotional so it's probably a blessing in disguise that she didn't bring her baggage into my life.
 
OddMorsel said:
This has happened to me. I had free parking for only 4 or 5 more minutes and I had to hurry to get to my spot or I'd have to pay the $3 minimum for the first 15 minutes.

I was walking really hurriedly to my spot but I didn't want to run because there was a lone woman ahead of me and I didn't want to frighten her. I couldn't find the right speed to go, whenever I sped up to go past her she sped up too, so I slowed down and tried not to be noticed. She looked a little panicked but I caught a glimpse of her face and she was cute, probably a 7.5 or maybe low 8s at least, and then I heard her sobbing, so I thought I should try to help. I read on a dating website that you're supposed to establish physical contact in order to not get friend zoned so I skipped up to her and tried to grab her wrist but she flailed her arm away and started crying hysterically and ran away.

This was a red flag for me since it means she probably has major daddy issues or something, I always imagine my first girlfriend as someone sharp witted and not too emotional so it's probably a blessing in disguise that she didn't bring her baggage into my life.
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Haha, wow. I was expecting a serious story, but halfway I did a double-take. Well-written.

Did you also tell her that she deserves a Nice Guy (TM) like you? :P

http://okcniceguys.tumblr.com/
 
I did once walk in on a lone crying woman staying in the same room as me in a London hostel. I was coming back from a long day. I just didn't know how to respond so I just smiled, nodded, looked at my watch, stuck my finger in the air with a surprised look on my face like a guy who just remembered something very important he had to do and walked back out of the room.
 
i talked to one once, and she told me about how she was kicked out of where she was living, lost her job, and then living in her car. i felt really bad and asked if i could hug her, and she seemed happy and said ya.

she was beautiful. but crazy.

if she was ugly i probably wouldn't have talked to her
 
Regardless of gender, I'd stop and try to be of assistance unless I'm feeling extremely tongue-tied and caught up in my own head at the time.
 
I pull my pants down and tell her today is not her lucky day.

In seriousness yeah i ask and help, especially if it is a someone that to me doesnt look good
 
I'd say "you okay? need any help?". Just ping them to see if they're in a bad situation - you never know if a bunch of people have just walked right past them.

If they say no or don't respond, I note their appearance/the location, and move along. Just in case it turns out they're a missing person. Our mom got us into the habit as kids of looking at the missing people poster walls in stores and memorizing descriptions, you never know if you're the last person to see someone.
 
Probably not. I've seen crying girls on the subway over the years and while I felt bad, I never felt compelled to ask them what's wrong.
 
Whether she's a woman or not doesn't really matter.
What matters are the circumstances, is she alone? How hard is she crying? And so on.
 
I did on several occasions. But then I was hunt by psychopaths on drugs in high school (with court cases afterwards), so I guess it depends on the occasion.
 
My first and natural instinct would be to ask if she is okay or if she needs some help, but after going into debt for 120k for a legal degree, my legal instinct would yell at my natural one by saying "you have no duty to help, but if you do so, you are assuming a duty to act and may be held liable if you are negligent in performing that help." In a situation like that, if I saw a woman crying in the parking lot, I would say F*** it to the law and help her out. That legal degree also taught me defenses in case she sues me later on.

Growing up in NYC, the only thing that would prevent me from helping her, apart from the legal liability, is if she was sexually assaulted and mistakenly identifies me or if her crying in a parking lot is an attempt to car jack me or commit a robbery.
 
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