You see a woman crying in the parking lot, do you ask her if she's ok?

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flippedb said:
No. Women are fucking crazy, she might be crying for fucking nothing. I wouldn't care, unless she showed signs of physical violence, then I'd probably call the police.
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You should call the police anyways, what is that women doing outside by herself?!?
 
imadinosaur said:
Well, it may be "nothing" to you, but sometimes people want comfort for the smaller things, or what may seem insignificant to you. Just sayin'. =/
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As I said, if it's not physical violence, I wouldn't do anything. I can't read the minds of every weeping lady I come across.
kaepernickehs said:
You should call the police anyways, what is that women doing outside by herself?!?
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What are you implying, mate?
 
flippedb said:
As I said, if it's not physical violence, I wouldn't do anything. I can't read the minds of every weeping lady I come across.


What are you implying, mate?
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Lol, no one's asking you to guess what goes on in the synapses of someone's cerebellum. I'm just suggesting that it's usual the decent thing to do to ask someone if they're alright, and see what you can do to help. I mean, supposing that this hypothetical question entails a woman balling her eyes out in the middle of some random parking lot, she's obviously in great distress, and I think it only natural to want to figure out what's wrong and what one can do to help.

I know I would.
 
flippedb said:
As I said, if it's not physical violence, I wouldn't do anything. I can't read the minds of every weeping lady I come across.


What are you implying, mate?
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They shouldn't be let out gallivanting about, being all independent and sorts guvner.
 
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"NOT MY BUSINESS, DON'T INVOLVE ME, WOMAN"

- GAF, 2013

:P
 
imadinosaur said:
Lol, no one's asking you to guess what goes on in the synapses of someone's cerebellum. I'm just suggesting that it's usual the decent thing to do to ask someone if they're alright, and see what you can do to help. I mean, supposing that this hypothetical question entails a woman balling her eyes out in the middle of some random parking lot, she's obviously in great distress, and I think it only natural to want to figure out what's wrong and what one can do to help.

I know I would.
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It might have something to do with the country we were raised in, and the differences between both societies. Around here, it is better if you mind your own business, or might get into trouble with shady people.

My reaction would be the same for a man or woman, just to be clear. Maybe a child could make me act differently, but it would depend on the context.
 
youngwerther said:
No. She's a grown adult. Control your emotions.
A woman crying in public is about the last thing I want to involve myself in.
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This is stupid, cold and heartless. Sometimes shit happens in public. Sometimes your fiance breaks up with you in public. Sometimes you hear that someone died while on the phone in public. Sometimes you get fired in public.

Screw your assumption that humans have to be infallible statues in public.
 
Nope, definitely not. I won't even give her a second look, assuming I even noticed her in the first place.

Now if it's a dude, especially a hot one, that would be a completely different story...
 
The Lamp said:
This is stupid, cold and heartless. Sometimes shit happens in public. Sometimes your fiance breaks up with you in public. Sometimes you hear that someone died while on the phone in public. Sometimes you get fired in public.

Screw your assumption that humans have to be infallible statues in public.
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Unless said person asked for help, I wouldn't give a damn. Or, as I said, showed signs of physical violence.

John Kowalski said:
He's joking about how you make it sound like every woman is crazy and unworthy of the holy gift of male sanity that drives humanity.
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B-but the bible!
I know what he meant, just wanted him to say it.
 
flippedb said:
It might have something to do with the country we were raised in, and the differences between both societies. Around here, it is better if you mind your own business, or might get into trouble with shady people.

My reaction would be the same for a man or woman, just to be clear. Maybe a child could make me act differently, but it would depend on the context.
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Hey, I understand that there are different ethnicity-based societal structures... but personally, I think that this is more of a human issue. I don't care what my society thinks. I care about the human next to me... the woman crying, in this case.

And getting in trouble with "shady people" is as much a risk here where I live. I just consider potentially helping a lady out to be worth more consideration than something else that hasn't even happened.
Plus I can defend myself if need be.

Not trying to shame you... just showing you a possible different mindset that you might consider. :)
 
I would unless she was completely flipping out in some sort of psychotic manner.

I'm generally nice to most people until they give me a reason to not be.
 
Yes. In fact, I have a story to share:

In college, was walking home from a late-night IHOP meal when I saw a girl crying and yelling at some guys on the street. I stopped and asked if she was okay and if she needed help. She told me that she had just been raped. I asked her if she wanted me to call the police. She said no, and asked me to walk her home. As we walked, she told me the entire story (it was an acquaintance, they had been hanging out and then he forced himself on her). She kept asking me how someone could do this. I had no answer. I just tried to keep telling her it wasn't her fault. By the time we got to her apartment complex, she had stopped crying. I asked again if she wanted me to call the police. She said no again. I made sure she got to her apartment (her roommates were there) and then I went home, having lost a little faith in humanity, but I hoping I had restored hers, if only a little.
 
Wouldn't matter if it was a woman, man, or child.

I'd maintain a safe distance and yell something like "Hey! You alright? You need some help?" and go from there.
 
hodayathink said:
Yes. In fact, I have a story to share:

In college, was walking home from a late-night IHOP meal when I saw a girl crying and yelling at some guys on the street. I stopped and asked if she was okay and if she needed help. She told me that she had just been raped. I asked her if she wanted me to call the police. She said no, and asked me to walk her home. As we walked, she told me the entire story (it was an acquaintance, they had been hanging out and then he forced himself on her). She kept asking me how someone could do this. I had no answer. I just tried to keep telling her it wasn't her fault. By the time we got to her apartment complex, she had stopped crying. I asked again if she wanted me to call the police. She said no again. I made sure she got to her apartment (her roommates were there) and then I went home, having lost a little faith in humanity, but I hoping I had restored hers, if only a little.
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Oh my gosh. That is rough. :(

I'd give her a big hug. That is too awful. I'd also be tempted to go murder those guys.
 
Did it new years day at 3AM. Left the club with some friends, was walking to where we were getting picked up, saw 1 girl crying and her friend looked pretty distressed.

Walked over to them to see what was wrong. They were just lost and didnt know how to get to where there friends were. Helped them out.

The thing I found weird was when I was walking back to my friends, they all asked what I was doing, then, why I was helping them. Kind of like I was doing something wrong.
 
A few years ago in Seattle I was walking home and saw a young women sitting on the sidewalk, crying her eyes out, trying to get her cell phone to work. I stopped to offer her my cell and ask if she was ok but before I could open my mouth to say a word she screamed "fuck off you pervert piece of shit, leave me alone!"

Later, I had an incident where a woman came into the club drunk with a male co worker on their first date. She ended up getting rowdy, obnoxious, violent, and sick so we booted her out. She ended up laying on the ground in the alleyway behind the club while her poor co worker tried to get her to stand up and walk out of the alleyway to catch a cab and get her home. Meanwhile she screamed and wailed and threatened and kicked at him. A group of guys walking by saw this and took her reaction to mean the co worker was trying to rape her. They came running down the alleyway, intent on beating the shit out of this guy (or worse). I was lucky enough to be out on a smoke break and could get involved and calm the situation down and prevent any violence, but it was almost a very ugly situation. All this poor guy wanted to do was help this girl he barely knew despite her treating him like dogshit. And he could have very easily ended up in the hospital or worse because of it.

I'd still stop and try and help someone in distress but both incidents were reminders that your intentions are often irrelevant, its how people perceive you and your intentions that at the end of the day determine whether you'll be a nice helpful guy or a fucking pervert or criminal in others eyes.
 
flippedb said:
Unless said person asked for help, I wouldn't give a damn. Or, as I said, showed signs of physical violence.



B-but the bible!
I know what he meant, just wanted him to say it.
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I didn't tell you to give a damn. But it's fucked up that you tell people to control their emotions as if they're breaking some kind of rule by crying in public. I assure you most people who end up doing so didn't ask for whatever the hell happened to them that is causing them to cry in public.
 
Fiction said:
Sticking up for or helping a woman in anyway these days is 'white knighting'.
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Well, when it comes to a situation that might help this hypothetical lady out of a truly horrible situation, it's a label I'm personally willing to suffer through. Not much of a sacrifice, if you ask me.
 
No, I don't know that woman so why would I stop? If anything she probably wants to be left alone and besides people are crazy out there. Safer to stay out of people's business and just go on with your day.
 
Not only do I, but I have.

I saw a girl crying after getting off the phone at the airport. I went and bought her some tissues and asked if she was alright. She really wasn't and we ended up talking until she felt a bit better. I don't like to see anyone in distress like that.

YMMV.
 
If she's like physically hurt or ailing, yeah. If not, no unless it's really obnoxious. Sometimes you have to let people cry out their emotions. I don't think it's an invitation to be approached.
 
Stinkles said:
Awkward social thing:

Ever coincidentally walked behind or near a lone woman at night? I have. I always try to make some distance so she's not scared, like, crossing the road and then overtaking so you are neither near nor behind.

Of course the irony is that now she is LESS safe than she was while a normal non-murdery person was "following" her.

Used to happen to me a lot during college years. Never failed to feel awkward.
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This is a super awkward situation.

Especially when your bus is about to leave in the distance.
 
I went to check on a woman in trouble in Sleeping Dogs earlier today only to find her running off while her partner in hiding emerged and attempted to mug me. :-(
 
White knight (the term) sure has been ruined by a legion of bitter tools who think just being a decent person is some kind of gesture to earn a key to a chastity belt.
 
I would hesitantly, but (not gonna lie) I'd also be really weary and cautious. I feel terrible about being so paranoid, but I can't help but wonder if it's some sort of a set up with other dudes hiding around the scene waiting to jump some guy that approaches her for his wallet or something.

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I should clarify it'd depend on how hysterical/hurt they appear. If they just look upset, then yeah, I'll pass. (Then again, a set up could play it up more to seem more outrageous.)

Fuck I dunno.

THIS QUESTION IS NOT FUN.
 
Devolution said:
White knight (the term) sure has been ruined by a legion of bitter tools who think just being a decent person is some kind of gesture to earn a key to a chastity belt.
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It's the overparanoia of being put into a group. People criticize anyone who goes to an extreme, but are then so afraid of being labeled themselves that they don't stick true to who they are and modify all their behavior to fit in with a mob mentality of neutrality. It's rather ironic, actualy.
 
Probably not, unless she looked physically hurt.

You talk about "mankind", why would it matter if the person is a female then? Question should be "you see a person crying in the parking lot..."
 
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