This was a horrific, horrific crime and tragedy. I think that there is evidence now that incel culture can create terrorism and things need to be done to stop the online forums where this hate breeds.
I think that social media is a massive problem, and dating apps that give off a fiction of 'perfection' are increasingly becoming more dangerous. 99% of guys are ignored, even on Bumble where the girl accepts you first there is no guarantee of a reply.
Then even if there is 99% of chats never really go anywhere. The point I'm making is that the daily experience of these apps create in part incels.
If you don't treat Tinder etc as just a casual whatever happens, happens it can become very negative. It's just meant to be a bit of fun, no one takes it seriously.
These apps (not the people on them, I think that's a very important distinction to make here), actively promote and create incel culture and they need to be reigned in. How many more incel related killings need to happen before these steps are taken?
The apps like Tinder are where this shit comes from. 10 years ago there was no "Swipe" apps.
Swipe apps are made for people not to leave. They benefit women who want to feel sexy by getting matches.
Thats their goal, keep you on there and sell you shit. Why anyone who wants something serious would use tinder is crazy.
It also doesn't help that there really is a disadvantage to being a normal bloke on those apps. I see it all the time in reddit the people complaining about no matches while women get 100s a day.
That shit is unreal and inflates women's egos and makes men feel defeated. When men feel defeated and have no way out, what do they do?
Society doesn't aim to help dudes at all.
Not all online dating is like this.
I found and married someone off eharmony (non swipe site). Yeah it ended in divorce but It lasted 9 years.
This year I found the love of my life using facebook dating, which I don't consider a swipe site like tinder. A site no one seems to mention for dating but there seems to be a lot of ladies on there in the 30-50 range.
I had a bunch of matches (would of had more if didn't smoke at the time). Most I didn't relate to and the one was some weirdo, who i had to ditch.
The difference between the older or non swipe apps and those like tinder. Is tinder is aimed at young people who want to "hookup". It's not aimed at long term relationships.
If I can score a beautiful babe at 42, while a smoker, who is divorced, and doesn't own a home anymore, plus has a crap job, i think thats saying something.
Sure I may look like I am in my 20s but i am not all muscle bound, just average weigth with a full head of hair.
You really just need to be on a good app and build a good profile. Once you get the match you need to be a real human and listen, ask, respond , if you are interested. If not interested don't bother.
I've always been good talking individually to women, its groups of both sexes I have issues with, or finding other male friends.