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By a bunch of people, including tons of men who find nursing the be inherently feminine and look down on men who pursue that discipline.
But how are they taking his masculinity? By looking down on him? How does that work?
By a bunch of people, including tons of men who find nursing the be inherently feminine and look down on men who pursue that discipline.
I personally think it's one of those ways to demonise men who aren't successfull with women. If a guy sucks with meeting women and then decides to learn about it from people who are better than him at it, he is viewed as predatory, misogynist and all manner of other shit because he was not born charismatic or confident enough out of the womb.
MRAs defined themselves. We're just obliging. This thread has shown a few examples of people questioning what the MRM is about other than attacking feminism. While they may talk up some goals, none seem as important or as motivating as what feminism has done to them.So, it seems like Men's Rights Movement has so been sufficiently damaged by the actions of its followers to the point where even though many in here are quick to point out that it's just wrong to categorically put feminism in broad generalizing terms such as "women that hates men" etc etc; no one would even blink if the same broad generalizing terms such as "men that hates women" are attached to the Men's Rights Movement.
Because there is countless examples of MRA focusing the movement on attacking feminism.So, it seems like Men's Rights Movement has so been sufficiently damaged by the actions of its followers to the point where even though many in here are quick to point out that it's just wrong to categorically put feminism in broad generalizing terms such as "women that hates men" etc etc; no one would even blink if the same broad generalizing terms such as "men that hates women" are attached to the Men's Rights Movement.
Because PUA has always been a toxic way of learning to socialize.I personally think it's one of those ways to demonise men who aren't successfull with women. If a guy sucks with meeting women and then decides to learn about it from people who are better than him at it, he is viewed as predatory, misogynist and all manner of other shit because he was not born charismatic or confident enough out of the womb. If a woman wants dating advice she has a shit tonne of advice from women's magazines, sites and the Rules books where they can get advice without being judged. Hell when I met Neil Strauss, the line was filled with a lot of women who had given the Game to their male friends who had shit luck with women. As for MRAs=PUAs. I truly don't see how they are the same thing.
Male nurses are definitely looked at poorly. We've even got movies such as Meet The Parents where it's made fun of.As for some of these other things...
What does "right to masculinity" even mean? A male nurse has his masculinity taken away? By who? Why does a stay at home dad need advocates on his behalf? So that mean people on the internet won't call him a housewife?
It seems to me like a lot of these issues fall under the umbrella of other groups that are already established OR they are just things that a normal secure man could just brush off and say "I don't give a fuck what they say about me."
So, it seems like Men's Rights Movement has so been sufficiently damaged by the actions of its followers to the point where even though many in here are quick to point out that it's just wrong to categorically put feminism in broad generalizing terms such as "women that hates men" etc etc; no one would even blink if the same broad generalizing terms such as "men that hates women" are attached to the Men's Rights Movement.
Because the current MRA doesn't care about black men at all? I should have worded it better, I wasn't saying a Men's Right movement itself isn't needed, but MRA as we know it isn't needed in America.
I pretty much state this later in the thread as my main issue against MRA.
the post you quoted was a jokeLol...But a lot of the research and movements, like investigating male rape or what not in Mumei's threads were actually done by feminists. Must be those real extreme men hating feminists at work again! Infiltrating forums and putting on the invisible cloak on these threads.
Why does the acronym have to be so easy to mistype as my name.I'm sure there is some cross over between them, but I don't understand why MRA and PAU are combined into a whole. Surely they're separate movements?
MRA is anti-feminist, but PAU is just plain dehumanizing towards woman. And men they deem as beta.
I can't imagine that self styled alpha PAU guys would have much sympathy for male rape victims (the cause celebre of MRAs).
But how are they taking his masculinity? By looking down on him? How does that work?
Why does the acronym have to be so easy to mistype as my name.![]()
The sad thing is that MRAs are mostly all complain and no action. Has there been any MRA groups that actually tried doing something?
Are those things and the things royalan really part of "men's rights" though? I mean our racist justice system is about as it gets but I don't see a lot of these things as MR issues.
As for some of these other things...
What does "right to masculinity" even mean? A male nurse has his masculinity taken away? By who? Why does a stay at home dad need advocates on his behalf? So that mean people on the internet won't call him a housewife?
It seems to me like a lot of these issues fall under the umbrella of other groups that are already established OR they are just things that a normal secure man could just brush off and say "I don't give a fuck what they say about me."
I can't wait until we have sex robots (lol). I feel like most of these mental problems would be avoided if everyone was just getting laid on the reg.
heh looking through the thread it seems like for for the following:http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/16ygzs/is_there_space_for_gay_men_in_mensrights/
This is the first thread I found from the Men's Rights subreddit. There are some hateful posts, but most are positive.
Unfairly being assumed to be a pedophile;
Unfairly assumed to be a potential rapist;
Unjust gender based social expectations (eg "man up and______" "Don't be a little girl", etc);
Inequality under the law both explicitly in legal codes and in the way men are treated by courts;
Suicide, imprisonment, workplace deaths are being greatly skewed against men;
Scholarships, business grants, etc being skewed towards one gender;
Unjust assumption that you are unfit to be a parent (glance at the threads about how single fathers are treated by society).
And many, many more.
But then where are the "normal" ones, and what have they accomplished?Classifying the Men's Rights movement as the red pill subreddit is like using that batshit feminist tumblr that thinks all sex is rape as the feminist movement. It's really easy to pick apart the extremes.
Fathers for justice threw a condom filled with purple powder at Tony Blair once in the house of commons, oh and a bunch of them dressed up as super heros and climbed landmarks refusing to leave.Yeah those threads always go away too quickly. I wonder why.
The sad thing is that MRAs are mostly all complain and no action. Has there been any MRA groups that actually tried doing something?
But don't all KKK members and neo-nazis identify as white
would you mind posting some evidence or sources to support the idea that feminism has been "hijacked" by extremists? that extremists are currently the majority of feminists?Well I guess MRA's started more on the crazy spectrum and progressed from there, while feminist were more reasonable and in the center but very quickly got hijacked by the extremists.
Look you might have in your circle of friends much more reasonable feminists, but they are currently in the minority when from what I see online and in person as well.
The term feminist has been hijacked and a new word needs to be used to take back control like Humanist or something similar.
But then where are the "normal" ones, and what have they accomplished?
Classifying the Men's Rights movement as the red pill subreddit is like using that batshit feminist tumblr that thinks all sex is rape as the feminist movement. It's really easy to pick apart the extremes.
That seems like an unfair statement to make. Extremists are obviously more visible and calm settled people who just make arguments are obviously far less so.
As in everything instead of labelling an entire group of people the better approach is to ignore the people entirely and focus on each argument separately.
Men do commit suicide far more than women do, young men are going to college less than young women are etc etc. These are issues that shouldn't be hijacked by misogynist assholes.
Are those things and the things royalan really part of "men's rights" though? I mean our racist justice system is about as it gets but I don't see a lot of these things as MR issues.
the post you quoted was a joke
There's no 'trick' to finding a partner, and thinking there is one might be one of this fictional person's issues. The problem with a lot of these PUA's is that they treat women as objects to be conquered, not individual humans with their own agency.
I sympathize with anybody who is just out there looking for love, but if you need a book to get through the first date then you're with the wrong person, I can guarantee it.
Why would they have had to accomplish something to have issues?But then where are the "normal" ones, and what have they accomplished?
But if the movement is accomplishing something then where is the proof?
I'm sorry but extremists or not, feminism has plenty to show for what it's done.
I didn't say anything about whether they have accomplished anything or not. I'm saying that there are a whole raft of issues that men do face that just get sneeringly dismissed as being something a Men's Rights activist would say. And that's not a good situation to be in at all.
It's just bizarre to me the polarazied mirror society we live in. One side is more than willing to believe everything bad they hear about feminists and not caring for hard data to come to their conclusions, the other side is more than happy to do the same thing for men's rights activists.
Labelling people and groups as a means of dismissing them is bad, period, full stop. Let's just focus on the arguments, find the good ones that raise real issues and either ignore or mock the rest. But it should be done to ARGUMENTS and not PEOPLE.
But you were responding to someone saying they don't judge all white people based on KKK members. KKK members are white, and identify as white. Therefore they pass your criteria for judging the whole based on the few who share an identity. You flipped what was being asked because your actual beliefs do not support your conclusions.White isn't an ideology, or a self appointed identity.
If you are doing an inventory or study of feminism, yes you are correct, you have to take it into appropriate consideration. But you do not look only at what you consider "extremists" and base the entirety of your judgement on those extremists. If however extremists actually composed a majority, plurality, or substantial proportion of actual movement feminists, then you could make this argument. However, as we see below you appear to be basing your conclusions on random blog posts you found and not on actual movement feminists or anything regarding real-world social or political activism.I'm saying you have to take into consideration the extremists in the feminist movement when judging feminism as a whole
So basically you acknowledge there is a wide variety of people involved in a movement, and a lot of intellectual, philosophical, and political diversity, but you choose to judge the movement as a whole on web comments instead.My social and political views should make me want to identify as feminist, but I've encountered so many idiotic Tumblr-feminists as to make the entire movement toxic in name. If I meet someone who identifies as feminist, my first thought is wondering what flavour feminist they are. Moderate, egalitarian, rational, or the sort of irrational, hypocritical person endemic to Twitter, Tumblr, Reddit and Jezebel comments.
Stay-at-home dads need advocates because society looks down upon stay-at-home dads, and that sucks, and also because society looking down at stay-at-home dads prevents other dads from wanting to be one which causes more women to have to take on that role, thereby reinforcing dumb gender roles that harm men that want to stay at home and women that don't.
That seems like an unfair statement to make. Extremists are obviously more visible and calm settled people who just make arguments are obviously far less so.
As in everything instead of labelling an entire group of people the better approach is to ignore the people entirely and focus on each argument separately.
Men do commit suicide far more than women do, young men are going to college less than young women are etc etc. These are issues that shouldn't be hijacked by misogynist assholes.
But you were responding to someone saying they don't judge all white people based on KKK members. KKK members are white, and identify as white. Therefore they pass your criteria for judging the whole based on the few who share an identity. You flipped what was being asked because your actual beliefs do not support your conclusions.
If you are doing an inventory or study of feminism, yes you are correct, you have to take it into appropriate consideration. But you do not look only at what you consider "extremists" and base the entirety of your judgement on those extremists. If however extremists actually composed a majority, plurality, or substantial proportion of actual movement feminists, then you could make this argument. However, as we see below you appear to be basing your conclusions on random blog posts you found and not on actual movement feminists or anything regarding real-world social or political activism.
So basically you acknowledge there is a wide variety of people involved in a movement, and a lot of intellectual, philosophical, and political diversity, but you choose to judge the movement as a whole on web comments instead.
Some guys need a lot of practice or tuition to be taught how to talk to women. Same thing for some girls where they can ask for dating advice. Only thing is women need less help and are less demonised for asking for it. As for treating women like commodities, I don't know. I never frequented PUA forums, I have only read the Game which is more memoir than self help book, and from what I have been told they seem to focus more on personal self-improvement nowadays. I can't jive completely with the MRA movement even if I think they have some points, that said I am critical of feminists who think that they are above and beyond criticism.
It doesn't even need to be an accomplishment as much as a public goal with actual support, positivity, and visibility. There wouldn't be a need for discussing the group as a whole if we had even just one really good guy (a nice guy, even) who has done some serious good for the cause.Why would they have had to accomplish something to have issues?
Why would they have had to accomplish something to have issues?
But you were responding to someone saying they don't judge all white people based on KKK members. KKK members are white, and identify as white. Therefore they pass your criteria for judging the whole based on the few who share an identity. You flipped what was being asked because your actual beliefs do not support your conclusions.
So basically you acknowledge there is a wide variety of people involved in a movement, and a lot of intellectual, philosophical, and political diversity, but you choose to judge the movement as a whole on web comments instead.
MRA are too stupid to realize that they and feminist are fighting the same fight.
I believe more men succeed in their attempts while more women make attempts, and one likely explanation might be the difference in the methods chosen. I'm not sure how this is a men's issue vs a mental health issue, other than the fact that Traditional Gender Roles might play a hand in why men might make attempts in the first place. As feminism is largely a movement concerned with breaking apart Traditional Gender Roles perhaps it's a good ideology to support?Men do commit suicide far more than women do
So again, you acknowledge there is a wide diversity of beliefs, but instead choose to base your judgements on some random tweet or because you don't like #yesallwomen for "some reason". Your posts make you come across as someone dealing with a large amount of cognitive dissonance.The latter is where I get the vast majority of exposure to modern feminism, so of course I will use that to influence my opinions on it. You can't dismiss it, or downplay internet feminism as 'web comments'. Twitter and its ilk caries far more influence than that, and hashtags campaigns shape the wider discourse of events and gender politics time and again.
Is there research to support this?People have searched for those that aren't extremists. They are few and far between.
Well they should be fighting the same fight. It's too bad MRA exists in spite of feminismEh.
A lot of the ideas espoused by various MRAs are diametrically opposed to the gains and goals of feminism.
If you really want to cringe, read one of their originating manifestos, "The Manipulated Man." Written in 1971 by a female author, which the men's rights types love to point out.
http://www.amazon.com/dp/1905177178/?tag=neogaf0e-20
Just look at how highly rated this book is, by 100+ people on Amazon.
If you read the content, you'll be outright disturbed. It blathers on about how stupid and petty women are. Just repeatedly makes vicious sexist statements intertwined with more detailed descriptions of the alleged behavior of female human.
If the guy really wanted to do that though, nothing would stop him. Except his own insecurity. Not everyone is so sensitive that the judgement of others shape their actions. Instead of trying to get people to STOP doing something like this male nurse shaming(how would you even do that? protests?) you can teach the guy to stop giving a shit, which is a LOT more powerful because that confidence and security will seep into other areas of his life.
I believe more men succeed in their attempts while more women make attempts, and one likely explanation might be the difference in the methods chosen. I'm not sure how this is a men's issue vs a mental health issue, other than the fact that Traditional Gender Roles might play a hand in why men might make attempts in the first place. As feminism is largely a movement concerned with breaking apart Traditional Gender Roles perhaps it's a good ideology to support?
You should be critical of anybody who thinks that. Why single out feminism?
There's absolutely nothing wrong with self improvement, or doing things to deliberately make yourself more attractive to whomever you're trying to court.
Reading a book however, is not going to teach you how to talk to women or magically make you more comfortable around them. Also a lot of dudes who follow PUA advice end up coming off as creepy stalkers.
I believe more men succeed in their attempts while more women make attempts, and one likely explanation might be the difference in the methods chosen. I'm not sure how this is a men's issue vs a mental health issue, other than the fact that Traditional Gender Roles might play a hand in why men might make attempts in the first place
As feminism is largely a movement concerned with breaking apart Traditional Gender Roles perhaps it's a good ideology to support?
Man replace male with black in that statement or replace 'male nurse' with 'female doctor' and you'll see the problem. Social ridicule and lack of acceptance is an incredibly powerful force and telling someone to 'man up' and just deal with it is a horribly bad attitude to take.Instead of trying to get people to STOP doing something like this male nurse shaming(how would you even do that? protests?) you can teach the guy to stop giving a shit, which is a LOT more powerful because that confidence and security will seep into other areas of his life.