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A serious question about dating: why are other women attracted to taken men?

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Matlock

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I don't understand it. No matter when I'm in a relationship with a girl, it always seems that women start picking up on me a little more.

Either the cocky and funny improved, i'm getting paranoid, or something...but what exactly is it?
 

Boogie

Member
It seems to me that attraction is like capitalism.

In the same way that it takes money to make money, it requires already being involved with a woman to attract more women.

And like capitalism, those without women attracted to them in the first place are left out of the loop.
 

explodet

Member
Chris Rock said:
Women like men who are in relationships. When you were single nobody was thinking about your ugly ass. Then your woman got a hold of you, she washed you down, cut your hair, gave you a life-saver, got the crust out from your eyes - now every girl wants to fuck you.

Now you get crazy freaky phone calls at 2 in the morning. "Me and my girlfriend were having a dick sucking contest and we thought you would be a good judge." You never got that call when you were single, now you get it every Tuesday.
Stand-up comedians. Is there anything they don't know? :p
 

Dan

No longer boycotting the Wolfenstein franchise
Or perhaps that subconscious thought about how some other girl deems you worthwhile, so maybe she should too.
 

Triumph

Banned
My theory: when you're in a relationship with a girl, you're naturally more confident because you've got something. Chicks subconsciously pickup on the prescence of this "confidence" pheremone, and they're attracted to it.
 
Boogie said:
Excellent, another relationship thread I can troll. :p
haha Boogie you can't troll these. Trolling is typing something controversial, possibly with negative connotations to stir angry responses.

The Boogie I know runs into relationships full throttle, trips on a box, and does a faceplant onto the floor while Cubsfan, complete with a woman in each arm, laughs gallantly.
 

Triumph

Banned
Mike Works said:
haha Boogie you can't troll these. Trolling is typing something controversial, possibly with negative connotations to stir angry responses.

The Boogie I know runs into relationships full throttle, trips on a box, and does a faceplant onto the floor while Cubsfan, complete with a woman in each arm, laughs gallantly.
Ah yes... but Cubsfan is empty inside.
 

AntoneM

Member
I've always thought it was that the other women are wondering what you got that makes this girl (your girlfriend) want to be in a relationship with you. Basically they're thinking "What is this guy offering that I'm missing by not being in a relationship with him?" so they of course become curious and strike up a conversation, but since you already have a woman, you are neither trying to score with these other women nor are you the least bit nervous when talking to them. The result is intantaneous attraction.
 

Matlock

Banned
I may need to re-emphasize: this girl that I was talking to--had no idea who I was, nor that I was dating someone. I can see the case that if they see you with someone, it causes intrigue, but outside of that...?
 

AntoneM

Member
well, damn! I don't know, I'm not even in the same neighborhood as "know" in that situation.

--edit--
wait, were you wearing the <phrase banned> t-shirt? if yes, then all your questions are already answered.
 

Ristamar

Member
Probably because when you have a girlfriend, you're no longer thinking, doing, and saying all these things that are completely fucking retarded in a misguided effort to pick-up and/or make yourself available to women. Oh, and the fact that many women are catty, deceitful, little... eh, you know. But it's mostly the former.
 

Triumph

Banned
Matlock said:
I may need to re-emphasize: this girl that I was talking to--had no idea who I was, nor that I was dating someone. I can see the case that if they see you with someone, it causes intrigue, but outside of that...?
I told you dude. It's a subconscious thing. You are more at ease with yourself and the world when you are with a woman. This translates into outward confidence, and chicks eat up confidence. You don't have to say a word for it to come across- it's an instinctual thing. I would bet my left testicle on it, because for the last year or so I have been non-stop obsessing about my lack of feminine companionship, and it drives any prospective chick away like I had bathed in shit. It's all on a subconscious level. Trust me, I know!
 

Matlock

Banned
An interesting idea, Raoul. Of course, it still doesn't explain why journallism girls think I'm hot shit when I talk about writing for GA. :-|
 

Triumph

Banned
Matlock said:
An interesting idea, Raoul. Of course, it still doesn't explain why journallism girls think I'm hot shit when I talk about writing for GA. :-|
Oh, that's easy. They're stupid.
 
Mike Works said:
haha Boogie you can't troll these. Trolling is typing something controversial, possibly with negative connotations to stir angry responses.

The Boogie I know runs into relationships full throttle, trips on a box, and does a faceplant onto the floor while Cubsfan, complete with a woman in each arm, laughs gallantly.

OMG, I'm sorry Boogie (belive me I know how you feel, I'm in the same boat) but damn I couldent stop laughing :lol :lol :lol :lol

max_cool said:
I've always thought it was that the other women are wondering what you got that makes this girl (your girlfriend) want to be in a relationship with you. Basically they're thinking "What is this guy offering that I'm missing by not being in a relationship with him?" so they of course become curious and strike up a conversation, but since you already have a woman, you are neither trying to score with these other women nor are you the least bit nervous when talking to them. The result is intantaneous attraction.

Damn that seems like a really good explination, and couldent that mean if all single guys acted like they HAD a bf they could pick up more girls? Than when the girl finds out your single, she would think your just super confident? I need my fake reasons for being confident damnit!! :(

~Black Deatha
 

Chipopo

Banned
Raoul Duke wins. Guys who get girls are the ones who aren't even hinting at desperation. When you have a girl, that's you.
 

Boogie

Member
Mike Works said:
haha Boogie you can't troll these. Trolling is typing something controversial, possibly with negative connotations to stir angry responses.

The Boogie I know runs into relationships full throttle, trips on a box, and does a faceplant onto the floor while Cubsfan, complete with a woman in each arm, laughs gallantly.

Why, that's preposterous, I-- *trips over a drunken demon passed out on the floor*
 

Dujour

Banned
It's sorta like guys glamoring over women they can't ever have. It's the forbidden fruit thing that got humans in this mix in the first place. ;)
 

Future Trunks

lemme tell you something son, this guy is SO FARKING HUGE HE'LL FLEX AND DESTROY THE SUN no shit
olimario said:
I dont have a girlfriend, but If I did I could most likely say that I've noticed the same thing.


Wait, what happened to what's her name? :O
 

tedtropy

$50/hour, but no kissing on the lips and colors must be pre-separated
Future Trunks said:
Wait, what happened to what's her name? :O

She said something snide about Pikmin and that chick was OUT THE DOOR.
 

olimario

Banned
Let's not get off topic here. I'll just say that when I'm with a girlfriend I get all sorts of looks and come-ons from other girls. I had a 30 year old try to give me her number in the mall once.
 
ugly girls are attracted to ugly guys who have gf's. makes them think they have some sort of chance at lady love within their lifetime.

fuck her and continue on with the relationship. u only live once.
 

NLB2

Banned
olimario said:
Let's not get off topic here. I'll just say that when I'm with a girlfriend I get all sorts of looks and come-ons from other girls. I had a 30 year old try to give me her number in the mall once.
Did he ask you if you've ever been with a bear?
 

hobart

Member
Raoul hit the nail on the head.

The trick is, however, to have that aura "ooze" from you at all time... including when you are single.

It takes work and you need to be confortable with yourself before others (females) can become comfortable with you. It really is all about the self.
 

WARCOCK

Banned
"its the thrill of the chase. Getting something your not suppose to have"

OH THAT WOULD EXPLAIN MY HOMOSEXUAL TENDECIES *winks at matlock*

No but in all seriousness, i will go with the all whores comment.
 

Cubsfan23

Banned
short answer: Women are competitive, and are usually choosy about who to pick for their offspring. If other women find a guy attractive, this his genes must be good
 

WARCOCK

Banned
YES CUBSFAN AND DAT IS WHY YOU MUST DONATE YOUR SPERM TO A SPERMBANK NEAR YOU. FOR THE GREATER GOOD OF HUMANITY.
 

empanada

Member
Raoul Duke said:
I told you dude. It's a subconscious thing. You are more at ease with yourself and the world when you are with a woman. This translates into outward confidence, and chicks eat up confidence. You don't have to say a word for it to come across- it's an instinctual thing. I would bet my left testicle on it, because for the last year or so I have been non-stop obsessing about my lack of feminine companionship, and it drives any prospective chick away like I had bathed in shit. It's all on a subconscious level. Trust me, I know!

"Hmmm. Your ideas are intriguing to me and I wish to subscribe to your newsletter."

Congratulations! I think you just solved one of the mysteries about women. Now 125870192857098125 to go. :D
 
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